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 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 23
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Op
First, let me say I am truly sorry for your pain and confusion.
But the bottom line of "What do I do?" is "what do YOU WANT to do?"( no, you are not being given permission to inflict violence on anyone. I THINK you understood that but I felt it was wiser to make that stipulation.)

My opinion is that she explored a bi-curious impulse.But perhaps to you that is even worse than standard cheating.

You are going to have to go to a place of as much emotional quietude as possible, and reach your own decision as to what you want to do. I do not discount anything anyone else has said, all have broght forward good points, but at the end of the day what you have to do is follow your own feelings and instincts.

I personally ABHOR infidelity of any kind, but I cannot honestly tell you what I would do because that is impossible to say unless one has actually BEEN there...and that's an experience I've been fortunate enough to miss out on(thus far).

I agree...the trust has been seriously damaged here, but you must have a deep caring for your girlfriend or you wouldn't be here asking other people what to do-you'd simply dump her, end of story.
Look, even if you make the WRONG decision, the world ain't gonna stop turning.
Should you form a serious committment with the lady, bring some children into the world and then find out she has continued to cheat or that she has decided to pursue same-sex relationships, it's gonna be rough on everybody. But it still won't be the end of the world.
You may have to do some soul-searching here, and that is the only advice I have for you.
Whatever happens I wish both of you the best and I hope you both find happiness in whatever form makes the most sense to both of you.
Cindy O
 block2001
Joined: 8/13/2009
Msg: 24
Girlfriend Cheated on me What do I do
Posted: 8/30/2012 12:00:42 PM
Thanks everyone for the replies I really appreciate it.

Lemme clear a couple things first:
1.Yes I do have a POF account however like I said before it was made 3 years ago which means 1 year before we started dating so for the past 2 years this account has been inactive, I came back on here recently because A)if this relationship didn't work out I remembered I had this to do some fishing and B)I knew that the forums here were here to help people like myself.
2.To everyone who says "join in and get some"first of all not every man out there fantasizes about their girl getting it on with another chick and even so it has nothing to do with whether it is a guy or girl it is the principle, the trust and faithfulness in the relationship.

Anyways thanks to some of you guys and the counsel of others I have decided to put an end to our relationship...probably the hardest thing I've had do do but it had to be done. I did leave the option for us to get back together in the future, at least this way I have no regrets and if she is the one she will come back and if not then like ladyc4 said
the world ain't gonna stop turning
but thanks a lot guys you have really helped me out here.
 6841omon
Joined: 8/19/2012
Msg: 25
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Girlfriend Cheated on me What do I do
Posted: 8/30/2012 5:16:47 PM
Get you another relationship or if its that important to you find out what the problem is.
 the_biggavell
Joined: 7/9/2012
Msg: 26
Girlfriend Cheated on me What do I do
Posted: 8/30/2012 5:49:31 PM
Get a better ****. Your not man enough for her, in every sense if the word. She's curious and digs **** now. Leave it alone, if you care so much. Or find a way to spin it so you all win.
 Online_dating_blows
Joined: 8/10/2012
Msg: 27
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Girlfriend Cheated on me What do I do
Posted: 8/30/2012 8:19:44 PM
simple guy there is two things you can do, you can either tuck your****and balls into your somach and try and be her ultimate fantasy or you can dump the ho, I think you should go with option two
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