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 Love.Notes
Joined: 7/27/2012
Msg: 73
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I personally wouldn't put them up on the wall for all the see, but because I have children with my ex husband I keep them. For their sake more so then mine. His picture does not bring out any bad memories for me. They don't open any old wounds nor do they bring out any hatred for him. The children love their father and for that reason alone the pictures remain up! My ex however did the total opposite. He won't allow (or should I say his wife won't allow ) my name to even be mentioned in the house. We don't have that rule here. We still laugh at the fun things or silly things or good times we had with Dad and I'm never going to take that away from my children. He is their father, and if they want to have a picture of him in the house, on the fridge, in their rooms then so be it. Once they have grown and left home...that's a different matter.

Then they will be well packed and stored to be remembered no more.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 74
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/2/2012 8:22:48 PM
I have pictures of a lot of people from my past. I expect someone I'm dating to have pictures of people as well. If we're framing pictures and keeping them by the bed, I can see the problem. In albums, or packed away with everything else is fine. It's totally possible to both keep old pictures of exes, friends, family or anyone else, and still move on with your life.
 Warrior_Poet74
Joined: 10/22/2012
Msg: 75
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/3/2012 9:29:19 PM
I deleted my ex from my pics before the tears were even dry on my cheeks.
 privat33r
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 76
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Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/3/2012 10:02:11 PM
I like looking back. These were great girls, some as crazy as wolverines on acid,.. but yeah get what yah serve. What the hell, are all you folk just living in the moment as if all events in your past have no purchase or significance? That seems kinda ooggahh--whoa-ick.
 tomslick24
Joined: 11/24/2012
Msg: 77
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/4/2012 1:43:52 AM
I agree with most women here.If you have pictures with kids with there Dad or Mom put them away so Kids can enjoy them later in life.As for marching back thru memory lane............Oh Hell No! Ex means just that EX.The past is just that the past.I don't want to see how I looked with hair back with some old relationship and I could still get it up:)
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 6/22/2012
Msg: 78
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/5/2012 10:39:47 AM
I only requested to keep 1 pic from my wedding - the shot with MY whole side of the family in it. My Dad's parent's were there, and had just celebrated their 62nd Anniversary. Grandma passed away a few months later. I don't have it hanging up anywhere, and won't hang it up for obvious reasons. Everything else from that day I left in the garage when I moved out.

My Facebook photo albums with my Ex are still on my Facebook page, but that's because in the last couple years before we divorced, we did several cross-country road trips. I got some kickass shots of the sun setting behind the Grand Tetons, and feeding an Elk by hand while in Yellowstone. With the kind of awesome sites and scenery I caught on film, the fact that she's in about half the shots doesn't other me in the least. The albums and trips are CLEARLY noted to be from 2008 or older.

I'm not dumb enough to put any photos of my ex in my dating profile - and anyone who does is a complete moron; but if someone looks thru my Facebook pages and thinks I still have 'issues' about my Ex because I haven't erased and burned every single trace of that relationship, all I can say is this;

Those who deny their past are condemned to repeat it.

If you want to see your Ex as some sort of 'Toxin' and demand to eliminate all traces from your life, that's your prerogative. Good luck eliminating all traces if you had a kid with him.

That being said, the idea that women do NOT like seeing men's dating profile pix with OTHER women in them is pretty much a social FACT, and it really doesn't matter who they are - sister, Mom, cousin, Ex - it doesn't matter. Unless they are clearly two generations older or younger, women STILL associate those ladies as 'competition' on a dating site. Best not raise any eyebrows and just keep the shots of you being hugged by ANY woman OFF the dating profile altogether.
 Habs_Fan13
Joined: 3/19/2012
Msg: 79
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/5/2012 1:48:50 PM
I deleted all of the photos off my phone or computer but, I do have a couple of photo boxes filled with pictures and among them have kept some exes photos. I went through them after he moved out and got rid of quite a few. I didn't keep any of just him. They are either group photos with our friends or there's a couple of us, none kissing or anything intimate. I do think it would be a bit weird if it was on display though. Especially weird if there's no children involved and even worse if it's just a picture of him or her.
 sigungq
Joined: 10/6/2012
Msg: 80
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/5/2012 6:00:21 PM

do you, yourselves keep old pictures of your ex wives or ex husbands? Or do you throw the pictures away and move on with your life?


I need something to improve my dart throwing..............
 smileitsrteal
Joined: 11/19/2012
Msg: 81
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/5/2012 7:48:29 PM
I think if someone has a pic of their ex then they are not ready to really move on to the next relationship. i am in that situation right now but it's all about the sex.
 smileitsrteal
Joined: 11/19/2012
Msg: 82
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/6/2012 1:05:01 PM
I hear your rebuttal and somewhat concur. I personally would not rub my new girlfriends face in my exes pics. I don't want to answer all of the questions... how can you stand in someone's face you supposedly love and explain that you love this person in the pic? you will be forever single! I went through that and it's not cool. I don't look toward the past but to my future... past is past, let it go. now where do we go from here? Forward.
 Bebedeleau
Joined: 11/27/2012
Msg: 83
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/7/2012 11:57:08 AM
I have a picture of my x, his (new) wife, their two kids, and my daughter on display in the kitchen, by the table. A family, to me, isn't just who lives in the house. It doesn't bother the current b/f. All of their pictures are scattered throughout our photo albums. My home is open to them and their home is open to us.

Photos of the relationship prior to that are in albums easily accessible if anyone wants to look at them.

All of the old 'love letters' between me and my x while he was stationed overseas are neatly tied up and stored with other mementos in a box in my daughter's closet. So are photograph albums of when we were dating before she was conceived. She can look at them anytime, but usually doesn't because they embarrass her .. lol. Some times we take them out and go through them if we are looking for something.

I couldn't image ever throwing out a picture. I take lots of them, and I learned early that they become very valuable to someone if a person passes away.
 TalkingPie
Joined: 8/11/2008
Msg: 84
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Posted: 12/7/2012 8:29:01 PM
The only pictures I've thrown out - burned, even, in a fit of teenage-girl-level emotional drama - were of exes that caused me pain and whose memories were causing me pain in the moment. With the luxury of time between the breakups and now, I likely wouldn't do that, and would probably appreciate having the pictures to remind me of past events. Just because people aren't important in our present lives doesn't mean they didn't play a role in important times in our past. I have a bad memory and can be nostalgic, so I enjoy looking back at that sort of thing. I have pictures from all sorts of women I've been intimate with. I also still have friendships with many of them. Each one of them, in some way or another, has played a role in my getting to be who and where I am today. I have no need or desire to hide any aspect of my past, and wouldn't appreciate dating a woman who can't deal with that.

I agree with others here who say that the people who insist on getting rid of all exes' pictures may be the ones who have issues with insecurity and not being able to move on from the past.
 jpwrnglrwmn_forumsonly
Joined: 4/23/2011
Msg: 85
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/7/2012 8:44:23 PM
Well, I don't have any pictures of any of my exes . .because I feel that once a relationship is over, I don't need reminders of them. They are exes for a reason. One of the people I dated still kept in touch with some of his exes. .of course, as I learned, he did this so he could have them as "backup" to turn to . .if he wasn't dating anyone. That's one of the reasons why I couldn't and refused to remain friends with him. .wasn't remotely attracted to him anymore, and he wanted to start things up again.
Actually, I don't understand the last statement made above. ..I would think that if one has pictures of one's ex. .one isn't ready to move on from the past. I don't have any pictures of my exes, and I don't think about them. I thought about the one who remained friends with some of his ex girlfriends (in hopes of rekindling the relationship) but only because I was writing a response to the post. Other than that, I don't think about them at all.
 JJRider2011
Joined: 4/27/2011
Msg: 86
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 12/8/2012 2:09:43 PM
I have some pictures of my ex-wife since she shared almost half my life with me. I don't have a single one of them on display anywhere, they're stored away for family archives. I find it odd that anyone would completely try to eliminate evidence of a former spouse or lover unless they tried to kill you or something. Genealogy & family history is important to some people & someone in your family might find those old pictures of value, even if you don't.

I could see if someone had a lot of pictures of their ex prominently displayed all over the house being an issue with someone new.

My old pictures are nothing more than a part of my history including those of my ex-wife.
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