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 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
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For myself, I think that everyone is different as far as dating goes and I don't believe that it "works" just ONE way...

I have had several "meet and greets" in several days, but normally I prefer to focus on one person at a time , as I believe, Karma said that she did as well.

If you are just meeting/dating someone, I don't think that you can reasonably expect that they AREN'T dating anyone else, and, in fact, I don't think that anyone has the RIGHT to, at that stage of the game.

It would be nice if we all knew exactly when we began to "prefer" someone over another person and acted accordingly, but it sounds like it's early days yet, in the scenario that she is describing, even with the young man that she is beginning to prefer....

I highly doubt that the 40+yr old is getting a "raw deal" here...He will be having a fun afternoon with a beautiful woman watching football and drinking beer...Sounds like "guy heaven " to me! lol

I also read on here ALL of the time, how guys aren't being given a chance by women, and what I hear Karma saying is that although she is leaning towards the younger guy, she is still willing to keep her prior commitment and will go out with the other one. Maybe she'll have a good time and they'll pass a pleasant afternoon...?

My only concern is if she finds herself liking Mr. 40+ too!!! lol
But to me it sounds like nothing more than another date that both will enjoy and where's the harm in that? I hardly think that even Mr. 40+ is expecting anything more than that either on a first date....

You can come out from under the rock, there Walts....This lady wouldn't have ANY problem with even a man (gasp!) doing this....
Nothing wrong here, far as I can see....

Have fun Karma!
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 120
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Posted: 2/1/2015 6:06:47 AM

I highly doubt that the 40+yr old is getting a "raw deal" here...He will be having a fun afternoon with a beautiful woman watching football and drinking beer...Sounds like "guy heaven " to me!


Some men will have a different definition of "fun", "beautiful" and "heaven". Something for some of the ladies to remember out there. Something else to remember, is that boys and men, WILL have different expectations of the people they "date". It comes with the age thingy. I know, for a fact, I'm not in highschool anymore, and act accordingly. Though, when I do see some of the young things nowadays, I can and do, dream.


You can come out from under the rock, there Walts....


Ummmm, no. I'm gonna stay right where I am. ;) Much safer right here.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 121
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Posted: 2/1/2015 8:01:25 AM

I'm sorry sir but I don't think you understand how the dating world functions nor do you understand the social aspects of multiple dating.


Do tell?



And again Ms. Tuesday would turn you down if she knew you did'nt care to be with her and wanted to be with Ms. Saturday instead. I don't care how you wrap it, unless your dates are total morons or you're dating hookers then yeah you're right.

Let me rephrase it for you, I don't care if she's dating every damn night and she's got them from 19 to 100 years old, again I don't care.

I just think it's pretty ____(fill in the blank)__________ when you publicly state you have a date with a man/woman that you're not keen on and and don't really care about it because you got junior over there working overtime at 10 bucks an hour to impress her and standing in awe of her beauty......but by god she's gonna force herself to go gambling at his expense...you know grace the 47 year old with thine prescence.

This is not a gender thing it's a character thing.
 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
Msg: 122
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Posted: 2/1/2015 8:07:44 AM
Walts, you and I look at things differently, we are not the serial dating type. We meet someone, have a date and if it is pleasant...we have another and another. If it leads somewhere, great. If it doesn't, well, next time. And neither of us have a need to fill an evening with a warm body just because we like a body and can't handle "alone". Some need something young and pretty on their arm constantly...it's solely an ego boost. It's also sad and pathetic. You and I will not have a need to spend 40 grand on a face lift to stay attractive to the young folks. And I'm sure the young folks think we are fun for the night but the thought of anything more than that brings out the "Ick factor" for these young folks. Who wants to spend their life with someone probably older than there parents. To me, a serial dater (especially one that seeks younger) is no different than a junkie seeking the next high. The thing is, it will end one day and they will be a 75 year old, with a facelift, and alone because unless you're Hugh Hefner (tall, smart and charming and a big wallet)..short guys from Ohio have a short shelf life.

So Walts, we can sit back...me with a glass of wine and you sippin, and watch it happen. I'd much rather wait and find someone that suits me for the long haul than be on the hunt for my next fix. If I am bored and want to do something on the weekend to blow the cobwebs off, I'll call friends and go out. But I'm not interested in juggling dates, chasing the young and looking like a fool.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 123
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Posted: 2/1/2015 8:59:18 AM
The only thing that bothers me about some of these scenarios is at first we are told "how well" someone is doing in this funny world we call "dating". Telling us all, that "hey, I got so many dates in so many nights!!!!! I'm doing great!!!!" And in the very next breath, we are told," well, some of these dates I'm not really taking seriously, blah, blah, blah, for whatever reason that comes into their head".

All I'm hearing is someone is telling us that they are doing great at doing nothing. Nothing I, personally, would proclaim to the world.

I can fart in the bathtub by the way. And I'm actually pretty good at it too!!!!!
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 124
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Posted: 2/1/2015 9:02:21 AM
To break this down to a simple concept:

This is a dating site:

Bob messages Jane and asks her if she would like to meet and have lunch, it's his treat.

Jane messages back and say's sure why not.

Jane messages her online friend Jill and say's Bob asked me out to lunch but I'm not excited about it and would really prefer to be with hot Tim, but I have that time free so I'm going.

Jill being the instigator also knows Bob and messages him saying "Jane doesn't really care about going, she's got the hots for Tim but she's coming anyway to have something to do.

Does Bob say:

A. That's no problem

B. I'll just use that time to reflect on what could have been.

C. Thanks for letting me know, I think I'm going to cancel.

It's not rocket science folks.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 125
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Posted: 2/1/2015 9:26:00 AM

Bob messages Jane and asks her if she would like to meet and have lunch, it's his treat.

Jane messages back and say's sure why not.

Jane messages her online friend Jill and say's Bob asked me out to lunch but I'm not excited about it and would really prefer to be with hot Tim, but I have that time free so I'm going.

Jill being the instigator also knows Bob and messages him saying "Jane doesn't really care about going, she's got the hots for Tim but she's coming anyway to have something to do.


Bob messages Jane and says he will be he going to a casino by his house, if Jane wishes to meet up with him, drive over and he'll be the one with the Jack Daniels in his hand at the blackjack table.

Jane messages back and say's sure why not?

Jane messages her online friend Jill and say's Bob is hanging out at his local casino, but I'm not excited about it meeting up there, it's a lot longer drive for me and would really prefer to be with hot Tim on a real date. But I have that time free so I'm going. Maybe Bob won't be such a dud after all, maybe he is a lot nicer in person.

Jill, being the integrator and a back stabbing friend, MSGs Bob and says Jane would rather be with Tim.

Bob says whatever, she shows or doesn't show, all the same to me.

Bob also says, Jill, thanks for you concern, you are cool, why don't you and I have a dinner? Jill, really now much of a friend to Jane, says you're on, meet you at 6:00Pm.
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I read it a different way. I would dump that crappy friend Jill.
 Fire_and_Ice4_You
Joined: 10/28/2014
Msg: 126
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Posted: 2/1/2015 9:54:14 AM

Bob also says, Jill, thanks for you concern, you are cool, why don't you and I have a dinner?

Believe it or not...when I first was meeting on here a few years back....If there was a guy that I thought better suited for a particular friend...I would let them(my friend) know...then it was up to them.
But never someone I was truly interested in....women code just like guys.
Not too hard to overlap with the same age group in a small town.....which was sometimes good or bad...lol.

In reading the situation of Karmas between the date with the older versus younger wasn't so much about age..imo.
It seemed to me the older man was playing a game.....as much as she is.
He doesn't want to go out of his way or show being too enthusiastic.....so it's a "If you show...you show attitude"....lol.
Yeah, I'd say I wouldn't be too excited about meeting him either.

Maybe, she isn't his cup of tea either or he's a wanna be casanova....shrugs!
I am the same way when I get a message...IF I am ever in their city...to look them up...yeah no!
I live an hour away if you are not enthusiastic enough to come closer or meet half way....neither am I.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 127
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Posted: 2/1/2015 9:59:25 AM

Bob messages Jane and says he will be he going to a casino by his house, if Jane wishes to meet up with him, drive over and he'll be the one with the Jack Daniels in his hand at the blackjack table.



Bob says whatever, she shows or doesn't show, all the same to me.


Then in reality this was never a "date" to begin with, but rather an open invitation to her.

I've never seen anyone ask someone out on a date and then not be bothered if they did'nt show.

But you're right....watch out for the Jill's. Lol
 tgif111
Joined: 10/24/2014
Msg: 128
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Posted: 2/1/2015 12:32:38 PM
I don't believe i'll waste my time by trying to MAN-SPLAIN it to you gentlemen from another generation.
my patience has expired on this mini topic.
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 2/1/2015 6:52:09 PM
Yeah I really don't see it as a question of character or anything of the kind, sorry....
I don't recall her having asked the young man to work extra shifts to get the cash to take her out...? That was HIS choice.
I also don't see it as a "fear" of being alone and frankly think that some folks are reading WAAAAYYYY too much into a simple date....

And here's an interesting story for all of you...

My grandmother was happily dating a young man many years ago but they weren't yet going steady...
He decided to go out with his friends on a Sat, night and didn't include her in his plans....

She went to the store and ran into another boy that she knew and they chatted a bit before she went home.
Later that day, he called and asked her to go out for ice cream.
Even though the boy she REALLY liked wasn't available, she decided to accept because she was bored.
Long story short....
Her and my Grandfather were married for over 40 yrs, before he passed away....and continued to go out for ice cream together every month....

You just never know when it's going to "click" and my grandmother even said that SHE never anticipated liking "ice cream boy" more than the boy she had been dating!
Just sayin'...
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 130
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Posted: 2/1/2015 7:21:18 PM

TrustInKarma He did not plan a date and go out of his way, he invited me to meet him at the casino to which he was going anyways.



CrookCatcher Then in reality this was never a "date" to begin with, but rather an open invitation to her.


Date or meet or open invitation it wasn't what I would really think was a formal date.

But you know, Karma said "The older guy has a lot going for him (tall, dark, handsome ,great career, money), but I still want a guy who is EXCITED to see me. "

Turning it around.

If I meet a confident secure woman that doesn't show me how excited she is to meet me, try to boost my ego, I guess that means I should go for the more insecure women that dresses to impress.

Personally, I would give people more time to see how the dating / relationship develops.

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When you are dating / meeting more than one person in the same time period, one always compares each of your dates. Miss X is more into me, Miss Y has more money, Miss X is a little heavier Miss Y is thin and athletic, Missy Z is really hot.

It gets a little awkward when you actually express outloud (Or text) what is your internal thinking, but I believe it is normal for most everyone to think that way.
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
Msg: 131
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Posted: 2/1/2015 7:40:00 PM

MAN-SPLAIN


Aw damn, I was hoping to become enlightened with regard to the napoleon complex.
 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
Msg: 132
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Posted: 2/1/2015 7:53:27 PM
Vector, I was hoping he'd explain the Napoleon Complex as well but it's pretty self explanatory and fitting regarding this poster. Plus, no one pays any attention to him anyway.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 133
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Posted: 2/2/2015 5:27:42 AM

she decided to accept because she was bored.


Which isn't all that bad, especially if there an actual admittance that this is the reason for accepting an invitation. I don't mind being used to fill in someone's time if I actually know I am just a time filler. Or, should I just assume that a female is accepting an invite of mine because she is bored?

If so, could I please have a show of hands of any of fems that are presently bored with your life or week, or weekend???? I'll see what I can come up with to change that for ya.


I guess, I am starting to see MY problem with dating nowadays. I just don't really get bored enough.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 134
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Posted: 2/2/2015 6:40:16 AM
OMG, this is funny, how people get so bent out of shape about my dates. As if I was some unscrupulous man-eater who goes around leading men on and extracting large amounts of money out of them in the process. Get real people - it's just DATING. It's meeting people I haven't even met in person before, and who very likely are doing THE SAME !! Imagine that! I used to be the "good girl" who only dated one person at a time, but guess what? I wasted my time getting all hung up on one guy, because a lot of them were just passing time with me as well while dating other women. So now I'm doing the "when in Rome, do as the Romans do"thing. Blame it on the stupid dating games that I hate so much here. I would LOVE to focus on one guy at a time, but I won't do that anymore until I know for sure he's only focusing on me as well.

BTW, I didn't end up meeting the guy on Saturday because I didn't feel like driving one hour to meet him. And he was FINE - he didn't get suicidal or anything, he understood and we're setting something up for another time. I did meet the 39 year old on Sunday though, and he was very interesting as well. Avid hiker, fun to talk to, and he wants to meet up again, so we'll see.

Now relax everybody, this is how dating is done. Until I find exactly what I want, I'll be dating more than one person at a time.
 CuriousInDB
Joined: 7/12/2014
Msg: 135
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Posted: 2/2/2015 7:30:21 AM
All I have is can't believe this thread is still going and Karma is still here. I'm familiar with this particular personality type but never had the pleasure of observing it to this degree.

Amazing, isn't it? Truly amazing. Kinda like that car wreck thing I mention in my profile. But for real here (and to a lesser degree in my profile also).

Right. Back to my site issues and profile reviews.

And relax, everyone. This is how dating is done. :))
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 136
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Posted: 2/2/2015 5:57:16 PM

OMG, this is funny, how people get so bent out of shape about my dates.


It's not about "your" dates, it's about "your" proclamations about the "occurrence" of such "dates" that we are constantly hearing about, that's kinda unnerving. It's like you think it's something to be proud of, yet, the more you speak of what "kind" of "dates" they are, the more exposing it becomes. Scares the shiat out of some of us. And again, nothing I would go running around advertising. But, hey, to each their own, right?


I didn't end up meeting the guy on Saturday because I didn't feel like driving one hour to meet him


Did the driving time change from when you initially "accepted" until the time you cancelled????? Or, did enough time pass to make that hour seem like a good out????


Now relax everybody, this is how dating is done


Actually, it isn't. It's how "you do it" and maybe some others. In fact, one other poster here, admits he does it all the time too!!!! But, as long as you are having "fun", and you don't get too bored on the weekends, all is good. But, just so you know,
So now I'm doing the "when in Rome, do as the Romans do"thing
is a pretty chicken shiat excuse for doing anything! You should try and come up with something better than that.

Back to that rock,,,,,,

with the rest of em. (we are running out of room here, by the way)
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 2/2/2015 7:06:32 PM
Everything sounds alittle too rosey...
very strange...
With this much good, alittle bad has to be somewhere.
(sift)(sift)(sift)
hhhmmmm.....
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 138
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Posted: 2/2/2015 7:18:02 PM
Back to that rock,,,,,,

with the rest of em. (we are running out of room here, by the way)


Hey!! Yer stepping on my foot! Move over!! rofl
 dinno76
Joined: 9/29/2014
Msg: 139
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Posted: 4/2/2015 10:40:32 AM
Date who makes you happy.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 140
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Posted: 4/2/2015 10:48:03 AM

Posted by dinno76:
"Date who makes you happy."

Precisely correct. It is like I have always shared, if it makes you happy...it can't be that bad.
Think of the people and events in your life, if it makes you happy, then why the heck be so sad?
 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 141
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Posted: 4/2/2015 11:45:03 AM
Because Eric....

Sometimes....you get down, real low down. And to listen to Coltrane, derailing your own train....
Well....who hasn't been there before ? I know I have! But I come round....around the hard way sometimes!
And then I just go with that concept....If it makes you happy....it can't be bad! ;)
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 142
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Posted: 4/2/2015 3:11:22 PM
I drink because it makes me happy. And well, the whiskey, just puts a big stupid grin on my face, thus my love for the nectar of the Gods.

And today, the start of a good long weekend, things will be especially happy. The shenanigans begin shortly.
 Eternityboreme
Joined: 3/18/2015
Msg: 143
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Posted: 4/2/2015 4:08:01 PM

I'm the same way and would always focus on one guy at a time when dating, even when we were at the "just getting to know you" stage where we were both free to date as many people as we wanted. I learned this is NOT the way to do it because by doing this you set yourself you up for disappointment and you can miss out on someone that's really right for you.


I'd do the same thing, and it was never to my benefit.

There are men who insist that they're singing the one woman at a time mantra and expecting their prospect to do the same...whilst he's communicating with other prospects and skulking around corners of seedy dating sites for quicky car lot blow jobs. Fkuck, they don't even want to spring for the coffee.

They're disinterested specifically in that prospect's best interests and they want to be able to control what they do and how they maneuver this site, sometimes by referring to them as serial daters or accusing them not being serious whilst they behave in that fashion -- manipulators deluxe! Screw that.

They're interest isn't to reach high when it's easier and cheaper to grab low -- with plenty availed for the consumption, whenever they want.

It's worth your time and effort to find better. But to do this, you do have to get out there and meet different people, as much you can.
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