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 JeremyD4789
Joined: 10/27/2012
Msg: 156
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I heard about the "half your age+7" rule a few months ago. I think it's a pretty good rule. There's something strange with a 25 year old dating a 50 year old. But a 32 dating a 50 year old, doesn't seem nearly as bad.
Think of it this way. A 25 year old is going to fit in at pretty much any bar. But a 50 year old is going to be looked at as the old guy. Now a 32 year old is going to be at the age where they start appearing to be significantly older than others in the bar. That 32 year old is much closer mentally, physically, and emotionally to a 50 year old.

I have a degree in psychology so this sort of thing kind of interests me.
I know I'm mature for my age(24). But anyone saying they are mature enough to date a 50 year old at my age is obviously very immature and naive.
 sumbeach0822
Joined: 12/2/2013
Msg: 157
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/6/2013 3:15:48 PM
I've heard it said "if you don't mind, it doesn't matter." I disagree with that as far as age is concerned. With that much age difference, you have no common ground. It's quite possible this girl has daddy issues. I'm curious about how the 25-year-old woman will react when the old guy can't get it up. I imagine the men her own age will start looking pretty good. I also think the chances are good this guy is using her as some sort of trophy girlfriend.
 Iseedudpeople
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 158
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/6/2013 3:23:29 PM
I'm curious about how the 25-year-old woman will react when the old guy can't get it up.


Buy him some viagra ?


I imagine the men her own age will start looking pretty good.


I'm sure they do already but maybe she actually loves her guy.


I also think the chances are good this guy is using her as some sort of trophy girlfriend.


Nah, it's probably because she looks a zillion times better than women his age and he could give a flying frick what other people think.
 Blueline294
Joined: 3/28/2012
Msg: 159
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/6/2013 4:08:38 PM
I'm curious about how the 25-year-old woman will react when the old guy can't get it up.

^^^^^
What is this obsession with folks thinking that just because a man hits 50 they can't "get it up"? Nothing more than marketing by the pharms. Heck if you went by what every advertisement implied I would have to guess that most women are on anti depressants and meds for osteoporosis and if it weren't for life alert you won't make it a week. :)
 ae86drift
Joined: 10/21/2013
Msg: 160
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/6/2013 5:32:39 PM
Where is your pics? or it didn't happen ahahahaha
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 161
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/6/2013 7:19:10 PM

GJBrown:
can it work? I guess. If you don't mind outliving your lover by atleast 10 to 20 years.
thats just such a gap. OP really couldn't find a man a bit younger!?


I was 6 years older than my Wife and she's been gone for a few years... If I live as long as my parents did, I could outlive the younger woman I married by 30 years... As it is now, I've already outlived her by over 8 years......
 Ainen
Joined: 6/27/2013
Msg: 162
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/7/2013 11:59:01 AM
Yes, it can work. Early this year I dated a gal whose father was 30 years older than her mother! She's over 40 and I believe they married before having her, so they must be married over 40 years. The mom is certainly not a gold digger; they live in a mobile home.

The 25 year old should tell her parents she's an adult who can make her own decisions.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/8/2013 1:43:40 AM

Is it wrong for a 25 yr old woman to want to be with a man who is 50????


I'll have an answer for that when I turn 50 in 2015. Gives me a little over a year to work on my PhD at BYU...
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 164
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/9/2013 12:48:09 AM

Yes, it can work

Anything can technically work. That's a motivator for people getting caught up in delusion. The question is, practically speaking, without unknown exceptions & situational circumstances that stick out as Rare and in Detail, will it Really work? No.

The mom is certainly not a gold digger; they live in a mobile home.

Well there ya go! True winners... ;) Not saying living in a mobile home in some transitional point in time is a bad thing, especially when young, but, well, you get the idea...

The 25 year old should tell her parents she's an adult who can make her own decisions.

True... but a 15 year old can make their own decisions, too. Doesn't take the wise to be able to make a decision.
 aanarchist
Joined: 8/23/2013
Msg: 165
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/9/2013 7:22:02 AM
If you were in your 40s or 50s he wouldn't be anywhere near as attracted to you nor would he treat you as well. He's past his prime and hit the jackpot with a young babe, any compatibility between you is just a bonus to him. Is he going to go the extra 2 miles because of those facts? You're damn right he is. You can stay and it can work but understand that the foundation is not very solid. Also you're going to become his caretaker in another 15 years. I believe that love conquers all, but seriously, find someone your own age. If you enjoy the time you spend with the guy then by all means enjoy, I think its going to end personally. Just be sure not to spend your best years with someone who won't be able to give you all the things you want from a partner.
 Doublju
Joined: 6/9/2011
Msg: 166
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/9/2013 6:45:23 PM
Ew.. why do you like him.. is it because he's rich or he's a good-looking doctor with blue eyes?
 BabblingBrookes
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 167
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/10/2013 7:20:41 AM
Sure, it can work. You won't know until time has passed and the relationship has succeeded or failed. We all have our personal lessons to learn.

I personally wouldn't date anyone so much younger or older than myself. Last I looked, US men on average die at around 76 years of age while women die at around 81 years of age. So if I were to marry a man 15 years my senior, I would be a widow for almost 20 years. There's no way I'm going to set myself up to reenter the dating market at 60 years of age.

Crap happens and nothing is guaranteed. I could marry a guy 10 years my junior and he dies of cancer 20 years before I die. I get that, but there's a difference between choosing a certain deck of cards and being handed a particular deck of cards. My grandparents are DAMN lucky to still have each other at 89 years of age. They can't go on long hikes anymore, but they're far from infirm. They're the same age and have been married for 67 years.

We all live in a world ruled by chance, but you can affect your odds. I'd rather stack the deck towards growing old with someone. Choose someone near my age, that doesn't smoke, drink excessively or eat crappy food. Now watch that guy get hit by a bus. *shakes head*
 traveltrekker
Joined: 9/17/2013
Msg: 168
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/10/2013 7:32:06 PM
We all live in a world ruled by chance, but you can affect your odds. I'd rather stack the deck


Or so people think.

The best laid plans of mice and men.........

When I was in elementary school, our school had a carnival every year. When I was in 8th grade, the grand prize for the raffle was a brand new bicycle. One kid's mom bought him 50 raffle tickets so he could win. Most people quit buying tickets when they saw that happen, thinking that they would have little chance to win. The girl who won the bike.....bought 1 ticket.
 LuvFishes
Joined: 7/1/2011
Msg: 169
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/12/2013 3:47:44 AM
Gosh your not asking for ADVICE your looking for someone TO AGREE WITH YOU. Lgg62 gave you great advice, questions.

Rarely does it work, you in the infatuation stage of trying to form a relationship. Your friends, family are probably not accepting your potential boyfriend. Be friends. This is the time for you to search with those that are close and honest with yourself to check if you have some kind of loss in your life that is leading you in this direction.

Strangers have given you great advice and yet your ignoring and pursuing. Seek mental health counseling -You seem needy, clingy, like you have what one poster called "Daddy issues". We all want to be loved and in a relationship of some type. Some relationships should be left as friendships. It's time for you to find a man more to your age, your still very young. You have so much to experience and in 10 yrs. so much will change. Don't isolate yourself with him.

My heart is breaking for you. Most of these relationships just don't work. You may change your mind and want children. It's a lot of work under the best of circumstances. Your husband and /or your boyfriend should be there to help in the raising. Unfortunately, you could be leaving a child without that 2nd parent because of aging. Be kind to yourself and step away from him.
 Meeting_At_The_Crossroads
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 170
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/12/2013 6:57:20 PM
Why couldn't it. As one gal wrote on her profile, which she had for contributing to the forums, "I met my partner on POF and I knew he was The One from the moment we met and gazed into one another's eyes..... well something like that. It took 3 dates for him to convince me and then when I saw the size of his package I knew he was The One and the rest is history."

If the guy has what it takes, then why couldn't it work?
 forumiteinca
Joined: 12/4/2013
Msg: 171
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/13/2013 9:14:52 AM
It can if you are willing to turn in to a nurse. There will come a time when it is no longer about being married and all that entails, to more of providing the necessary care needed as one ages. Generally, things work out better when the two people are closer in ages. But one has to remember that Love Conquers All.
 HappySingleSpirit
Joined: 9/10/2011
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I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 12/29/2013 7:10:36 PM
I always say that people need to make their own decisions, mistakes, and learning experiences. Why not her too? When you're 25 you think you'll be together with the person you love forever even if he was 26 instead of 50. But most of the time feelings and circumstances change. My advice, if she was still reading, would be -I wouldn't do it if I were you because of a, b, c, d etc... but you go ahead because you are the one that will have to live with the decision no matter what the outcome is.
 Meeting_At_The_Crossroads
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 173
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 1/3/2014 12:55:48 PM
In thinking about this, guys like Hugh Hefner and the prime minister of Italy come to mind - they have the very young wives. But then, they have lot's of money and need a piece of eye candy on their arm.

Average folk get someone their own age and maybe a tatoo to show off.
 HonkyTonk_Woman
Joined: 9/16/2013
Msg: 174
I'm 25 yrs old, He is 50 yrs old....can it work???
Posted: 1/5/2014 9:09:45 AM
The original Poster is long gone.....seems so silly to be writing to someone that asked a question 2 or 3 years ago....but it may help someone else.
Imo.....sure it can. Do what you want...you more than likely did anyways.
My late husband was 10 years younger than me....we were together 18 years with no problems.
He was an old soul and he kept me younger in a lot of ways....

Just with such an age difference of 25 years......think ahead another 20 years....how it may be.
I know my mother married my step father who was 20+ years older than her and it was quite apparent as they aged.....their different capabilities.
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