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 stellavixen
Joined: 2/17/2012
Msg: 56
Student at 50+Page 4 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Kudos to you!!!!

I would like to get into real estate on the side.... when the market improves.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 57
Student at 50+
Posted: 10/3/2012 12:29:27 PM
I live in a community with 4 colleges. nearby...if you don't have a college degree, you don't get a good paying job, period. Even jobs paying in the $25K range are asking for at least a 2 year if not a 4 year degree. High school only jobs are minimum wage or temporary jobs only. Having a degree will ALWAYS make you more employable and marketable. The guy who cited that 70% statistic is using out of date data and to clarify, lawyers, doctors, most teaching positions require education beyond a 4 year degree...law school, med school, master's programs and ongoing classes to retain a license. A degree, regardless of when you can get it, is necessary if you do not want to struggle in the career world.
 rustednail
Joined: 9/16/2012
Msg: 58
Student at 50+
Posted: 10/4/2012 8:15:01 AM
9. Philosophy

Why It Won’t Help You Get a Job: This isn’t ancient Greece: No one is going to pay you money, or allow you to sodomize their attractive son, in exchange for your knowledge of existence. Never has there been an employer who’s said “Man, we’re having all kinds of problems, I wish we had someone on our team who could reference and draw conclusions from the story of Siddhartha that would pull up our fourth quarter numbers. I took many philosophy classes and it involved reading and smoking a shit pile of weed. You don’t need to pay 20,000 dollars a year to do that. All you need is twenty dollars and a library card.


LMAO this hits the nail on the head. Just like trying to relate an Art degree to kitchen and plumbing remodeling. Trade schools are for carpenters and plumbers and they teach them how to do construction and plumbers the difference between a "nipple" pipe and the real thing.

It irks me when some people talk about shit they have no background in. Just because you put up some wallpaper or fixed a hole in plaster doesnt make you a home decorator or a rehab specialist. Youd be better off talking about a giggling pin on a cars exhaust system...
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 59
Student at 50+
Posted: 10/5/2012 11:51:28 AM
Actually-my point was that the OP might be better served to attend a trade school to add credentials to her already-acquired experience in designing kitchens and baths. If she can do BOTH( trade school AND get her bachelors in Art) more power to her.
There seems to be a fair amount of support here for what the OP is doing, and opinions from people who seem to be well-informed, that acquiring a degree DOES make a difference.
Regardless of whether the degree is in Computer Sciences, Nursing, or Underwater Basketweaving -it proves that one was able to set a goal and achieve said goal.
I think even the person who hires the burger-flippers at the local "u want fries with that" eatery, can appreciate a person who was able to set a goal and achieve that goal.

For the gripe about " shit they have no background in"-really? It is completely impossible/unfeasible that the OP could go to a trade school and learn about plumbing, to increase her value to potential employers-or customers?
Really? Why would that be? And how do you know what skills or experiences I-or any other poster here- may or may not have?
The topic is people's perceptions and attitudes about someone who has gone back to school to finish their bachelors degree at age 50+. It's not about the OPs' previous employment field, it's not about home renovation, it's not about what 'adjunct' professors do or don't earn.

It seems to me,OP, that most people are impressed with your endeavors. I think it may be worth noting that there are those who see your student status as a red flag because they presume "student" means "looking for a meal ticket".
As for the giggling pin on a cars exhaust ssytem...you can buy them at any auto parts supplier that also carries Corvair radiators...
Cindy O
 jordanscpa
Joined: 5/28/2010
Msg: 60
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Student at 50+
Posted: 10/7/2012 7:38:20 PM
Thanks - I'm in this age bracket going for my Master's. Dated guys in their 50's who think college and studying are for the 20 something - were too old to learn at this age. Yet, drinking and sex are still as important to them when your in your 50's as it was in your 20's! Braindead and drunk - just what I enjoy for companionship!
 poolplayerpartnerwanted
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 61
Student at 50+
Posted: 10/7/2012 7:57:23 PM
I don't think so I myself am looking into going and getting an Associates degree
 TOaks91360
Joined: 11/22/2013
Msg: 62
Student at 50+
Posted: 2/15/2014 11:21:11 AM
I admire your drive to improve yourself, but my first reaction when I see student or retired is that income is very fixed. I definitely don't believe you're not working hard, no way. I earned my MBA while working full time and it was very demanding. I suppose one of my concerns would be your attitude towards a relationship once you completed your education. In other words, you weren't looking for a sugar daddy while you went to school only.

You'd be surprised by the few women, in their 20's mind you, that are studying for 2 Master's degrees, that have approached me online. My first thought was, really? Sounds like you need help with student loans.

I'm sure you're more mature but yeah, I'd be lying if I said I didn't have some concerns over the student thing.

I'd also wonder how much time you had to date?

A stay at home mom with 2 kids and studying for her PhD in Law, while working full time, said she could plan a first date 10 days later. My first thought was, when's the 2nd date?

Anyway, congrats for completing your education:)
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 63
Student at 50+
Posted: 2/15/2014 12:25:28 PM
paintroses- I'm 45 and I'm about to do it. I have been an LPN for many years and have always thought about going back for my RN. I finally decided to take the leap and go for it.
This is my life and I'm trying to better myself. Anyone that has an issue with that isn't someone I want.
 zippytwo
Joined: 6/7/2006
Msg: 64
Student at 50+
Posted: 2/16/2014 2:11:29 PM
I went to college last year to upgrade my current computer skills so that I could compete for a job...unfortunately I've learned that the corporate world isn't looking for 55-60 year old women no matter how much they know and could contribute to their company. Have to remember we are competing with the 20 something 'whiz kids' who grew up on computers. I also imagine that employers look at a mature adult and wonder how long we'd actually work for them...wondering if it'll be a year or two and then they'd retire. I've given up looking for a job and have semi-retired...I'm doing ok, but do get very bored. This translates to my social life as well, I can't even meet anyone anymore. I have girlfriends and family, but once in a while I'd love to go out with a man. I don't go to football games or hockey games by myself, or out to dinner. I have joined a couple of "meetup" groups, however find it's mostly women who join. The province I live in apparently offers university courses for senior citizens for FREE...and I'll be all over that!
 Crystal_Planet
Joined: 10/30/2013
Msg: 65
Student at 50+
Posted: 2/17/2014 7:20:03 AM
I think improving oneself - at any age is awesome, and I'd be proud to date a student at my age. The only (slight) stumbling block for me would be not lack of income - but time. If you're dating a student who is serious about her studies, you'll have to be patient and find time when you can.
 starlight334
Joined: 6/18/2010
Msg: 66
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Student at 50+
Posted: 3/8/2014 8:15:12 PM
The question is not complete.....big red flag? For what ?
For looking at you ? For talking to you from the other side of the street ? .or going to a coffee/tea/soda ? What is behind the "red flag" ?
 Booky3
Joined: 5/25/2013
Msg: 67
Student at 50+
Posted: 3/9/2014 3:27:18 PM
Whether student or not a lack of income is not really a deterrent.

Whether a student is rich or poor all it really takes is just a little creative thought on your part to enjoy your partner without COST.


A few examples

Go for a walk, hike, or bike ride.
Introduce each other to your favorite music.
Go to an author reading at a library or bookstore.
Offer to babysit a friend's child together (if you don't have one of your own, that is).
Make up a walking tour and play tour guide for your date.
Sign up to volunteer together for a cause that you are both passionate about
Go on a brewery tour. or tour any Historical venue in your city that's free.
Teach your date a skill or one of your favorite hobbies.
Sit in a park, or the Mall and people watch.
Check out shows or lectures at a local college; many list events open to the public on their websites.
Go Roller skating
Never a cost to watch a movie on TV together

Sounds like just another silly excuse that keeps people from meeting others.

If dating is about getting to know someone vs a desire to be entertained, then I guess they'll continue looking for a man or woman with money.
 justdeb1111
Joined: 8/12/2012
Msg: 68
Student at 50+
Posted: 3/10/2014 11:08:21 PM
Op,

Good for you--I am 60 and in a Masters program. If someone doesn't like that you are in college and avoids you, seriously, have you really missed anything?
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 69
Student at 50+
Posted: 3/11/2014 11:34:32 AM
I retired after I hit 51 and wouldn't date a woman over 50 that is a student unless she was retired . I do not prefer to be around what I consider professional students , who make a career out of going to school .
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 70
Student at 50+
Posted: 3/11/2014 1:04:04 PM
The day you stop learning is the day that you start dying. Keep learning, remain thirsty, remain curious.

If someone does not get it. To hell with them. Be the inspiration.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 71
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Student at 50+
Posted: 3/29/2014 8:46:19 PM
Do what makes you happy....it's your life.....and I'd rather date someone who is learning (and continuing to grow), than someone stuck in their old ways.
 woxof63
Joined: 12/7/2013
Msg: 72
Student at 50+
Posted: 4/15/2014 7:10:07 PM
To me, it gives off an air of someone who is willing to work really hard! That is not afraid to take chances. Good on ya!
 woxof63
Joined: 12/7/2013
Msg: 73
Student at 50+
Posted: 4/15/2014 7:11:58 PM
Just because you are a student at 50+ does not mean you are financially independent......it means the exact opposite!
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 74
Student at 50+
Posted: 4/17/2014 6:32:12 PM
Good for you , I have been retired over 5 years . I have no need of ambition any more , or any need to be a productive worker in the ant nest . You think you are the only one that has faced possible end of life events ? You sure seem to want to play that victim card . After all that school you will maybe be productive for , maybe 5 years ?
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 75
Student at 50+
Posted: 4/18/2014 7:34:37 PM
Such profane things talking about male genitals as if you actually knew anything . It is abusive women such as yourself that have made things bad for the rest of the women , why , because men wont put up with your bs any more . As far as university goes , at my age why would I want to take a spot needed by a younger person that still has their entire life to work , that would be just plain selfish on my part . I learn things I want to learn about , aka internet . Less and less men are going to universities , refusing to man up as the feminists put it . This will go the same as every other Matriarchy in history , except social insects , they have collapsed .
 the_regency
Joined: 12/20/2013
Msg: 76
Student at 50+
Posted: 4/18/2014 11:42:34 PM
^^^Didn't he initially just say he had no interest in dating a woman who was going back to school? Isn't this the question and purpose of the thread to get responses about dating someone who is going back to school or NOT dating that person?

I agree. I did date someone recently who is going back to school and working and to tell the truth he really doesn't have enough time available to keep me interested.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 77
Student at 50+
Posted: 4/25/2014 10:38:10 AM
Message#100
I come late to the battle(lol) but I have to agree it was a distorted, malicious accusation, but I think that perhaps
misogyny, distortion and malice are this gentlemans' only means of coping/defense.
I think all the women are staying away from him, and that may be at the core of his bitterness.

As far as his claim that he wouldn't want to "take away from a younger person" a place in higher education, is about the weakest-ass response I've heard in a long time.
Trust me, if a person has the prerequiste basics and the financial wherewithal(whether from a private pocket or from scholarships/grants) , a place will be made for him or her at the college or university.

Trust me, there are tons of people for whom "official" retirement was merely a change in career. Even if they retired from an "ant factory".
And then there are those who retire and immediately begin stagnating,and because they choose stagnation, they lash out at anyone who refuses to join the stagnationfest.
Peace, love and tractors.
Cindy O
 14everBlessed2
Joined: 6/21/2012
Msg: 78
Student at 50+
Posted: 4/26/2014 7:12:56 PM
Im finishing up an A.A. in Cosmetology this week and I will be 57 in August. I had worked in the flight simulation/avionics world for over 33 years. I was burned out.When a new contractor came in and "generously" offered myself and the other techs our old job at $8-12 less than I was making,(government contracts gotta love them) I accepted the layoff, paid off my home with an IRA and decided to go back to school and learn a new trade that I would enjoy. I'm taking the summer off (will take the state boards) but I am right back into school in the fall to take advanced Esthetics and skin care. It is hard to juggle the courses and date. I hid my profile because I did not feel I had the time to devote to both but that was my choice. I am fortunate to be self sufficient while in school and I have met some gentlemen that did not mind that I was a student but also met some gentlemen that just couldn't understand why I would give up a lucrative career to be a hair stylist.....it never has been about money for me .Do what makes you happy !
 BreakTheRuIes
Joined: 3/8/2014
Msg: 79
Student at 50+
Posted: 4/27/2014 9:29:26 PM
I wouldn't worry about someone's perception of your honesty. If they judge without asking, then you don't need them around.

I'm working on my second "career" after being wheelchair bound for some 5 years. My last real job now requires that you have a degree specific to that field than the one I currently have, which is international finance, a basic business degree. I have that I am a student on my profile. Those who don't understand that people pursue other ventures at different phases of their life be it 20, 30, 40, 50, or even 60 are a bit short sighted towards others. Not only do people pursue things at different stages/phases in their lives, they also pursue them for different reasons. Age and purpose shouldn't ever be pre-judged.

Best of luck to you.
 BreakTheRuIes
Joined: 3/8/2014
Msg: 80
Student at 50+
Posted: 4/27/2014 9:29:49 PM
I wouldn't worry about someone's perception of your honesty. If they judge without asking, then you don't need them around.

I'm working on my second "career" after being wheelchair bound for some 5 years. My last real job now requires that you have a degree specific to that field than the one I currently have, which is international finance, a basic business degree. I have that I am a student on my profile. Those who don't understand that people pursue other ventures at different phases of their life be it 20, 30, 40, 50, or even 60 are a bit short sighted towards others. Not only do people pursue things at different stages/phases in their lives, they also pursue them for different reasons. Age and purpose shouldn't ever be pre-judged.

Best of luck to you.
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