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 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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I would date a bisexual woman only if her female partner would let me join. Basically a commited relationship with me and two women. It would be hard.

Sounds like it's a sacrifice you're willing to endure though.. hehe.
 ShelbySask4friend1
Joined: 2/10/2005
Msg: 18
Would you date a Bisexual
Posted: 11/1/2012 5:10:02 AM

This makes me think that you might have a problem with bisexual/gay people. They are in no way different from you or me, except that have different sexual preferences. They are not all cheaters, though some are, just like hetero guys. They are not all effeminate, some are, some aren't, just like hetero guys. Bisexuality has absolutely NO bearing on the worth of someone as a sexual partner, and ANYBODY who denies being with someone because they are attracted to someone of the same sex is homophobic and prejudiced.


Nicely said…


No.
I am looking for a relationship - not just sex
I have no problem with gays/lesbians because they can form a relationship.
Bisexual's are looking to only pleasure themselves through sex. They tend to look at physical attraction not an emotional bond.
Perhaps that is why they are not accepted in either the heterosexual or homosexual society.


You’re a homo-idiot…
 stonecastle
Joined: 2/14/2007
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Would you date a Bisexual
Posted: 11/1/2012 10:11:07 AM
By the way would any women put on an erotic show with another woman to turn their man on regardless of whether they are bisexual or not? Because most men would love to see their woman getting really passionate with another woman in front of them.
 no_1_bby
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Posted: 11/2/2012 5:19:52 AM

By the way would any women put on an erotic show with another woman to turn their man on regardless of whether they are bisexual or not? Because most men would love to see their woman getting really passionate with another woman in front of them.

The problem with your question (and fantasy) is that it's hard for a hetero woman to "get passionate" with another woman. There's no passion where there's no sexual attraction. Being with another woman would turn me off, and how is that supposed to turn him on?

So the answer would be no. He shouldn't be expecting me to do it just because it gets him all hot and bothered. If he does, then that just shows a lack of respect for me as a person. Not my kink.
 MakeUTingle
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 21
Would you date a Bisexual
Posted: 11/27/2012 9:31:18 AM
I am not bisexual...but WOULD be if that is what the Goddess who claims me wants me to be.
 natgoat227
Joined: 6/10/2012
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Posted: 11/27/2012 12:41:34 PM
Sure..!!
I'd even enter into a relationship with one...
As long as _I_ was her Main Focus of attention.
It saves that awkward discussion about adding another woman in the tub....on occasion!!
 Ghagiel
Joined: 11/23/2011
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Posted: 11/27/2012 5:51:26 PM
Yes. I actually prefer bisexuals. They tend to be more open-minded and understanding. They often don't see the world and sexuality quite so rigidly, which I like. I'm not really interested in having to label every little thing, like most mono-sexual people.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 12/12/2012 4:42:40 PM
dated one several states away from me, still hear from her when her husband drives her nuts. I probably knew about the upcoming divorce before he did :)

not all bis are the same, as not all hets are, either. Would I date one again? If her personality fit me, that's what matters. not all bis think being bi is an excuse to cheat, just as some hets will use anything as an excuse to cheat.
 friesbaconnekkid
Joined: 7/2/2012
Msg: 25
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Posted: 12/13/2012 9:10:10 AM
I would think good oral sex skills, and a strap on would take care of any worries.
 longing1
Joined: 5/4/2009
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Posted: 12/13/2012 12:45:44 PM
At some point, I would hope that you would realize that both of you are independent people who can ascertain what you want for yourselves and each other. Why don't you worry about whether or not he's going to like YOU, before you worry about if he's going to like you and others? Why don't you let him make up HIS own mind about what he wants before you preempt it from happening? Let him make his own decision and you make your own decisions. Go meet him first. That's the first step.
 NASH58
Joined: 1/4/2008
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Posted: 12/27/2012 11:31:02 AM
i have dated 3 bi women and it was great long time with all 3
 RJHistoryGirl
Joined: 11/15/2012
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Posted: 12/28/2012 1:33:30 AM
Stop. Breathe. Relax. Think.

Okay, MY opinion. As one who raised 14 children... one of whom is openly gay, four openly bisexual, one who still hasn't decided what she likes yet AND 8 who are straight.... from observation, I'd say that EACH is an INDIVIDUAL. I will say that my bisexual children are not only open and honest about it, they tend to generally be MUCH more committed to the relationships they choose than several of the straight ones, and they tend to be exclusive in those relationships.

Each person and their sexuality needs to be taken in full context of the place they are in, both in their head and in their life at that time. Yes, a bisexually oriented person can have a fully fulfilling straight relationship. So can a straight person. They BOTH can have relationships that are absolute disasters as well... the sex and sexual orientation have much less to do with it than other things.

*EDIT* To answer the implied original question...

Yes, I would date a bisexual person without hesitation if there seemed to be something there. I would monitor the progression of the relationship or lack thereof the same as if I were dating a straight person.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 12/29/2012 12:35:01 PM

The idea that if a bisexual male marries a woman he'll never be truly happy/might leave her because he's not getting enough d!ck in his life, or a bisexual woman marrying a man she'll never be truly happy because she's not getting any vagina (or the opposite for all) is a ridiculous thought.


Sorry........but I have to disagree with this.
Mostly because of personal experiences......
I have quite a few "bisexual" friends.....and not one of them has been faithful to their opposite sex partner because of their sexual desires to be with a man...and everyone of them felt they were justified in their cheating because their partner knew from the get-go that they were bisexual.

as a woman with a straight man........I know I can explore and try any sexual act that a hetero couple can come up with....
but the one thing I cannot do for a bi man is grow a penis.
I could never expect a bi man to give up his true desires to be with both sexes......so therefore, I would not enter into a romantic relationship with one.
 superdave1961
Joined: 2/4/2012
Msg: 30
Would you date a Bisexual
Posted: 12/29/2012 1:09:19 PM
Bi-sexuality is a fence-riding or experimenting or manipulative mind...Bible or socialism aside...it is what it is...insincerity towards ONE sexuality and therefor can be seen as a "Vagrant" or drifter in the world of sexuality.

Go look up what the difference between a rapist and a molester are...then consider the fact that many bisexual people never change,it's always the "my way or the highway" thing of non-committal or dedication to any one sex or being otherwise it is a newer term used to explain-away the immorality therein termed;"Complicated".

When Adolf Hitler was a Nun,he wore his uniform proudly being a former cabaret dancer and****ail waitress...but then one fine day someone touched him in his girly spot and thus world war two started and he vowed to annihilate all people that were not Germain to the situation... his anti's and men from u.n.c.l.e. made him see his calling and he applied for governess in the then known providence or state of Delirium. (A quaint place for Hitler in springtime.) In any event many scour the web now hoping to catch a glimpse of his children...no one knows if they will come out of the closet to become Presidents or just social workers.

Rest assured the Afr0-American crew known as the K.K.K. (Keep Killing Krauts) vehemently abhors and directs all future success in our country by re-adjusting our votes to fit the current nature of America's attitude.

Feel free to act like a moron now...it is expected...after all...the web is your new home and the brainless zombies need SOMETHING to do besides insult and screw up a good thing for others on a weekly basis and what ever is wrong with that? heck put machine guns in the kindergarteners hands and raise the flag to gay marriage and foreigners with badges and voters and gun rights on top of drivers licenses in Illinois and free homes better than most middle-income workers Thanks to the OBAMA-Nation Admin.& Americans that have sock puppets for children on their IRS filings.
Maybe what this country needs is for EVERYONE to turn gay and bisexual and then when there's nothing left for a future just sell it all on C-bay.(a leading Chinese clearing house,but for "Terrorists" and Communists...like that community of Russians living just down the block from your house you didn't know about....Lol! Have a Nice day and please vote again...hey maybe we should have a recall for Romney like they did Scott walker,huh?! Oop's I let the Bi-idea of "equality" out of the bag...better toss it in the river now...before it causes chaos,huh liberally minded folk?
 RJHistoryGirl
Joined: 11/15/2012
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Posted: 12/29/2012 3:26:05 PM

Bi-sexuality is a fence-riding or experimenting or manipulative mind...Bible or socialism aside...it is what it is...insincerity towards ONE sexuality and therefor can be seen as a "Vagrant" or drifter in the world of sexuality.


Strongly disagree, as a general rule. People are people. With this in mind, I raised my children and select my friends. From that came a certain amount of what the children call "color-blindness"... they, and I, tend to see the person before the skin color... and from that arose a certain amount of "gender-blindness"...seeing the person before their gender. We love who we love, to the degree and in the "amount" with the type of love dictated by the nature of the relationship,without regard for the color of skin or sex of the person. For some people, that means a sexual attraction to both sexes, for others it doesn't. Beautiful people are beautiful people, but you have to look at the inside as well as the outside.

Daijobu. :)
 RJHistoryGirl
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Posted: 12/29/2012 7:00:45 PM

Monogamous people should stay with monogamous people and bisexual people with bisexual partner.


Are you trying to say that a bisexual person is incapable of also being monogamous?
 RJHistoryGirl
Joined: 11/15/2012
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Posted: 12/30/2012 12:30:03 AM
@ KER6969

Was that directed at me? If so, yes I have read all kinds of bashing in a LOT of places. For years. I am very well aware of the mythology surrounding bisexuality. I am also well aware that ANY pairing can be monogamous, or not. Personally, I am an odd sort of poly, but that's a different topic for a different discussion at another time.

As a parent, I had to learn some things. Especially when the kids hit the teens...hence my comment on being "gender-blind". Four of my children did turn out to be bisexual, and one gay, after all. :) So, I have no problem with the identification. A little bit of light shed gently when I can, I do. It helps to open minds for the future... and what parent doesn't want to smooth the way for their children?

My point, as always, is: what's right for me is right for me, what's right for you is also what's right for you- they don't have to be the same thing. My body, my mind=my choices; your body, your mind=your choices. I have no right to demand that you change, as you have no right to demand that I change. This philosophy extends far beyond just sexuality. It's kind of like the old saying of your rights stop where mine begin, but more fully developed and better articulated, I think.
 LivvyH.
Joined: 6/14/2012
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Posted: 1/11/2013 4:20:26 PM
No I wouldn't, thank you very much.
 domainfullduplex100
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Posted: 1/12/2013 7:40:14 AM
not homophobic, but the gay male sexual act is totally abhorrent to me. To each his/her own though.
On the other hand a female bi ....hmm
 FireMon
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Posted: 1/12/2013 5:20:51 PM
Orientation matters less to me in regards to attraction than does a partner's gender expression. So although I'm surprised to learn someone is bisexual when he as not been up front from the beginning, it's no deal breaker. Come to think of it, that might be a great opener for me to tell him I've been passively interested in having an MFM threesome.

It's great that you're making an effort to be open-minded, OP, but don't stress over it if it's too much. Baby steps, and either you're attracted to the guy or you aren't-not the end of the world. Be honest with him, and try to be honest with yourself; put in the work to examine the reasons for your reactions and feelings about it.
 SilkySlim19
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Posted: 1/19/2013 9:37:09 AM
Yes under a few conditions.

1. We'd have to sit down and pick the girl together. I'd have to feel the girl out to make sure she understands that she is the side-piece and not the main girl.

2. If my woman understands that same thing. The other girl is for playing around.

3. I should be able to be involved too. Maybe not all of the time. (If anyone is doing my girl, I should be able to do them too)

4. The other woman can't be disrespectful to me or my woman in any way, clean D/D free and be willing to be with both of us. She can't just be there for the girl, that would cause all sorts of problems and unnecessary competition.

I could work with my woman, but we'd have to have a conversation about some ground rules.
 NASH58
Joined: 1/4/2008
Msg: 38
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Posted: 1/23/2013 8:16:06 AM
I have dated 3 Bi women went with both a long time each all was so fine was best time ever they were very good women one moved to CA one that i was with for 5 yeqars passed away 3 years ago the other one was more liz than bi but was a fine lady Tom
 Luthion
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Posted: 1/23/2013 2:13:23 PM
This shouldn't be an issue for anyone, and if it is, you should seriously reconsider your priorities and how you perceive people in general.

Trust is what matters in a relationship. If you can't trust someone who is bisexual... well, let's just say that the problem isn't with them.
 NASH58
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Posted: 2/4/2013 11:44:14 AM
i have dated 2 BI women and they was the best i was ever with one passed away at 55 the other had to move because of her job
 GJBrown
Joined: 9/12/2011
Msg: 41
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Posted: 2/9/2013 3:01:51 PM
I say why even bring up the fact youre bisexual "im not btw" if you are trying to date or start a relationship. If you are trying to be with 1 person 1 gender then Why mention you go both ways? Are you saying you will be faithful but will still lust over whichever gender youre not with!? I think you gotta be messed up in the head that you can not choose or refuse to be just gay or straight. You want it all!?
If a bisexual man gets married to a straight woman does that mean he has chosen to be srtaight or will he just be BI forever? I just don't get it
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