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 LiterateHiker
Joined: 11/30/2012
Msg: 23
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Personally, I want a loving, committed relationship. Casual sex does not interest me. Good relationships begin with friendship and dating. I need to feel emotionally safe to truly open up with a man. Trust develops over time.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 24
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/13/2014 1:41:25 PM
Literate,

Casual dating does not equal casual sex, the same way that causal sex does not mean you're necessarily dating that individual.

Stray,

I think you've got the right idea. Same goal, different method.
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/13/2014 2:42:38 PM
I personally don't know of any women who do not want a full committed relationship. Not part of my circle. So true about dating being a means to this end. As for sex and a casual relationship They are opposites. Tome. No guy but 'my' guy will ever touch me beyond a hug ....any guy wanting a casual relationship would get a handshake.

I'd guess many of the women who put 'dating' want things to develop slowly. Hopefully for the right reason and not because of some negative experience. If a man listed some variation on 'casual', he just took himself out of the game for 99% of women.
 margareta08
Joined: 2/28/2014
Msg: 26
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/13/2014 4:49:18 PM
I think some women do want casual but not nearly as much as men, I would say. I may be wrong. Men are more likely to want multiple partners than women. Probably are more likely to chaff at monogamy. Women will go along with the casual arrangement to see how things pan out but ultimately may want something more especially if sex is involved on a regular basis and they really get involved with the guy. Not necessarily marriage or even to live together though, these days. When I pan through dating sites from the women's point of view I see very very few wanting casual.
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 6/23/2013
Msg: 27
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/13/2014 9:08:04 PM
Personally, I desire a relationship, a solid relationship. But, you have to go on dates, even casually, to get where you want to go....
 Princess12524
Joined: 12/23/2013
Msg: 28
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/14/2014 4:48:43 AM

I think women are still looking mostly for a relationship.
but nowadays are trying it from the casual end first.
and hoping for more.

Huge mistake, IMO. The way is starts is the way it goes & the way it ends...

People need to RAISE THE BAR, NOT LOWER IT.

You get what you get cuz you did what you did.
 Sun4Some2
Joined: 2/18/2014
Msg: 29
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/14/2014 9:38:32 AM
I think that most women prefer a relationship over casual dating. I have found that even if you are clear about your intentions in the beginning, the men that I've dated have indirectly controlled things so that the end result was a casual dating relationship. So... I almost prefer a casual approach of seeing where it goes these days and I give out more responsibility when the man is willing to handle it. I think this probably is like a indirect approach. With this approach I don't have a huge upfront emotional investment in the man I am dating, I can hold back a little bit, and I am a little quicker on my feet to get out sooner when it seems apparent that things are stuck at initial stage of dating and... well... not progressing much beyond that.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 30
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/14/2014 10:33:31 AM
I dated a ridiculously attractive woman from POF for about eight months last year. She's still here.
Educated, worldly, and with two teen children created during her marriage that lasted more than two decades.

We maintained separate households and never exchanged the "L-word" during our time together, which I desired.
She eventually dumped me because I was "too serious" for her coupled with my not quite earning seven-figure income.

She is nearly 50 now and my anticipation is someone with her approach can live her lifetime with one-year dating.
Regardless of gender...one would think that by mid-40's most seek a monogamous, loving, and rewarding relationship.
 Nj2ut
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 31
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/14/2014 11:05:52 AM
Sure would I like to meet someone for a long term relationship, but the what I've found on here is that most women in my area who are looking for long term aren't matches. And I'm not interested in being in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. Or they have these "pie in the sky" expectations.

So do I just keep doing the casual dating thing (not casual sex) or wait around for someone who is my likely match?

And another thing, my opinion only, a lot of women come on here looking for a long term relationship but don't want to do any real work to find it or expect the guy to jump through a ridiculous hoops.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 32
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/14/2014 12:53:09 PM

I dated a ridiculously attractive woman from POF for about eight months last year. She's still here.
Educated, worldly, and with two teen children created during her marriage that lasted more than two decades.


I dated for eight months last year an ex ballerina. She was "ridiculously" attractive as well. She spit with me because she felt that we were not going anywhere. I was shocked. However, she was right because I didn't have any problem getting over her like I did with the one before.

I still feel that most women are looking for long term.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 33
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/14/2014 3:06:00 PM
Define relationship and casual dating. Is relationship defined as something that absolutely must lead to marriage, with no exceptions-no ifs, ands, or buts about it? Can't casual dating ever lead to the "relationship" level, whatever level that is? How would you define a long distance relationship, where they see each other periodically? Should that be considered casual dating, since they don't see each other all of the time? If two people date each other for five years and there's no talk of marriage, are they casually dating or are they in a relationship?
 TOaks91360
Joined: 11/22/2013
Msg: 34
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/16/2014 12:41:33 AM
Do you really believe some women have a 'back door guy' fulfilling their dry spells (minus the dinners and courtship) until Prince Charming comes along? C'mon! No way!
 TOaks91360
Joined: 11/22/2013
Msg: 35
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/21/2014 7:57:29 AM
I thought all women wanted to get married? What a trip...
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 36
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Posted: 3/26/2014 6:17:31 AM
Depending on the age i think everyone wants some sort of a relationship......but its been my experience thru a sight as this....there are more game players and inconsiderates any more....meaning that at a younger age people tend to be less considerate and now the older people are falling into the same routine....I might say nice smile and make sure she knows Im not tryin to hit on her and not even get a thanks.....as the same goes for the same people Ive seen on here for quite some time....as I said..."career daters"......lol....wierd!
 ryuoki
Joined: 11/15/2013
Msg: 37
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Posted: 3/27/2014 1:51:57 PM

OP - women know how hard it is to get/find a relationship....

harder for women to find than men...



but
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women will take a fling if a guy makes her hot...



and works his magic words...


Im confused... was this post a joke? Women have an easier time finding A relationship as opposed to men. I can guarantee you, a woman can announce she is single in the middle of walmart using a megaphone and there will be a line of guys hitting on her. A man does this, and he is still ignored. A woman finding a quality relationship on the other hand.... is probably about equal to a mans. Why do you think there are far more homeless men than women in the world? Because women can more easily get their needs met than a man.

As far as pay sites vs this one, I don't think it holds much water in regards to casual dating/looking for long term. 90% of the female profiles I came across (probably more) were 'free accounts 'on match. Did not matter that I paid for the site. It was wasted money as the ladies weren't going to pay to reply to me even if they found me remotely attractive. Seems to me, most of the profiles on dating sites period are just ladies flipping through a catalog so to speak. Once they see the 'must have pair of shoes' then they pounce. Everything else is just fodder in the wind.
 MikeTO12345
Joined: 2/9/2014
Msg: 38
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/27/2014 2:10:34 PM

Huge mistake, IMO. The way is starts is the way it goes & the way it ends...

People need to RAISE THE BAR, NOT LOWER IT.



Good luck with that. Since a small minority of men will be able to fullfill the requirements if he even really exists. Also a lot of women have little to offer so what's what men will offer.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 39
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/29/2014 11:19:18 PM
Women are seeking men who are older and shorter and fatter than their photos and profile state.
Who are illiterate, unemployed, ill, with erectile dysfunction or otherwise unable to work or do anything that requires activity.
Who have no savings, no house, no car and need assistance financially and /or are married or in a bad relationship.

Women are lining up for discrete, casual encounters with these types of men where she does all the work to ensure he has an experience that matches what he sees in porn or can get from a prostitute without having to pay any money.


Now a dating site that offered all of that would be very welcome.
So all those men can go there and leave the rest of us here.



In the interests of being fair...

Perhaps all the women who are seeking someone to support them could have their own website as well.
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 40
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/30/2014 10:29:28 AM
I don't think casual dating in that case meant intimate encounters...

And for all the people going through divorce, separation and breakups; I know a ton of women that want to date or stick to friends and want nothing to do with relationships whatsoever (ditto for guys I know).

Everyone's different; but there is a lot more dating activity now than there used to be; and a lot more people are doing it for fun and social rather than serious relationships (at least here in the Twin Cities).

But I take no stock in stats by advertisers in this palce; most of which I have not found to be reliable at all
 ryuoki
Joined: 11/15/2013
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Posted: 3/30/2014 12:26:47 PM
In short, I don't really know what you ladies really expect from online dating sites like this. What I can say is, I know beyond a shadow of doubt of what you don't want, and that is me. My expectation is primarily to meet someone I wouldn't normally get the chance to meet, THEN decide from the meet if she is someone I would like in my life as a friend or more.

As for casual dating....I don't see that as a possibility either especially intimate encounters (which I would avoid like a plague anyway).
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 42
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/30/2014 2:50:28 PM
Define casual dating. Is that like a FWB situation? Would women be willing to casually date the same guy for 10, 20, or 30 years?

No matter how advanced women are in current society, they still possess the same gene in them that they've had for the last million or two million years, or however long women have been on the planet-the gene to pursue a provider, protector and good breeding material (there's no mystery why short poor guys usually don't get the women). Getting those "necessities" involves being in a relationship, no matter how hard they try to repress or mask those inner feelings that date back to the beginning of time. Why else would there be so many women who are aggressively husband hunting and feel it's the most important mission in life, and would never date anyone unless it results in marriage and pregnancy?
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 43
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Posted: 3/30/2014 7:17:14 PM

Define casual dating. Is that like a FWB situation? Would women be willing to casually date the same guy for 10, 20, or 30 years?

No matter how advanced women are in current society, they still possess the same gene in them that they've had for the last million or two million years, or however long women have been on the planet-the gene to pursue a provider, protector and good breeding material (there's no mystery why short poor guys usually don't get the women). Getting those "necessities" involves being in a relationship, no matter how hard they try to repress or mask those inner feelings that date back to the beginning of time. Why else would there be so many women who are aggressively husband hunting and feel it's the most important mission in life, and would never date anyone unless it results in marriage and pregnancy?



wow... I don't know what circles you run in, or hwat kind of women you THINK you are running into...

but that statement is so archaically ironiclly fallacial I can't even put words to it.

I think you might have time traveled from the 1950s... hate to break it to you, but people have changed. A lot. Both genders.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 44
Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?
Posted: 3/31/2014 5:26:35 AM
WOW indeed. ^^^^^^

I didn't realise that dating meant having sex.
My definition must be different to others.
I thought dating was meeting up and going out and getting to know each other with the aim of romance.
As against just going out with a friend where no romance is anticipated.

Casual sex - at least my definition - is choosing a sex buddy for today.
Then perhaps a different one for tomorrow or later today.
No friendship, no romance - just physical with absolutely no expectation of anything after you say farewell.
A biological alternative to a Battery Operated Boyfriend (BOB).

Would a woman be willing to live in a different house, have separate finances, go out, enjoy company, be sexually exclusive, sometimes at your house, sometimes at hers?
Not becoming defacto, nor getting married?
With no chance of either side making a financial or other asset claim on the other?
She pays sometimes, he pays other times?
Where he washes his own socks and cleans his own toilet?
She sometimes cooks for him, he sometimes cooks for her?

AB-SO-BLOODY -LUTELY.

Many mature ladies I know would prefer that.
For 10, 20 or 30 years?

I know some who have done and are doing just that!!!!




 HonkyTonk_Woman
Joined: 9/16/2013
Msg: 45
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Posted: 3/31/2014 8:01:26 AM

No matter how advanced women are in current society, they still possess the same gene in them that they've had for the last million or two million years, or however long women have been on the planet-the gene to pursue a provider, protector and good breeding material

An absolute crock!! Women of all ages are NOT looking for this....lots have education...jobs and are making better choices for themselves....that's why the men are in an uproar.

Why else would there be so many women who are aggressively husband hunting and feel it's the most important mission in life, and would never date anyone unless it results in marriage and pregnancy

Again.....where do you get your information?


Would a woman be willing to live in a different house, have separate finances, go out, enjoy company, be sexually exclusive, sometimes at your house, sometimes at hers?
Not becoming defacto, nor getting married?
With no chance of either side making a financial or other asset claim on the other?
She pays sometimes, he pays other times?
Where he washes his own socks and cleans his own toilet?
She sometimes cooks for him, he sometimes cooks for her?

AB-SO-BLOODY -LUTELY

RINGGGGGG...we got a winner!!!
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 46
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Posted: 4/1/2014 12:54:10 PM

Do women look for a relationship over casual dating?


That's what most of them claim.
Of course, people CLAIM a lot of things in their profiles.



Women are lining up for discrete, casual encounters with these types of men where she does all the work to ensure he has an experience that matches what he sees in porn or can get from a prostitute without having to pay any money.


Names and phone numbers of such women would be most helpful. :)
 Verissa
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 47
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Posted: 4/2/2014 2:23:11 PM
At this point I'm not even sure what to look for...lol. One day I am hoping to meet someone fantastic who can be my best friend and partner in crime as well as my spectacular lover. If I find that it will not be casual. Until that day, I try not to have high expectations of others, it lends to severe disappointment and I have better things to do with my time. So casual, until its not casual, and not in a sexual way, I'm an eggs in one basket kind of gal. :)
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