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 m8t
Joined: 8/10/2012
Msg: 51
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 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 9/20/2012 6:46:20 PM
They sound well matched, he gave her a fake ring and she got it checked out after some mouthy co-worker gave her opinion about it. I doubt he's such a nice noob that he has no idea what he's worth or how awful she is, I'm sure they are what each other deserve. As to having it checked, sure I would, I'd want to have it insured. You know it really doesn't make a man a nice guy because he puts up with a bytch and it really doesn't make a woman a bytch just because she wants a guy to treat her the way she wants. Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors, nobody but those two.
 vancitygurl78
Joined: 7/6/2012
Msg: 53
Sticky situation with a fake engagement ring ...
Posted: 9/20/2012 7:05:18 PM
I'm not big on rings..well actually that's a lie...I love sterling silver rings and that's as about as close of a ring that's gonna get on my fingers.

I think ppl who sport a "huge rock" on their finger, wants to show the entire world how much their significant other loves them. Seriously I pity those women. Do u really need a 'huge rock' for him to say he loves u especially after u badgered him to put a ring on ur finger? He probably did buy it to shut u up.

If I ever date a guy and it comes close to getting marriage, I wouldn't care if he bought me a ring or not. In fact, I'll put a friggen FRUIT LOOP cereal on my finger. But if he should just buy me a $20 sterling silver ring, I'd be happy with that too with our initials encraved of course. I'm a hopeless romantic, materialistic things don't suit me at all. If I can't buy it myself, I would never expect a man that I love to buy it for me. I'd be happy with whatever gifts he decides to give me. Preferably chocolates...lol
 J_bird61
Joined: 10/22/2011
Msg: 54
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Posted: 9/20/2012 7:49:36 PM
ugggh, gives the rest of us girls a bad name..

I personally don't like wearing rings so anything large or even medium would be a disappointment to me...go figure.
Now I'll probably get the 4 carat ring and have to post a question on how to ask to take it back..:-) we're just never happy! sry.
 Greatcatch12345
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 55
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Posted: 9/21/2012 1:54:35 AM
The both of them will be on POF shortly...lol..
 _sunny_skies_darlin_
Joined: 8/17/2012
Msg: 56
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Posted: 9/21/2012 9:46:09 AM
For those of you saying that you don't care about your man putting a diamond on your finger...I'm not buying it, lol.
I bet you'd be singing a different tune if it really were to happen. It doesn't have to be a big diamond, but a diamond nonetheless. It's not about the size or amount spent, it's what it represents and it's traditional.

Just saying =)
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 57
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Posted: 9/21/2012 10:00:55 AM
And people wonder why so many guys are so reluctant to get into a serious relationship...

Also, even fake diamonds can get pretty up there in price. There's rings that are over $1k for a cubic zirconia. Just because it's not a real diamond, doesn't mean that it was just some cheap ring that he found in Walmart.

If she has any issue at all with the ring he bought her, she doesn't deserve him. The relationship should be about each other, not what he can buy her.
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 58
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Posted: 9/21/2012 10:08:07 AM

For those of you saying that you don't care about your man putting a diamond on your finger...I'm not buying it, lol.
I bet you'd be singing a different tune if it really were to happen. It doesn't have to be a big diamond, but a diamond nonetheless. It's not about the size or amount spent, it's what it represents and it's traditional.


I’ve had a diamond on my finger. It didn’t end up meaning a whole hell of a lot.

I’d rather a man use his imagination and offer me something that has real meaning for both of us. If he had something set especially for me…..THAT’S what’s meaningful to me. He’d have my heart forever.


And people wonder why so many guys are so reluctant to get into a serious relationship...


I doubt very much that this is a “serious relationship.”

I must have missed the part about his arm being twisted.
 Still_Dreaming_in_sc
Joined: 9/10/2012
Msg: 59
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Posted: 9/21/2012 11:26:43 AM

I’d rather a man use his imagination and offer me something that has real meaning for both of us. If he had something set especially for me…..THAT’S what’s meaningful to me. He’d have my heart forever.


Nothing says I love you and letting you know what is in store like getting your own propane smelting station and some molds to melt your own precious metals together (which you can get some cool effects mixing things up and not just using gold) and forge your own rings together.

You have to be able to endure the heat and get rid of the impurities of the metals blended together and then together poor it into the molds to let it cool and settle into its permanent physical state. Of course since its a brand new mold yall have forged together the rings are pretty rough right out of the casting so some time and attention must be spent on each of them to file off the rough edges and burrs. Finally a little polishing and caressing to bring their shine out for the world to see and setting in some stones hand selected and there you have it.

Every time you look at those rings you will not only remember the commitments you made to each other but also the hard work and effort it took for you to craft those bands.

If I ever get married again, which would require me to find a woman I am not sure even exists anymore, this would be my choice for forging a lifetime together. Starting out by forging the bond between us together seems like an extra touch of commitment that will turn rings from what they have become (A financial status of a potential suitor) into what they used to be considered (a symbol of the unwavering love and devotion shared between a husband and his wife)

Just my opinions at least
 Phil_an_derer
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 60
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Posted: 9/21/2012 11:33:58 AM
My ex bought her own ring and her boobs....she got more compliments about the size of her boobs than the size of her ring.....
 soo-girl
Joined: 10/22/2011
Msg: 61
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Posted: 9/21/2012 11:35:18 AM

For those of you saying that you don't care about your man putting a diamond on your finger...I'm not buying it, lol. I bet you'd be singing a different tune if it really were to happen. It doesn't have to be a big diamond, but a diamond nonetheless. It's not about the size or amount spent, it's what it represents and it's traditional.


I couldn't care less if my boyfriend gave me a diamond ring because I have very little interest in jewelry and I would probably never wear it. I don't need material things to create a loving relationship with someone.

PS: I wish this darn site would stop logging me out every two seconds. Grrrr!
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 62
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Posted: 9/21/2012 12:07:37 PM
still_Dreaming_in_sc:
Nothing says I love you and letting you know what is in store like getting your own propane smelting station and some molds to melt your own precious metals together (which you can get some cool effects mixing things up and not just using gold) and forge your own rings together…..

Every time you look at those rings you will not only remember the commitments you made to each other but also the hard work and effort it took for you to craft those bands.


That is truly beautiful. I love that idea. :)
 coderedjulia1
Joined: 5/27/2012
Msg: 63
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Posted: 9/21/2012 12:46:59 PM
Seems like the relationship isn't really all that good. She practically had to **** and moan for him to get engaged. The guy seems like he doesn't want to marry her, and just got her the fake ring to shut her up. I'd be pissed if someone got me a fake ring, not cause of money. If he really wanted to marry her, he would have saved every penny to at least get her a real ring, even if it has a little diamond on it.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 64
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Posted: 9/21/2012 1:51:48 PM

If he really wanted to marry her, he would have saved every penny to at least get her a real ring, even if it has a little diamond on it.


And what prize does the guy get for getting engaged? Another case of women demanding equal rights, but only if they benefit from it, and quickly change to become 'traditional" to get a "traditional" pricey rock on their finger while the guy gets zip.



I like jewelry and still have 2 engagement rings of substantial sizes from relationships that didn't work out
...And you didn't give them back? That's a little tacky....


I don't understand women hanging onto jewelry from a failed marriage/relationship. The only reason I can think of is: if they gave it back, there's always the chance the guy might hang on to it and give it to the next woman he has a serious relationship with. Guys are more practical by not placing any emotional attachment to trinkets, whereas women act like a piece of jewelry is a gift from the heavens and would be totally crushed by another woman ever touching it. So they make sure no other human flesh will ever touch that ring.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 9/21/2012 2:25:54 PM
The woman was thrilled to get the ring, how ever it came about because again we don't know them and we don't know their private conversations, the woman never thought about getting it appraised until a couple of nosy co-workers who hate the woman so loved making fun of her and her thrill over the ring, caused her to doubt the man's gift and guess what, the gift was not what he pretended it to be.

She may be a gold digger but then he's with her, he's getting something out of it, no one is forcing him to stay. Yet here are post after post calling her names while he's a poor poor pitiful nice guy being used but he got her back by treating her like a joke, same as her co-workers.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 66
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Posted: 9/21/2012 3:46:29 PM

For those of you saying that you don't care about your man putting a diamond on your finger...I'm not buying it, lol.

That's certainly your choice. I know it's hard for some people to think anyone would want anything different than they would...but one glance around society will tell you if we all wanted the same thing there'd be no distinguishing people from each other.

I bet you'd be singing a different tune if it really were to happen.

I don't like being bought - so I'd find it to be kind of insulting to think the guy I was with didn't know me, and it would make wonder if I know him at all since he thinks that kind of purchase makes sense.

It doesn't have to be a big diamond, but a diamond nonetheless. It's not about the size or amount spent, it's what it represents and it's traditional.

Blah, tradition is gender role based, and I'm not a fan. What it represents is ownership - and like a cattle brand, it's mainly there so other men know not to talk to you - the terms "taken" and "off the market" imply the same. Kind of like tree pissing, or a bike lock, but more expensive. Something we can have together not as one who reserves the other like a layaway, but two people who want to be together makes more sense. A big screen TV or a modest wedding, no ring and a decent honeymoon is better.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 67
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Posted: 9/21/2012 4:49:03 PM
Diamonds are overpriced rocks mined by children ... watch Blood Diamonds...you'll never want another one.

There are great alternatives out there...high quality CZ's, white sapphires, lab-created diamonds and Moissanite...that give you the look of a big rock at a price that is more reasonable and without 3rd world child labor. Sounds like she cares more for the ring than the guy so yes, he should run...but because she is shallow and selfish, not because he did anything wrong.
 Love.Notes
Joined: 7/27/2012
Msg: 68
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Posted: 9/21/2012 5:46:41 PM
Interesting situation for sure. Although you make her sound like she is not the greatest person in the world and a gold digger tittle is not the best tittle to have with fellow coworkers.. I think the best advice I can give you is to ask her if you love him, it won't matter the size of the ring, or if he paid 2 or 8 grand. Even if she confronts him it's his problem to explain it or and her problem to either accept it or reject it. She sounds like she lacks common sense. If I were her boyfriend I would be more concerned with how she talks about him to others. She makes him look like an as$ by the sounds of it. She doesn't sound like she really loves him then again, if he gave her a ring just to "shut her up" does he really love her?
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
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Posted: 9/21/2012 11:09:25 PM
Whats sticky?


He knows she is an idiot/money grubber if she wants a huge rock and should have the brains to know she would take it and find out what its worth.
It's what "they" do.

Not buying this story.Sounds like "boots outside the door" again scaring off your suitors .
3 year olds with cell phones.ect ect

I'll take the cash or a BMW..It can be used.
Wahahahahah
 missraven1
Joined: 8/12/2011
Msg: 70
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Posted: 9/22/2012 1:03:35 AM
I don't know why people assume he tried to pass it off as a diamond. Suppose he didn't distinguish between a diamond and some other rock, giving little thought to the importance she placed on it's authenticity, only thinking that "she wants a big rock, she wants a big rock" so he forked out what he could afford in terms that. What's worse, a fake rock or being embarrassed by an ugly, cloudy (poor clarity) real diamond that you immediately know is cheap, one of which I've seen on a girl's finger - well if the band has gold in it (if you're into that), it's still better with a fake decent quality rock.
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
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Posted: 9/22/2012 6:37:28 AM
THINK

What woman goes to work and announces to people she doesnt even like or know that well her ring is/could be fake..NAW

She would be showing it off and all that jazz, passing it off as real.


prove to everyone that she was worth an expensive ring.

^^^^^^^^That part I would buy.

She wouldn't do it by exposing that she really thought its fake though.
 Texan_Gal
Joined: 10/22/2011
Msg: 72
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Posted: 9/22/2012 9:02:57 AM
Ha, what a b****. A guy gave me a $20 ring once and I knew it was a cheap $20 ring, but I was happy anyway because it was from HIM. The price shouldn't matter; you make of it what you will.
 Indysweetpea
Joined: 9/10/2012
Msg: 73
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Posted: 9/22/2012 9:14:52 AM
I have some 5.00 rings I wear all the time because I just like how the ring looks. Who cares how much it costs. If you like it then enjoy it.
 mark777771
Joined: 4/22/2012
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Posted: 9/22/2012 9:37:14 PM
I think he should have given her ring out of a cracker jack box.
 GWSmith
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 75
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Posted: 9/22/2012 10:30:43 PM
Its a real ring and a real symbol of devotion even if the stone on it was produced in a lab somewhere. Not everyone can afford a nice shiny hunk of carbon dug out of a hole in the ground. What i think is tacky is people caring about the ring not being good enough. I don't care if it comes out of a 25 cent vending machine its the fact that someone was thinking of ME when they got it and that is what really matters.
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