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 RaleighRedChick
Joined: 9/27/2012
Msg: 48
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Because there are a lot more men out there willing to live off of a woman rather than get a job! I know I've experienced it!
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 49
Why Does Our Society Look Down On Unemployed Men So Much?
Posted: 10/10/2012 7:26:50 PM

This is exactly what I ran into. There is no "job creation" Nothing beyond the normal ebb and flow of the job market that happens every year pre-holiday and pre-summer. And those jobs are not something you can pay a mortgage with since they are low paying, usually part-time and generally temporary. Anyone with any amount of experience doesn't get these jobs anyway as the employers assume you will find something better and quit right away. (which is obviously not true or you wouldn't have applied there int he first place eh??)


It goes way beyond that. I was unemployed a while ago, so I applied at a Burger King as a manager, using when I used to run a kitchen and cook as my experience to show that I can get hired into management... And I didn't just not get hired for management, but I got turned down from being just a minimum wage worker because "I was overqualified".

But "job creation" isn't the problem. There's jobs out there, we've all had them, most of us still do... The problem is the huge lack of laws protecting the workers from being fired for BS reasons. Most of us have had it happen at least once to us, and if you pay attention, it's getting way too common and really out of control.
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 50
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Posted: 10/10/2012 8:15:01 PM
I had an employee come after me, after I fired him for missing 30 days of work in 6 months, told me how it was a bunch of BS and I was out to get him. Yea. ok. It's not the lack of laws, it's the people who get the job and don't value it.


That's a reasonable reason to fire someone. But firing them because you want to hire your friend, and claiming they weren't doing their job or something, that's BS. Because then you're not just making them lose a job, but then you're also affecting if they can get unemployment in a lot of states. Honest management isn't as common now as it used to be.

You don't think it's a little convenient when people get fired the day before their medical benefits would start? Or that some companies seem to always avoid having to lay-off because there just happens to be someone that did something worth being fired for, and since they were fired, they're not getting paid for any unused vacation time now? Is it just complete coincidence that the managers friends are the best workers in the company, but the one person that one of the friends doesn't like is, on paper, one of the worst workers you've ever seen? Or what about the time that I witnessed someone get fired because they were an Eagles fan while the manager was a Giants fan (and yes, that's 100% legal). It's funny how so many people are getting fired all of a sudden. It's that bad that in NJ, there's a 24 week backup on appealing an unemployment claim for the workers. That's a hell of a lot of people that got fired. Can you honestly say that many people were bad workers, and that few of them were laid off?

Unemployment isn't the way it is because everyone on it is an irresponsible worker or anything... Unemployment is as bad as it is because there's nothing that protects the workers, there's no such thing as job security. If you never had to deal with or witness any of this, you're extremely lucky... Because that's the real world now.

And guess what happens when those people actually get to keep their jobs instead of being fired over a complete lie that their manager made up to be able to downsize without having to pay into unemployment benefits for those people... They spend money in other companies and then the economy does it's thing where it actually functions, and then businesses don't have to close down, and don't have to downsize.

People have been saying it for years, the problem with the economy is because we're not putting money in the hands of consumers, and over time, it only gets worse and worse, until eventually the economy is going to completely crash. Without preventing people from needing unemployment in the first place, job creation will accomplish nothing, because while one person starts working, another is going to get fired because he voted for the wrong person on American Idol.
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 51
Why Does Our Society Look Down On Unemployed Men So Much?
Posted: 10/10/2012 8:37:24 PM
You don't think it's a little convenient when people get fired the day before their medical benefits would start?


Convenient nothing; here in Ontario many recruiters only hire contract workers, who "can work toward full employment in three months" for that exact reason. Think any of the ones I spoke to ever made it to three months? Two and 29 days, but never three.

;)

Sorta standard practice, and if you seem as if you're wise to the gig; please stay away

I think, perhaps, the corporations are storing cash for the war to rename countries and continents after corporations.

*shrugs*

Once you get in, if you're willing to play that game, you need to get yer hooks in (deep).

P.s. That worker who is making 25000, is a perfect target for a recruiter who can now take them from you at 32000; or 25 plus benefits. (and that's exactly what happens) Why not pay the 35, with incentive based raises, and keep it stable? [shareholders love stable growth; unless you're not so concerned about them either]


Without preventing people from needing unemployment in the first place, job creation will accomplish nothing, because while one person starts working, another is going to get fired


Layed off etc, good point.

Corporations dont care, they're the type of "citizen" or "person" that doesnt have much to lose if their operational country goes to sh*t; unless it's about natural resources. (just sayin)

It'll come around to right n good again; people will wake up.

Bit off topic, but ya
 mrcs84
Joined: 12/9/2008
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Posted: 10/11/2012 3:17:28 AM
Confuzzled -
I just want you to take note of the fact that Colorado is an At-will state. So an employer has every right to fire you because you're a Giant's fan. You have no right to work in CO unless there is a contract spelled out. However, I don't know about GTP's Province, because I don't really know about Canada laws.
 mrcs84
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Posted: 10/11/2012 6:35:20 AM

It's a waste of time when the other option at that particular point in time is to have zero income?

Firstly, you don't get unemployment if you have a [crappy substitute] job. Secondly, the time/energy used working at that job could be utilized finding a job that will support the established standard of living.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
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Posted: 10/11/2012 7:37:57 AM
Our society does not just look down on unemployed men but also look down on unemployed women, I believe. Nowadays men don't want women without a job for sure.

Talking about the percentage of men who would date unemployed women than women would date unemployed men, that is because some men may think as long as they get sex that's okay; and when they are tired of the women, they dump them. There's nothing to loose, right? But most women cannot do that; some do, maybe, but the percentage is smaller.

In life, everyone has up and down times. People can be healthy today, sick tomorrow or rich and then poor and bounce back. The same with being employed and unemployed. When you're a grown-up, having a job is everything mostly. That shows you're a responsible and stable person. When you're unemployed for a while, first thing you need to do is to look for a job, not to look for a date to have sex or a person to help you finically.

For me, if I were unemployed from one job (and I was), I would try very hard to find another, no matter it is a lower pay or in the lower position as I was in before, even a cleaning, washing dishes job to get by in the tough time and continue to upgrade my education and try to find a better job again when the economy gets better.

I see lots of people don't want to lower their expectation in the job search or too damn lazy. Some people think they are too good, they are not supposed to do the "low" job. Some others are just don't want to work at all as long as they can live off of somebody else.

I disgust men who want to live off of women. I disgust women who don't want to work, and worse just f around and make babies and they have excuses to stay home to "raise" their kids. Those women are bad mothers and make bad examples for their kids.

IMO, if you're not handicapped mentally and physically, you should be able to find a job. If you cannot find a high pay one, find a low pay one to support yourself through daily living at least. You should work, not to blame on the society.

What a society would be with all the lazy people who live like parasites? Those people put big burdens on hard-working people's shoulders.

Just saying.
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 55
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Posted: 10/11/2012 9:40:42 PM
For me, if I were unemployed from one job (and I was), I would try very hard to find another, no matter it is a lower pay or in the lower position as I was in before, even a cleaning, washing dishes job to get by in the tough time and continue to upgrade my education and try to find a better job again when the economy gets better.


My career is Executive Sales and Business Development, however, when I was between contracts I would take my days when I had no interviews or resumes and follow ups to do......and go work at a minimum or "near" minimum wage labor job (and sometimes for 12-14 hours per day)

I LIKE working, and getting out and about. ( golf, dinners out, gas to travel around, clothes, etc arnt cheap)

I also like contributing.

In said job; I actually did stuff that made a big difference, and really helped (every 3 out of 10 times) The rest just seemed like a make work thing, and in fact, I once swept a parking lot with a broom. <--true story. (Heck; we were just standing around anyways, and the lot was a pigstye. They WERE paying to have us there though, so....)

True story: the company will no longer LET me work for them, even though most of THEIR work is daily contract or "few" day contract work because I wont "commit" to working for them on "several" of their monthly contracts at those wages. (Many of those jobs...are also...flat out hazardous)

They only hire "lock in" slaves now.

Hopefully; it turns around, but that's sort of where the ethics of employment are these days (from what I've seen)

And Mrcs84; Ontario is much like California in society and economics right now, but in a Canadian context. (BC anyone)

In fact; it looks like we may have shared or followed the same darned blueprint!

I think a few bolts or pulleys may have been only half drawn in said blueprint

Some people think they are too good, they are not supposed to do the "low" job. Some others are just don't want to work at all as long as they can live off of somebody else.


Just for clarification; are you talking about employees, or employers, with that piece.
 miss-douglas
Joined: 9/30/2009
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Posted: 10/11/2012 9:47:58 PM
OK, But do they at least take out the garbage without being reminded ?????
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
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Posted: 10/11/2012 10:09:24 PM
Post 118:

"Some people think they are too good, they are not supposed to do the "low" job. Some others are just don't want to work at all as long as they can live off of somebody else."

"Just for clarification; are you talking about employees, or employers, with that piece."

I'm talking about some people in general because I know many cases, but I will take one example of one of my co-workers's ex-husband that he used to go to university to become a teacher and he could not get a job for a long time. In the meantime, they had six kids from baby, toddlers to teenagers. He could not find a job as a teacher, and he would not want to find any other kind of job. At that time the economy here was booming. People could get a job in a blink. Grocery, retail stores put signs at the doors "Now Hiring". You could get a job as housekeepping, dish washer, health care aid, LPN, R.N. in the hospitals very easily. But he did not want to do any of those (of course not the LPN or R.N. job because he did not go to school for that). They fought all the times, and got divorced finally. He moved away and did not pay any child support. That poor woman. I don't understand why she gave in with him (about sex) so much and had so many kids when they were so poor. I can't understand why some people are like that.

Just to answer your question. That's all.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
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Posted: 10/11/2012 10:20:29 PM
Post 121:

I agree with you at some points. But maybe life in North America is too easy to compare to the 3rd world countries that makes some people so lazy and try to take advantages of the welfare system, the food banks, the people with good heart who are willing to donate to charities and volunteer to help the poor. I learned a lot from both worlds (or three worlds).
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 59
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Posted: 10/12/2012 11:08:57 AM

There is a 90 day probationary period is built into most jobs. It's for the protection of you and them, if either of you are dissatisfied you both can leave with no consequences, except of course unemployment benefits, which you can reapply for. The 90 days thing is set by insurance companies not the employer.


The 90 day probationary period, at least in NJ, isn't set by insurance companies, it's just a common loophole to unemployment benefits which allows a company to only hire for a temporary period of time without having to pay into the employees unemployment benefits. What you have to understand is when someone collects unemployment insurance, their previous employer has to pay a % of it. THAT is what the penalty you get from unemployment is, the money the employer would have to pay, not being paid. What the 90 day probation does is gives your employer the freedom to rightfully fire you because you were 1 minute late 2 months ago.


No.. it's called economics 101. If you can't afford the employees you have, you have to reduce their number. It's logic and the way good businesses are run. The requirement that you can never fire anyone with a billion and 1 warnings is ridiculous and is part of the problem with businesses staying solvent. Is it better to do a mass layoff of fire one person?


I'm talking about how convenient it is that they need to get rid of someone, but they just happened to have this terrible worker who they never got around to firing for the last year. If someone needs to be fired, fire them. But when it's happening in place of where a lay-off would be, it can't be more obvious that something's wrong.


Right, unemployment is the way it is because wall street and the bank wrecked the economy. It's a domino effect that the government is prolonging. There IS such a thing as job security, for those who work hard and prove themselves to be worthy of keeping, of course that only works if the economy doesn't tank again or more, which it looks to be headed that way.


Really? Then why are people who have worked their asses off at their job for 30+ years losing their job over new people? How many examples of that happening is it going to take for you to wake up and see how the business world really works. There are NO laws that protect a workers job outside of sex, religion, orientation, race, or the whistleblower act. It doesn't matter how perfect of a worker you are, if I was your boss and wanted to fire you right now because you're single and I only want married people working in my company, then you're out of a job. You're 100% at managements mercy. Your state is at-will, that means you can be fired without reason at any time. You can be the perfect worker, but I'm free to fire you just because I was bored.


I'm sure it's happened, but companies would be sued left and right if that was the real truth behind the curtain.


It's probably happened way more than you think. Pay attention at work... Notice how some people get write-ups for things but other people are allowed to get away with it. Notice how the guy who sucks up to management seems to move higher and higher, while someone who works nonstop can't seem to get any form of advancement. To deny things like this happen all the time in the working world shows a lot of ignorance to reality. Now, when it comes to treating two people differently, and having 2 versions of what the rules are... Obviously either one is a favorite, or the other isn't liked, it's the only way to explain a lack of consistency... Which in turn, when that is something more hostile like constantly being written up, which I've actually seen people get them for doing EXACTLY WHAT THEY WERE SUPPOSED TO BE DOING, you're getting fired for the reason your manager doesn't like you, not because you weren't the perfect worker. And no, they wouldn't be sued. They're protected from that for the reason that they don't have to have a reason to fire you.

Now the way unemployment works: When your employer rightfully fires you, they don't have to pay their part of your unemployment benefits. That is why you get a 6-10 week wait on collecting. So what people have to do is appeal the reason they were fired, which if the employee wins, the employer then has to pay their share of the benefits. When you quit, no matter what the reason, you're forced into that penalty, and thanks to harassment laws not including actual harassment, it's ok for you to go into work everyday and have your manager tell you how worthless you are and that you should go kill yourself. That's legal, we have no right to dignity at work. When it's a lay-off, the company has to pay their part, that's not fightable. So lets look at NJ's 24 week wait on appeals... Enough people were fired within the last few months to have a 24 week backup on appealing it. You don't think something is VERY wrong with that? How many bad workers do you honestly think exist in one place?
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 60
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Posted: 10/12/2012 2:20:59 PM
Just to be fair; the company I was earlier mentioning wasnt "all" slave labour.

They also had some heavy duty initiatives going; which required very deeply specialized tradesman. I believe that the best of the best got great wages (and shipped out West etc); but it was still, mostly, slave labour. (Just in case some of you have guessed the company)

I used to help them get extensions on their contract, or future contracts with companies, which is how I was most helpful. Other than that; I would just work m tail off, have fun with the guys, and help out where extra hands were needed. <-Sometimes doing that is just what the doctor ordered.
 mrcs84
Joined: 12/9/2008
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Posted: 10/12/2012 3:07:50 PM
Firing me because I am single is discrimination

Doesn't matter.



I am absolutely protected against that

No. You. Are. Not.



If you fire me for no reason other then you are bored then you'll have a lawsuit slapped on you and the ex-employee will win.

In at-will states (such as CO), they're going to be wasting a lot of time and effort.


This is coming straight from the Department of Labor & Employment
(emphasis mine)
Definition of Employment-At-Will
Colorado follows the legal doctrine of "employment-at-will" which provides that in the absence of a contract to the contrary, neither an employer nor an employee is required to give notice or advance notice of termination or resignation. Additionally, neither an employer nor an employee is required to give a reason for the separation from employment. In Continental Airlines Inc. v. Keenan (1987), the Colorado Supreme Court recognized at-will employment in Colorado, and noted that there may be certain exceptions to the presumption of at-will employment.


I looked up a few other at-will states, and their verbiage is quite similar. They do state that they protect against certain forms of discrimination, but we all know how hard it is to prove such things in court. The active words are "without reason." It may be 100% true that someone got fired for discriminatory reasons, but the employer is protected from disclosing that.




Because there are a lot more men out there willing to live off of a woman rather than get a job! I know I've experienced it!

Firstly, your personal anecdote doesn't represent the norm. Secondly, it's still baffling that after so many years of the paradigm shifting, that a woman living off her man is still so widely socially accepted but the inverse is looked down upon. Moving at a glacial pace? Indeed we are. But then again, it seems like women like to work just long enough to get their feminist merit badge, and then find a guy that will "rescue" them from having to be self sufficient.
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 62
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Posted: 10/12/2012 3:52:22 PM

Wrong. They have to have a reason to fire you. It's call the "implied contract" and means that if the employee follows the rules out lined in his handbook and is fired anyway without breaking any of them, he can sue the company because he has an "implied contract" with them that he is NOT in breach of. this is the ENTIRE reason write-ups exist. It's recognized by the law, but the burden of proof lies on the fired employee.


He typically can't. Most jobs include something in there saying that they can go right to termination if they feel it's reasonable. They're also free to fire you just because they feel like it. And their reason for firing you is legally allowed to be "I just felt like doing it."

And on the lay off vs firing... I don't know why you're not getting it yet... They need to layoff, it comes from corporate or something, now, they suddenly have a worker worth being fired, but 5 minutes ago, there were no problems with his performance.... Get it now? THEY'RE MAKING UP A LIE TO FIRE SOMEONE INSTEAD OF LAYING SOMEONE OFF SO THEY DON'T HAVE TO PAY INTO BENEFITS!!!!! This is an INSANELY COMMON practice in business.

And the harassment, no, there really isn't a single law protecting you from it. You can have it on video, with sound, and your manager admits to the judge that he said that to you... And it's still completely legal. If you actually read the federal labor laws, you'd be surprised how little rights you have in the country as a worker. It's legal to harass you that badly that your only choice is to quit, if you don't end up suicidal instead.

And if there's reason to fire, then you don't pay into his unemployment. But when he proves you fired him for a reason that you lied about, then you do. Not every worker is bad, not everyone was fired because they were bad workers.
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 63
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Posted: 10/12/2012 9:16:35 PM

There you go. They can't just fire you because they are bored or you are wearing the wrong jersey. It's against federal law.


Here's what my job's handbook says about termination:


Termination Policy: If significant improvement has not been demonstrated by the employee after counceling and warnings have been given, employment will be terminated.
Although not limited to these, the following may be grounds for IMMEDIATE TERMINATION:

1. Endangering the life of a patient
2. Abusing a patient
4. Non-Performance of duties.
11. Insubordination to a supervisor
etc...


That's all they had to do. They're free to fire me for whatever reason they want now, long as it's not one of the protected things that fall under harassment or the whistleblower act. I made sure to include #4 and #11 for a really important reason, if I forget to do one thing at work, they can skip right to firing me for it. If I'm a minute late, they can consider that as non-performance of duties, and skip right to firing me... If I stand up to my supervisor who decides to bully me, go against my rights, or tell me to do something that isn't even my job, they can fire me.

You'll find that stuff like that is very common when they give you a handbook... Go read yours, you'll either see something explaining that they can skip right to termination either when they feel it's reasonable, or a list that it specifically says it's not limited to that list, or it points out that you're employed at-will.

Again, you'd be surprised how few rights you have as a worker in this country. A lot of states have had bills just sitting for the last 4-5 years that were intended to expand what harassment and wrongful termination is, but ofc things like Snooki law are more important.

You're at the mercy of your manager. You can be fired because you don't have blond hair and blue eyes, something hitler would kill you over, and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. Welcome to America.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 64
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Posted: 10/12/2012 10:13:26 PM
How often you really hear of people getting fired for a job well done??? People get fired for not doing t hings right.
or when you can find a better person to do your job then you do your job.. Yes its about making a profit.. Same thing when someone works at a company learns the trade gets good at it .. Then he finds a better paying job and moves there for more money.. Forgeting that the other company invested time and money into him teaching him the skils and keeping him when he wasnt as skilled at what he does.. Now when there is more demand for his/her skills they leave for more pay...
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
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Posted: 10/13/2012 9:43:53 AM
You're completely wrong. If they do not issue warnings and write you up you have a case.


ONLY, and pay attention to the word ONLY, if your handbook says that the ONLY way they can fire you is after warnings and writeups.

At-will employment means that they legally don't even need to have a reason to fire you. The only time a handbook can save your job is when it acts as a contract that would guarantee your job, meaning it says specifically what you can and can't be fired for, and outlines their termination policy covering every single little detail.

But as long as that handbook says that they can immediately terminate you either for a list that "it's not limited to" or when they see fit, you have no case, PERIOD.

You don't understand at-will employment, you only understand company policy, they're two very different things. At-will employment means that you can be fired at any time without reason, and you can quit at any time without reason.

I really don't understand what is so hard to grasp about this... Go to avvo.com, and ask a lawyer there, and be surprised what the answer is.


Not even a union can protect you from that.

Actually, a union is an employment contract, that typically comes with a rule that you can only be fired with reasonable cause, that very commonly has to go through the union. Funny how we need unions for protection from our managers, the fact that these things exist might be a hint at, "maybe businesses aren't as honest as you thing".

Usually lay-offs are allowed when needed, but termination tends to require specific steps where the union mediates any meetings, and they have to ok whether or not terminating the employee is reasonable.

You seem like you've never worked a union job before.
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 66
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Posted: 10/13/2012 4:26:23 PM

In sales the customer is always right, even when they are wrong (and whether you like it or not) and you can't talk back to them or argue with them, period. It's common knowledge. I can hear the conversation now.. "but the customer said my skirt was too short and I have a bad attitude." boohoo. (which by the way, is only affirmed by you getting defensive and argumentative with the customer) get over it and grow up.


You haven't had some of my jobs....

While we had the rule that we had to treat the customers with respect and everything, our manager was there for us to tell that person off. Even better, is it really seemed like that helped increase our sales since now they felt bad for how they treated us.

My boss (the store owner) would tell them that we're not going to help them until they apologize for how they were treating us, sale prices were non-negotiable if they insisted on being jerks to us.

It was his money to risk by standing up for us like that, so it was ok for HIM to do it... That was the best manager I've ever had, he was the only one that truly cared for his workers and would actually stand up for them.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 67
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Posted: 10/13/2012 5:47:58 PM
@prettyin Roses, I have to agree with Confuzzled4ever. Its not up to you to argue with a customer. I always said and still say that customers are mostly not right. But if you do have a customer that give you problems thats when you call the manager. Its up to the manager to handle problem customers. I told plenty of customers to leave my place when I over heard them talk to my employs in the way I didn't like. I didn't need my guys tell me anything. One time I had a new guy start to argue with a customer and he was in the right. I heard how it started, I did ask the customer to leave. Also told my guy to not do that again and just let me know he has wants the customer away from him. I always take care of my people, They are the ones who make me the money. BUT its me who makes the choice they work for ME. I did let go of a guy for not following those exact instruction. Thats why I'm the boss.
PrettyinRoses yes you would have been fired as well. No one needs to deal with your behavior at work. Unless you are the boss or the manager.
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
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Posted: 10/13/2012 6:38:41 PM
I always wondered though, how much different would the world be if the workers did just all fight back. It's not like it's hard to not be a jerk. Except, ofc, there ARE a lot of people who learned if you get mad and start complaining, you get free stuff. Just bought a chicken? Call the company and complain it was too dry (even though it was really the best chicken you've ever had), and you'll get coupons for stuff, a lot of times for something free.

Luckily, as customers, we can help... I don't hesitate to tell the old guy in front of me arguing with the cashier over the price of something when he's wrong: "shut up, you're wrong about the price, pay for your stuff and get out of my way so I can buy my milk and go home". Or yell back at the person yelling that there weren't enough parking spots close to the store.

And some managers will step in for their employees and say what these people need to hear, and even kick them out of the store...

But what if that cashier getting yelled at was allowed to step up? What if when the old guy complains that there's no shopping carts, the worker could just tell him he should have taken one of the ones he parked by, cuz they're just as good as the ones collected and put in front of the store? What if cooks were allowed to say that if you don't like the way they cook their food, then stay home and cook for yourself? What if waiters were allowed to tell someone never to come back because they didn't tip them because the food wasn't done right or took too long, like it was somehow their fault? Or if they were allowed to follow them outside and demand their money for the food that they didn't pay for, since at a lot of places, it comes out of the server's tips when that happens?

I don't think the need to fight back would ever really come up. I think how out of our way we go to avoid offending someone is a big part of the reason that so many people walk all over workers when they go somewhere.

What would working with the public be like if you were allowed to treat them the way they treat you?
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 69
Why Does Our Society Look Down On Unemployed Men So Much?
Posted: 10/13/2012 9:00:52 PM
but if everyone consistently talked back to them the way they were talking to them, don't you think that might stop them from walking into a store and yelling at everyone, because they don't want to be yelled at themselves?

I'm not talking about one cashier in a store standing up for themselves, I'm talking about if suddenly every single worker in the US started doing that. Would you still have the problems with customers treating people like crap, or would that problem stop? And when it comes to losing business... They can stop going to your food store, and they'll go somewhere else and get the same thing, then probly just end up back at yours cuz of the convenience... You can't boycot every store in the world when you rely on them to buy food so you can eat...

Also, we're kind of the exception of workers not sticking up for themselves. The US is painfully over-obsessed with not offending anyone. Go to another country and walk into a store and start yelling at the cashier about something that he had nothing to do with and see what happens.

Also, customers can cause other customers to go somewhere else too. Where I used to live, there was a RiteAid, and the people shopping there were SLOW. Just getting money out of their wallet and handing it to the cashier took close to a minute. Unloading their shopping cart, because everyone had a shopping cart took a while, because they had to tell the cashier why they're buying it... Know what happened? People started going to Walgreens instead because they were tired of spending so much time in line behind these people. I used to work with one of their cashiers (it was his second job) and we were talking about the people shopping there once. How slow they were was the biggest customer complaint the store was getting, and they were actually losing business over it... BUT, corporate rules, you're not allowed to tell the customers they have to move faster because there's a line behind them.
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 70
Why Does Our Society Look Down On Unemployed Men So Much?
Posted: 10/13/2012 9:29:00 PM
You assume there's free people to pull away from their jobs to do that. Remember, a person has to physically exist first.

There's only so much a manager can do.

But when Federal law can come to a difference of opinion, I guess it's OK for a manager to higher beyond what corporate allows just to have someone there just in case there's slow customers in the store
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 71
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Why Does Our Society Look Down On Unemployed Men So Much?
Posted: 10/14/2012 7:07:23 AM
@pretty

Lets turn this around a bit .... you for example are a customer coming to this forum to acquire a product... peace of mind, behavior validation, insight, etc

Many have told you that you are wrong or misguided and the golden rule applies... "the one with the gold makes the rules"

Instead of taking your place in line and going on your way ... you choose to linger and give resistance and pushback... because you want what you want... and only what you want... right now...

This will escalate until you tire of the same answers and leave or there is a conflict and a clash of personalities.... do you see??? .... you are acting in the same way here as a customer who was in your store???

LEARN HOW TO SIDESTEP ISSUES.... and NOT always confront... you are not God... you are not responsible to train every person in the RIGHT ways of life...

If you continue on this life path of conflicts you will always be "less than" your full potential in every possible way

Additionally, you have hijacked this thread about men and relationships into something ALL ABOUT YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU..... get over yourself or stay miserable
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 72
Why Does Our Society Look Down On Unemployed Men So Much?
Posted: 10/14/2012 7:47:24 AM

It is not their business, their profit or their judgement call to make.


But it's their job, their every day life, their sanity, and in rare cases whether or not they kill themselves.

The LAST thing anyone should be doing to someone who might be depressed and suicidal is telling them how terrible they all are at their job... Such a great way to put them down more.

When the employee isn't allowed to be the one to say something, fine, but that manager needs to be there for them to be the one to do it. Something is VERY wrong in this country when you're expected to deal with abuse every day just to make minimum wage.

And again, if EVERY worker in the country was standing up for themselves, these people would have no choice but to be nicer, because no matter where they go, nobody is going to take their crap
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