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 WalksOnWater2
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 51
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Of course it will work...for now.
Down the road, never mind, viagra will be generic in a few years, and you can always change your mind and your loyalties.

... And get going already, you don't have all the time in the world.
 SSC-SAF
Joined: 5/20/2012
Msg: 52
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/11/2012 9:48:49 PM

unlike others on here who are CREATING DRAMA

Pot, meet kettle.


AND NOT GETTING TO THE POINT OF THE QUESTION.

The question was, "Can it work?"
Obviously it can in rare circumstances, because it has worked for some people.
In your case - who knows? If you and the man in question are willing to try, that's your business.
However, don't try to justify your efforts by claiming that you're really "mature" for your age, because you're not.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 53
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/11/2012 10:26:39 PM
Had clients a long time ago. She was 20 and he was 45 when they first meet. She chased him he was not crazy about dating someone that much younger. But they been togher till he passed a away at 78. I knew both of them for about 6 years and she was still a client for about 4 years after he passed away. We were talking once and somehow it got into age and dating. One thing she said was that she would have never changed anything.. She was lucky to be with him all this time. So it does work for some people while for others it doesn't... When ever I did see them togher they always looked happy with each other...
 scottey63
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 54
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I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 5:14:04 AM
First opinion: Don't refer to yourself in the third person.
Second opinion: Make sure you never, ever call him "daddy".
Third opinion: You can't possibly have "everything" in common. You both both grew up in different worlds. You have entirely different life experiences.
Fourth opinion: If he has more in common with someone young enough to be his daughter than his own contemporaries, maybe he's the one who lacks maturity, although I'm sure he'd be delighted to be able to start banging someone less than half his age. No doubt something that's on his "bucket list". On the other hand, if you're not dating him, maybe this whole business that he might be interested in you at all is just a schoolgirl fantasy on your part.
Fifth opinion: I hope you're prepared to be mistaken for his daughter at every turn. Maybe he looks 35 to you, but I doubt he does to most other people.

Oh look, after 5 years on POF, the OP has left the building!
 laskoboo
Joined: 2/12/2010
Msg: 55
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Posted: 9/12/2012 7:53:10 AM


He acts and looks NOTHING like 50 yrs


I believe that.
Know some men my age who married much younger women, one theme I noticed was none of those men could attract women their own age...
as women their own age found them immature and irresponsible.

It can work in cases like this... as long as mentally they are at the same level... which in this case seems to be closer to her age than his.
Best to them, they are sure gonna need it. More so if babies come in the picture... she will work her butt off
and he will be more like one of the kids.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 56
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Posted: 9/12/2012 8:26:34 AM
Attention: the OP has left the site.
 phoenix_55
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 57
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 8:46:06 AM
It'll work until the day she wakes up and realizes she's sleeping with an old man.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 58
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Posted: 9/12/2012 8:51:10 AM
It can work, but if you have any serious doubts that it can in your case, then don't.

I just met a couple where she's 24 and he's 55. They have a two year old, and as far as I can tell, are quite happy in their relationship. Someday, the challenges they face in their relationship could become a real problem as he approaches retirement, and possible poor health. Of course, who knows what the future holds - for any of us?
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 59
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 9:28:35 AM
Melissa,

I think you see a guy, in the now, who is a great match. Problem is, what about 15 years from now? You'll be 40, and he'll be 65. He looks and lives like he's 35 -- that's great. But he's not. For the time being, that's fine -- but you're not looking ahead, you're just enjoying the moment. A fling? Sure thing! White picket fence dreams with him? No - that dream won't formulate, and at best, it will seem to and then fizzle out rather quick once you come back down to earth.
 FairOaksChick
Joined: 11/7/2011
Msg: 60
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 10:17:27 AM
Has anyone noticed that most of the posters who are saying "it could work" , "go for it" etc. are men?? OP you have a mean and nasty and immature attitude - especially toward older women, as if we are your competition. I can assure you that us older women on this thread have no interest in dating a 50 y/o man that would consider dating a girl young enough to be his daughter.
 AxeMurderer75
Joined: 6/6/2012
Msg: 61
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 10:23:16 AM
It probably won't work, but why not? If there's mutual attraction, get to know him. It's just dating.

My advice to you is to not make any legal contracts with him until you have gotten to know him for at least a couple years and still feel the same.
 not_single_x
Joined: 8/27/2009
Msg: 62
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 10:44:52 AM

Melissa*C1987:There is nothing wrong with being young at heart.... better than being an old angry coot like yourself

Melissa*C1987 shooting snotty little barbs at posters who offer opinions divergent from yours

Melissa*C1987 Im not stupid or immature. I have always been the same since I was a teenager. I have always been MORE mature for my age...


LOL she posts all this juvenille crap while saying how mature she is.

And she deletes her account and runs away.

I hope the sex is good because the old guy won't get much else out of her.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 63
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 10:56:19 AM

Wait............now you know how short men feel!


Maybe the OP wants to date older men so that she "feels safe".

Where have we heard that before??

Old ladies who reject short men have no room to talk!!!!!!!!!!


Not sure why you keep hijacking the thread with your short rants.
But, this old lady doesn't reject short men and she doesn't think it's
your shortness that is responsible for your shortness of dates.

OT I did notice the OP said they hadn't started dating yet and they were
thinking about it. I say give it a try and see how it goes, at the very least,
maybe it will be a good time.

Will it last? Who knows?
It doesn't seem very mature to me to come online and ask a lot of strangers
what you should do. And it also doesn't seem too mature to pick up your toys
and leave when you don't like the opinions you asked for.
I wonder how tall she was?
 kmxplore51
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 64
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 4:41:32 PM
It has been humorous to read this OP and the responses.

I must congratulate you, Melissa, for standing up to these so called uber mature individuls putting you down. Hell, some of them actually think they own this forum and just because they must have an opinion (any opinion) on any subject at any time of the day by anyone!

Melissa, it could be hard work, but you will find some mature, useful, emphathetic, thoughtful suggestions on here but it will be a needle in the haystack syndrome. My reading of your rebuttals suggests to me that you actually have a good handle on your situation already.

If you must take one learning from these postings, it is: "More someone is prone to verbal diarrhea on multitude of subjects here, less valuable indeed it is what they have to say. They are more interested in enjoying the echos of their own noises they make between their ears".
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 65
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 5:10:04 PM
It'll work until the day she wakes up and realizes she's sleeping with an old man.


Hey!!!! Who are ya calling old!!!!!???????

;)

And by the way, us old farts don't sleep very much anymore...........
 zookie57
Joined: 1/27/2012
Msg: 66
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 5:26:43 PM

And by the way, us old farts don't sleep very much anymore...........


Good one Walts!

I sleep with one eye open!

Whats funny about this thread is the ladies are thinking about sex more then us old coots do! lol

And we all know once we start to for forget your name, just put a pillow over our face & say good night dear! lol
 tampasmiles
Joined: 11/12/2010
Msg: 67
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 7:03:51 PM
Just like some young women date old guys as a "father" figure...him being childless...might be wanting a "daughter" figure...so it might work out well.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/12/2012 7:28:54 PM
You're not even dating, this entire post is based on what you think you want, not realtity. Why discuss with your parents a relationship that esentially does not exist? Why would your mother give a crap if the guy has never even taken you on a date???

If you were a mature independent adult, your parent's opinion would not be so strong.
From what you have posted he would need to be the most youthful 50 year old in the world and would have at least asked you out.
Why after 50 years, would he want to suddenly settle down? Why never married and no kids? Has she known since she was a teen that motherhood was not a priority? And why at 25 would she believe this man her Dad's age to be a soul-mate? Nobody likes their date to be mistaken for their father forever.
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 5/24/2012
Msg: 69
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/13/2012 2:10:26 AM
This is just another thread written in the third person that probably did not even happen IRL where the initial poster dissapeared shortly after starting the Thread.


<div class="quote"> Nobody likes their date to be mistaken for their father.

Yes that is something I definately try to avoid.
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Posted: 9/13/2012 11:06:05 AM
Can = yes
Likely = no
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 71
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/14/2012 10:00:22 AM
LOL...give it 15 or 20 years and she'll be living the song by the Eagles, "Lying Eyes."
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
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Posted: 9/14/2012 4:25:51 PM
I'm 53 she's 32 .. with no kids , previously married
People stare , my kids tease me alot (their older than her).. but say go for it Dad
a future ..? maybe not ....but right now its perfect ... neither is worried about it ,and having way too much fun to care about what people think

have fun ..! what the future brings ..has no guarantee, regardless of how you package it
 zookie57
Joined: 1/27/2012
Msg: 73
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/14/2012 5:22:33 PM

Everyone here who is single is here because the last relationship failed (except for widows or widowers, so those failed relationships were no better or worse than your daughter's. They all still failed.


I agree! And at least the one who is older & dies first did it not out of a failed relationship or love lost! lol



have fun ..! what the future brings ..has no guarantee, regardless of how you package it


and god bless the one,who still can..........
 mark777771
Joined: 4/22/2012
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Posted: 9/15/2012 12:44:16 AM
it will work for awhile, then as he ages and becomes old while you are still young the odds are against it working. It's feasible it could work, but honestly the odds are highly against it. Good luck.
 I-am-Rei
Joined: 9/11/2009
Msg: 75
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/15/2012 7:47:09 AM

LOL...give it 15 or 20 years and she'll be living the song by the Eagles, "Lying Eyes."

Relationship between people of same age level doesn't even last that long so what's the difference ? So what's the harm in giving it a try?

:peace
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