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 Dancing_4_You
Joined: 1/21/2006
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an east coaster living in ca, here people are very active which with lyme disease has been hard for me. i assume it has a lot to do with weather and layout. many housing areas are crowded but immediately surrounded by mountains. you don't have to go away weekends to hike. when single, i hosted a lot of parties to get to know people "after" the hike:) some did easy hikes (more like walks) so i could join in. it was considerate.

i do find that most men and women in ca, see themselves as "younger" versus a good looking older. both sexes often put their ages ten years younger and give younger photos. i find it annoying. do they think when they meet the person will be blind? some say if they don't, they'll be contacted by someone ten years older. a cultural way of doing things here. i left my real age. odd i met someone younger, w/o even trying. he found me. but he too put some stretches in his profile which worried me, as i thought i could not keep up.

my 71 year old mentor (she assists me with adjusting to getting older), can out hike most 50 year old men, even here in ca. however, active does not necessarily mean attractive. but yes, i find many men and women dating younger people. as a not active person, my guy is middle in activity. he used to do crazy things like jumping out of airplanes, etc. but with work and me, he has different priorities. nonetheless, he had this stuff on his profile although no lies about age.

i've been hit on by kids in 20's and 20's looking for cougars. i found it annoying and would give them a very large mommy lecture. i don['t get it why people want someone that much younger.

there is "active" and there is "attractive" and there is "compatible for the long term". am told by family therapist friend that many dominant men (don't mean sexually but personality) seek women who will be less outspoken than me. i attract physically first, but to keep it going, i find mental and value issues are what seals it. he can hike with his buddy if he wants to, but i don't look sloppy either. i also find many women who say men 55 plus are having ED problems. that is why they seek younger. i fear that viagra will give a lot of men strokes over the long term. often is it just about fear and can subside if no medical issues. more men should see testosterone replacement versus viagra.

aging is scary. so far the little bit of botox and restylane helps my vanity issues, but i'm sure that won't work forever. on days i look like sh_t if not feeling well, my guy does not seem to care. it feels good , as long as i don't allow myself to stay that way all the time. not sure how it would feel to be really active. for me to see the mountains during hiking would be great and it often makes me sad. however, i am mentally active.
 AlfredoDP
Joined: 5/31/2012
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Posted: 10/9/2012 5:36:22 PM
Serenity, host few more of those after hike parties, I'll join you on the wait.
I am sorry about sickness. Harry up, get well soon.
 stayinalivefl
Joined: 8/23/2012
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Posted: 10/9/2012 8:18:24 PM
"""I'm 223 lbs. now and BMI says at 6' I need to be 187 lbs...""

I guess I'm a fata$$ @ 5-10 & 210-220.....I think you had the Ethiopian BMI chart......lol
 Dancing_4_You
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 10/11/2012 1:58:33 AM
alfredo, a true new yorker you are. rather chat then hike! let me know when you come to ca:) my kids say i have an active "mind". unfortunately stuck with chronic lymes. so be it. if forced to choose, would still pick the mind and maybe someone to carry me.
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
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Posted: 10/11/2012 2:57:40 AM
Oh geez, I just make them take my personal physical fitness test.

We plan a hike/ walk thats 2 miles and then I feign a sprained ankle and see if he can carry me a football field.

Simple no?

The the tuck your shirt in test..Those Charlie Sheen shirts hide quite a bit.

Y'all should know these things.
waka waka
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 10/11/2012 4:09:14 AM

We plan a hike/ walk thats 2 miles and then I feign a sprained ankle and see if he can carry me a football field.


If I could sling you over my shoulder, no problem. But not very romantic.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
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Posted: 10/11/2012 5:47:58 PM
Some of us actually are. But, I'm not gonna tell you that you have to go with me up into northern BC for 2-3 weeks to actually play alongside the grizzlies,blackies,moose,wolves,bobcats while we toss feathers at steelhead. Nopes. What I do want from ya is to make sure they sheets are clean,bed is warm,and the towels are clean when I arrive home after those 2-3 weeks. A good meal ready wouldn't hurt either.

My lifestyle doesn't require me to go to a gym. Never has.I'm active enough during my 12-16 hours days to put some of the 20 year old chubbies to shame. I've had more than enough "younger" friends look at me after a day of being with me during my playtime like I'm completely nuts. Sometimes, I even have to agree with em. But,in saying that, I know what I do and experince would never happen if I was lying back on my lazy boy watching football on a Sunday afternoon.

Oh,,,it ain't "bravado",,,it's my life.
 barraabus61
Joined: 10/2/2012
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Posted: 10/12/2012 10:58:02 PM
If we're active , we are "too" active.....

If we're couch potatoes ...we are boring bums ....

Now where does that leave us?? I know ....".The Arm chair traveller" must be the ideal guy.....

Hit me up ladies , I'm your "Ideal Man".......

Always loyal , you'll always know where I am ....and I can take you anyplace in anytime in my magical world of the big screen.

Age range 48 to 60 please...............62 if you're still pretty fit
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 10/13/2012 7:16:40 AM
I am not overly active and don't frequent any gym, but most women, even younger ones cannot keep up with me on hiking or paddling trips.
Although most women regularly do aerobics, yoga, or pilates, that doesn't seem to help so much on those kind of outings. I am sure, that there are some women who would outwalk me or wrestle me to the ground, but the overwhelming majority prefers leisurely strolls around the fleamarket or botanical garden.
 Nu2JA
Joined: 9/14/2012
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Posted: 10/13/2012 6:05:35 PM
I met a man age 61 on this site and he really was everything he said he was. He was the most active, healthy, fit man I had ever been around. He worked out daily and played golf. I only wish I had more belief in myself and had tried to get to know him better.
Definately give these guys a chance.
 TantricJedi
Joined: 2/22/2012
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Posted: 10/13/2012 9:04:20 PM
I can't speak for all men..but I'm 44. I jog daily. I don't brag about being active. I'm not.

I'm peaceful watching the tube or listening to music.

Getting out of the house or apt means different things to people.

When I'm not jogging outside, I'm a major couch potato.

Sure, I love local trips, but I'm not a millionaire.

Anyway, that's my 2 cents.
 hybrid59
Joined: 5/3/2012
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Posted: 10/13/2012 9:35:34 PM
As someone stated you don't have to be in great shape to skydive, kayak or ride a motorbike. I run a half hour on a treadmill, skydive, kayak but haven't killed a grizzly with my bare hands. Have to keep an eye out for polar bears though, seriously!

Maybe I am wrong, but I see a lot of woman on here want a super 40/50/60 year old super athlete, from the guys I know that were major athletes when they were younger they have blown knees, shoulders etc.etc.

I think some of you American ladies should check out some of us Canadians, maybe we are a little more adventurous? LOL
 lavenderandred
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Posted: 10/14/2012 12:01:16 PM
I would say yes for some of them...I am 61 and have 70 yr old friends that can out walk..work and welllllll ...better than most younger people I know.....because they take care of themselves.
 barraabus61
Joined: 10/2/2012
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Posted: 10/14/2012 1:24:31 PM
We have to keep active , as we have no other means of releasing pent-up anxiety.

Spending time seeking a relationship only enhances the anxiety, and increases frustration .

But I doubt that would make sense.
 TryAgan
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Posted: 10/17/2012 11:30:57 PM

As someone stated you don't have to be in great shape to skydive, kayak or ride a motorbike. I run a half hour on a treadmill, skydive, kayak but haven't killed a grizzly with my bare hands. Have to keep an eye out for polar bears though, seriously!

I know what you mean. Here. in Toronto, usually, we don't see the polar bears until early January, but with this warm weather lately, you never know when they will show up.
 marybuckeye
Joined: 3/4/2012
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Posted: 10/18/2012 1:33:55 PM

But, I'm not gonna tell you that you have to go with me up into northern BC for 2-3 weeks to actually play alongside the grizzlies,blackies,moose,wolves,bobcats while we toss feathers at steelhead.


But what if she wants to? ;)
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 10/18/2012 2:07:59 PM
The last few days, I have been a little exhausted. I am rebuilding a multilayered terrace with 36 8 foot long landscape timbers, it seems like more work than I expected. Pounding those 7 inch and 12 inch spikes gets old after the first 50, and using the small 5 lb sledge hammer doesn't sound that hard, but it gets tiring.

Not used to doing 5 hours of manual labor a day, maybe I am showing my age.
 notdating-forumsonly
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Posted: 10/18/2012 2:44:57 PM
^^^Keep going- that stuff with get you into good shape and conditioning. Even if you need to tear it all down several times and rebuild it to get there. :)
Or perhaps volunteer to help friends do theirs as well.
 wackadoodledoo
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Posted: 10/18/2012 2:54:48 PM
I am 65 and play tennis 3x a week. Many of my friends have had knee surgeries, torn rotator cuff surgeries etc. etc. Seems we are happy to just be out on the courts. I have been playing many years with no injuries. We all have our good days and bad days. We are all strong players and competitive. Hope I can continue to play as long as possible.!
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 10/18/2012 2:54:57 PM
Tearing the old lumbers out is about 30% of the work, even though they are rotted. I pulled most of the spikes out to reuse.

No way am I ever going to tear it down.

I am under some sort of moving curse, 2 weeks ago I helped the next door neighbors load their moving truck with furniture, they sold their home and are moving to kentucky. The guy was always helpful with projects, and I would often go next door to play cards on the weekends. Not going to be likely to be able to replace them.

Having moved many times in the past, I hate moving, but so far I have helped people move like once every 2 years. It's hard work if you do it yourself.

On the plus side, I don't have to go to the gym lately.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
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Posted: 10/18/2012 4:56:59 PM

On the plus side, I don't have to go to the gym lately.


What?....Mr.Ironman pooped from a little sledge work?I use a sledge every day.Develops stroke volume.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 10/19/2012 2:12:34 PM

What?....Mr.Ironman pooped from a little sledge work?I use a sledge every day.Develops stroke volume.


So do we have to arm wrestle?
 rkbearfan
Joined: 7/15/2011
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Posted: 10/19/2012 2:57:21 PM
hey there speaking fro someone who plays softball has his own team i'm 50 and play along side people in their 20s and 30s if you met them in person you will know if they are active look at his age requirements if hes lookin for someone alot younger probably isjust braggin but there are exceptions to the rule just like in anything in life
 hybrid59
Joined: 5/3/2012
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Posted: 10/19/2012 8:10:22 PM
I know what you mean. Here. in Toronto, usually, we don't see the polar bears until early January, but with this warm weather lately, you never know when they will show up.


Ahh Yes, spoken like a true Torontonian! Amazingly some of us actually live and work in the rest of this huge country. Unbelievable I know, but it is actually true..............
 DeadSteve
Joined: 9/24/2012
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Posted: 10/20/2012 9:51:48 AM
Apperanttly the attitude of the here is"These people Cannot possible be telling the truth so there is NO use giving them the chance to disappoint US". So I'll predict it takes ZERO seconds to disappoint a date because of this prejudgement.

Speaking as a sporty guy, I am looking for some one to share the quiet times, not as on person put it here "the declining years".
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