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 misssassyblond
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 81
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REDDRAGGON.....and anyone else who wants to be a JERK!

Don't be an ***hole putting me down by making me come off as 38 and stupid for asking the question. No sense in that okay?

As you can see, there are MANY different answers from MANY different men on here so it is not a "one fits all" definition for everyone and that was in fact my main reason for asking.

I'm an extremely intelligent woman of 38 years and I also don't take well to ***holes like you who try to bully and put people down for asking simple questions. If you don't like the question, feel free to SKIP IT!
It's a free country!

For those guys that took the time to be polite and answer sincerely based on your thoughts and feelings, "Thank you", it's interesting to hear different perspectives from different people. That was my whole intention in posting.
 AlfredoDP
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 82
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/26/2012 7:25:47 AM
Not ready for commitment... they may have other things going on in their lives so do not have enough time to invest into a long term relationship.
May change mine, for, I am not looking to marry again.
 AnAustralianWoman
Joined: 4/26/2012
Msg: 83
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From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/26/2012 7:36:25 AM
OP Don't be too upset with Mr Draggon...He's probably bored to death and need's to do something to stir the pot...There is one in every thread.
Looking to date but nothing serious...Mmmmm can mean a few things.
Maybe the person works away and cannot committ to something full time.
Maybe the person has personal issues they are coming to terms with and doesn't need anything heavy right now.
maybe the person is new to the dating field and want's to take things slow.....Let's face it WHEN we feel we have chemistry with a person lot's of things change and this status may just be something that changes.
 livingwithadog
Joined: 7/11/2011
Msg: 84
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/28/2012 9:53:42 PM

It doesn't have a universal meaning. If there's a guy you're otherwise attracted to, ask him what he means by it.

Good answer, here.
 Mrgiveitright
Joined: 7/24/2010
Msg: 85
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From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/29/2012 8:22:39 AM
A guy may mean: Hang out and get to know you. If not more.

A woman may mean: Use a guy for paying for dates until you meet one who you are into. Which at that point it would be hard for you to stop using guys.
 GreaterThan3
Joined: 5/12/2012
Msg: 86
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From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 8/2/2012 3:02:05 PM
I dunno, for me I'm definitely not looking for a FWB but "Looking To Date But Nothing Serious" fits. I want to date and while I'm open to a relationship I'm not necessarily looking for one to dive into. I want to go on dates (meeting new girls whom I find attractive physically and mentally). I'm basically looking to meet some female friends that I can hang out with (not have sex with) and enjoy some flirty conversation without having the pressure (on either of us) to turn it into a LTR and without having to worry about (either of us) overstepping the boundaries of a friendzone. I can see how people may assume that this means FWB but at least for me it's definitely not my intention. Not in the least.

If you're concerned, just ask what they mean by it. Some guys may have my point of view, others may mean FWB but you won't know until you ask. If you don't ask, you may be skipping over someone who has genuine intentions or you may be giving a dirtbag too much credit.
 mcwr
Joined: 3/24/2009
Msg: 87
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 8/2/2012 4:16:44 PM
If a girl has that in her profile, I assume that she is just looking for some action, or that she wants to date more than one guy at a time.
 GodsGirl1983
Joined: 12/23/2011
Msg: 88
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 8/2/2012 9:30:07 PM

If a girl has that in her profile, I assume that she is just looking for some action, or that she wants to date more than one guy at a time.


Not looking for action or mulitple men to date. I think its more similar to what this guys said....


I'm basically looking to meet some friends that I can hang out with (not have sex with) and enjoy some flirty conversation without having the pressure (on either of us) to turn it into a LTR and without having to worry about (either of us) overstepping the boundaries of a friendzone. I can see how people may assume that this means FWB but at least for me it's definitely not my intention. Not in the least.


I would pursue a relationship if I felt it was right, but dont want to put the pressure on to do so "if its not a good fit" because my profile says otherwise.
 scarlet423
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 89
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 8/3/2012 12:36:43 AM
Wow! Quite interesting? Since when does dating mean you're looking for sex? lol I'm not looking for a relationship or sex? I just got out of a relationship and start dating! I'm not looking for anything...
 Sharkparty
Joined: 7/28/2012
Msg: 90
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 8/5/2012 8:02:12 PM
I think there could be a category between "looking to date but nothing serious" and "looking for a relationship". I hate both of these because even though I am looking for something serious, I want to take it slow and not give the impression that I want to rush into something. I specify that in my description because I'm not looking for a FWB thing, which is what everyone seems to interpret.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 91
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 8/6/2012 8:40:42 AM

Wow! Quite interesting? Since when does dating mean you're looking for sex? lol I'm not looking for a relationship or sex? I just got out of a relationship and start dating! I'm not looking for anything...


Dating is synonymous with sex, according to many people---it's just a matter of when. Unfortunately, for those of us who prefer to take our time in getting to know someone, if sex doesn't occur soon enough for these people---say, within the first two or three dates, they will move on.
 VoxClamantis
Joined: 2/19/2008
Msg: 92
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 8/6/2012 11:28:43 AM
It means he's looking to replace someone who left his informal harem.

For women it means they're willing to let you spend money on them as long as you don't pester them for sex.
 aloaflowr
Joined: 6/19/2006
Msg: 93
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From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 11/3/2012 9:18:35 PM
Hey Cowboy,

I think that you've hit the nail on the head. If someone tells you that he wants to date but nothing serious, it's up to the woman to control whether or not she wants to have sex. If he is seeing other women and having sex w/them, you don't want "sloppy seconds" or the risk of any STD. If he still continues to see you, and you have good times together, it's up to you to either continue to see him and abstain w/him or find another man with whom you can and want to have a relationship and sex with. It's up to the woman to determine with whom she wants to have sex.
 supplygoodguy
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 94
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 11/3/2012 10:46:15 PM
It means he functions in his brain as a tool.. and he wants someone to allow him the privilege of sticking his wanker in them for a cup of coffee cause he doesn't believe in paying an escort service when there are plenty of a fish around willing to allow him to use her vagina and go like a fast food joint.. nothing serious is a serial sociopath with NPD.. who doesn't know what constitutes a real man. Like I said .. he's just a tool looking for a unemotional pocket **** who thinks she needs superficial compliments in her dysfunctional mind.. yep.. a golden vagina.. hah... when you treat your genitals to unconnected unemotional slapping you might as well buy a talking dildo... because there is no such thing as performing the most intimate act humans experience to call it "nothing serious".. oh yeah. aids is serious.. and aids is not dormant on planet diptune folks..

Why do people shove other peoples stuff in their bodies that are clearly unhealthy for them.. ? hmm
 Phil_an_derer
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 95
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 11/4/2012 3:12:02 AM
Just think if they removed all the labels and pigeon holes.......all the same people would still be here....
 TantricJedi
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 96
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 11/4/2012 4:41:14 AM
I see women with this status and used to think all they wanted was either a platonic friend for a fwb. The only dinner you're gonna get from with that status is Taco Bell, lol.

I'm also on Match and I can tell you that the the nice thing about POF is that the person's relationship goal is listed right there on their profile (true or not is another story).

I met a woman on match and I wrongly 'assumed' that she was looking for a relationship. She flat out told me she wasn't ready and you know what? I couldn't say a damn thing because she never stated her goal on her profile and I never asked her before we met. Note to self, ask dates from match what their goals are before meeting!

Anyway, after that date I learned that some people use that status to keep dates as arm's length. Kind of a safety against anyone becoming to serious too soon. It lets the person run the dating at their pace.

I personally am turned off by it. Again, to me it's a signal that you want Chick-Fil-A for dinner and you want to go dutch.

From a woman's perspective, I think you should run like hell from any guy that is openly telling you that.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 97
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 11/4/2012 6:49:06 AM
The comments in this thread reinforce those that advise any man looking to date off this site should select that he is looking for a relationship. The reason is that the majority of women will ignore men who pick Looking to date, but nothing serious.

Back when I joined the site and actually wanted to meet women from here, what it meant to me was simply that I was not promising anything by meeting them. I think the odds are really long with online dating and one of the reasons is that people go into a meeting with expectations that they are meeting the love of their life. It's totally backwards. So while I was open to a relationship should it develop, I was not willing to say that I wanted one with every person I met. And until it did happen, it was not serious.

Having participated in the forums for a few years, I am convinced that POF should delete this question from profiles. I know they will never do it.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 98
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 11/4/2012 2:18:33 PM
Anyway, after that date I learned that some people use that status to keep dates as arm's length. Kind of a safety against anyone becoming to serious too soon. It lets the person run the dating at their pace.


I think with women, it's just another variation of "Friends First".


I personally am turned off by it. Again, to me it's a signal that you want Chick-Fil-A for dinner and you want to go dutch.

From a woman's perspective, I think you should run like hell from any guy that is openly telling you that.


I tend to agree.
 Rheostatic
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 99
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 11/4/2012 3:01:33 PM
It means that we don't want to appear desperate by putting up "looking for a relationship", because we've read on the forums that some people take it that way.
 cashleys
Joined: 8/10/2012
Msg: 100
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 11/4/2012 11:35:34 PM
People say and use that excuse because it gives them a way to keep their distance while they are still LOOKING for someone ELSE. Then when they find them, they hope they don't have the drama thing go on, why ? because after all they TOLD you upfront you were not the one.
 Raynez
Joined: 10/16/2012
Msg: 101
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 11/5/2012 2:19:06 AM
Well for me i'm new back on the dating scene and really just looking to see if i connect with anyone, i don't want to fall into another drama filled relationship, Looking to date but nothing serious means for me getting to know people seeing if we connect. less drama the better.... when and if i find someone i connect with and feel i can share everything with then i will be serious. And with the younger guy thing older men do not turn me on, i prefer younger guys 5-10 years younger.
 the_biggavell
Joined: 7/9/2012
Msg: 102
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 11/5/2012 3:28:29 AM
It can be classified as the following: whatever happens, happens, fwb, keeping options open, not accepting crazy, just want some ass,

No guy wants friendship off the bat. Period.
We want some ass, then we''ll THINK about relationship
If she has the skills to maintain interest...


Friends......That's some silly shit girls do
 practicallynew
Joined: 10/13/2012
Msg: 103
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 11/6/2012 4:00:24 AM
That's it in a nut shell
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