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 Kings_Knight
Joined: 1/20/2009
Msg: 76
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???Page 4 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)

" ... I have a brain like a 35-45 yr old. I know what I want and how to get what Iwant out of life. ... "


It sounds as if you've already provided your own answer ... especially the part about ' ... how to get what I want out of life ...'. Do you have any idea as to how many different ways that statement is capable of being interpreted - not many of them good, btw ... ? A two-word phrase jumps immediately to mind, the first word of which is 'gold' ...

Let's assume, however, that that suspicion is incorrect ... a brief look down the Road Of Life means there's a 25-year difference between the two of you. You may ask, 'So what?'. Well, here's what: When you're 50, he'll be 75 ... and you'll probably need to make sure you bring home the extra-large box of 'Depends' from the grocery.

There's also a tiny matter of having no common reference base - remember, 20 years is one generation, so a 25-year span is a generation and a quarter. When he mumbles about things he did in his childhood or teenage years - or even early adulthood - will you just look at him, smile condescendingly, and say "But honey, I wasn't even born when that happened ... " before you bat your extra-long eyelashes at him ... ?

Finally: If he has kids, they're probably around your age. You can bet your ass they'll be looking at you thru the lens of "Which part of OUR inheritance is SHE going to get, Daddy?" ... sorry, but that is a very 'real-world' aspect of extra-generational dating ...

Remember: Age is the ULTIMATE 'long-distance-relationship' ... just sayin' ...
 not_single_x
Joined: 8/27/2009
Msg: 77
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/15/2012 11:37:33 AM

abelian Everyone here who is single is here becuse the last relationship failed (except for widows or widowers, so those failed relationships were no better or worse than your daughter's. They all still failed.


There are people on here who never HAD relationships.

They're still batting 100% (whether that's 100% success or failure is a matter of perspective).
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 5/24/2012
Msg: 78
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/15/2012 12:07:52 PM
That's funny, my uncle is 82, and I went with him for a long hike, and he was ahead of me
most of the time. And I'm in fantastic physical condition.


There is the odd person in thier late 70's and 80's who is in great health but they are rare. Just because someone looks good for thier age at 50 is no guarantee that they will end up being one of the lucky ones who hold onto thier health late into life.
 FairOaksChick
Joined: 11/7/2011
Msg: 79
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/15/2012 1:22:45 PM
At the prime of her sexuality her partner will be unable to get it up. Maybe even Cialis won't do the trick. If she is okay with that, then well, that is her choice. If he loves her, he will let her find enjoyment and fulfillment with young and virile and handsome bucks.
 Googleplus
Joined: 8/22/2012
Msg: 80
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/15/2012 1:39:03 PM

At the prime of her sexuality her partner will be unable to get it up. Maybe even Cialis won't do the trick. If she is okay with that, then well, that is her choice. If he loves her, he will let her find enjoyment and fulfillment with young and virile and handsome bucks.


Not everything is about sex.
 Kings_Knight
Joined: 1/20/2009
Msg: 81
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/15/2012 2:59:17 PM

" ... At the prime of her sexuality her partner will be unable to get it up. Maybe even Cialis won't do the trick. If she is okay with that, then well, that is her choice. If he loves her, he will let her find enjoyment and fulfillment with young and virile and handsome bucks. ... "


Seriously ... ? Then let's look at some relevant issues that go hand-in-hand with that:

(1) Is he going to pay for her contraception / birth control ... ?

(2) Is he going to pay for her abortion if (1) doesn't work ... ?

(3) Will he want her to keep the child if it doesn't work ... ?

(4) Will he feel like paying to raise a child that's not his and hers ... ?

(5) Will he want to watch, or make movies while she 'gets in rut' with her ... ( ahem ) ... 'virile bucks' ... ? I note you use the plural and not the singular - you had in mind threesomes, maybe?

There are so many reality disconnects with this idea it's hard to know when to stop listing them ...
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 82
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/15/2012 8:09:45 PM
Mellissa*C1987- At 50, the odds are HE won't change, at 25, the odds are YOU will change.
Your parents don't get a say. Can they advise you, yes. At the end of the day, you are grown and can (and should) decide for yourself.
I say stay with him if that is what you want for NOW. Just don't marry him for at LEAST another 5 years.
If you are BOTH truly in love now, you will be 5 years from now.
Caution ALWAYS trumps heartbreak.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 83
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/16/2012 10:40:11 AM

Things won't be so hot when she's 40 and he's 65......


Its awesome for us right now, have to let the forum know in 5 years. Assuming PoF is alive in 5 more years, I fully expect to outlive the company.

My wife is 37, I am 59, this year I will turn 60 and she 38.

She benefits from my experience, I benefit from her enthusiasm.


At the prime of her sexuality


This is what I mean when I say enthusiasm.

If my wife were to die an untimely death, I doubt I would get married again, as I see plenty of women up to 65 years old that I would have liked to date. So younger or older, it's more about being compatible than strictly about age. I wouldn't discriminate against a date just because I saw her drivers license.

Baring accidents, I will probably live to 90, then she would be 68 and it's doubtful that she is going to want some young stud. BTW, average life expectancy at my current age is 80.

 urgal2416
Joined: 1/15/2012
Msg: 84
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/16/2012 1:28:02 PM
So then what are us older gals suppose to do? lol Put ourselves out to pasture? I will date up to 60 years old, but if they want 30 year olds I'm SOL

Also no matter how much we work out and eat right, (without surgery of course) if you compare a 50 year old woman in great shape to a 20/30 year old woman in great shape, the 50 year old can't compete.

(ps I was talking about other women who are in great shape, I know I am not .(yet) I just thought I should say that before the comments come flying at me lol)
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 85
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/16/2012 7:26:33 PM

So then what are us older gals suppose to do? lol Put ourselves out to pasture? I will date up to 60 years old, but if they want 30 year olds I'm SOL


Both men and women of a similar age complain they have a hard time finding dates.

So I don't really under stand why a women of any age, and especially one that is in good shape should have a problem dating. There are tons of men, especially older men, that complain they can't get any kind of date. One would think the two groups should be able to get together and have a good time.

It can't just be location, location location.
 Numbersports12
Joined: 8/28/2012
Msg: 86
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/17/2012 12:44:34 PM
So what if the guy is 50 and not married or had kids? Maybe he never wanted to or the right one never came along.

Maybe he did not want to marry several times, have 5 kids with 5 different people. I guess that is considered normal by today's standards.
 FairOaksChick
Joined: 11/7/2011
Msg: 87
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/17/2012 2:51:31 PM
to hitherehoware you, unless you are sleeping with men in their late 40's on up, how would you know if the majority of them have problems in the getting-it-up department??? From what I have seen, and no need for gory details or numbers, that is when the problem gets serious, with a lot of men, only to get worse as they age. I am sure there are things men can do to lessen the chances of a problem in that area, such as watching their health and weight, and exercising regularly. All I am saying is that old men seeking young flesh need to be prepared for their young bride to eventually want some young and tender beef or sausage or what have you- that is all. Have a nice day.
 Hurrikane916
Joined: 7/15/2012
Msg: 88
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/17/2012 2:55:08 PM
I'm 23 and have a severe case of erectile dysfunction. I have to use a splint built out of popsicle sticks and fruit rollups to keep my statue standing
 FairOaksChick
Joined: 11/7/2011
Msg: 89
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/17/2012 2:58:41 PM
^^^LOL, you are a hoot, Sac man.
 Googleplus
Joined: 8/22/2012
Msg: 90
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/17/2012 3:17:06 PM
Come on people OP is gone.
 SSC-SAF
Joined: 5/20/2012
Msg: 91
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/17/2012 6:21:28 PM

Also no matter how much we work out and eat right, (without surgery of course) if you compare a 50 year old woman in great shape to a 20/30 year old woman in great shape, the 50 year old can't compete.

Ohhh, yes we can...in brains, life experience, common sense and personality. A LOT of men prefer those attributes for the long term.
 masterotaku
Joined: 7/20/2012
Msg: 92
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/17/2012 8:17:21 PM
I've had two relationships in the last 10 years where there was a significant age gap. (when I was 38 dating a 20 year old....when I was 44 dating a 27 year old). One lasted three years and ended for practical reasons as she moved 3000 miles away for a great work opportunity.

There are all sorts of things that can succeed or fail in a relationship. None of them have anything remotely due to ones age, providing your are honest and self aware.
 usernonymous
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 93
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/19/2012 7:33:55 AM

I tell you what, we'll make a trade

Date men your same height, and old men will date women their same age

Even Stevens



It's funny you are making trades with an aspect (age) that doesn't apply to you. I guess win-win for you!
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 5/24/2012
Msg: 99
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/19/2012 8:57:41 AM
women have dug their own hole with this. Y'all played your looks up so much, used your looks to get by, to get what you wanted, to get the cute guy in the end - then complain when the looks finally fade that "looks aren't everything"


I agree to some extent. What ever happened to the womens liberation movement where they did not want to be seen as sex objects. If anything since the 60's women have freely participate in promoting the idea that being seen as a sex object is a good thing.

Just look at the way women are protraying themselves in womens magazines, as pop stars, as hollywood icons and tv personalities, in the pictures you see posted on dating sites or even how they allow thier daughers to dress to go to school.

It's all about looking sexy and when looks fade so that is not as easy to play the sexy card anymore then yes men are going to be looking at the ones who can still play that card because it's a habit we have become all too fond of.
 FairOaksChick
Joined: 11/7/2011
Msg: 100
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 9/19/2012 9:42:54 AM
Yes, but what pretty young thing is going to want an old geezer? I mean besides as a sugar daddy.
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