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 nocrapzone
Joined: 1/10/2015
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Or octupi "servicing " 8 women at once.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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What if you found your soul mate was the same sex as you?
Posted: 1/29/2015 7:21:01 PM
The Japanese do have different tastes. Bukkake, anyone?-nocrapzone

You have no idea...

There is a japanese restaurant that makes "cannibal cake"

A cake shaped like a young woman that bleeds and has edible internal organs...
yeah...
yeah...
...
kinda grossed out thinking about it.
I will just stick to the school girls with souls of japanese battleships anime. That is way better type of weird.
 deetristate
Joined: 12/4/2014
Msg: 90
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Posted: 1/29/2015 7:40:53 PM
Reading the OP again, it all sounds kind of Tom Ripleyish to me. Misinterpreting friendship. Almost an imperative these days.
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
Msg: 91
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Posted: 1/29/2015 8:02:50 PM
Uh, im not wired that way so I can't be attracted to men. I mean sure, I've had some sexy friends - peters for example was a dude in the Army and he had strippers buying him cloths and stuff. Which was funny, because that's kind of backwards - but I taught him how to lift, and it was on after that. I mean women were diving in front of him. He had chiseled face, blue eyes, was 6'-0 - wasn't fat, wasn't skinny, had natural muscle even before he started lifting with me.

Anyway the point is - even if he was gay I would be really put off. I would be disgusted by the thought of any type of sexual contact with him. And we were great friends, hell we played WoW together and tore it up lol in PvP. We also beat down some cholo's together who made the mistake of getting pissed off at the wrong gents outside of a strip club - probably pissed about losing all their drug dealing meth money on busted roast beef - and Davis (hilarious friend who was kind of fat) made the mistake of saying "what do you want, some dick?" which was a bad thing to say considering they could have been packing, but it was a really good bonding experience because we bloodied them, and busted out 2 of their windows as they tried to drive off.

The point is he was a bit of a soul-mate I would say, but we weren't gay, we were just brothers in arms. And that's where we left it. I mean we joked about going gay for each other, but gay,fart,lewd,disgusting, jokes are what keep you sane. So yeah, no, your wiring is different if you can be attracted to any man.
 deetristate
Joined: 12/4/2014
Msg: 92
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Posted: 2/4/2015 7:38:25 PM
The "cool" thing would have been to go all in these days.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 93
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Posted: 2/4/2015 8:01:27 PM
It all depends, is the guy wealthy, does he know how to take care of a guy like me?

I am old fashioned, treat me to nice dinners, wine and dine me, take me on a world wide tour, let me know he will really work at winning me over. Don't try and feel me up on the first date, be respectful.

He gets extra points if he is at least at least 5'10" with a muscular built, love them big muscular biceps and broad shoulders.

Now if offers to buy me a new Tesla Model X, he is my kind of soulmate.
 mike11091
Joined: 8/25/2013
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Posted: 2/5/2015 12:39:20 PM

The point is he was a bit of a soul-mate I would say, but we weren't gay, we were just brothers in arms. And that's where we left it. I mean we joked about going gay for each other, but gay,fart,lewd,disgusting, jokes are what keep you sane. So yeah, no, your wiring is different if you can be attracted to any man.


I happen to totally agree with this.

I've had what I believe is called "bromance", in which I have a very close, completely hetero, male friend. And the situation was oddly similar to Vector's. (minus the wow). He attracted women like moths to a flame, but this was during a time in my life when I had considerably less respect for women than I do now.

I've had similar friendships with women, oddly enough. Strictly platonic, bromance type friendships. And, I'm not sure why, but people assume the same things: that you MUST be sleeping together.

Is it some sort of requirement that I stick my willy in anything that slightly resembles a personal bond?

If that's true: watch out, whiskey.
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 95
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Posted: 2/5/2015 6:33:10 PM

I've had similar friendships with women, oddly enough. Strictly platonic, bromance type friendships. And, I'm not sure why, but people assume the same things: that you MUST be sleeping together.

If you're single & she's single... or you hang out 1-on-1 and for some reason her SO is usually not around -- yeah. If she's what anyone could guess would be at least moderately attractive to him -- he's wanting her, and they have a connection, hanging out 1-on-1? Yeah, he wants to bang her. Because there is a difference there. An observer (especially one who knows you) is going to give the benefit of the doubt that you're not sexually attracted to the good male friend where chemistry isn't going to bleed into sexuality.

Is it some sort of requirement that I stick my willy in anything that slightly resembles a personal bond?

No, actually... I think it's that many guys will stick their willy in pretty much anything reasonably attractive when both parties are single. :) Hence, if there's chemistry had clearly visible to others, folks are going to assume he's at least wanting to stick a fork in her (even if he doesn't expect to and is 100% fine not doing so).

I mean, replace a guy & gal doing that where there's lots of banter, kino, chemistry, etc -- and replace the gal with a pretty ugly woman (in comparison to him; he would NOT find remotely attractive physically). Is that going to change how they flow? Absolutely. Just sayin'.
 mike11091
Joined: 8/25/2013
Msg: 96
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Posted: 2/5/2015 7:40:41 PM

I mean, replace a guy & gal doing that where there's lots of banter, kino, chemistry, etc -- and replace the gal with a pretty ugly woman (in comparison to him; he would NOT find remotely attractive physically). Is that going to change how they flow? Absolutely. Just sayin'.


I agree that this is a common occurrence, however, not the only possibility.

Personally, I've had lady friends for years that I don't have any attraction to. Similar to how I view my guy friends, I just don't think of them that way. The attraction piece isn't even on the table, so their looks don't matter. That was the point behind asking the rhetorical question "is it some sort of requirement that I stick my willy in anything that slightly resembles a personal bond?". So, yeah, you could probably replace some of my friends with uglier (in some cases, I'm not sure that's possible) versions and I'd still feel the same about them because attraction just doesn't play into my thought processes (regarding people I consider friends).


An observer (especially one who knows you) is going to give the benefit of the doubt that you're not sexually attracted to the good male friend


Not typically. Sure, people who know you will give you the benefit of the doubt, but TYPICALLY, people assume gay when they see two dudes that are close friends. My current GF thought I was gay with one of my friends because he practically lives at my house. That's simply observing the frequency of his visits. She's not the first to make that assumption, either, as he and I have been friends for about 6 years and over that time, we have defended our heterosexuality on numerous occasions. We have determined that it must be because we dress well...
 tgif111
Joined: 10/24/2014
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Posted: 2/12/2015 5:39:12 AM

you have found your soul mate and you are in love. AND this new friend/ soul mate feels the same way about you. Keep in mind, you have identified as 100% straight for your whole life. What would you do?


I would come to realization that I was wrong all my life and that I am actually a homosexual which you now are.

live with it.
 tgif111
Joined: 10/24/2014
Msg: 98
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Posted: 2/12/2015 5:39:53 AM

I was kinda scared to look up something called "slash porn"


it's original name was "snuff porn" where an actress who thought she was making a porn movie was actually murdered at the end. this was during the Charles Manson era in the late 60's-early 70's.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 2/12/2015 6:01:22 AM
^^^That was my thought when VK first mentioned the term, "slash"
I was very relieved that it was just male/male porn with story, and no sort of creepy violent stuff.

You see it alot in manga and anime, that is just the western equivalent.
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
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Posted: 2/12/2015 8:25:25 AM
I think this might happen some times between guys,one is secretly gay and worships the alpha.And wants to worship. :)
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
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Posted: 2/12/2015 8:32:07 PM
^^^
Soul brothers?
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
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Posted: 2/12/2015 9:16:17 PM
CTRLvector- What you have with your friend (according to today's terms), is a bro mance.
BIG difference with what you have with your friend, "I love you man" and what the OP is describing , "I think I'm IN love with you"
The OP asked us to IMAGINE it, he didn't ask us to feel what he feels.
I'm heterosexual, I love men, but I could take myself outside of that and do what the OP asked us to do, IMAGINE if this happened, and so I did.
I asked myself, IF I were him, what would I do?
I would hope that I would go with love and, like I said, let the chips fall where they may.
You didn't go that far, putting yourself COMPLETELY in his place, but I give you props for at least trying without bashing.
Not many straight men would go even that far.
I think it's when we at least TRY to put ourselves in another persons situation that we grow.
 Aradia96
Joined: 10/25/2014
Msg: 103
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Posted: 2/12/2015 11:56:11 PM
Well, more chance of it working with a girl than with a guy >.>

I wouldn't tell my parents but I'd try out a relationship.

I find women more attractive personality and looks wise than men anyway so it would be easier
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
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Posted: 2/13/2015 1:01:12 AM
I am a huge proponent of running simulations - the acts of homosexuality being completely off putting are evident enough without simulating some extent of the circumstance. But yeah, being secure enough to try that or joke about homosexuality makes my heterosexuality all the more secure and fully understood.
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 3/30/2014
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Posted: 2/13/2015 6:36:41 AM
Pay for the operation?

That's not a chick with a d!ck, it's a dude with t!ts.
 basilisk123
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Posted: 2/13/2015 6:39:03 AM
"CTRLvector- What you have with your friend (according to today's terms), is a bro mance.
BIG difference with what you have with your friend, "I love you man" and what the OP is describing , "I think I'm IN love with you"
The OP asked us to IMAGINE it, he didn't ask us to feel what he feels."-bamagrl68

Yeah , bromances are awsome. However, I would find it creepy that a dude would say "I love you man". Just not my thing. If I think of it in a story and transform myself into a seperate character for that story, I don't have a problem with it. I watch and read alot of anime and manga, and this subject comes along pretty often. For the characters involved, it is always a big deal and there is a lot of trials and tribulations and internal conflict. It just makes for a good story, full of self discovery, growth of character, maturation of personality.

So basically, if I think of it in abstract, then yes
If I think of it in reality, then no.

Does that make me a hypocrite?
 northwildwoodnjman1969
Joined: 9/18/2012
Msg: 107
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Posted: 2/13/2015 6:39:49 AM
It would never happen...I'm 100% not gay
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
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Posted: 2/13/2015 11:59:51 PM
basilisk123- No, you are not a hypocrite.
You are straight, so am I.
The only thing we CAN do is think of it in the abstract.
We pretty much said the same thing, just in a different way.
I'm not REALLY ever going to be attracted to another woman, but I could TRY to put myself in the OP's place, by thinking, as you put it, in the abstract.
That's how you become open minded, it's not about saying "I would do that", it's about putting yourself in the other person's place and saying you understand how THEY feel. :)
 deetristate
Joined: 12/4/2014
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Posted: 2/14/2015 9:38:18 AM
Despite media assault and PCness and "cool"ness, it is possible to have a close friend of the same sex and not have sex with him or her. Really. It really is
 jpwrnglrwmn
Joined: 10/21/2013
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Posted: 3/21/2015 11:37:20 AM
To answer the question, I would regard them as a close friend, but wouldn't act upon it. Don't have a problem with anyone who dates the same sex (have a friend who has had long term relationships with both men and women), but if I do end up with someone, it would be a man. And yes, echoing what another poster said, it is entirely possible just to be friends.
 daynadaze
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Posted: 3/21/2015 2:26:34 PM

Despite media assault and PCness and "cool"ness, it is possible to have a close friend of the same sex and not have sex with him or her. Really. It really is


I'm not sure where you get that the idea of accepting and respecting people who happen to be gay or bi, is somehow an assault from the media or how that type of PC respectfulness is somehow saying that we all have to be gay if we have close friends of the opposite gender? There's a leap there that is odd.
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
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Posted: 3/21/2015 9:05:00 PM

What if you found your soul mate was the same sex as you?


I have known him since junior high and golf with him as often as I can. Our sense of humor has us playing off of each other like Hawkeye and Trapper. We consider each other the best friend we could possibly have. Neither of us is gay, so a romance is out of the question. Not sure if that still qualifies as a soul mate.
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