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 Zuglo65
Joined: 4/19/2012
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Don't even have text option on my phone.
Besides, by the time I write a sentence using those small buttons, I could have dialed the number 50 times.
But I do hear that "I am not tied down while texting, versus actually talking on the phone" excuse a lot.
I guess it's make sense, but when I am communicate with someone, I don't wan to wait til she has time to read my message, finish what she is doing, and type an answer.
I would much rather her tell me she is busy, and wants to talk later.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 11/5/2012 7:46:58 AM
In my opinion, we all communicated better before 21st century technology. Texting has its uses, but hearing my lady's voice stimulates my senses.
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 11/5/2012 10:38:16 AM
It takes personality, charm and whit to text. I have never met anyone who had a personality and could not text. If they cant text their even more boring on the phone or in person.
 OKCFittySix
Joined: 9/6/2012
Msg: 87
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 11/5/2012 11:52:07 AM
Actually, I quite enjoy it. Not for lengthy conversations, but a little back and forth can be fun. I use it for business and to keep in touch with friends during our busy workdays, as a phone call would merely be an exercise in telephone tag. With a text, it's like a guided missile: drop it 100 miles from target and go about my business. I'll get a "report" back...eventually, when the recipient has time. Besides - I really dislike lengthy phone conversations. Bores me to tears. I'd rather do that face to face.

Before she passed at 92, my great aunt always amazed me with her short phone conversation skilz.

Me: Hello?
Her: Are you coming over?
Me: Yup. 6 o'clock.
Her: OK
*click*

What a woman! :D

I find an occasional text now and then to be a good way to put a smile on a woman's face - even if I can't see it. Most everybody likes to know you're thinking about 'em.

Anyway - just sent a text to a girl I know. "You. Me. My Jacuzzi. Mr. Bubble. 1 gallon jalapeno juice. Tonight. 8 PM. It's gonna be soooo HOT!"

A bit juvenile? Si! Yes, she'll laugh (I know her sense of humor) and no, she won't be showing up. :)
 RJM1207
Joined: 10/17/2012
Msg: 88
I am sorry your relationship ended with a text.
Posted: 11/11/2012 5:17:21 AM
Being a guy, I love to text and do feel awkward on the phone. I cannot speak for other guys, but on the phone I cannot read emotions so verbal conversation is difficult. We are visual creatures and seeing someone is important for personal conversations unless there is a real driving purpose to a call. OK then why is texting easier for a guy. It is also visual and there is no hurry to reply without thinking it through and guessing about emotions. My question is why do women take days to respond? Most guy respond immediately.
 littleflower57
Joined: 9/15/2012
Msg: 89
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 11/11/2012 8:13:35 AM
I have the old school style phone: flip phone with a camera, no bells, no whistles. I don't text. Period. :)
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 90
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 11/11/2012 9:13:20 AM
It takes personality, charm and whit to text. I have never met anyone who had a personality and could not text. If they cant text their even more boring on the phone or in person


You're joking right? Damn, where are those laughing emoticons when you need one.


I find an occasional text now and then to be a good way to put a smile on a woman's face - even if I can't see it. Most everybody likes to know you're thinking about 'em.

Anyway - just sent a text to a girl I know. "You. Me. My Jacuzzi. Mr. Bubble. 1 gallon jalapeno juice. Tonight. 8 PM. It's gonna be soooo HOT!"

A bit juvenile? Si! Yes, she'll laugh (I know her sense of humor) and no, she won't be showing up. :)


Perfect example of personality, charm and wit.....in text form.LOl Recieving that would have definitely given me a good chuckle.

As I previously mentioned, I am not a believer in sending long texts back and forth but I do enjoy recieving an occasional fun or flirty type text....does put a smile on my face to know that they are thinking about me.

...mae
 jezz_a_belle
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 91
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 11/11/2012 12:14:27 PM
the title of this thread says it all. It conflates age with superior knowledge and texting with inadequate communication skills.Lordy!

Changes in technology do not always harken the apocalypse.

My take on texting (for what it is worth) is that is an appropriate form of communication - being relatively new, societal norms and etiquette about texting are still rather undefined.

Personally, at any "age" I hope to be able to adopt, adjust and use any new tech that becomes available (if I choose). I really don't understand the need to fuss about texting and use texting habits as a basis to judge someones character.
 AJ2517
Joined: 2/27/2006
Msg: 92
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 11/11/2012 1:52:32 PM
texting is for short messages only, not trying to explain or communicate much.....people that use text only lose touch with reality...talk on the phone or in person...yes, the texting comes in handy for certain things but it can never replace one on one phone talking or face to face talking...so much can be mis interpreted if it is much more then a simple "hi" or "thinking of you" or "see you later" etc
 prettypuffer
Joined: 11/2/2012
Msg: 93
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 11/11/2012 2:05:40 PM
I understand the more cowardly way really of breaking up by text but I prefer voice calls and wont go along with all that texting, it is a pain and impersonal. I am of the older generation and I find it all tedious and robotic. SMS means short message service right? If a guy cant or wont talk live, I am not interested.
 prettypuffer
Joined: 11/2/2012
Msg: 94
I am sorry your relationship ended with a text.
Posted: 11/11/2012 2:07:12 PM
Women may take days to respond as they have others on the string perhaps. It is not true that all guys respond immediately by the way. Depends on how interested they are, both sexes. Charm and wit are there whatever the medium and it is amazing the different attitudes to texting I am finding.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 11/11/2012 2:50:36 PM
You're joking right? Damn, where are those laughing emoticons when you need one.




For all those who said they prefer texting instead of talking on the phone...what did you do before texting was developed?

In my opinion, technology has contributed to more disconnection than connection.
 AsianPiscesLady
Joined: 11/1/2012
Msg: 96
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 11/14/2012 7:18:39 PM
I'm 47 and text all the time. I wouldn't want to date a man who didn't text. It's communication in the 21st century.

He doesn't have to text me to tell me about how he just took a dump, (though a few men have done just that) but he should check in with me on occassion.
 tallbrowneyedlady
Joined: 11/22/2012
Msg: 97
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 12/26/2012 1:30:56 PM
I agree. I receive lots of texts from guys, who, even if they have my phone number, won"t call me. I want to have a real live conversation, but it's like asking for the moon. The last man I dated proposed to me via text, even though we were standing within arm's lenght at the time. I was stunned. I said yes although later on I broke up with him, primarily because he refused to effectively communicate with me. I don"t know what the answer is.
 TeachingPro06
Joined: 7/18/2010
Msg: 98
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 12/28/2012 10:20:39 AM
Call me 'old fashioned', but I still think call and talking to a woman is the best way to go. Texting can seem somewhat impersonal when starting a relationship.
 nubeginnings64
Joined: 4/8/2012
Msg: 99
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 12/30/2012 2:00:31 PM
I'm with you that all this texting is juvenile. Both my sister & my brother gave me grief for NOT answering my phone recently. Told them my phone didn't ring & both said in unison they sent a text.
 HookahGurl
Joined: 1/18/2013
Msg: 100
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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:07:26 PM
My last dating experience was with a frequent texter. I told him several times that I'd prefer a phone call. He was eight years my junior and either he just didn't get it or just wasn't into me. So glad that nightmare is over, and yes, he ended it with a text message saying he "had been dating someone else just like your typical guy."
 baldyank58
Joined: 7/29/2011
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Posted: 1/23/2013 7:18:46 PM
I live in Norman, OK where the Univ of Oklahoma is located and when I go for my 2 hour walks, part of my route goes through campus. I would say easily 2/3's of the students I see are texting or at least occupied with their iPhones. It's kinda funny seeing them walking along head down, hunched over looking like zombies. I'm almost amazed I haven't seen any of them collide with each other.
 RAFlady
Joined: 4/18/2006
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Posted: 1/24/2013 3:25:23 AM
I am so with you on this one.
Texts are fine..up to a point. ie say Hello, confirmation of meeting etc. However when it becomes ping pong text that is when I get frustrated. Emotions enter into it, pleople misunderstand and take things the wrong way. At one point I left my mobile at work for the weekend...hard inititally but I survived
Yup may be an age thing. People hide behind them too, dump you etc. Calling someone up to say sorry I am not interested may cost a few pence, but nothing in manners.
 RAFlady
Joined: 4/18/2006
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Posted: 1/24/2013 3:26:24 AM
I am so with you on this one.
Texts are fine..up to a point. ie say Hello, confirmation of meeting etc. However when it becomes ping pong text that is when I get frustrated. Emotions enter into it, pleople misunderstand and take things the wrong way. At one point I left my mobile at work for the weekend...hard inititally but I survived
Yup may be an age thing. People hide behind them too, dump you etc. Calling someone up to say sorry I am not interested may cost a few pence, but nothing in manners.
 dessertcook1
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 104
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 1/24/2013 3:40:20 AM
Texting is good for short conversations. ANyone who does not want to get on the phone has a problem. Espcilly if its long term or very serious. If its more then soemthing like ill be there soon or im done work call me, then the person is not interested and should move on
 RAFlady
Joined: 4/18/2006
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Posted: 1/24/2013 3:48:37 AM
Thanks, I had a great converssation with a bloke last week. Well texting I should say..but it was very deep etc and we challenged each other. He called me out of the blue and we chatted more. (do not know why I am boring you with this story) Anyhow had good chat on a Friday. Saturday nothing. Get text saying he is wrong for me. Just because he worked for a rather well known financial institution and had money (which did put me OFF) he said he was genuine etc. So intelligent I get dumped by text, before meeting from supposely erudite bloke. eek
 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 106
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Posted: 1/24/2013 4:27:49 AM
I'm in the camp that thinks texting can be a useful tool, but is not, and should not be attempted, as a substitute for voice conversation. I think when people try to use it that way they are keeping you at a distance (effectively) - and missing out on the warmth and nuance of voice contact, themselves.

Then there's just the practical aspect too, that as compared to voice, trying to have an actual conversation by text takes forever. I have great voice recognition software on my phone which possesses an excellent degree of accuracy; it's much faster than typing. But still a lot slower than talking voice-to-voice.
 Jcmchef
Joined: 1/15/2012
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Posted: 1/24/2013 5:41:34 AM
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 Lucky...13
Joined: 12/28/2012
Msg: 108
Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 1/24/2013 10:00:01 AM
Q : What's the difference between a chronic texter and E.T.?
A : E.T. phoned home.
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