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 Janet_Always
Joined: 6/20/2012
Msg: 26
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I think many men age 55 will have an age limit set to their own age or younger. That may be why you're coming up so short. If you don't fit their restrictions, they don't come up in searches.

Try logging out first and see if it makes a difference.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 27
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/14/2012 10:16:43 AM
^^^ True. Also, try eliminating the education filter and only filter on your age range and mileage.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 28
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/14/2012 10:30:28 AM
There are a few unintentional filters. One time, I changed my income from one category to the next and repeated the same search. The profiles that were returned were different each time I switched my own income.

One way to get a feel for everyone that is out there is to conduct the search while not logged in.
 Sniper308
Joined: 10/21/2004
Msg: 29
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/14/2012 4:20:45 PM

... don't men over 55 join these meeting sites?


I can't address "joining" specifically... but, if I "leave" POF after turning 55 on Thursday, I'll let you know.
 afanofpoetry
Joined: 8/9/2012
Msg: 30
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/14/2012 7:01:12 PM
I don't believe so. I'm 65 and I found someone here,but unfortunately we have split up. I will still keep looking here.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 31
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Posted: 8/14/2012 8:07:57 PM
TRY THIS....log out and do your search and you will be surprised at what happens. Maybe it's a coincidence, but around the same time they started the pay for options, all of my matches dried up to nothing. They implemented so many different filters that I went from 12 pages down to three people.....gotta love it!
 FishOwl
Joined: 12/13/2008
Msg: 32
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/14/2012 9:26:40 PM


I don't mind body shape, so much, so long as they are honest about it - and honest about being somebody respectable, but that comes with being honest about yourself.

Maybe they think it is average. The unfortunate thing, based on observation, is that they may be right.
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 33
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/14/2012 10:59:16 PM
I would have thought that there would be a lot of over 55 men on here. Some of them will be even older than that and are lying of course. Perhaps they feel they are over the dating scene at that age and not up to scratch sexually so they dont bother. A lot of them want the much younger woman by the same token.
 jimintoronto2
Joined: 11/8/2011
Msg: 34
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/15/2012 6:12:58 AM

I would have thought that there would be a lot of over 55 men on here. Some of them will be even older than that and are lying of course. Perhaps they feel they are over the dating scene at that age and not up to scratch sexually so they dont bother. A lot of them want the much younger woman by the same token.


I am older than that and am not "lying", so I don't understand your point. I have met lots of women on here, but not one who's a good match for me (yet), so I just keep on truckin'. :-)
 saltywater
Joined: 6/12/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 8/15/2012 1:30:54 PM
I am well over 55
 afixerupper
Joined: 8/20/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 8/15/2012 3:05:44 PM
Another thing you can do is individually list as many Interests as you can. Instead of "watersports" put boating, water skiiing, parasailing, swimming, fishing, sailing, skinny dipping, fly fishing, deep sea fishing, and what not. You will only show up as a matched interest with someone who typed the exact phrase you did. So many men put "Too many to mention" and leave the whole thing blank. They don't realize they are discarding a very powerful matching tool.
 _babblefish
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 37
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/15/2012 3:09:40 PM

Another thing you can do is individually list as many Interests as you can. Instead of "watersports" put boating, water skiiing, parasailing, swimming, fishing, sailing, skinny dipping, fly fishing, deep sea fishing, and what not. You will only show up as a matched interest with someone who typed the exact phrase you did. So many men put "Too many to mention" and leave the whole thing blank. They don't realize they are discarding a very powerful matching tool.


unless listing "watersports" meant something entirely different
;)
 -skywalker-
Joined: 6/2/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 8/15/2012 3:53:26 PM
50 miles!! Depending on where you live, you need to not limit your search to just 50 miles.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 39
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Posted: 8/15/2012 5:45:54 PM
I have encountered men online who limit their search to within 10-20 miles.
 Smarts and Heart
Joined: 12/15/2009
Msg: 40
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/16/2012 6:28:51 AM
Maybe men in Hollywood, Florida stop aging at 49. :)

It's because they want women at least 10+ years younger than themselves, they're vain and lie about their age and think they're fooling everyone else. They think that once these 'younger' women meet them, their charisma will win them over and they'll disregard their little white lie.

Funny story.....last week was having dinner with a couple of my boy friend's friends and the wife asked me how we met and I told her on POF. She said her brother's been on POF and Match for 6 years and hasn't had any luck at all. I asked her how old her brother was and she said 63. I said that I was surprised because I knew there were many women in their 50'-60's on these sites. She agreed but said that he thought that women over 50 were 'old'! I laughed and pointed out that was why it obviously wasn't 'working' for him since most women in their 30's and 40's think 63 year old men were old. He'd be old enough to be their father.

People have those 'magic' mirrors and just can't see realty.
 SpeedracerSmith
Joined: 3/5/2012
Msg: 41
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/16/2012 6:45:28 AM

It's because they want women at least 10+ years younger than themselves, they're vain and lie about their age and think they're fooling everyone else. They think that once these 'younger' women meet them, their charisma will win them over and they'll disregard their little white lie.


Exactly!

I met a guy a couple of months ago, semi-attractive...pretty nice..and then he told me he lied about his age! He said he was really 61, but put 45 on his profile to attract younger women! Now..he could have passed for 45, but the point was..HE LIED! I would have most likely gone out with him if he had posted his real age, but the fact that he lied..and the fact he admitted it was to attract younger women..that was a total turn off!

Guys: don't lie..!! You get angry at women when we lie, so you shouldn't lie either!
 softshoe100
Joined: 8/3/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 8/16/2012 6:51:08 AM
Gee, I thought everybody in Florida was over 55. lol
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 43
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/16/2012 12:40:33 PM
winterinfla, *she* may not be, but if she's signed in while searching, maybe POF helps her out by ruling out those she rules out in her mail preferences. . . . One of which is no smokers. . . . .
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 44
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Posted: 8/16/2012 1:27:14 PM

lucky there's no saggy boobs or cellulite option either or a lot of us would be in trouble as well.....lolol


Might take a few of us out of the fishing derby...hehe


I don't believe so. I'm 65 and I found someone here,but unfortunately we have split up. I will still keep looking here.


I would have not taken you for 65 afanofpoetry. Sorry to hear things didn't work out, but kudos to you for giving it another try.

...mae
 wackadoodledoo
Joined: 4/14/2011
Msg: 45
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Posted: 8/16/2012 2:07:42 PM
I am 65 and have had an adequate amount of attention from men in my age group. I have also been dating someone that I met on this site. Guess I don't think about my age as a deterrent. Think there are plenty of men in the 55 and up age group. The problem may be the 55 and up woman may not be hearing from them.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 46
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Posted: 8/16/2012 2:15:30 PM

fifi47
I have encountered men online who limit their search to within 10-20 miles.


If you live in a really large urban area, you really don't need to search farther than 10 miles.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 47
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/16/2012 2:30:16 PM
If you live in a really large urban area, you really don't need to search farther than 10 miles.


Yes you do...lol

...mae

 Firearms55
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 48
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/16/2012 6:37:28 PM
Yeah, but if a woman did a search for a man with the same......... they would be considered a gold digger..... can't win for losing !!!
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 49
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/16/2012 7:29:39 PM

Sometimes I think we all get a little too picky here with self-imposed limitations.

About some things I could agree with you-but people who filter out smokers may have significant medical reasons for that "limitation".
Cindy O
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 50
Men over 55 ??
Posted: 8/16/2012 9:13:07 PM
My father died of smoker's lung cancer, although he was a non smoker. His father was a heavy smoker. No smokers for me, will not date one.
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