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 lookingforbigo
Joined: 8/10/2011
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when a woman is on top her clit will grind on a guys pelvis
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 10/17/2012 8:03:03 PM
and every time I read a post by a woman claiming other women are lying

Why women feel the need to boast about vaginal orgasms they don't have, I have not idea. Recipe for disaster and frustration

it makes me so thankful I am not so ignorant to think we all have the same experiences!!
Why the hell would we lie?
Lying (as in faking) definately leads to frustrations, that I will agree with.....
I'd much rather tell a man what he is doing isn't going to get me there, then to mislead him into thinking what he's doing is what I want him to do all the time equating to me not ever having an orgasm!
Which I may not expect to happen "every time"......but sure as hell want to happen "most of the time"!!

frikken drives me nuts that another woman thinks she knows my body better than I do.......grrrrr!
 GarnerGirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Posted: 10/17/2012 9:48:55 PM

At the end of the day sex is not about orgasms


The hell it isn't! Once in a while if it doesn't happen, I'll get over it. But I won't continue to sleep with someone that doesn't or can't ring my bell.


Why women feel the need to boast about vaginal orgasms they don't have, I have not idea.


Why you feel the need to act like you are the authority on orgasms, I have not idea! My vaginal orgasms are much more intense than my clitoral orgasms have ever been. My sensitive spot is very deep and in the area of my cervix... heck, it might even be my cervix, but I've never been in the mindframe to analyze it. Firm pressure with fingers will make me gush, as will intercourse in missionary or doggie style. Clitoral stimulation then is more of a distraction than anything.
 Inicia
Joined: 12/21/2007
Msg: 69
women: orgasms during intercourse?
Posted: 10/24/2012 7:00:28 PM
For me, I have had several different kinds of orgasms, self and lover induced. my first lover I climaxed and could be gaurenteed a climax any time we had intercourse. The reason I chose him over other lovers. I chose to love him because he satisfied me however our partnership proved to be incompatible with long term monogamy. I found this trust in long term monogamy to be the contingent emotional state for orgasms. As I no longer trust the commitment to long term monogamy for either party I find my orgasms much harder to gain during intercourse. I feel as though intercourse without my climax is no investment on my part, I can afford the enjoyable act of intercourse without investing the intimacy of my climax. Save my orgasms for myself if the partner isn't invested equally.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 10/24/2012 8:10:16 PM
I was having Gspot orgasms long before I knew what they were called!!
No one made me feel "pressured" to have one......that's frikken ridiculous!
I know exactly where mine is, and know how to angle myself so it gets stimulated.
I have discussed the Gspot with my physician ...and she has one too!!

Once again........why do you think we are lying?
You can google your hearts content out trying to disprove it.......and I could google and find just as many reports to prove it.
But I don't have to, because I have actually experienced it!
That's all the proof I need......

it's a damn shame someone would accuse millions of women of lying just because of her own experiences.
 ZombiezRock
Joined: 10/17/2012
Msg: 71
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Posted: 10/25/2012 6:28:49 PM
What I find funny is how many men out there thinkkkkk they do it, but they don't my job includes talking to women about their lives and typically it turns towards their romantic issues, and I tell women to never fake it not even once it starts a bad habit but some women are the bestttt fakers out there! the dont want their men to feel less than but they still are not getting off. It is very hard for mannnny women to cum and a special, very intuitive lover is key , one that first off actually cares if she does and then takes the time to learn her, and her realllll signs.... Im sure there are the women out there that do not fake it well, but Ive spoken to at least a 100 women just on myown that thier boyfriends /husbands never new they faked it so for you men on here I see that are throwing out answers that make sense and are caring and giving-- awesomeeeeee jobs!! just had to say that .... finding a man that can truly please a woman is a jewel so much really does go into for the male they have the harder job I think, well I know!!!
 Alonenomore4sure
Joined: 10/21/2012
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Posted: 10/26/2012 4:51:48 PM
I have a different perspective on the whole thing. To me, I don't care if she cums or not and I am comfortable with that. She knows that I don't care and tries to make certain that she makes an extra effort to cum. Whether it be by repositioning herself or even faking it. To me it doesn't matter if she even enjoys the experience because when it comes to sex, I make the moves and if they are not doing it for the woman then, it's time to move on.
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 73
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Posted: 11/26/2014 7:18:24 AM

Funny thing.. if you think it won't happen, it won't. If you think it will happen, it will. Wonderful things, those self-fulfilling prophecies. *grins*


So not true for some of us. :(
I would bet you didn't think you could until someone did it for you.
Mind over matter is a big hurtle to jump when from day one,and decades later
you have never orgasmed without clitoral stimulation.

I truly doubt that the" 75% of women" who don't orgasm from penetration alone are just not thinking positively.


I have a different perspective on the whole thing. To me, I don't care if she cums or not and I am comfortable with that. She knows that I don't care and tries to make certain that she makes an extra effort to cum. Whether it be by repositioning herself or even faking it. To me it doesn't matter if she even enjoys the experience because when it comes to sex, I make the moves and if they are not doing it for the woman then, it's time to move on.


Wonder what your perspective and experience would be if you did care?

I assume you meant if they didn't appreciate your lack of care about their pleasure they should move on!

I know I would if I was with someone with your mentality.
 Dan198508
Joined: 11/7/2014
Msg: 74
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Posted: 11/26/2014 8:17:26 AM

I learned a valuable lesson years ago. It's very simple, and I've taken it to heart as it came to me from a wise sage I once knew.

"There's no such thing as a frigid woman, only clumsy men".

If a man will take time to learn his craft and trade with his woman, it will be to the benefit of them both.

Best,
Rabbit.


That's not true sir. Orgasm is possible due to a dopamine increase outside the axon terminals. If her attention deficit disorder was mis-diagnosed as depression and she was put on an SSRI instead of Adderall or Ritalin, she won't cum even if you're Brad Pitt, even if you automatise the intercourse with a mechanical device, day-long. Her brain is mis-tuned in a way in which she just can't ever achieve that.

When it comes to quality sex, serotonin is poison. And sex increases serotonin by itself. If she takes too many SSRIs, you CANNOT make her cum. Some people on bluelight.ru reported a successful usage of cyproheptadine in inhibiting serotonin increase during sex. They said that after the first orgasm, during onset of cyproheptadine, the second orgasm was achieved faster than the first, and the third was achieved faster than the second.

At the peak of cyproheptadine concentrations, orgasms took only a few seconds to achieve. On cyproheptadine comedown, orgasms were impossible to achieve regardless of stimulation. Users reported that, IVing methamphetamine during cyproheptadine comedown only slightly improved their ability to achieve orgasm and nearly caused serotonin irritation symptoms because, after an hour or so, serotonin was increasing faster than dopamine.

Also, if you look at statistics:

- 23% of women in their 40s and 50s take antidepressants, a higher percentage than any other group (by age or sex)
- Women are 2½ times more likely to be taking an antidepressant than men

Anti-depressants, commonly SSRIs, will lower or inhibit your ability to orgasm! And your man has nothing to do with it! A handsome man that knows how to please a woman will increase her dopamine...a bit...but he CANNOT compete with potent medication, EVER.
 yamen987
Joined: 11/10/2014
Msg: 75
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Posted: 11/26/2014 1:21:53 PM

That's not true sir. Orgasm is possible due to a dopamine increase outside the axon terminals. If her attention deficit disorder was mis-diagnosed as depression and she was put on an SSRI instead of Adderall or Ritalin, she won't cum even if you're Brad Pitt, even if you automatise the intercourse with a mechanical device, day-long. Her brain is mis-tuned in a way in which she just can't ever achieve that.

When it comes to quality sex, serotonin is poison. And sex increases serotonin by itself. If she takes too many SSRIs, you CANNOT make her cum. Some people on bluelight.ru reported a successful usage of cyproheptadine in inhibiting serotonin increase during sex. They said that after the first orgasm, during onset of cyproheptadine, the second orgasm was achieved faster than the first, and the third was achieved faster than the second.

At the peak of cyproheptadine concentrations, orgasms took only a few seconds to achieve. On cyproheptadine comedown, orgasms were impossible to achieve regardless of stimulation. Users reported that, IVing methamphetamine during cyproheptadine comedown only slightly improved their ability to achieve orgasm and nearly caused serotonin irritation symptoms because, after an hour or so, serotonin was increasing faster than dopamine.

Also, if you look at statistics:

- 23% of women in their 40s and 50s take antidepressants, a higher percentage than any other group (by age or sex)
- Women are 2½ times more likely to be taking an antidepressant than men

Anti-depressants, commonly SSRIs, will lower or inhibit your ability to orgasm! And your man has nothing to do with it! A handsome man that knows how to please a woman will increase her dopamine...a bit...but he CANNOT compete with potent medication, EVER.



This is true to me based on my experiences. Although some medications affect different women differently. Knew a woman who took xanex that could not get off and would get frustrated about it. We went our different ways because it also made her mean.
 Dan198508
Joined: 11/7/2014
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Posted: 11/26/2014 4:32:20 PM

This is true to me based on my experiences. Although some medications affect different women differently. Knew a woman who took xanex that could not get off and would get frustrated about it. We went our different ways because it also made her mean.


Reports like that are common:



OK it's probably been brought up 100 times B4 now but i've done a search on this site & can't find anything without going through topic after post after post coz the search results dont highlight specific words & it's driving me mental.............
I cant climax.
I know it's coz of the friggin Xanax coz i've been on it for about 2 wks and since then: Nothing. I've tried satisfying myself & even then: Nothing. :oops:
Are there any other women out there who are going (have gone) bloody crazy & increasingly frustrated with this dysfunction? Or dealt with it?
Should i go back to my doc & ask?
Help!


The thing is, IF she can orgasm, the orgasm will be fkn great on GABAs. Really good. Problem is many can't get there without dopaminergic help. I can understand the frustration.

Users on bluelight reported that this orgasm inhibition can be overcome with excessive rubbing, but the rubbing has to get so intense that the arm muscles often go sore before orgasm, and you can also damage the nerves by trying too hard.

Say the serotonin/dopamine/norepinephrine with an SSRI is:

-------Dopamine: ||||||||||||||
--------Serotonin: |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
Norepinephrine: |||||||||||||||||| (60bpm heart rate)

This is a "can't cum" situation. If you now add oral 30mg Adderall IR to this, 2 hours later it would yield something like:

-------Dopamine: ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
--------Serotonin: ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
Norepinephrine: ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| (130bpm heart rate)

And assume you add 50ug Clonidine you would get:

-------Dopamine: ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
--------Serotonin: |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
Norepinephrine: ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| (80bpm heart rate)

Both scenarios represent abnormal levels of serotonin and norepinephrine. So you have a choice of discontinuing the SSRI and yield a shitty (but feasable) orgasm:

-------Dopamine: |||||||||||||
--------Serotonin: |||||||||||||
Norepinephrine: ||||||||||||||||||

Or you can supplement amphetamines with clonidine and have a great orgasm. The problem is that psychiatrists don't care if you can't cum. As long as you don't jump off a bridge, to them you're FINE.
 yamen987
Joined: 11/10/2014
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Posted: 11/26/2014 4:44:19 PM
Agreed. More than just my arms were tired. lmao
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
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Posted: 11/26/2014 9:46:36 PM

Or you can supplement amphetamines with clonidine and have a great orgasm. The problem is that psychiatrists don't care if you can't cum. As long as you don't jump off a bridge, to them you're FINE.


Dude, dude cut it out. YOu're getting too technical of us. What you are telling us is that there's a female orgasmitron medication. If you take that to market, you will be richer that Bill Gates and the guy from Facebook.

You know, men want to have a hard on, so they came up with viagra and all the other ones. Women don't have that issue, their issue is reaching orgasms. Some can have 8 orgasms in one session. Others it takes 3 sessions to have one orgasm. Most women can only reach an orgasm through clitoral stimulation. But this would do it. What are you waiting for?
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 11/26/2014 10:32:43 PM
Yep, everyone's got a different body. What works for one nerve cluster, may not work for others due to bone structure around it.

One secret to orgasm (out of many:) ), is rythym. In some cases, the woman gets closer to orgasm, mentions it, and the guy...speeds up to "get closer". Like its home base and the faster he covers the distance, the sooner he gets there. Actually, there may be some women who also consider a distance to cover, and change the angle or speed. Or maybe their arm just got tired :)

so if you find something's working...don't alter it. that may be the missing secret.
 Dee4166
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Posted: 11/27/2014 4:25:02 AM
@Dan...you are a FOUNTAIN of information....and I always find it fascinating to read your posts about the intricacies of chemical interactions/effects, etc. You are obviously well-informed and very intelligent...
My ONLY problem when you discuss the topic of psychotropic drugs is that you speak as though they ALL behave in such a "predictable" manner, when we know that's NOT necessarily the case...More often than not, it's really a case of "hit or miss" with MANY drugs and their effects on people, because our knowledge of the human brain is SO limited....
We have seen over the years that many drugs , take Prozac for example, while being targeted for "depression" actually produced many "unintentional" side effects, such as suicidal ideation...
Sort of counterproductive....lol

My point is that the medical profession in general and that includes psychiatry, have this REALLY bad habit of assuming that everyone will react the same way to the same drug/stimulus/treatment/ etc.

We LEARN over and over and OVER again, that is NOT the case, but yet, it remains the "favoured approached" in diagnosis and treatment....
But, such is Life....

You are right about the majority of SSRI's but I have to disagree with what you said about Xanax...
While libido in general tends to decrease with the use of AD's, many women in particular that I have run across that take Xanax have actually found that by "relaxing" them, they have experienced an INCREASE in sensitivity and ability to orgasm....

I'm thinking that aside from the chemical effects, there are also psychological effects that come into play in this particular area....
But,I digress....

As far as anybody "telling" anybody else whether or not THEY have experienced a vaginal orgasm, well, I just find that laughable, and wouldn't give much credence to ANY "study" done on the subject without a whole lot more info on how the study was conducted, sample size, demographic involved, etc.
And I frankly wouldn't be even bothered checking into it because it's a LUDICROUS concept to begin with for anyone to state categorically that vaginal orgasms are a "myth", when we have actual physical evidence that demonstrates there are SEVERAL places within the vagina that are able to produce orgasm through stimulation, although NOT "all women" are capable of experiencing that....due to individual physical differences...
While both the vagina and the cervix are supposedly "nerveless" there is STILL a hot debate going on regarding this subject and we are still in the "infancy" of exploration of female sexuality if the studies are to be believed and new evidence including studies with better controls and larger sample sizes are being done all the time...

If a woman CAN'T orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone, that does not mean there is anything wrong with her anymore than those who can are "lying"...there is just not enough actual evidence to support either POV and at this point it is a purely subjective experience...

As for the poster, sorry don't remember who it was, that said something along the lines of how many vaginal orgasms are due to the clitoris being stimulated and "mistaken" for a vaginal climax, well, most of us who have been in our bodies and having sex for our entire lives, actually DO know the difference....LOL

I have personally had both and they are VERY distinct from each other and can depend on a number of factors, such as penis size, length, circumference, sexual position, slow vs fast , time of the menstrual cycle, etc.

My point is, women need to explore what pleases them and works for THEM...Don't listen to what anybody tries to "tell" you about your OWN body...
Find a willing partner and find out for YOURSELF...and don't forget to have some FUN while going about it...*wink*
 Dan198508
Joined: 11/7/2014
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Posted: 11/27/2014 5:58:26 AM
^ Thank you! :)


The thing is, IF she can orgasm, the orgasm will be fkn great on GABAs. Really good. Problem is many can't get there without dopaminergic help. I can understand the frustration.


Xanax binds to the GABAa receptor so we call them GABAs in slang. I was talking about Xanax and said the same thing you said so we agree ^___^

Also, I find it that it's good to know what a substance does as opposed to what it's maketed for. I wouldn't want to die from hypertension with viagra pills next to me thinking "that's for my penis!" :)
 Dee4166
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Posted: 11/27/2014 6:52:12 AM

Xanax binds to the GABAa receptor so we call them GABAs in slang. I was talking about Xanax and said the same thing you said so we agree ^___^


Yes, thanks for clarifying, haven't studied psychotropics in a LONG time, with the exception of those involving the elderly and convicts....LOL

NOT much need for any kind of angle as to how it affects sexuality with those groups....LOL
 SD2131
Joined: 7/29/2014
Msg: 83
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Posted: 11/28/2014 6:07:46 AM
Before intercourse i like to make sure my partner is nice and satisfied..Its important her engine is all revved up and ready to go..Once i enter, i like to have her either cowgirl or missionary where i can either use my finger or vibrator to massage her clit while i`m inside.. That always seems to work the best and i enjoy watching my lover continue to get off until she`s completly drained with passion..
women: orgasms during intercourse?
Posted: 11/29/2014 10:30:54 AM
I agree with this post, intense clitoral stimulation from my partner does it for me at the same time as having my breasts sucked and tongue-flicked and the inside of my hips nipped. Sometimes we just use a butt-plug which he twists and pulls down inside me when he's deeply penetrating me vaginally that just leaves me spinning...
 NeilMendeza
Joined: 9/7/2014
Msg: 85
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Posted: 11/29/2014 2:10:11 PM
Grape seed massage oil
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
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Posted: 12/9/2014 4:01:18 AM
If she climaxed during intercourse I would call it a gift.....because Im usually close myself....but from my experience not to many do unless they are in control and know what their looking for as in positions ...things like that....had manu climax good during oral which I love....lol
 J3LV3HL_WV3JP
Joined: 4/5/2015
Msg: 87
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Posted: 6/13/2015 1:53:01 PM
Women are supposed to have orgasms?
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/27/2014
Msg: 88
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Posted: 6/16/2015 9:48:29 PM
No, never did. Don't think it's in the stars for me.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/27/2014
Msg: 89
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Posted: 6/16/2015 10:47:34 PM
Then again I've only been with 2 men in 13 years: one for five years, and one a few times, a recent situation. The first one, my ex, was horrible. I'd try to get a beer before he started so it would hurt less. The second one, he was good, amazing. He kept talking about orgasm - did you come? No, I didn't, and don't make it about you baby, it's my thing, I wanted to say. The important thing was that everything felt amazing, he was gentle! I am grateful for the different experience.
 J3LV3HL_WV3JP
Joined: 4/5/2015
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Posted: 6/17/2015 9:22:21 AM
^^^ They were Jersey guys, what did you expect? Fuggedaboudit.
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