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 TerrieLynnC
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 46
Married to a Disabled WifePage 3 of 3    (1, 2, 3)

I am a very helpful and caring person


Ummmm, NO your not or you wouldn't be on a dating site looking for other women............if you were that "helpful and caring" person you'd be trying to get YOUR WIFE the help she needs instead of getting on dating sites and playing your "poor pitiful me" schtick..........

I can bet that "the rest of the story" is your not getting any..............and, thus, the main reason you are here.

If you have been in these forums AT ALL, then you knew before you posted that the majority here DO NOT(and rightfully so I might add) support cheating or people looking to cheat. If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen.......

It boils down to this. If you want a divorce ......get one. Yeah, it hurts but life goes on. If you want to save you marriage, then DO IT. But going down the road your headed IS NOT THE ANSWER.
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 48
Married to a Disabled Wife
Posted: 12/17/2012 5:17:17 AM
Really? You really don't think that asking a woman to put up with a married man who cannot deal with his disabled wife is not "too much" to ask?

Yeah, THAT'S the thing dreams are made of.

I'd rather have my gums set on fire.
 KER6969
Joined: 12/16/2012
Msg: 49
Married to a Disabled Wife
Posted: 12/19/2012 7:42:30 AM
Sounds as if to me there is more to this story than you are telling. I'd be interested in hearing HER side of things.

Rather than chose to cheat which is what you are doing get some counselling. Anyone who makes the choice to cheat clearly has deep rooted personal issues within themselves that they need to work through. Stop blaming your wife for your own issues.

Did you ever think that someday your children might find out that you cheated on their mother? Do you reall want your kids to see you negatively because of a stupid choice you made? Think about that.
 Tek_Savvy
Joined: 10/13/2012
Msg: 50
Married to a Disabled Wife
Posted: 12/19/2012 11:42:19 AM

Rather than chose to cheat which is what you are doing get some counselling. Anyone who makes the choice to cheat clearly has deep rooted personal issues within themselves that they need to work through. Stop blaming your wife for your own issues.

Did you ever think that someday your children might find out that you cheated on their mother? Do you reall want your kids to see you negatively because of a stupid choice you made? Think about that.



For someone who is educated can't comprehend what he wrote? He stated he was upset and just type that. He didn't mean he would, it is out of frustration . Nobody knows for sure what's he's going through so we can't really judge him. Give the guy a break people.
 seekingakeeperinyou
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 51
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Married to a Disabled Wife
Posted: 12/19/2012 1:11:19 PM
I was married to a disabled wife for years and before she got too far I told her not to worry I wasnt going anywhere. It was very tough at times and must admit thought about but stuck by her as i am shure she would have for me.It got to the point I didnt /wasnt shure who or what I was at times in the last two years but I stuck by her till her last breath. I was a US Marine and I know and take serious "Always Faithfull" and glad I did. And when it got real bad I told Drs .I would do whatt I had to ,to not see her suffer pain they couldnt control. she passed on her own and Im here with head held HI
 strawberryrippleicecream
Joined: 10/29/2012
Msg: 52
Married to a Disabled Wife
Posted: 12/19/2012 7:53:54 PM
Op you are both in a very bad way.

Do not argue and fight, go to a solicitor, Be honorable, LEAVE the House immediately.

{ She is not your enemy, she is weak and frail ,and had enough of the marriage too. }

Same day'' get a letter drafted to your wife, by a solicitor, stating you seek divorce, as the marriage has irreconciably, broken down.

Get the letter sent to her that same day, the day you leave the House for good,get it sent by special courier, along with a bunch of red roses, for the love she has given you for years and years.

Your health and her health are suffering, because of your attitude and dogged behaviour.

You cannot say it is your house, when married, it is matrimonial property.

The House is as much hers, do not make her leave, you cannot by law,you cannot ethically either or morally,
the lawyer will advise you of your rights.

See an estate agent, get a valuation, get a realistic sale price for the property ,in writing, and then go see a bank.

If you want the House that much, buy her out, she has the right to a good quality life without you, as much as you have a right to one life ,without her.!

She is entitled to her share of everything!! plus a projection of your income for many years.

Cut your losses, be a gentleman, leave the House now, and offer your wife, and yourself aquality existence.

Dont be a marter, leave, but leave, as a gentleman should.
 sddude
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 53
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Married to a Disabled Wife
Posted: 12/20/2012 12:12:03 PM
disabled wife?

Dude she is disabled, what is wrong? you know she is disaled, go to the doctor , you may need couseling. You may be making her worse, you are the sane one I assume, in sicknees and in healthj goes the vow.

If you are caring have her get help , make her feel loved to death, love her have docs and meds help her, help her get meds counseling etc...

Even emotionally disabled people need love and caring, if you are too weak for that, you have choices to walk away and abandone her, she is not evil she is sick .

I married a woman who was disabled in several ways, she had a death sentence , I knew that before I married her she had no family it was alot of work.

I knew her as a severly depressed person negative, alwasy thinking of death, First year no one ever say her eyes dry , never saw her smile, I married her anyhow, it was in sickness and in health , after a year of doctors and couseling , no more crying smiled and laughed alot loved to live, she did not need meds , maybe your wife does.
I know emotional problems are harder on people than being not able to walk .

It is my 2 cents
 Tek_Savvy
Joined: 10/13/2012
Msg: 55
Married to a Disabled Wife
Posted: 12/20/2012 12:36:52 PM

"For better or worse," Scorpius.


Says a divorced man. lol
 Hotmerlot
Joined: 10/9/2012
Msg: 56
Married to a Disabled Wife
Posted: 12/20/2012 7:04:29 PM
For better or worse? You are like the worst, bet she didn't know that when she committed to you.
 GeekyCrazyButCool
Joined: 11/21/2012
Msg: 57
Married to a Disabled Wife
Posted: 12/21/2012 8:23:18 AM
You already know what you need to do....you need to end this situation you both sound incompatible
it's simply a waste of both your lives existing this way...just end it and move away.
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