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 ccwfiddler1
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 23
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Thanks, Stubidoo. I pay extra for that feature, too. It lets me know whether I should bother or not. I was confused by the repeated visits to my profile....Guess the were just window shopping!! lol
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 24
Dating fatigue
Posted: 10/23/2012 5:02:25 PM
My advice:

Date less.
Be pickier.

By that I mean only go out with someone
if they can enthuse you beyond your fatigue factor.

You've proven to yourself you can get a date in here.
So just save your energy for someone who wows you.
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 25
Dating fatigue
Posted: 10/23/2012 9:23:48 PM
I think the read but not deleted ones are:

a) Warm leads for later; whereby you dont call them, they call you (if interested)

and

b) Ego boosters in their inbox, and proof to their peer group that guys do message them.

And maybe:

c) They could also be clicking read,read,read,read,read as fast as possible so that they get through all of their mail; the great dating site email reading race.

The mails are so buried that they will not get to deleting them for a real long time, or re-read them, ever. That's why I suggested to girl buddies that they do not even OPEN an email until they are prepared to tactfully deal with it. Some girls have done this to me, and there is not a thing I can judge them on. (NO bias due to my own esteem (good OR bad) that can be added to that condition. Hell; I cant even disqualify them as snobs (who care all about their timelines massively over mine) if they come to me later.

I think it's a genius plan, if I may say so myself.

It doesnt hurt my feelings NOR make me think the girl is an idiot when she goes over old ground in conversation, or asks a question I blatantly already answered, because she lost the email in the buried mass of crap that is her inbox.
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 26
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Dating fatigue
Posted: 10/23/2012 9:51:20 PM
I think the fatigue the OP is trying to describe is only obtaining five dates in a year from POF.

If that is your only avenue then it definitely put a strain on expectations. Let me say the amount of dates I obtain in real life in a year compared to POF is 5:1 haha.
 empress2322
Joined: 9/2/2012
Msg: 27
Funny footnote: she blocked me.
Posted: 10/24/2012 6:36:11 AM
No offense, maybe you were giving off a creepy vibe, or turn her off in some way.
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