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Joined: 7/17/2012
Msg: 26
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maybe kissing fullfills you more than intimate contact...which is not strange......that is why I have learned to enjoy what the lady presents that arouses me
Joined: 5/13/2012
Msg: 27
Posted: 11/3/2012 1:39:39 PM
There is no difference between sexual proxmity and kissing. it's all the same, it's just done in different way. Now, You may think that sexual proximity is just sexual intercourse and then kissing is OK. They all connect to your prain and drive your emotions to the core of your heart. If you make kissing steps, then there is no forgiveness or excuse for the other. They are all wrong as long as they are done outside of marriage. Feel hurt when you kiss someone who's not your destined partner to be, right? I guess so.
Joined: 9/3/2012
Msg: 28
Posted: 11/3/2012 3:29:02 PM
By all means kissing is more intimate than sex, I agree all heartedly. It's not weird at all, it actually makes total sense. No need to explain any further, those who get it will agree, those who don't never will.
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 11/3/2012 4:43:27 PM
I know sex workers who do not kiss at work as this is too intimate a 'thing' for them to include on the menu.
I know that I enjoy kissing a lot and it is the passions which sometimes flow from this, can lead to sex. It makes me wet and if he's a gr8 kisser, it makes him more desirable. It's part of foreplay.
If sex were less intimate, we'd all be walking around showing our 'bits'.
People don't generally touch your face, ears or neck. During kissing, these areas become erogenous zones.
Joined: 6/18/2011
Msg: 30
Posted: 11/4/2012 6:07:44 PM
You are making perfect sense to me. As you say "sex in of itself" can be just sex or it can be very intimate. For me, if its a woman that I care for or love, kissing is a big part of foreplay and reaches its height during sex. Then of course the afterplay while your bodies are entangled, the conversation and soft intimate and really builds a bond. Now if its just sex, when we are done, its time for you to go lol
Joined: 9/16/2012
Msg: 31
Posted: 11/8/2012 9:46:19 AM

does anyone else agree that kissing is much more intimate than, sex

Nope .. don't agree
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 33
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Posted: 11/9/2012 10:32:33 AM
While Kissing , in itself , is very erotic....Tongue-Wrestling can also be an integral part of the whole Lovemaking Process!!
(Oral excluded, of course . . .
but then again . . .
I Do really like kissing toes and calves and thighs.... while fully involved with the whole Oral Process , too!!!)
Joined: 11/2/2012
Msg: 34
Posted: 11/9/2012 12:18:36 PM
I so totally agree as both man and marriage counsellor in training. My friends both mien and women who have casual sex say they hold back on the kissing. To me kissing is the most tender and vulnerable meeting of lips; lips that can build or maim the other. Being without kissing eight years post divorce, I realize for the first time , that is, discovering for the first time what it cojld have been about and how crucial and beautiful and enriching it is to a man woman relationship.
Joined: 11/2/2012
Msg: 35
Posted: 11/9/2012 12:20:40 PM
But in actuality,...kissing is a learned skill,..a practiced one. TO expect someone to be a good kisser requires that BOTH of the couple embrace humility and learn to be learners as related to kissing. And what better way to enrich the relationship- building process than to humbly and mutually surrender to the shared discovery and pleasure of kissing
Posted: 11/11/2012 7:38:19 AM
I imagine kissing a woman like I'd kiss kitty...or vice versa. That's always a good approach.
Joined: 2/18/2011
Msg: 37
Posted: 11/12/2012 4:16:38 PM
I agree. I've had FWBs who I rarely, if ever kissed. If I really like a guy, I can't stop kissing him.
Joined: 10/31/2012
Msg: 38
Posted: 11/13/2012 4:31:10 PM
There is something about kissing that touches you to the core. I enjoy the true intimacy of kissing. I also agree with being able to kiss without sex and be happy but I could never enjoy sex without kissing.
Joined: 2/9/2010
Msg: 39
Posted: 11/13/2012 4:43:07 PM
ahhh yes the intimacy of kissing......gotta love it...especially when you find yourself licking and sucking out the 2 week old spaghetti from her molars and then you get deep into her wisdom teeth and snag yourself the 4 month old corn that has somewhat has a "funky sensation as ya roll it out of her mouth into yours and let it slide down your tongue into your esophogus and you swallow.......then burp.........and then you go back in for more more more.......
Joined: 11/6/2012
Msg: 40
Posted: 11/13/2012 5:12:00 PM
Totally agree with you, nothing like a passionate kiss to see if any feelings are there.
Joined: 10/12/2009
Msg: 41
Posted: 11/13/2012 5:14:44 PM
"I always laugh when someone says this. I picture you and your whatever, perhaps in a grocery store, and one of you slips on a bit of produce. The other is standing too close, and suddenly OOPS!!! you realize "we just had sex! How unfortunate!"

This had me laughing, and reminded me of when Tiny Tim (the 'Tiptoe through the Tulips' guy) was on The Tonight Show ages ago. His wife 'Miss Vickie' was pregnant at the time. Tim & Vickie supposedly slept in separate bedrooms, and when Johnny Carson asked how she got pregnant, Tim replied "We bumped into each other in the hallway." :o)

(Love the gate/temple analogy, BTW!)
Joined: 11/6/2012
Msg: 42
Posted: 11/13/2012 5:15:36 PM
Totally agree with you, sex without kissing and touching is like mowing the lawn, you get the job done but it is no fun at all.
Joined: 11/3/2012
Msg: 43
Posted: 11/14/2012 4:16:18 AM
MMMMM Kissing!

Very intimate and good kissing is a must in a woman I'd be interested in. Kissing, cuddling, and the little things are as important sex itself. In reality no one is in bed 24/7. Kissing, holding hands, smiles, touching all the intimate things you do out of bed are as important as what you do in one.
Joined: 10/22/2012
Msg: 44
Posted: 11/14/2012 7:07:29 PM
Not sure I think of it the same. I think it's what builds to ????? you now you think to yourself what type of kiss are we aiming for here? Sensual? Thanks? Im sexy? I'm talented? Have your way with me? Kisses can be so many things including just for fun...
Joined: 2/9/2011
Msg: 45
Posted: 11/20/2012 4:44:19 PM
i want a woman or man with braces to kiss run toung across wires my bigest fantisy. want to hold them in moon ligt with mon shinning on smileing face as im looking down at them
Joined: 8/13/2012
Msg: 46
Posted: 11/20/2012 6:58:44 PM
Grab me and kiss me deeply.... no matter what mood Im in...I'll melt. {Best Forplay!}
Joined: 11/9/2012
Msg: 47
Posted: 11/21/2012 5:04:42 PM
There is a lot of guys that have no idea how to kiss ...I mean passionately long deep kisses......
Joined: 5/28/2010
Msg: 48
Posted: 11/21/2012 5:12:59 PM
Do yall find that kissing is a good indicator of how well you will mesh together sexually?
I mean I once dated a man I really liked but we didnt kiss well. He seemed all teeth to me and kinda short with them but We dated often for quite a while. Sex was a disaster. I think that first kiss was really all I needed to know that it was gonna be bad.. well... not bad but kinda eh. I should have stopped at the kiss. forever.
Then I dated another man I really liked and we kissed very well. Sex was wonderful and we were together three years. (ended a long story).

So, for me its always been kinda a telltale of some sorts of how we will be sexually.
Do others feel this way??
Joined: 10/27/2012
Msg: 49
Posted: 11/21/2012 5:50:13 PM
Baldguy-- I'm not sure whether to throw up!!
Joined: 10/29/2012
Msg: 50
Posted: 11/21/2012 10:07:15 PM
Cher said it best when she said - it's all in his Kiss.
I do believe if he doesnt love you truely- his kiss will tell you.
Joined: 8/10/2012
Msg: 51
Posted: 11/24/2012 1:45:08 PM
Kissing that special someone is romantic and can be very sensual!
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