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 SiennaBear2
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Alright I get what you're saying in reply to the 2nd quote but either way, 95% of guys watch porn and about 95% of guys are similar when it comes to what they want and expect in the bedroom and also their skill level ;)


Because for most people, it's Enjoyable, just like intercourse is. And, oral is "3rd base", not "Home Plate" where sex resides. Granted, some people put "oral" at a high pedestal, but they should realize that's Just Them in the minority, that's not how most feel. If oral is just a "birthday present" as he/she hates doing it -- there's going to be a sexual problem for most people, if not Both in that Minority. It's *natural* to like oral sex, btw. :)

Still stupid to do it if it's just a hookup aka 'dating' lol. Maybe I'm the only one that thinks it's stupid, either way, I still think it's stupid. Heck I could get a guy to pay me for doing it, what do I get out of just doing it on a hookup?
Hence guys love 'dating' because it's basically getting 'free' prostitutes.


You will date at some point, healthy or non-healthy. Sexual stuff at all (sex included)? It's not pointless... you're just frustrated & depressed about it. We all can be to some degree, but we have to work to shape ourselves over time (especially when younger), and not expect everything/everybody to more or less conform to Us, as if we have THE way (because mama says so and I can merely find others online who feel the same way). :)

Not necessarily, dating requires effort. It's easy to just not meet anyone lol. Basically I assume 'dating' won't go anywhere 95% of the time (as in a relationship) so then why even sleep with them or do anything sexual?
It's completely pointless. It doesn't mean anything, it doesn't achieve anything. It's pointless.
Now I know how guys play this game I can play using my own tactics lol and not to their rules.
Guys generally don't just like or not like a girl because of the sexual stuff she does or lack there of, so it's a expendable activity.
 Naturalselection53
Joined: 1/13/2016
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Posted: 2/17/2018 6:39:07 AM

Alright I get what you're saying in reply to the 2nd quote but either way, 95% of guys watch porn and about 95% of guys are similar when it comes to what they want and expect in the bedroom and also their skill level ;)
Don't lie there and depend on his skill level. Learn to ask for what YOU want and need to enjoy the experience. Most men don't mind guidance and if they do they arent worth your time. But you cant expect them to know what you like if you dont know yourself.



Still stupid to do it if it's just a hookup aka 'dating' lol. Maybe I'm the only one that thinks it's stupid, either way, I still think it's stupid. Heck I could get a guy to pay me for doing it, what do I get out of just doing it on a hookup?
Hence guys love 'dating' because it's basically getting 'free' prostitutes.

Dont ever have sex unless You want to have it. You are developing an unhealthy idea of sex and relationships. When you meet the right guy, he will put your needs above his own sexually. He will care whether you liked it or not. That should be a two way street.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 2/17/2018 8:02:49 AM
What about "snowballing" ?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_A58231NFk
 dragonbytes
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Posted: 2/17/2018 8:40:25 AM

Guys generally don't just like or not like a girl because of the sexual stuff she does or lack there of, so it's a expendable activity.


Not sure why you speak for men, but I would never get into a relationship with a woman that wasn't into oral sex. And I would leave the relationship if she changed.

Strong sexual chemistry is a huge plus, granted it doesn't outweigh everything, but without it I don't see a reason to continue a romantic relationship. However, if I liked someone but lacked sexual compatibility we could be hiking or bowling buddies. ( In my younger days a casual FWB was possible but even that peters out fairly soon. :)


What about "snowballing" ?


IMO it's more one of those porn things that lends itself to video graphics but actually takes away from physical pleasure. One of those things you might try once or twice in your life just out of curiosity.

Like a reverse standing BJ, talk about uncomfortable or a Standing 69 Position.

http://sexpositions.club/positions/213.html

The worst one I tried was the The Standing 69 Position. You could break her neck if you aren't really careful, and it's impossible to relax in that position.

https://www.kinkly.com/definition/74/the-standing-69-position
 CBGB77
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Posted: 2/17/2018 12:04:06 PM
Lol,did nobody see "Clerks" ?
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 2/17/2018 5:59:07 PM

Don't lie there and depend on his skill level. Learn to ask for what YOU want and need to enjoy the experience. Most men don't mind guidance and if they do they arent worth your time. But you cant expect them to know what you like if you dont know yourself.

My guidance doesn't help, they just can't get me off, so I just let them do what they want lol.


Not sure why you speak for men, but I would never get into a relationship with a woman that wasn't into oral sex. And I would leave the relationship if she changed.

I mean early in dating a guy won't like or not like a woman because of sexual reasons unless it's really extreme I guess.


he will put your needs above his own sexually. He will care whether you liked it or not.

Honestly I don't care much for sex/ual stuff I have no libido, unsure why. I only do it because I like the guy and they seem to want to.
 Naturalselection53
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Posted: 2/18/2018 4:44:51 AM

Honestly I don't care much for sex/ual stuff I have no libido, unsure why. I only do it because I like the guy and they seem to want to
My dear child, I feel like I'm mothering you. Please go see a Dr. There are things you can get to help with this. Please, quit doing things because you think you should. Only do it if you really want to. You will never feel used or taken advantage of then. BTW, your problem is common with women. Most women don't orgasm through intercourse. You are not damaged or different in any way.
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 2/18/2018 5:27:30 AM
I doubt doctors could help me honestly. What can you get that helps?
I used to have a normal libido just over last 5 years its gone down so much especially in last year. Now its like I have no libido at all like prepuberty levels lmao. Sigh.
I mean its kinda convenient since I'm like always single I guess though.

No, guys can't get me to orgasm at all intercourse or not. I used to be able to from sex but I don't think I can anymore.
Also I have a neurological disorder, I'm 95% numb 95% of the time. Kinda used to it now. And I get massive migraines. Had to go off anti epileptic meds tho cos wasn't helping and made me mentally slow and unable to remember stuff.
 Naturalselection53
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Posted: 2/18/2018 12:41:48 PM

I doubt doctors could help me honestly. What can you get that helps?
Get them to check your testosterone level. They can give you small amounts of it. I have a friend who has the same problem and thats what she uses. She said she can't get enough sex now. I know what you mean about the epileptic meds, I take them as well. yes they do tend to effect your memory and slow you down some. Talk to your Dr. though, you are too young to not be enjoying yourself and this will ultimately effect any future relationship you have. P.S. Quit doing things to please guys if you dont want to do it.
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 2/18/2018 6:57:12 PM

Get them to check your testosterone level. They can give you small amounts of it. I have a friend who has the same problem and thats what she uses. She said she can't get enough sex now. I know what you mean about the epileptic meds, I take them as well. yes they do tend to effect your memory and slow you down some. Talk to your Dr. though, you are too young to not be enjoying yourself and this will ultimately effect any future relationship you have. P.S. Quit doing things to please guys if you dont want to do it.

Thanks for your advice, I have a doctor appointment booked for wed. Not my usual doctor because mine is on holidays. I go to a female clinic so it's pretty cool. Just embarrassing this issue and I wasn't sure if it is normal that women lose libido. Maybe not at my age I guess. It just happened so slowly that one second it seemed normal then now it's like completely gone. Looking back I can see it went down over time but then it was less obvious since it was over like 5 years.
Do you think they would give testosterone to someone my age? I don't know. Hmm. Perhaps I have hormone or adrenal issues, which I'll need a blood test for but unsure if they would just give me testosterone. I probably need it though.
Wonder if it affects other stuff because my hair seems to go through periods of falling out massively, unrelated to my diet.
Also I feel tired a lot of the time even though I sleep for massive amounts, like 12 hrs and I have a lack of energy.
 Nestaron
Joined: 10/11/2017
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Posted: 2/18/2018 8:56:32 PM
"Wrong, Do it again!"
"If you don't eat yer meat, you can't have any pudding. How can you
have any pudding if you don't eat yer meat?"
"You! Yes, you behind the bikesheds, stand still laddy!"

muahahahahaha

How you liking that taste now :P

SiennaBear2

Said woman take it slow, and it'll work itself out fine
All we need is just a little patience
Said sugar make it slow and we'll come together fine

Bwahahahaha

Having fun yet.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 2/18/2018 11:28:00 PM

95% of guys watch porn and about 95% of guys are similar when it comes to what they want and expect in the bedroom and also their skill level ;)

Another I-want-to-believe-this concept, out of frustration with dating. Guys vary in their "skill" (aside from erectile & orgasm issues, it mostly refers to going down on a girl), and guys vary in what they want & expect when it comes to sex & 1st/2nd/3rd dates... and for the same guy, it can easily vary from girl to girl on what he wants/expects/feels when it comes to that.

Still stupid to do it [oral] if it's just a hookup aka 'dating' lol

Yes, you are about the only one who thinks it's Stupid. :) Even many people who don't like oral don't think it's "stupid", even though they're knowingly in the minority. It's a Natural thing. It's sexual expression, pleasing one another.... like sex itself (or handjobs or stinky-pinky, etc).

Heck I could get a guy to pay me for doing it, what do I get out of just doing it on a hookup?

Well, the sex that many times follows it... and a guy who's good at going down on you + does it the way you'd like it, your own pleasure in that, too. A gal is not worthy of 1 ounce of sorrow from anyone, if she has sex with a guy on date #1/2/3, because she's trying to win him over. Sexual relations are a 2-way street. The guy doesn't get anything the girl doesn't when it comes to sex, and sexual relations, when shared. Sometimes Giving is a pleasure as well, even if the act itself isn't directly sexually stimulating.

Hence guys love 'dating' because it's basically getting 'free' prostitutes.

He's gotta pay for dinner & drinks. ;) As a woman, you shouldn't go out with guys where sexual relations wouldn't be a positive experience (assuming he performs adequately). So no, it's not prostitutes, nor free ones. Far from it.

Basically I assume 'dating' won't go anywhere 95% of the time (as in a relationship) so then why even sleep with them or do anything sexual?

If 19 out of 20 times it doesn't "catch" into going steady, either you're not wanting to with anyone in general, chasing guys out of your league, or have emotional problems. Because if you go out on more than 1 date (what I assume you referred to as 'dating') -- you know there's at least a 90% chance there's at least mutual attraction. If one is looking to go down relationship-developing alley with everyone they go out on a 2nd+ date with... I would say the "normal" chances to be going-steady with them would be more like 1 out of 4 or 5, not 1-out-of-20.

Aside from that tho, why do anything sexual with someone in which going-steady isn't a given (or low chance)? For the same reason you do it In a relationship. Sexual excitement / satisfaction. The question's a lot like this: Why go out to that great comedy club & have drinks if going-steady isn't a given? Well, because it's enjoyable, for one. So even if you don't ride off into the sunset in the near future, it doesn't mean it was a waste of time. You still at least enjoyed yourself doing that with them. Why go with a friend of yours? Just as much is "accomplished" with a gal-pal VS someone you find attractive who likes you on some level (initially at least).

Now I know how guys play this game I can play using my own tactics lol and not to their rules.

You're just into playing games. That's a problem. Don't play games, and things pan out better. The world doesn't revolve around you. You can't take things out on guys who you never dated before. Bitter guys & gals do stupid stuff like that.

Guys & gals shouldn't have to jump thru Extra hoops with someone because that someone has had bad dating experiences (which is Never their fault bring it on, of course - lol). And good catches don't. They leave.
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 2/19/2018 12:37:27 AM

Guys vary in their "skill" (aside from erectile & orgasm issues, it mostly refers to going down on a girl), and guys vary in what they want & expect when it comes to sex & 1st/2nd/3rd dates... and for the same guy, it can easily vary from girl to girl on what he wants/expects/feels when it comes to that.

Not really, they're mostly similar. Like normal distribution/bells curve. Plus how many guys have you slept with? ;)
Also I don't think oral is stupid I think doing it when you don't really know them is stupid.



Well, the sex that many times follows it... and a guy who's good at going down on you + does it the way you'd like it, your own pleasure in that, too.

I don't care much for sex or oral. Atleast if I get paid I get something of actual value.
Dinner and drinks isn't much when guys could be paying me 150+ for sex.


For the same reason you do it In a relationship. Sexual excitement / satisfaction. The question's a lot like this: Why go out to that great comedy club & have drinks if going-steady isn't a given? Well, because it's enjoyable, for one.

Sex with someone I hardly know bores me. They can never get me off then I wonder at the end, why did I even do that again? lol. Then I'm like OH because I 'like/d' him. Silly me.
I don't know, I'm just disenchanted by the whole thing. I don't find it enjoyable having sex with randoms, I find it depressing lmao.


You're just into playing games.

How am I into playing games exactly?
If you think not allowing myself to be used as a disposable flesh-light is playing games so be it.
Trust me, guys are lazy, they don't care for hoops. They're entitled and want things handed to them on a golden platter. Good for them >
 Nestaron
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Posted: 2/19/2018 2:45:37 AM

Not really, they're mostly similar. Like normal distribution/bells curve. Plus how many guys have you slept with? ;)


Never asked that question in my life you know why never cared, yet women still volunteer it and than ask me how many women I been with. Hahahaha that's not happening then they start guessing ask me tell them when they get close nod if higher I said it's not open for discussion.

I heard penis sizes, best in bed junk from them and I tell them I don't care sounds like "you problem".

Lady said: Doesn't it bother you that your not the biggest
Me: Did I ask?
Her: No
Me: So why would I care? I don't suffer from penis envy and you said "the guy was 10 inches". So 2 more inches he would actually achieve manhood and I crack up laughing.
Her: I don't get how that's funny, he is a man.

A man is a king,
King is a ruler,
Ruler has 12 inches
Do you still think he is a man?

Mah-Na Mah-Na


Trust me, guys are lazy, they don't care for hoops. They're entitled and want things handed to them on a golden platter. Good for them


Trust you I don't even know you. Your right I am not a dog I don't jump through hoops on a command get that self-entitlement out of your head quick. I enjoy my golden platter thank you it was won fair and square in tournament so there. I know it's good for me it only collects dust, what else is it good for women won't put anything on it some nerve. :P
 feirene
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Posted: 2/19/2018 2:55:17 AM
to know the answer to this question you should probably taste your own cum, if it tastes rank to you then most people aren't gonna want it.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
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Posted: 2/19/2018 4:37:30 AM

Do you think they would give testosterone to someone my age?


Yes, if your situation calls for it, but you need to see an actual doctor.


Trust me, guys are lazy, they don't care for hoops. They're entitled and want things handed to them on a golden platter. Good for them


Hoops?? You're damn right I don't play the hoop jumping game. A woman's sex is not a "gift" or "reward" to me based on good behavior, and I will never treat it as such. What you call "lazy", I call not putting up with manipulative bullshit.

You want to talk entitled and handed over on a golden platter? What about the women who want to put a "relationship" stamp on what she has with a man after the first date??
 SiennaBear2
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Posted: 2/19/2018 7:39:16 AM

to know the answer to this question you should probably taste your own cum, if it tastes rank to you then most people aren't gonna want it.

Its rly hot when guys cum in their own mouths ;)
 Cynderella
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Posted: 2/21/2018 1:53:50 AM

Its rly hot when guys cum in their own mouths ;)


I've seen a lot of sh*t in my day but this I've had not seen.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
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Posted: 2/21/2018 2:14:55 AM
It can happen by accident on a "high-velocity" and "high-volume" day depending on the scenario.
 feirene
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Its rly hot when guys cum in their own mouths ;)



I've seen a lot of sh*t in my day but this I've had not seen.


loads of guys will show you on cam if you ask them to, haha.
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Posted: 2/21/2018 10:30:23 AM

loads of guys


Or guys loads...
 feirene
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Posted: 2/21/2018 11:20:30 AM

Or guys loads...


lol yes but i'm gonna have to stop thinking about this topic now.

In order to maintain the highest quality forums you are restricted to having no more then 2 of the last 10 posts on a thread.

Since 2 of the last 10 posts are yours you can not post to this thread.
 CBGB77
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Posted: 2/21/2018 12:26:24 PM
In order to maintain the highest quality forums you are restricted to blowing no more then 2 of the last 10 loads on a thread
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 norwegianguy456
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There used to be a joke (more likely a number of jokes) about the stalactites hanging from the ceiling over a teenage boy’s bed.

"Look ma! All by myself!"
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