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 Joe274D
Joined: 12/2/2014
Msg: 61
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Isn't this normal for women to be attracted to older men?
Wait a second, how old are we talking about here?
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 62
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/12/2015 7:04:14 PM
WHy should it be normal for women to be attracted to older men, when most men are attracted to younger women? Women aren't blind either, you know. I have to admit, I'm starting to have a really hard time getting attracted to men my age, let alone older. After dating fun, fit, young guys, it's almost impossible to be attracted to someone who is not like that. I totally get that older men are into younger women, I really do, because they are also - as a rule - much hotter than older women. But please, older guys, get it into your heads - it's the other way around as well for many women. They are now the exception, not the rule. The old mantra that younger women are automatically attracted to older men is not true anymore.

I went out last Saturday with a guy my age. He is tall, dark, and handsome, but not in good shape. And even though he was attentive and yes, he is rich, sorry to say, but I had no eyes for him, because there were tons of hot young guys around that were checking me out as well. Guess I'm wired like a guy this way. I think I'm going back there with my GF next time. And before someone bashes me that I'm not "all that" - I know I'm not. I can't hold a candle to most younger women physically, but I sure look better than most men my age or older.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 63
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/12/2015 8:56:39 PM

{After dating fun, fit, young guys, it's almost impossible to be attracted to someone who is not like that}
100% agreed. Those young guys spoil us ;)


I agree, all things being equal, its easier to be attracted to that sort of person. Though I think at some age, many will feel a pressure to have to "keep up" with a younger person.

But despite all the advances, or maybe because of this, women have been surveyed and ever since the 1970s have reported declining happiness.

Google "paradox of declining female happiness".

I think the reason for this, now women, like men, feel the pressure to keep up in business. Pressure to keep on earning enough money keep up one's lifestyle.

My guess, but what do you think is behind the decline in female happiness?
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 64
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/12/2015 9:55:00 PM
Though I think at some age, many will feel a pressure to have to "keep up" with a younger person.

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Is that how you feel about your wife? She is a lot younger than you, correct? Do men in general feel that way about having to keep up with younger women too? I remember one young guy that I dated who told me that he preferred to be with older women because he likes that they are mellower, not as hyper as younger ones, and it made him feel more like a man to be the younger and stronger one, being protective of an older, "weaker" female. Not sure if he is the exception, but that's what he told me.
 i8pineapple
Joined: 6/20/2014
Msg: 65
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/13/2015 3:27:27 AM
The only women who try to tune me up are older, the only ones I try to tune up are younger. I think there's a temptation for all of us (both genders) to talk up our prospects, but I'll bet that if and when something eventuates it would be a very similar vintage...
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 66
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/13/2015 7:54:43 AM

Though I think at some age, many will feel a pressure to have to "keep up" with a younger person.
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Is that how you feel about your wife? She is a lot younger than you, correct? Do men in general feel that way about having to keep up with younger women too? I remember one young guy that I dated who told me that he preferred to be with older women because he likes that they are mellower, not as hyper as younger ones, and it made him feel more like a man to be the younger and stronger one, being protective of an older, "weaker" female. Not sure if he is the exception, but that's what he told me.


A lot of different questions and issues. For one, I don't know how men in general feel, though I can speculate about it. From reading the forums, I am not a lot like most men in general.

Sometimes it's a challenge to keep up sexually, but physically not at all. She really can't or rather doesn't want to make the effort to keep up with me. I did chat with a younger women here in the USA that made me feel like an old man, she was 28 and wanted to go rock climbing every day when in Thailand. I would go once, but I doubt I would want to do that every day, she seem frantically active. And we all know Literate_Hiker, while she is a similar age to me, it would be a real challenge to keep up with her in hiking. Could I do it, I would give it a try, but I don't know. So I have never dated or hung out with anyone that was either more adventuresome or more physically capable, I don't know how it would feel.

Yes, I think many men feel emasculated if a woman doesn't need them for anything, and/or she is more energetic, hyper, stronger than he is. They likely wouldn't say emasculated, but say something that doesn't sound as "weak".

It would appear that a lot of older men /women are more set in their ways than they want to admit to, I think a much younger partner would be too unsettling / too adventuresome for them.

I went out on a few trips with the Golden Circle, my mothers group, you can join at age 55. I felt really strong and young as I hopped off the bus. Because the best of them had the old person shuffle, worse case walkers / oxygen. Then I thought, I got to leave this group, I am pathetic to think this way, not to mention sitting through musicals like Oklahoma has a very limited appeal to me.

So I do get what your younger friend was saying about older women being more mellow / weaker.

For the first 15 months I needed to drive my wife everywhere she wanted to go. Getting up at 5:00 Am for her job, or going to get pick her up at midnight isn't much fun. She got her USA drivers license in July, and she is confident about driving, but has zero experience with snow and ice. I took her out to drive in a small blizzard we had. But Sunday she wanted to go pick up a Coach brand purse she negotiated to buy on the some garage sale internet site, there was a couple of inches of fresh snow on slippery streets, I drove her the roads were slippery enough that it made me apprehensive to drive.

Since she drives at least 1/2 the time, now I can space out in the passenger seat.

Now I know a lot more than I ever did about how to check if it's a "real" brand name purse, music aka Pitbull / Maroon 5 or scented body creams at Bath and Body Works. More than I really wanted to know about female health problems, pap smears, brands of tampons, UTI infections and the general health care system for women.

I am pretty flexible, but I find it more annoying than I thought it would be to own a beagle puppy, sometimes wakes me up at 2:00 AM to go outside, wants to play all the time, have to move all chew-able items out of reach.

My wife would like to have a baby, which I could post another whole thread about. The experience with the beagle makes me more appreciate what a baby would entail. And living with my 87 year old mother, my much younger wife and the beagle is a stretch from the recent past life with no demands on my time.

BTW, dating someone that is much younger is a whole lot easier than it is being married or living with them. Most people here are just talking about dating, it wouldn't faze me to date someone that was 18 years old, getting married to someone that was much younger than 35 would cause me serious angst.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 1/13/2015 9:31:54 AM
I really don't understand this topic that much. I mean, so what if some younger females like older men. I am assuming when we talk older, its about a generation give or take a few years. I don't see a problem because we will all get older eventually.
 the_biggavell
Joined: 6/6/2014
Msg: 68
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/22/2015 8:35:47 AM
I think... a young girl dating an older man is just the nature of things.. that:
Initially, shes a loser, with the only thing to barter with is her beauty and freshness. Being with an older guy, she gains insight, experience and a wide range of skills from a man, who at her age hasnt developed that yet

So what does that say? It says:
Men build their value, starting from 0 at 18 and are expected to be something of substance as they reach 40.
Women have value off the bat at 18. And begin to lose their value as they reach 40. What women do to hedge against that loss of value is soak up the game and wisdom from the men they encounter, with the hopes this translates into marriage and happiness.

This is why women younger women date the sum of his existence in an older man and sometimes shun the younger guy- he hasnt built his existence yet. Older women can date younger guys because they are dating his physical essence paired with the sum of his existence.
men date a younger womans essence and teach her the skills that would suit his relationship with her from there. Men who date older women, are skill matching, in the sense that a 30 year old man has the skills to communicate effectively with a 40 year old woman, because 12 years of successes and rejections with women have allowed him to develop the skill of getting women. A woman at 25-30 might not have those skills, shes still waiting for prince charming on a horse.. she hasnt needed to develop skills be ause she hasnt a need to, her raw beauty is enough. At 40, when that beauty is fading and the fish aint fresh, the skills she mighr have accumulated would come in handy... if she is still has only her raw beauty at that point, she will be forced to find a new way of getting guys, since waiting is no longer an option.
 Like2dance
Joined: 4/13/2013
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Posted: 1/22/2015 10:20:15 AM
When I was in high school some of the girls were dating college men. They wanted to get married ASAP and the college men could sooner be able to provide for them than their classmates would.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 70
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/22/2015 10:41:49 AM
biggavel, funny stuff you're posting there. I want to smoke what you're smoking. I'm almost 45, according to you, WAY past my prime. How do you explain older guys coming after me all the time? And I'm talking dudes with dough here. I don't want them, but they want me. Also guys my age still want me, but I mostly don't like them, even though they have great jobs and according to your world view have "value" and could easily get super young hot chicks. Explain please.

I just the other day had some 53 year old who looked pretty good invite me to Cirque de Soleil with backstage tickets. I didn't even respond to him because I wasn't attracted to him, just not my type. Why isn't he inviting young hotties since he is soooo desirable and all young women want older men, supposedly? Similar thing happened last year, just before the Super Bowl. Met a guy slightly younger than me online with Seahawks Season Tickets and he wanted to take me to the game. Again, successful guy, great job, lots of money, but why is he bothering with an over-the-hill, washed up middle aged broad like me? I'm really curious.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 71
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/22/2015 12:22:10 PM
Totally agree with you mermaid. I guess young biggavel is in for a rude awakening if he thinks once he is older, he can get all the young hot women he wants. But he talks about women in such derogatory terms as if they are things to be bought and tossed, I doubt that makes him very attractive to them.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 72
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/22/2015 1:26:00 PM
Quote

Similar thing happened last year, just before the Super Bowl. Met a guy slightly younger than me online with Seahawks Season Tickets and he wanted to take me to the game. Again, successful guy, great job, lots of money, but why is he bothering with an over-the-hill, washed up middle aged broad like me? I'm really curious.


It must be maddening to never find a hat that fits.....
 overunity
Joined: 8/16/2014
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Posted: 1/22/2015 1:49:00 PM
^^^ That's the trouble with hats. You try one on and all the other hats want to be tried on too, not caring if you buy them or not. They just want to be one more. You know the way hats talk behind your back to one another.
 CuriousInDB
Joined: 7/12/2014
Msg: 74
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Posted: 1/22/2015 2:12:23 PM

It must be maddening to never find a hat that fits.....

^^Dang. Just became a fan, CrookCatcher. The earth just moved.

I find these hat stories sad.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 75
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/22/2015 3:05:24 PM
It must be maddening to never find a hat that fits.....

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LOL, no, why would it be maddening? Speak for yourself. I've only been single since spring 2012, and why settle for a hat that doesn't fit just perfectly right. Not looking to get married, don't want any more kids, I'm in no rush. I found a perfect hat once, and I'll find one again eventually. Trying on different hats can be very fun in the meantime.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 76
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Posted: 1/23/2015 5:01:30 AM
Oh no I understand...I used to have the same problem.

When I used to contract with playboy as security I would meet with the Playmate at her hotel and we would take a limo to the different venues, clubs etc. There were times especially in clubs, where the women were apt to want to be around her talking etc. As her personal escort I was privy to a lot of private "conversation" and I too had to suffer the hardship of being checked out by all these young hotties all the damn time, who had the whole Kevin Costner/Whitney Houston Body Guard he knows Hugh Hefner thing running through their head. It's exhausting I know.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 77
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Posted: 1/23/2015 6:02:11 AM
I am bald, so to keep warm sometimes I wear my hood over my stocking cap.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 78
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Posted: 1/23/2015 6:04:04 AM

It's exhausting I know. Trying on different hats can be very fun in the meantime.


So many hats, so little time, life isn't fair.
 the_summerwind
Joined: 9/11/2014
Msg: 79
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/23/2015 6:57:10 AM

This is why women younger women date the sum of his existence in an older man and sometimes shun the younger guy- he hasnt built his existence yet. Older women can date younger guys because they are dating his physical essence paired with the sum of his existence.


I kinda got what you saying in the nature of men & women...young & old....etc...

As in most of us, [men & women] are first attracted to beauty, then to ones brains & character, in the short & long of it...
And then..... in what it can make us feel better about our selves, our ego & self worth to be coupled with a said person.

And what does it really matter to you now who's dating who ? As is thread has turned into putting down each other cuz at one time you could say men had the upper hand..... if this is, truly the only thing this thread is all about ! ^^^^

As in money, experience, wisdom is for many a plus...and using that plus to pick & choose in who will take notice more in that.
Yet the tide has turned in that regard to that. As many more women are much freer now to pick & choose, without only looking for purse string as a lot of people still think.
As that maybe how it was before, & would have sway her in that direction in deciding. And I can see how many women feel much more liberated lifestyle today. Bottomline, to each their own....
 Fire_and_Ice4_You
Joined: 10/28/2014
Msg: 80
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/24/2015 12:03:40 PM

And I can see how many women feel much more liberated lifestyle today

Agree...why anyone cares ....who dates who or for what reason is beyond me....

Out of curiousity.....did any "younger men" answer the question?
As Karma eludes to..she is the older woman for a certain age and the younger for another age...meh~

IMO....I have never seen a hot younger man or woman with a much older mate....unless it's in Hollywood.
But like Clooney said...."Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder"....
 Like2dance
Joined: 4/13/2013
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Posted: 1/24/2015 3:03:52 PM
All I know is my dating life happily continues into my very early sixties. This morning an OK but not great looking 47 year old woman I had been seeing but feeling ambivalent about decided to stop seeing me - via email. I went to the gym while my cleaning lady worked in my house. As I was finishing up at the gym I ran into a pretty hot looking 36 year old woman I knew only as a gym-friend. She wanted to talk. She had just broken up with her boy friend. I asked her if she wanted to go out with me tonight. Her face lit up and she said yes so we are going out.

That is the way it is in the single world. It is like getting off one bus and onto another. No big deal.
 fitnessjunkie365
Joined: 1/17/2015
Msg: 82
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/25/2015 12:15:48 AM
I always related better with older women because I'm direct and a good communicator. Also, my interests are older. Mentioning any sort of entertainment medium from the 20th century would always fall on deaf ears with women my own age and younger.

But as much as I enjoy older women, I finally decided to stick to my own age range or a bit younger. In my experience, the older women I dated were insecure and in constant need of assurance. They were also surprisingly commitment phobic because they always assume a younger guy will want kids.
 i8pineapple
Joined: 6/20/2014
Msg: 83
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Posted: 1/25/2015 3:57:45 AM
I'm banking on younger women liking older guys. Lets face it, most women my age have as many problems as me if not more. And why they mostly seem to want to look like Barney Rubble, I just dont get it.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 84
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Posted: 1/27/2015 6:38:56 AM
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/16/young-women-date-younger-men_n_3606539.html

Even young women date younger men. Get used to it.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 1/27/2015 8:08:18 AM
Whats with the very agitated couger and sabertooth behavior lately? Kinda weird.
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