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 natgoat227
Joined: 6/10/2012
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I don't see why impotence should prevent you from 'Dating' someone...
(A Relationship is an entirely different thing, there.....)
(Entering into
...unless your initial Intention of the 'Date' is Sex....
But...you'd have to 'Date' them...even if just for long enough to _Find Out_ that they are impotent...
...Y?/N?...
 2hotcougar
Joined: 3/29/2011
Msg: 27
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/9/2012 11:45:46 AM
yes i wood there is a diff cant and wont if for some reason they cant that is one thing but if you are just stingy hell no
 15111958
Joined: 12/6/2011
Msg: 28
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/9/2012 2:41:18 PM
I bet women are sure glad they don't have to deal with these problems. There seems to be an endless list of reasons for women to kick a guy to the curb.

**** them I say.
 GarnerGirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/9/2012 3:17:44 PM
^^^ That's right. Women have it soooo easy. Thank God there isn't some long laundry list of reasons guys use to kick them to the curb.
 15111958
Joined: 12/6/2011
Msg: 30
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/9/2012 3:41:14 PM

Thank God there isn't some long laundry list of reasons guys use to kick them to the curb


such as?
 margie114
Joined: 4/2/2011
Msg: 31
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/26/2012 6:30:56 PM
Honey, I think we have dated the same man!
 Hotmerlot
Joined: 10/9/2012
Msg: 32
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/26/2012 7:40:07 PM
Zombie [Men with ED tend to put a lot of pressure on their partner, tug this for an hour, suck that for an hour, do this, do that, do this , do that it always comes down to the woman]

My experience with ED has been similar to what Zombie described.

It's a lot of pressure on the woman and a lot of humiliation for the man. I don't think I would be willing to take it on.
 Bella_RF
Joined: 8/10/2012
Msg: 33
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/26/2012 8:07:48 PM
I could date someone who is impotent as long as I knew ahead of time. I would hope he'd be comfortable discussing it with me. When the time happened there would be no surprises or questions and we could satisfy each other.
 kjay41
Joined: 8/19/2012
Msg: 34
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/26/2012 9:48:34 PM
NO!!!! Not only no but hell no
 ladyofthewoods12
Joined: 6/28/2012
Msg: 35
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/26/2012 10:01:34 PM
I don't think I could. I have a fairly high sex drive and I love my sex.
 Bigcalm
Joined: 11/4/2012
Msg: 36
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/26/2012 10:16:54 PM
No women wants an impotent man. If she do gets involved/ long term, the woman will cheat on him.
Because women LOVE sex.
 robertps1
Joined: 12/1/2007
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Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/26/2012 11:05:16 PM
hey niceguyga,

Are you aware of a penile prosthesis? It's an implant that provides an erection on demand. I too am a prostate cancer survivor and was devastated to learn that I was completely impotent and incontinent, until my surgeon informed me that they "can fix anything". I now have 2 little buttons keeping company with my testicles. One for taking a pee and the other for getting an erection. It's important to not get the buttons confused (unless she is really kinky). http://www.prostate.net/2010/prostate-cancer/bob-side-effects-of-prostate-surgery/
Good luck to you.

Bob
 MrMeSir
Joined: 2/17/2012
Msg: 38
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/27/2012 2:35:04 AM
I would never date a woman who would date an impotent guy, if i could ever know that. If on the other hand, a woman continued to date a guy after he became impotent and, that relationship ended for other reasons, i would for sure.

If a woman doesn't want me for sex, i sure as hell am not going to be starting a relationship with her, definitely not a monogamous one at least. Be her friend sure, but a relationship? pfft yeah right, It's hard enough as it is to stay monogamous, then to end up with someone who doesn't even see me as a sex god? it sounds horrible, i need my partner to see me as a sex god, to make me feel like one, if she's only with me for other reasons, i'd feel used. other things are a part of relationships but, sex is pretty BIG on the list of what relationships are.
 Rapunzel1964
Joined: 10/25/2012
Msg: 39
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/28/2012 4:12:58 AM
There is a dating site specifically for people who are impotent, or who cannot have sex for various medical reasons. Peyronies disease is a pretty common cause of impotence among young, otherwise healthy men. Surprising how few effective treatments there is for it.
 MakeUTingle
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 40
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/28/2012 9:39:20 AM
I am looking for a Goddess who prefers receiving lots of oral and does not want me penetrating Her.
 baldguy500
Joined: 2/9/2010
Msg: 41
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/28/2012 4:03:03 PM
i think women would date a guy who is impotent, as long as his wallet is as thick and her thigh
 FairOaksChick
Joined: 11/7/2011
Msg: 42
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/29/2012 10:10:02 AM
Only if he was willing to do something about it, such as take Cialis or have a desire to work with me to correct the problem (in the case of psychogenic cause). If he can masturbate just fine, but is passive and resigned to his problem while in bed with me, I would not stay with him.
 paulajenel
Joined: 1/21/2009
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Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 11/29/2012 4:04:07 PM
Yes I would and have. We all get older and things don't always work like they once did. How many of us women need extra lubrication (Hint, it's a multi million dollar industry). I always laugh at these guys that are in their 40, 50, 60 that claim they never need it. It's your story, tell it how ever you want.
 niceguyga2011
Joined: 8/14/2011
Msg: 44
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 12/21/2012 8:45:42 PM
For impotent guys, like myself, due to cancer, and who can afford it, there's a much more potent drug then Viagra and/or Cialis, its called Ferrari. The dosage I found most effective is a 458 Spider. But am increasing the dosage to a F12berlinetta that's on order. Driving a ride like that, and I'm sure most woman will agree, thinks he must be lacking in something, usually regarding the penis. So it comes as no big surprise, they kinda expect it.

I'm sure there's other alternative drugs, a Ducati 1198 or perhaps go-fast boat like a Donzi, Fountain etc.
 longbeachbum
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 45
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 1/2/2013 6:42:58 PM
In April 20101 I became unable to preform due to a spinal injury. At first I kept hoping that it would return, but it probably will not. I have been turned down by women that think sex is necessary to show ones love. but I believe one can show love without the bedroom activities. Besides at 70 I am more interested in the companionship and closeness than trying to make more babies.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 46
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 1/2/2013 7:20:44 PM
Since my divorce, I had 2 relationships with men who had ED. Neither could use medication because of heart/health issues. "Sex" was enthusiastic but manual (fingers/toys) and oral, not penile. It was...um, how do I say this delicately...different. Their condition however was not why I ended it...it was the excessive drinking / smoking habits that got them into an ED state to begin with that caused the break-ups. My last two relationships were with men who functioned normally and I have to say that I do prefer the real deal over a subtitute...though finding one with adequate endowment is another issue in older men. Most over 45 men in my area of the country have dic-key-doo bellies...their gut sticks out more than their dic-key-do and that makes many sexual positions undoable and/or penetration is not perceivable.
 domainfullduplex100
Joined: 12/21/2012
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Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 1/2/2013 7:43:14 PM

For impotent guys, like myself, due to cancer, and who can afford it, there's a much more potent drug then Viagra and/or Cialis, its called Ferrari. The dosage I found most effective is a 458 Spider. But am increasing the dosage to a F12berlinetta that's on order. Driving a ride like that, and I'm sure most woman will agree, thinks he must be lacking in something, usually regarding the penis. So it comes as no big surprise, they kinda expect it.

I'm sure there's other alternative drugs, a Ducati 1198 or perhaps go-fast boat like a Donzi, Fountain etc.


Niceguy, not sure it always works with the car thing. I had an Aston Martin some years ago and most women didn't know what it was lol. So, go figure. 458 spider might be different though. more undies under the wiper blade probably.

On a serious note, it kinda sucks to read what you and others have been through. I won't ever say women have it better, but in this case, they do. Some women will of course humiliate as you mentioned, I am sure there are others that would completely empathize and see you for more than what's between your legs. I am not sure it is fair for men who have this condition to seek out normal women with sex drives as i think it would only lead to frustrations on both sides. I think there should be a matching to women who do not enjoy penile sex.
 niceguyga2011
Joined: 8/14/2011
Msg: 48
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 1/11/2013 11:35:19 AM
Yup it does suck. But it is what it is. I can't change it, I don't sweat it (despite my posts here), gotten used to the remarks/humilations. But ya gotta keep on trucking. And sooner rather then later the subject does come up, usually because my penis didn't, so you level with the woman, see the reaction, and move on. The hardest are the woman that say it doesn't matter to them or could care less, then somewhere down the line the decide it does matter. That hurts the most. Hopefully they are not using at as an excuse to split up, that they are at least being honest. Plus it did cure my of a nasty, little habit I had, prior to all this, I hung into the very last minute of a deteriotating relationship, one of my female friends once remarked, that I'm so optimistic, I would have been hanging on the edge of the propellor on the Titantic as it was sinking, yelling, don't give up, I see a ship on the horizon!!!
 niceguyga2011
Joined: 8/14/2011
Msg: 49
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 1/11/2013 11:48:22 AM
One bright side of it, is that now I can be any size a woman wants, been with a couple that suggested I try wearing a strapon, was kinda odd at first but what the heck. If works, it works. So if a woman asks how endowed I am, I can honestly say 'as big as you want me to be' & have incredible endurance & don't need condoms either. I'm the triple threat.
 varyk
Joined: 3/21/2013
Msg: 50
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 4/15/2013 6:13:15 AM
I personally have to agree that sexual intimacy is a whole lot more than just intercourse. Just a matter of what you are willing to accept and live with. I have no issues with it personally and wouldn't rule out a relationship with someone I was otherwise compatible with.
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