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 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 3
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Run the other way...not worth the effort. o.O
 gcdeb
Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 5
Meet a girl, inches away from her being my girl....but...
Posted: 9/18/2012 7:41:14 PM
Would you be ok with her kissing other men if she was YOUR girlfriend?

My advice would be close the door on ANY relationship with her. She is a cheater.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 9/18/2012 7:43:59 PM
So is she seeing someone she's committed to but dating on the side with guys like you, or is she lying about having a boyfriend to keep you in line? And why would you want to be with a woman who does either one of those things? If her behavior doesn't bother you, then yes, be her friend/side-kick and wait for her to be available for whatever it is that she does with guys on the side.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 8
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Posted: 9/18/2012 7:51:25 PM

She was single all the way up to AFTER the third time when I surprised her at the theater... apparently she hooked up between all those busy weekends.


Doesn't that tell you something? Do you need to be hit with a clue by four to figure it out?
 gcdeb
Joined: 4/25/2011
Msg: 10
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Posted: 9/19/2012 12:56:29 AM

so should I remain friends just for the pontiental that she becomes avaible again?
And if yes should I maintain a healthy/funny line of communication on facebook or just go cold turkey?
I gather from your follow up posts that she wasn't cheating on anyone. Sounds like she was dating you at the same time, or just before, she met the other guy and started dating him?

If you stay 'friends' with her, and you hope that there might be the potential for something in the future, then you need to keep your distance (on facebook and in real life). Otherwise you will be friendzoned. So make it clear to her that you respect her current decision but she knows where you are if things change.
 Stormwolf
Joined: 2/23/2009
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Posted: 9/19/2012 3:16:35 PM

so should I remain friends just for the pontiental that she becomes avaible again?

Sure, but get ready for her to do that to you. Don't think for a second you are so special it won't happen to you.
If your fine with sharing.... you have found the one.
 2hotcougar
Joined: 3/29/2011
Msg: 14
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Posted: 9/19/2012 4:19:20 PM
she should have been honest at the first and told you she had a boyfriend so as not to lead you on and get hurt feelings my heart breaks for you sweetie but love will come to you in time
 newonthescene76
Joined: 2/24/2007
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Posted: 9/20/2012 4:35:50 AM
Ok, so you say she didn't have a boyfriend while you went on your two dates. OK, if you want to believe that (and I wouldn't be surprised if the "family" weekend trip was really with this other guy) and you feel that she was receptive to being more than friends, in the end she still picked the other guy over you. Meaning that you are her SECOND choice. Why would you accept sticking around for someone who would pick someone over you?

As for hanging around waiting for the relationship to fail--nothing is less attractive than the last choice guy hanging around begging for scraps. You should forget her and find someone who makes you her first choice.
 abmccray
Joined: 8/3/2008
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Posted: 9/20/2012 7:42:32 AM
Actually, everything goes bad after this:


Suprised her the next week with flowers at her theatre (she acts). She loved to see me.


Since the "loved to see him" is only from his perspective; it seems like something around this time made her lose attraction to him (and probably gain more attraction towards someone else she was going out with, if the boyfriend thing isn't just an excuse).

Since they were FB friends, it's doubtful that she had a boyfriend the whole time, as that's usually evident on social networking sites (unless the OP is just that oblivious).
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