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 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 78
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It's exhausting I know. Trying on different hats can be very fun in the meantime.


So many hats, so little time, life isn't fair.
 the_summerwind
Joined: 9/11/2014
Msg: 79
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/23/2015 6:57:10 AM

This is why women younger women date the sum of his existence in an older man and sometimes shun the younger guy- he hasnt built his existence yet. Older women can date younger guys because they are dating his physical essence paired with the sum of his existence.


I kinda got what you saying in the nature of men & women...young & old....etc...

As in most of us, [men & women] are first attracted to beauty, then to ones brains & character, in the short & long of it...
And then..... in what it can make us feel better about our selves, our ego & self worth to be coupled with a said person.

And what does it really matter to you now who's dating who ? As is thread has turned into putting down each other cuz at one time you could say men had the upper hand..... if this is, truly the only thing this thread is all about ! ^^^^

As in money, experience, wisdom is for many a plus...and using that plus to pick & choose in who will take notice more in that.
Yet the tide has turned in that regard to that. As many more women are much freer now to pick & choose, without only looking for purse string as a lot of people still think.
As that maybe how it was before, & would have sway her in that direction in deciding. And I can see how many women feel much more liberated lifestyle today. Bottomline, to each their own....
 Fire_and_Ice4_You
Joined: 10/28/2014
Msg: 80
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/24/2015 12:03:40 PM

And I can see how many women feel much more liberated lifestyle today

Agree...why anyone cares ....who dates who or for what reason is beyond me....

Out of curiousity.....did any "younger men" answer the question?
As Karma eludes to..she is the older woman for a certain age and the younger for another age...meh~

IMO....I have never seen a hot younger man or woman with a much older mate....unless it's in Hollywood.
But like Clooney said...."Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder"....
 Like2dance
Joined: 4/13/2013
Msg: 81
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Posted: 1/24/2015 3:03:52 PM
All I know is my dating life happily continues into my very early sixties. This morning an OK but not great looking 47 year old woman I had been seeing but feeling ambivalent about decided to stop seeing me - via email. I went to the gym while my cleaning lady worked in my house. As I was finishing up at the gym I ran into a pretty hot looking 36 year old woman I knew only as a gym-friend. She wanted to talk. She had just broken up with her boy friend. I asked her if she wanted to go out with me tonight. Her face lit up and she said yes so we are going out.

That is the way it is in the single world. It is like getting off one bus and onto another. No big deal.
 fitnessjunkie365
Joined: 1/17/2015
Msg: 82
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/25/2015 12:15:48 AM
I always related better with older women because I'm direct and a good communicator. Also, my interests are older. Mentioning any sort of entertainment medium from the 20th century would always fall on deaf ears with women my own age and younger.

But as much as I enjoy older women, I finally decided to stick to my own age range or a bit younger. In my experience, the older women I dated were insecure and in constant need of assurance. They were also surprisingly commitment phobic because they always assume a younger guy will want kids.
 i8pineapple
Joined: 6/20/2014
Msg: 83
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Posted: 1/25/2015 3:57:45 AM
I'm banking on younger women liking older guys. Lets face it, most women my age have as many problems as me if not more. And why they mostly seem to want to look like Barney Rubble, I just dont get it.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 84
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Posted: 1/27/2015 6:38:56 AM
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/16/young-women-date-younger-men_n_3606539.html

Even young women date younger men. Get used to it.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 85
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Posted: 1/27/2015 8:08:18 AM
Whats with the very agitated couger and sabertooth behavior lately? Kinda weird.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 86
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Posted: 1/27/2015 8:22:52 AM

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/16/young-women-date-younger-men_n_3606539.html

Even young women date younger men. Get used to it.


What's equally interesting is that in general women are less happy today than 40 years ago, and men are more happy now than in the past. (You can google "women are less happy" and see a ton of surveys / articles)

My theory is that equality and having to be the primary breadwinner is stressful. Many men seem happy to give it up. Women don't seem totally happy with running in the rat race. Women gained a lot, but it comes at a cost.

It's weird for me to compare Thailand to the USA.

In Thailand once or twice a month my wife, when we were dating, would get snaky comments from other Thai women. Saying she was too old and too fat for me. She is 22 years younger and a size 6-8. I reassured her, in the USA it would be the quite the opposite.

When we stroll around, if I see a Western man / Asian couple that look similar age, I tend to check them out more. It's pretty rare to see this and it makes me curious.

The thinking of Thai women that an older man is he is less likely to want to cheat on them or try to find a still younger women. Though most Thai couples that get married are of a similar age. However older Thai men that want to all tend to date much younger women. Like 30-40 years younger. It really common if the married man can afford to do this.

When I was dating using a Thai dating site, I would tend to not contract anyone over 40 years old. But I was reluctant to date younger than 25. Maybe I am still too old fashion, but having a 35 year age gap is too much for me to wrap my head around. I am sure if a woman 25 years old immigrated to the USA to live with me, it wouldn't be likely to last.

Of note, a significant minority of Thai women have on their profile, they don't want to date their "daddy". So while it's common, it still isn't the norm to date a different generation.

In the USA, I never had any age criteria, it was more about personality and looks than age.
 the_biggavell
Joined: 6/6/2014
Msg: 87
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Posted: 1/30/2015 2:29:48 AM
trustinK- you are past the prime, in an easy to understand sense that you are a used car with over 120000 kms, maybe been through an accident or two, or none at all. For peoples under 35. Now its possible for someone under 35 to see the value and wisdom you may have attained and would want to learn things from you. In a sense of cars, testdrive you and learn how a car works... a beater of somekind until they move onto a better, newer car. Some guys fall for and cherish those kinds of cars and do they utmost best to maintain. Thats a young man that falls in love with a much older woman.
older men coming at you is how it should work. You are a young woman to them, and could be your sugar daddy if you allowed them. To them, you are that 120K, Collectors edition. A car that has mileage, and is reliable, in that you have a proven track record, a standard, and there is value in that, among other things, depending on what value they see in you.
 the_biggavell
Joined: 6/6/2014
Msg: 88
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Posted: 1/30/2015 2:42:38 AM
Mermaid, in saying what youve said, youve generally proved what i meant, in dating a younger man, whose managed to accumulate wealth and power, beyond even other men twice his age. In a sense, you hit the jackpot lottery. You were waiting, scratching the lottery like most women do and lucked up and won. Some men get to that status early, late or not at all. Sure its an old school view. A view that women unconsciously follow despite new age rules, there is proof of this all around you if you pay attention to nature. You cant beat nature.

i used the car analogy because its great in terms of how men and women assign value to each other. you jabe good genes and feel and look younger than you so naturally you can date younger. You are a well taken care of old car, possibly with no accidents, or minor ones and running well.
i like to count myself among the guus that date older women.. and in terms of value, they value a women that know what they want. How do women generally know what they want? By experiencing what they dont. Which generally adds up to being used. We all use each other and for some, the use is so beneficial that it lasts until death. I dont see anything wrong with men or women dating olde or younger. I do feel i have an understanding as to why they date older or younger. There is some nature involved, something people dont seem to want to admit.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 89
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/30/2015 7:16:07 AM
Old guys are just as washed up and a "used car" as women are, as you so nicely put it. Don't kid yourself, your "value" does not go up with age either.

How many dates do you have this weekend, btw? I have three - between ages 23 and 47. This past her prime woman has no trouble getting them, despite being "used up", whatever that is determined by. Number of years on earth? Partying? Number of sex partners? If it's the latter two, most young women have me beat by miles, so to speak.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 90
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Posted: 1/30/2015 7:26:13 AM

Old guys are just as washed up and a "used car" as women are, as you so nicely put it. Don't kid yourself, your "value" does not go up with age either.


What's the trade in value of all these old cars?
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 91
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Posted: 1/30/2015 10:25:02 AM
"Old guys are just as washed up and a "used car" as women are, as you so nicely put it. Don't kid yourself, your "value" does not go up with age either."- trustinkarma

Sooo true.
The car analogy is pretty funny. Even me, as a non-car guy knows that some older model vehicles are way more valuable than alot of new cars. All that matters is how well they are taken care of.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 92
younger guys what do u think of girls desire for older men
Posted: 1/30/2015 11:58:28 AM

How many dates do you have this weekend, btw? I have three - between ages 23 and 47. This past her prime woman has no trouble getting them, despite being "used up", whatever that is determined by. Number of years on earth? Partying? Number of sex partners? If it's the latter two, most young women have me beat by miles, so to speak.


Lucky you. Have some fun.

I am going to have only one date at my place. It will last all weekend. It will...(ups, I forgot I am not in the sex forums and well, it will be fun.)
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 93
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Posted: 1/30/2015 12:00:42 PM

This is very true. Who wants an old clunker that needs additives in it's gas to go long and fast enough to get you "where you need to go" and that can't quite get that "needle" up to where it needs to be, lol. It's time for a new engine that roars!


Usually that new engine that roars consumes it's complete thank of gasoline in about one minute. While that old clunker will keep chugging right along for a long long time.

Brrrrrrmmmmm
 the_biggavell
Joined: 6/6/2014
Msg: 94
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Posted: 1/30/2015 6:40:19 PM
I love the car ones.. its easy to understand and fun.
young women should never have a problem, since like cars..they start off with a high amount of value, and as soon as they get some mileage(a few sex partners... i know you women love sex just as much as we do), that value goes down.
like cars, they get hurt,(accidents) need to be fixed.
an old car, can be a lemon
or a well taken care of machine, that someone with an eye for value, can trust in and take on. Thats what happens when guys date older women. they are seeing the value in you, and attracted to that, whether it be wisdom, experience, money, etc.

and yea. Most times why go with an old sex carborator of a guy when you got a brand new sex machine. Age 29.
 tgif111
Joined: 10/24/2014
Msg: 95
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Posted: 1/31/2015 6:39:42 AM
I like the car comparison as well.

for instance, you buy the car you can afford.

if you can afford a new $75,000 car and you have a desire to have one that is what you get. if you're living on $12,000 a year you may still desire that high priced jobber but you can only afford a beater. you won't see Donald Trump driving a '95 Dodge Neon. the $75,000 car is a young hottie and the Neon is an older unattractive overweight bitter woman with baggage.

as for myself I've noticed a little "rust" starting to form and am taking "my car" to the best body shop in town to repair a few "dents" and get a new "coat of paint". thankfully the "engine" is still in good shape and has excellent acceleration. the "tires" still have a lot of tread left.

my cosmetic surgery is scheduled for February 20th in Cleveland.
laser neck lift with 3 point plication
variable full face laser
upper bleth (eyelid) browplasty myotomies
filler orbital ( 2 belotero ) and chin (radiesse 1)
botox injections brow
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 96
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Posted: 1/31/2015 6:58:03 AM

How many dates do you have this weekend, btw? I have three - between ages 23 and 47. This past her prime woman has no trouble getting them, despite being "used up",


Looking at this statement, a person probably should ask why "this" is actually happening, shouldn't they? Or are we to assume this statement is a "good thing"? Personally, no matter anyone's age, I wouldn't think having three dates with three different people during a 48 hour period is very wise. But, hey, I'm just a grumpy old shiat that is past his expiry date, so don't worry about my thoughts.

And why not 4 dates? How about 5? Or,,,,,10!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! No need to just keep it to that relatively low number of only 3. Or, is there?
 tgif111
Joined: 10/24/2014
Msg: 97
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Posted: 1/31/2015 7:45:55 AM
^^^^^^
And why not 4 dates? How about 5?
^^^^^^

here's an explanation.

I eat 2 -3 meals a day. they are generally all different types of food. ergo, variety is the spice of life.

some people are serial daters like myself. maybe Karma is as well.
we like a large variety and we like different types of people.

why? because we can.

I like the fact that the women I date are all different. I've had 2 different dates in the same weekend but it's not common. it's easier for an attractive woman to get dates. plus it's coming into Valentine's Day and some people are "priming the pump".
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 98
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Posted: 1/31/2015 7:58:25 AM
^^^^

So, in other words, your dates are just part of your entertainment schedule? As in, you get bored pretty quickly just knowing and going out with one. It has to be more, because of the requirement for "variety"????
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 99
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Posted: 1/31/2015 7:59:19 AM
Ahhhhh...gotta LOVE when a guy uses car analogies to describe women...LOL

Unfortunately they sometimes are a LITTLE difficult to "read"(tgif) lol

Meh, older, younger...for myself if I truly connect with someone, then I couldn't care LESS how old they are....

Having said that, let me also say that I have dated men as much as 15-20 yrs younger and have found that, for me, I'm NOT really interested in being with someone more than approx. 10 yrs younger or older....

I just don't have much in common with someone who is 10+years younger and for the most part they are just NOT in the same place in their lives as I am, which makes a primary relationship that much more difficult and frankly, I'm finding them difficult enough with men around my own age!!! lol

Also I just have never been able to get my head around the fact that if I date someone who is CONSIDERABLY younger as in 15+ years, that while I was off losing my virginity in the back of a van, they were sitting in a playpen in diapers sucking on a pacifier....and once THAT image is there, there's just NO "getting naked" happening after!!! lmao
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 100
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Posted: 1/31/2015 10:06:12 AM
Walts, three dates, because I have three days off, so why not go on dates. The fishing has been very plentiful lately, and that might change at any time as it has in the past. All three guys are my type, so of course I'm going to meet them and see what's up. The guy I went on a date with last night was a second date. He is 23 and just a total darling. Older guys should take note on how to treat a woman from this young man. Total gentleman, still hasn't tried to even kiss me, except on the cheek, paid for everything, even took on extra work the day before our date so he would have enough money for the date. And we had so much fun, going bowling and then just sat and talked for a while. Perfect date for me. I don't need fancy shmancy dinner dates to have a good time. He was previously in a three year relationship with a 38 year old. Yes, he likes older women. Shocker, since he is very handsome and super athletic and built. . And funny how he isn't using me for sex even though this is what all young guys are after when they date older women, supposedly.

The guy tonight is 47, and we are going to a casino. I have to say, I'm not really too excited about that one, because I'm really liking the 23 year old and I usually focus on only one person at a time. But until "something" happens between us, I'll just go out on dates. No harm done.

The guy on Sunday is a 38 year old ex Marine, very athletic, extreme hiker, and not handsome in the traditional way, but has something about him I find attractive. We're going to have coffee on Sunday and maybe watch the Superbowl while we're out.

So there you have it, my breakdown of my dates this weekend. I already have potential plans for next weekend as well, but I might just take a break because too much dating can become too tiring.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 101
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Posted: 1/31/2015 10:17:40 AM
Why not do the 47 year old a favor and cancel? Let him save the money. I'm sure if he were to read your post he probably would do it himself.

Not bashing you, you do what you want. I just have a hard time figuring out what your real intent is by posting this.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 102
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Posted: 1/31/2015 10:25:34 AM
I'm pretty sure guys are doing it too - lining up dates and canceling/standing up people when they meet someone else they like. Heck, Ive been stood up and cancelled on several times. Part of dating. I would not stand anybody up though, I'd definitely cancel way ahead of time.

Walt was asking me about my three dates, so I told him about it. That's all.
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