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 norwegianguy456
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At 58 and with last relationship ^ was 2015, makes me wonder about the future.

With Cialis + natural stuff available -- it won't be difficult to find a guy who can perform much of the time at any age. But of course, the willingness to (gasp) take Cialis. In England, I believe they made an over-the-counter Viagra. Doesn't last as long as Cialis, and the strength isn't the high V dose level (but I guess one could take two) -- but it was done because too many guys are Shy to request a prescription.

No, not at this point in my life. When I'm older and it sex matters less then yes.

You're 36, and it's not at all rare for ED to effect guys in their 30s to some extent. Amp that up in your 40s and 50s. But I don't think it means sex matters less -- I think it's more that it becomes more the Norm for that to happen from time to time + guys having some Viagra or Cialis handy for use. Instead of freaking out "Well why not?? You're making me feel ugly. And, and, wth -- you're lacking manhood? Wth?" :)
 Manofsubstance1970
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Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 7/17/2018 5:40:07 AM
"Not all women want sex or enjoy sex, many, many who hit the menopause don't like sex n don't want it or they do it as a reward, so they wud not care if a man had performance problems"
 Tech30
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Posted: 7/17/2018 6:47:11 AM
Not all women want sex or enjoy sex, many, many who hit the menopause don't like sex n don't want it or they do it as a reward, so they wud not care if a man had performance problems"

I have seen the opposite. Older women tend to want sex more. Women in their 50s and even 60s tend to be very horny and love sex. They complain that men their age cant keep up at all.

I think as long as you keep in decent shape your sex life can last for a long long time.
 Manofsubstance1970
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Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 7/17/2018 8:47:57 AM
"Men want n enjoy sex far more, than women, men can still be fertile in their 80s, but most women won't be fertile beyond late 40s max, the menopause causes a lot of changes in women, many don't like or enjoy sex during or after the menopause, women can get treatment to help with sexual problems, but many never bother n suffer during intercourse"
 Tech30
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Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 7/17/2018 9:29:55 AM
I completely disagree with you.

Women dont lose interest in sex because they are less fertile. It is shown that women actually tend to want more sex later in life. Women hit their sexual prime in their 40s while men it it at around 20
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 7/17/2018 10:45:35 AM

Men want n enjoy sex far more, than women, men can still be fertile in their 80s, but most women won't be fertile beyond late 40s max, the menopause causes a lot of changes in women

Fertility doesn't equate to sexual drive. Otherwise, guys getting snipped would care less about sex. Sure, menopause will affect women where some are going to not be into sex as much, sure. But there's no shortage of older women who are into hanky panky. Old folks homes have "too much" of it going on. You can say women aren't into sex at an older age due to menopause, just the same as guys having trouble getting it up thus aren't into sex.

It isn't quite like that. :)
 Manofsubstance1970
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Posted: 7/17/2018 10:56:14 AM
^women use sex as a reward, if a guy does x, y n z for them, many women hold up sex as a punishment for a man" A lot of women don't view sex as something to enjoy, but more as something they can use to get a man to do things for them" Some men will do almost anything to get a woman to open her legs, think of the white knights, who defend women, no matter what, we all know they are after a bit of sympathy sex n will degrade themselves to get it" women don't have to work for sex, but men always have done n I think maybe always will"
 MsMicki
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Posted: 7/17/2018 5:55:22 PM

When I'm older and it sex matters less then yes.

uhm....when does this sex matters less thing kick in? At 55 my drive is just as strong as it has always been!


^women use sex as a reward, if a guy does x, y n z for them, many women hold up sex as a punishment for a man" A lot of women don't view sex as something to enjoy, but more as something they can use to get a man to do things for them" Some men will do almost anything to get a woman to open her legs, think of the white knights, who defend women, no matter what, we all know they are after a bit of sympathy sex n will degrade themselves to get it" women don't have to work for sex, but men always have done n I think maybe always will"

I will always stand by my opinion that if your woman is only giving you sex as a reward....then she isn't getting good sex!!
The better a woman gets it....the more she wants it! So quit blaming the woman and step up your game so you don't have to earn it!!
 Manofsubstance1970
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Posted: 7/17/2018 6:06:43 PM
^Women with holding sex from their husbands is one of the main reasons for men cheating in a marriage, most women use sex as a tool to manipulate men, because they know, that men want sex n enjoy sex far more, than women do, u can't dispute this truth n u can't blame me for female nature" Women do use sex as a reward n do with hold sex from a man to punish him, this is female nature" What do women say to men? Your sleeping on the couch" Your not getting any sex if u don't do this or if u say that etc"
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 7/17/2018 6:17:26 PM

^Women with holding sex from their husbands is one of the main reasons for men cheating in a marriage, most women use sex as a tool to manipulate men, because they know, that men want sex n enjoy sex far more, than women do

You're going by nonsense from 1970. It took forever to confirm that women had orgasms. There's still ultra-ultra social conservatives who believe this is a myth (not that you do, but just saying). This isn't from the 1800s, but even in the mid-1950s as mainstream thinking (couldn't put their 'button' on it for sure even just then).

By social conditioning, sure, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy that women in said circles will have less of a sex drive, statistically speaking. But we're not living in times past, and no, women don't enjoy sex Less than men. They can hit roadblocks like post-prego depression (for lack of a better term), menopause hitting them hard (no pun intended)... but the key word is Can. Not always-does + unresolvable. Same with men & impotency which is much more prevalent than folks like to admit, but is cumming out more and more.

If we wanted to go stereotypical news-we-hear-a-lot -- then we'd also have to apply this common gripe: Men want sex more than women when they're not settled in & living together/married, but once they do, women want sex and guys don't as much as they. That's a common 'gripe'. Don't go by old wives tales (or AM Radio). :)
 MsMicki
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Posted: 7/17/2018 6:33:14 PM

that men want sex n enjoy sex far more

then your f*cking doing it wrong!!
if you as a man are enjoying sex more than your woman....than you are either 1) a selfish lover or 2) a minute man
 Manofsubstance1970
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Posted: 7/17/2018 6:38:49 PM
^ Don't be childish, just because I talk honestly about female nature, I do know about the menopause n the problems most women safer with, especially sexual problems, It's not about my performance n it's not about individual people at all, it is about a majority of women, this is a discussion thread n not about my personal life, so don't get personal n don't resort to using profanity!!!!"
 MsMicki
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Posted: 7/17/2018 6:42:14 PM
well when you become a woman....and actually know what we want...
don't think you won't be called out when spouting such nonsense...

and the "you" in my comments is regards to any man that thinks he enjoys sex more than a woman...
if the shoe fits....then go ahead and take it personally
 Manofsubstance1970
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Posted: 7/17/2018 6:45:49 PM
^Your trying to make it personal snow flake n all I am doing is telling it as it is, you choose to lash out n get personal, because u don't like me talking the truth about female nature, about the menopause, about one of the main reasons for men cheating in marriage is women with holding sex from men, if u are not one of those women I am talking about, then why are u getting so upset lol" I cud post many articles on the menopause explaining the problems women suffer from n videos about female nature"
 MsMicki
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Posted: 7/17/2018 7:03:51 PM
and I am just doing the same.....telling it like it is....
as a woman....who talks with other women....
who has been through menopause...
and know what women really think and want....

you have been wandering around here doing nothing but whining about women...
well buckle up buttercup....I'm not the only one going to jump all over that!
 Tom├ísIasan
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Posted: 7/18/2018 3:11:02 AM
^They want a man who will satisfy them sexually as well as emotionally so hard to figure that out. As long as I got a face she has a place to sit if my lower equipment ever falls she can always be happy that I enjoy it more than she does.
 acrosstheplains
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Posted: 7/21/2018 3:23:34 PM
there still seems to be at least some women who use sex as a punishment and reward. A certain ex of mine certainly did. And there are some women who lose interest in sex despite having good orgasms on the occasions they have it still. That seems to be more down to physical tiredness than mental or emotional. Then there are some women whose religious beliefs are so strong that outside of marriage; sex is totally of piste. And again some women have been so thoroughly programmed by society or family or peers, that they can't emotionally enjoy sex even when it feels great. If anything, enjoying it makes them feel mentally even worse.
That about covers half my past girlfriends....
 txwidow1939
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Posted: 8/12/2018 10:22:19 PM
Uh, MsMicki - at 79 I am still waiting to find out when the 'less thing' is gonna kick in.
 ksuser
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Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 8/20/2018 10:25:49 PM
bijinfinder "Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?

I met a great guy, who is impotent. First time we were intimate I thought something was wrong. Then the longer I knew him, he told me about his issue. I have to be honest-it's very difficult for me to do the things I need to do for him. I have worked out the fear of things and managed, but it's just gawd awful. And I wasn't use to it that way. So to be honest I'm on the fence right now with him. I want to please him, and yet it's very hard for me to get out of my head. I wish he could just take a pill for that....I know it bothers him to not be able to function. I am at an age where it's not all about the sex anymore. But come on....I still want it. And yes, toys help and he has plenty of those. Orgasms are not hard to get. So, I don't know....if it's for me.
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Posted: 8/23/2018 1:27:53 PM
I would NOT date a guy who is impotent. I do somewhat date a guy who is impotent. We are just platonic friends. We are both looking for someone to be more, but we are just platonic friends.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 8/23/2018 2:25:34 PM

one of the main reasons for men cheating in marriage is women with holding sex from men, if u are not one of those women I am talking about, then why are u getting so upset lol

You both are getting upset. And to be fair, no, men don't cheat usually due to women "holding" sex from the guy. I'm sure lack of sex is a big ingredient in most the cases for both men And women cheating on the other -- but I would say usually the real reason is what's Causing the lack of sex (ie, the lack of interest).

there still seems to be at least some women who use sex as a punishment and reward. A certain ex of mine certainly did.

It would be crazy for a guy to already Be in a Relationship where the GF was using it as punishment/reward. I can understand when you're "just" dating, that the guy doesn't Walk from her swiftly enough if she's playing that game... but the guy should GTFO if the gal's playing it that way. Getting involved in a Relationship when she's like that? Wow. They're not that into you if they're playing that Game.

And there are some women who lose interest in sex despite having good orgasms on the occasions they have it still.

Over the years, I've had my fair share of dating experience... I can't say that a gal having (non-fake) good orgasms would lose interest in Sex. Maybe still lose interest in the guy, thus, not being motivated to have sex with him much. As a side note, if the gal does in fact Enjoy the sex with her BF when she has it, but is not that interested in having sex with him much -- you can pretty much bet she's Cheating and/or has an planned agenda to break up soon. And, obviously, switch genders and it's the same too.

And again some women have been so thoroughly programmed by society or family or peers, that they can't emotionally enjoy sex even when it feels great.

I think there's not many to really shake a stick at. I think it's more like: There's some women who can't emotionally enjoy sex with someone they Just met and aren't dating (yet?). And as a side note, I disagree with "even when it feels great". If they're not enjoying sex, it's not going to feel great. Now, difficult to Orgasm despite the sex being great, but they aren't comfortable with the guy from head to toe yet -- yeah, I understand that aspect.

I do somewhat date a guy who is impotent. We are just platonic friends. We are both looking for someone to be more, but we are just platonic friends.

Wait, tho. If you're JUST platonic friends, then you're not even "somewhat" dating a guy. At all. If you're Just platonic friends, your relationship is no romantically or sexually different than with your aunt Betty. If you're "somewhat" dating a guy -- you're basically FWB, which is not merely platonic at all.

If you're any level of friends with a guy who's impotent -- you should refer him to get some generic Cialis or generic Viagra overseas for cheap. Help a brother out. ;)
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