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 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 47
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There's an 'ancient Chinese proverb' that I keep in mind: "A person must wait a long, long time with his/her mouth open before a roast chicken flies in."

As in playing poker, life seems to be a 'game' of patience and well-timed appropriate action.
 jan1025
Joined: 3/23/2009
Msg: 48
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good things come to those who wait??
Posted: 12/15/2012 5:47:35 AM
It depends on how bad you are and how long you've been bad, lol...
 Whisky_River
Joined: 9/12/2010
Msg: 49
good things come to those who wait??
Posted: 12/15/2012 8:05:33 AM
"A person must wait a long, long time with his/her mouth open before a roast chicken flies in."

I like that...lol.

good things come to those who wait??

I have heard this for years as well.
I interpret is...Not being needy...be open for someone to find you but not to grab just anyone...be patient...Like others have said.
I have my fingers crossed...
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 50
good things come to those who wait??
Posted: 12/15/2012 8:50:58 AM
The one thing I did learn about life is that if you want something. You must go out there and get it. No one has done anything or got far in life by sitting in a corner and waiting. There is not one succesfull person out there who was sitting around and just had things handed to them.
For people who seem to wait for everything they seem to have lots of bad things come to them as well.. There is nothing that says ONLY good things come to those who wait.. Sitting around doing nothing is for lazy people.
Its same in everything in life... You tell those things to people who can't get anywhere in life to make them feel better. keep there hope up while they are still draging there feet on the road of life.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 51
good things come to those who wait??
Posted: 12/15/2012 9:23:45 AM
To me this saying is ridiculous. My only interpretation is that good things take their time to happen, so you must persevere, persevere, and keep doing until it happens. NO matter how long it takes. But just to sit around and wait, it means that nothing will happen, other than the whinnning you get when they come to the forums and complaint about the unfairness of life. Grow some ovaries, earn the right to have your own balls.

If you are not gifted in something, try to lean it, but also find out what your gifts are and learn to use them, learn to master them. I am not an attractive guy. I know that. That has never bothered me. I am not the most social of guys. I know that. That does not bother me. I have never tried to compete to be the center of attention. I was never very good at approaching women at bars. If they came around where I was with my buddies, I engaged, but I never walked to where they were. But I have always been a very good communicator and I have to admit, I have always been able to connect with women. So I've always dated very attractive women.

So back to the subject. Nothing happens to those that wait. It happens to those that realize that they have to approach whatever it is they are approaching in a different way, and try again and again and again.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 52
good things come to those who wait??
Posted: 12/15/2012 11:49:27 AM
Well if you find yourself in singleness....waiting....
put the time to good use.
Join a gym.
Go to school.
Learn something different.
Do something new.

Enrich your life and soul.
and maybe...
you won't have to wait that long.
:-P
 AusteniticSteelMan
Joined: 12/7/2012
Msg: 53
good things come to those who wait??
Posted: 12/15/2012 10:35:28 PM
I can just imagine this poor guy, waiting by his window.

Yeah b, no girl is gonna be like YO that guy is waiting lets kick down his door and LOVE HIS FACE.

=o

well it might, but you'd probably have to get a job as a porn star first maybe?
 lightningman1
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 54
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Posted: 12/15/2012 11:24:55 PM
Not sure how old you are,but at my age i still have not found anyone,not even had a opportunity
I go out to pubs,clubs like everybody else.
But these days i rarely see a bunch of women together.There always seem to be with another guy.
Plus what makes it harder these days, women are there own boss.
Very independant
 jan1025
Joined: 3/23/2009
Msg: 55
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Posted: 12/16/2012 4:37:14 AM
I was thinking about this saying a little more in depth, and I believe this saying can refer to many ways of the law of attraction. Because it’s posted on a date site I can only assume that this means attraction to another.

To lightingboy1. I was also thinking about what you wrote. The last entry in particular, it’s true, there are more independent and single women more now than any time in history. You said women are their own boss; I had to laugh at that statement, because you’re right! The millennium women don’t need men in this day and age to survive. I've said it many times women have evolved where men haven’t to the degree women have; especially, within the last 20 years.

I compared my thinking to my daughters’ thinking when it comes to finding a man. She is in her late 20’s and I am in my early 50’s, but we both think a like when it comes to how men are acting, behaving, and thinking in this era.

I see a way of thought among her age group. I've witnessed it. Her age groups are looking for a relationship faster then I need or want or am looking for. Whereas my generation isn't in such hurry as her generation, I was no different at her age. Now I’m not saying everybody thinks this way. I’m not a sociologist, but I can say that my daughter as with myself we don’t have the need to wait around for good things to happen for those who wait kind of mentality/thinking. We both are happy, we both believe in being thankful and lucky for what we do have in the moment. We both believe that we make our own happiness. We both have learned that you can’t make someone love you, you can’t make someone be honest to you, and you can’t make someone be faithful to you.

Her generation is comparable to a grocery store kind of mentality. There are single people everywhere (just like the shelves of hair products), and many people who are married are also looking outside their own homes for sex relationships (shelves of toothpaste).
You get my point.

My other point is to find love is to realize that real love comes softly. It’s not the quick and fast that is lust. If you want the quick and the fast you pay for sex, or you jump right into a relationship within the first two months of meeting. This is not softly, this is fast. People marry while in lust, and then they become so unhappy within the first five years of marriage. This is fast.

Anyhow, we all create our lives. We all choose our choices. If people are willing to change, they change their future. Sometimes it’s all about how we think, how we believe, how we act that puts us in unhappy lifestyles. To change ones fate, is to change one’s lifestyle.

Who said, we need mates? Maybe we do at the age of reproducing, but at my age we single women are not looking to reproduce, we just want to have fun, be independent, enjoy our lives without someone telling us what to do, what to wear, how to spend our money, when to do it and how long we should be doing it.

When the male society can understand the independent women who are not in NEED of a man to totally complete her, then the men in this world will walk softly, be gentle, be kind, be faithful, and be a real man not the cheating lying kind. A real gentleman who knows how to treat a independent lady. A real gentlemen who takes care of his business and at the end of his day he thinks of her, and not the beer, the drugs the sports, the bars, and all the other pretty faces in the crowd, etc.

Sex is very important to women, but it’s not as important as her job, her health and her state of being. Give her “her me time” don’t think she doesn’t love you less. Let her be herself above all things.

That’s what women want that’s what they mean when they ask for their prince in shining armor. Now you should ask yourself, how does a gentlemen dress? Women take a lot of time on their selves, for that is what a woman does, it’s in her DNA to like the things women like… The next time you have a date, take her some flowers, don’t grope at her and try to kiss her. Take your time, don’t text her, talk to her. If she doesn’t call you then you call her. Don’t play the head games. Don’t lead her on if you don’t truly like her. Don’t rush into anything the first month or two. Take your time. Take care of your person. Be independent too. Be busy, not lazy.

The golden rule should be if you take care of your lady, she will take care of you. If you don’t take care of your lady then she will not take care of you. It’s that easy.

In the meantime, good things do come to those who work, who strive, who have goals, who are honest, who work hard. This is the world, it’s not an easy place, nothing is free that doesn't come with a cost of some kind.

Love comes softly.

Thanks for reading,
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
Jan
 Androviah
Joined: 12/10/2012
Msg: 56
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Posted: 12/16/2012 4:55:12 AM
I havent read all of the threads on this but my question is, ...wait for what? Good things happen to all of us each and everyday if we care to look. Need to appreciate what you do have, take nothing for granted. If you are referring to 'good things' as finding someone then my suggestion to you is the same advice that I am trying to follow.
Live your life. Enjoy it to it's fullest. Discover who you really are. You do this by finding out what you like and don't like. Try something new and if you don't like it, well that's one more thing you now know about yourself.
Along your path you may find 'the one' but it's not a guarantee. In the meantime, however, you will have had an amazing time.
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 57
good things come to those who wait??
Posted: 12/16/2012 10:35:12 AM
Well said, Androviah. That's exactly what I've been doing, and have built a very enjoyable lifestyle that includes a lot of variety and quality. Glad I took your advice (grin).
 msright78
Joined: 12/11/2012
Msg: 58
good things come to those who wait??
Posted: 12/16/2012 3:20:10 PM
I'm still waiting and have been for the past 34 years!

Ummm I think at some point that waiting period ends right?

I haven't had very much good things happen to me. And lately i just don't believe in good things happening to those who wait. If u want something in life, u have to go get it urself.

Can't sit around and wait for something to magically fall into ur lap cuz that's never gonna happen.

I have however dealt with every issue that life has thrown in my way with a smile on my face. Shed alot of tears along the way too and was almost close to thinking that I found 'the one' that I have been waiting for my entire life. Then reality kicked me so hard that there went that person and the dreams and hopes and everything along with them.

So yeah, ummmm. shiet happens then u die.
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