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 landor_ca
Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 105
Should men cover up their gray hair?Page 3 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)

No a man dying his hair is a bit sissy. The black dye that men use is so dense that it doesnt reflect light. Grey at the temples can be attractive on a man but not so hot on a woman. i.e. men can age and are seen as mature whereas women are just undesirable. Why stress about a bit of grey? It wont make any difference to whether you date or not.


It's a personal care product, no different from cologne, creams, deodorant, shaving cream. Is putting on cologne (which is more akin to a woman than dye is) being a sissy?

You're assuming that men will use the stuff made for men. I was told to avoid it since it was twice the cost and never had the same out, especially its lack of colours. My hair always looked very natural, and I would let it fade out a bit so I would have grey around the temples at times.

As long as someone's happy, it's all that matters. Impress themselves only.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 106
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 3/8/2013 7:04:33 PM

It's a personal care product, no different from cologne, creams, deodorant, shaving cream. Is putting on cologne (which is more akin to a woman than dye is) being a sissy?


I'm not saying that I have any objection to men dying their hair if the results look natural---however, make-up is a personal care product, as well. Do you think it's okay for men to use make-up?
 landor_ca
Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 107
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 3/8/2013 8:11:20 PM

I'm not saying that I have any objection to men dying their hair if the results look natural---however, make-up is a personal care product, as well. Do you think it's okay for men to use make-up?


Actually, a lot of men do now. Eye liners is a major one used now. Foundation is used by men as well. Also, I would consider tanning mousse (like St. Tropez) to be very close to using make-up. It's not actually tanning, and it's not actually a spray tan. It's one of those grey areas (pun intended) that is closer to make-up than anything, and men use it. The world's changed, and the days of distinct, hard lines being followed have changed too.

I've actually considered using foundation to try to hide a few wrinkles. I haven't, and won't. A make-up artist friend of mine threw it out there at me once, I pondered it, and didn't do it. That's like anything though, people ponder lots of things that they won't do, but the thought's there, waiting. Who knows what tomorrow will bring.

Is it wrong for a man to use say, pure cocoa butter, or pure coconut oil on their face at night? I don't, but I'll be honest, I might very well start. Nobody really wants to age, right.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 109
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Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 3/10/2013 6:27:44 AM

Should men cover up their gray hair?


Manscape the pubes when they go gray!
 BACwho
Joined: 2/26/2013
Msg: 113
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 4/6/2013 5:37:01 PM
I started going gray early, and I mean way early (noticed the first one last day of 6th grade early)

I tried to color it once in my early 20's, didn't end well, burnt everything and shaved my head to reset it all

Even if I thought I wanted to try and do something about it, it doesn't really make practical sense for me to. If I get my haircut about once a month, would I color it right before I got it cut, right after, about half way? Makes no sense to do it

I've made my peace with the fact I'm as gray as I am
I figure it's part of the package and if she can't deal with it, than she's probably not the right one for me
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 115
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 4/8/2013 9:49:15 PM

i love the salt and pepper look on a man, even if its a bit more salt than pepper.


It depends on the man. Certain hair colors don't age as well as others.

salt and pepper hair = attractive

salt and ginger hair = not a good look
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 117
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 4/9/2013 7:44:06 AM
I think that would be a question of personal taste. I acutally think blond and grey looks better than black or brown and grey ( it blends in better ) on women and as gingers go if someone likes the ginger look I can't see them being any more upset about a little grey mixed in than they would be if the rest was black or brown or blonde ... when it comes to women my age I think the least popular shade of natural colour on a man head is beige.


Blonde and white blend well and look good together, IMO. The white hair can pass as highlights. "Ginger" is darker red hair. What I don't personally like are men with white facial hair and a darker-colored hair on the head. I think it ages them. If men opt to color their head hair, they should color their beards, as well.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 119
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 4/9/2013 8:41:06 AM
I think you're getting "ginger" confused with "strawberry blonde".

"Auburn" is a brownish-red. "Ginger" is a brighter red.
 rocking ritschel
Joined: 2/2/2010
Msg: 121
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Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 4/12/2013 8:17:44 AM
NO !If you cant accept me for a little gray or silverfox in my hair you are shallow and dont deserve me.
 sharongirl1498
Joined: 5/5/2011
Msg: 122
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 4/12/2013 8:34:53 AM
Yum, I love a silver fox...nothing wrong with a little John Slattery or Anderson Cooper. Gray can be sexy and distinguished. And salt and pepper is nice too.
 rocking ritschel
Joined: 2/2/2010
Msg: 126
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Posted: 4/13/2013 8:46:49 PM
Maybe Ill dye it all silver and become the silver surfer muahahha:D
 rocking ritschel
Joined: 2/2/2010
Msg: 129
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Posted: 4/18/2013 7:22:45 PM
Why thank you Pisces!:) I'd like to know why peoples hair goes gray or silver and some people it takes forever?is it caused by drinking,stress ,lack of sex?
 AddHomonym
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 131
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 5/8/2014 3:33:18 PM
Obviously, I'm not a huge fan of dyeing my hair.

Ever since I was a little kid, I wanted white hair. Granted, I was a strange kid. Each grey hair is like a badge of wisdom to me and I love them!

There are a number of cultures that consider hair to be valuable and sacred even. Personally, I like the idea that our hair is a record of our experiences in this life and in that spirit, I welcome every grey, silver, white or whatever one that comes along.

Occasionally, I'll see a woman with long, silvery hair and it just knocks the breath out of me, always has.
 heybabaganoush
Joined: 7/20/2013
Msg: 132
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 5/9/2014 7:35:21 AM

Personally, I like the idea that our hair is a record of our experiences in this life


Heh, a little too much sometimes, at least for my friends that would get worried when they had to give a hair sample for a drug test when changing jobs.

I used to get all kinds of color done - blonde in summer, dark in winter, highlights for the grey when it started coming in. I just thought it was a nice change of pace, and so did the people I work with. I had the stylist that did my ex and girls hair do it, so they were pro jobs and not cheap. After I moved out here, I just decided to stay with salt and pepper, but who knows, I may do it again if the mood hits me.
 AddHomonym
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 134
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 5/10/2014 11:22:22 PM
^^^Ok, then, let's see here...DoubleDouble....DoubleMint...there she is, DoubleParked - Naughty List. Done.
 Irish Eyez
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 136
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 5/12/2014 2:35:14 PM
Personally, I love if a man's hair has turned silver or salt and pepper... YUM!!
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 137
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 5/13/2014 9:02:09 PM
MyOwnMan4ever- I was born a red head (strawberry blond), for a long time I hated having red hair, I even had more than one person tell me I should color it blond.
I love having red hair now, it makes me different and it's a part of who I am.
Covering your grey hair might make you look younger, but only change it if YOU want to change it.
I will ALWAYS stand by the opinion that changing yourself for someone else isn't a good thing, one of the most important indicators of true, lasting love is being accepted as is.
 HonkyTonk_Woman
Joined: 9/16/2013
Msg: 138
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 5/14/2014 10:23:22 AM
No...In my experience with men that try to dye their hair...it just looks gross.
A lot of greys don't absorb dye easily and it turns out being a reddish mess.....I've seen this on some women as well.
I do have to say...I'm with Doublepark....no santa beards for me...a short trimmed beard and mustache looks kept and clean.
I would rather have a shaved head on a man than dyed..combovers...toupees....ponytails..
Leave the hair dyeing to us women...lol.
But of course.....it's your choice.
 Bachelorette.Number1
Joined: 4/18/2013
Msg: 139
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 5/18/2014 8:40:11 PM
I'm with ya honky tonk.

Just say no. Coloring your hair dude, is a bad idea.
It repels me.
And I'll tell ya why. To me, men are supposed to be secure. In themselves. The hell with their hair and the hell with their ugly feet. Pay a little attention to your teeth and your abs and you'll be just fine.
 14everBlessed2
Joined: 6/21/2012
Msg: 140
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 5/18/2014 11:55:02 PM
I just had to chime in on this. As a cosmetology student (getting ready to take the boards and be licensed) I see nothing wrong with coloring your hair if it makes you feel good about yourself. After all I would not have a job if people did not like to change things up whether it be a new hairstyle, color, etc. I don't mind gray hair on a man or woman but not everyone transitions to gray hair gracefully, (myself included) some look like they have a brillo pad on top of their head . There are rinses to brighten the grey and bring out the silvery shimmers and diffuse the dullness. And yes , have a professional do it. The popular men's formulas contain metallics which are not good for you (not to say the other coloring doesn't have risks either.) Either way you decide, own your individual " look" and personal style.
 Ainen
Joined: 6/27/2013
Msg: 141
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 5/19/2014 8:06:32 AM
Don't color your hair! Go with the natural grey / silver / white.

There was a terrible TV ad for men's hair coloring. It featured Keith Hernandez (who I dislike, cokehead, pretty boy, a disgrace to the baseball uniform) and another jock doing "sports play-by-play" of a man at a bar trying to pick up a woman. First the man has his natural hair with some grey. The announcers react to him "striking out" as she rejects him for having grey hairs. Then the man uses the advertised product and has all dark brown hair. He approaches a woman and succeeds with her because she likes the dark hair without any grey. The announcers cheer his "score".

Alternatives to showing the grey include shaving your head or wearing hats, but coloring is not a good idea.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 142
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Posted: 5/19/2014 4:34:52 PM
^^^^^ The other "jock"in the commercial is retired NBA legend Walt "Clyde" Frazier. The basis of the commercial is that the guy is "reeejected!" because the gray makes him appear to look older. Losing the gray is supposed to make him appear younger and more virile.

I see nothing wrong with covering the gray as long as it looks natural. If it doesn't match your eyebrows, it can look as fake as a bad toupee.

Now the old ladies with the purple hair...
 easterparadehat
Joined: 4/14/2014
Msg: 143
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 6/9/2014 9:40:30 PM
I believe women are held to a higher standard of beauty and the age when they are ignored hits younger (40s). I don't know what culture you've lived in but women are expected to be attractive in the United States and aging is a sin.
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 3/22/2014
Msg: 144
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 6/9/2014 9:44:36 PM

I see nothing wrong with covering the gray as long as it looks natural. If it doesn't match your eyebrows, it can look as fake as a bad toupee


Agreed! ^^
Recent worst toupee ever: Marv Albert.....saw him on a recent Kia commercial.....good grief dude....sideburns are graying yet everything else is....I guess a sort of brownish color. Not attractive one bit.....albeit he had a few bits.....I mean bites....
 Chambelle
Joined: 6/26/2012
Msg: 145
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 6/14/2014 3:37:46 AM
NO need to cover up gray hair.. it can(?) look distinguished
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