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 VolcanoKing
Joined: 8/6/2012
Msg: 26
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dreamcatcher, hahahhahah!

Seriously, I dont like being rude here but this takes the cake! A man complaining that women want affection??? And that somehow middle aged women shouldn't want any of that young woman stuff like holding hands, making out, etc.

I am sometimes truly stunned at what people assume others want..and dont want.

I dont feel a bit different than I did 20 years ago! Not in the least! Im not burned out to the point that romance is a total waste of time, boring, unnecessary. Are you kidding? It is still a thrill to get sweet cards, candy, nice texts during the day, sitting on his lap, kissing, hugging, wow! This is what one looks forward to in life!

*truly baffled*
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 27
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 7:14:50 PM
Hahaha OP you're not going to get an argument outta me...I'm not overly affectionate and wouldn't you know it - just about all the men I have met want the touchy feely stuff? Beats me. I can tell you that there are women out there who won't be wanting a lot of it, because I can't be the only one. You just have to find one. No worries!

I don't think this is about age, or gender - it's mostly about personality.
 Deadliest_Snatch
Joined: 10/25/2012
Msg: 28
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 7:20:18 PM
My parents were affectionate with each other until my mother passed last year at 88.

If you aren't affectionate, find someone compatible. Some people enjoy cuddlng and physical contact .


seek out scientists and engineers, you may find a better fit.


Oh, FFS.

 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 29
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 7:29:29 PM

I can tell you that there are women out there who won't be wanting a lot of it, because I can't be the only one.

+1 It's not that I don't like any of it. Holding hands is fine, depending on how much I like the person. Putting your arm around me when we're walking or something like that is A-ok. Grabbing me while I'm trying to make dinner is blech & mushy cards & too familiar texts that are mushy are double blech (example...some dude ending a text to me with "deep kisses"). It makes me uncomfortable...seems insincere, especially if it's not a long term thing.
 HappyLibra70
Joined: 5/17/2009
Msg: 30
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 7:41:59 PM
Because I am not dead. I would not want a man in my life who is going to hold back in affection simply because he deems that as juvinile behaviour. I much rather be alone .
 daffie
Joined: 5/21/2010
Msg: 31
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 7:44:27 PM
sooooooooooooooooo amusing...
op,
why don't you write on your profile that you are not interested in ANY public displays of affection?

that should sort out those pathetic, pesky middle aged women who want to kiss or...horrorhorrorhorror and soooooooooooooooo embarrassing...like to hold hands, express their feelings or use endearments when others are around!...
 Abbeygirl58
Joined: 10/26/2012
Msg: 32
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 9:20:37 PM
I guess we should expect a question like this from a man just looking for a woman to "bang".....the answer is because we're humans with emotions.......most people of every age want to love and be loved!!!
 BlokeInSydney
Joined: 5/7/2012
Msg: 33
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 9:37:58 PM

It is like do you still do the same things you did when you were a kid or have you grown up?

I hope I never grow up then, and I feel sorry for you if this is how you view life and relationships.

I have never been in a relationship where we didn't hold hands, kiss or share affection and I would never want to be.


and a fist full of Viagra.

A great title for a Clint Eastwood western! lol
 supplygoodguy
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 34
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 9:44:48 PM
Actually I don't really see enough of it in this world .. I'm not talking about people who take their intimacy and give others and themselves too much to see but people who express their love for one another by holding hands or touching each other or just gazing at each other like they are in love..
Not sure how many people know this but for women they've actually found that when their partner puts his hand gently on his gals knee or her shoulder to encompass her with his protection and warmth and to gester in that energy that everything is fine.. the woman's blood pressure actually is altered.. human touch alters the brain and floods the body with healing energy which is why couples who practice the art of touch in their lives live longer.. the warmth and energy of closeness sends signals to the body that we are cared for and that we get the message that we are worthy and needed .. which is why intimacy of union is so sacred and why people who engage in this type of union between only each other live the longest.. cells don't lie .. people do..
I believe that there is a difference though from expressing honest vulnerability in action than forcing too much bubble .. authenticity of engaging is the key .. and women unlike men need the all day warm up for great sex whereas men are good to go all the time.. however attention paid to being touchy feely with your partner pays off bigtime in intimacy. .. Great book to understand the differences between the sexes when it comes to sex is Sheet Music by Dr. Kevin Leman.. he accurately portrays the unique differences both physically and emotionally between men and woman and offers exercises to improve ways of communicating.

Talk is low on the scale of human communication, body language and the frame of mind is far more important in the realm of love and bonding .. heat between two people is created by action .. not words.. so every way you invest in action speaks more accurately about the health of your love life than talk will ever do..
 AusteniticSteelMan
Joined: 12/7/2012
Msg: 35
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 9:59:32 PM

I am just wondering why every middle aged woman I meet or see on this site wants a man who is romantic. You would think at this point in their lives after having two or three kids and having been married once or twice they would have that out of their system. I don't see middle aged men and women being romantic. Is this normal? I can see kids acting like , well kids but people that are almost in their 60's feeling the need to be lovey dovey. Can someone explain this to me.


Huh. And I thought *I* was rather cold and distant.

Well done OP, you have exceeded me, the lord and master of nonkinesthetic interactions.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 36
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 10:09:13 PM
Personally I love me an affectionate female. Sorry but I can't deal with Ice Queens, been there done that. I don't like acting like a child, but I do like having fun.
 SwanLake73
Joined: 4/22/2012
Msg: 37
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 10:18:26 PM
Not to mention that from a scientific view, women are at their sexual peak around 36-40. Men at 18.. Before hitting menopause and some do dry up and get over it, but humans generally crave affection at most ages.
I personally am getting close to middle age but nowhere near ready to give up the desire to be touched and hugged and etc
 vibrantshe
Joined: 3/21/2011
Msg: 38
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 10:24:31 PM
Oh – Where do I start???? Now why in the world would you or anyone else think for any reason middle age women are done with (or should be done with) affection and romance? I don’t normally speak for all women but trust me, unless me or any other “middle age” woman is in a coma, we are in no way done with lovey, dovey, romance or sex. I hope I never, ever “get it out” of my system.

From what I read on these boards and all the middle age men who are actually, my own age, who tell me they are looking for someone younger, It seems or feels more like middle age men are done with us.

FYI – My dad is in his mid-70”s and just got into a relationship with a woman is actually his own age. They tell me they are enjoying lots of great and fulfilling sex. Good for them!

I know if you older guys would just give us older girls a chance, we would all be enjoying great sex, just like my dad and his girlfriend. Guys – Think about it.
 annywn
Joined: 4/17/2012
Msg: 39
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 10:25:14 PM
Oh Lord, another one of POF's finest. With nothing to offer but a bald head a poor attitude and a fist full of Viagra.

Bwahahahahahahahaahahahahahahahaha!
nice dreamcatcher39
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 40
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 10:44:23 PM
I don't see middle aged men and women being romantic. Is this normal? I can see kids acting like , well kids but people that are almost in their 60's feeling the need to be lovey dovey. Can someone explain this to me.


Because they don't have Asperger's syndrome?
 Midwest_Southwest
Joined: 9/9/2012
Msg: 41
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 10:59:18 PM
I don't see middle aged men and women being romantic. Is this normal? I can see kids acting like , well kids but people that are almost in their 60's feeling the need to be lovey dovey. Can someone explain this to me.


Its normal for many people. But I’ve also known people who weren’t huggy and cuddly, especially in public. Plenty. Just keep looking.

And avoid the vicious and name-calling! Some real nastiness posted on this thread....
 aussiesealady
Joined: 11/10/2011
Msg: 42
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 11:00:59 PM
Your post is kind of sad
+1


Why in the world are you on a dating site if you do not want to be romantic?
If you do not want romance perhaps you should look elsewhere.
For me if I am not getting and kisses nor hugs nor any romance in a relationship then there is no point being in that relationship.

Perhaps you are seeking a housekeeper?
If you kiss or hug an employee it would be sexual harrassment.
So that could be perfect for you.
 0ldhag
Joined: 1/8/2012
Msg: 43
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 11:39:38 PM
If the day comes where i'm NOT affectionate, but shoot me.

I couldnt imagine living life without feeling in a relationship.


The guy i'm very causly seeing never hugs me, or kisses me, never even touches me unless he wasnt sex, and that is the reason we are not together officially.

It doesnst matter how old I get, I pray to goodness that my affection level never decreases...what a sad life that would be if you didnt have someone to show affection to.
 Bella_RF
Joined: 8/10/2012
Msg: 44
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/11/2012 11:50:18 PM

If ya don't like all that mushy female "romance" stuff, ya could always try switching teams...


WELL SAID TALL
 AethelRedtheBrave
Joined: 12/5/2012
Msg: 45
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 12:59:08 AM

What team are you on Tall ?


There is your problem. You put men and women in "teams" and on opposite sides.


I still don't see this as natural at my age.


Although I am a physically affectionate woman, I am not "romantic." However, I have been doing "unnatural" things my entire life--why would I suddenly be "normal" late in life.

What you lack is the understanding of perspective and subjectivity. What is "natural" to one person is not to another.

Relax. The great horde of kissy women will leave you alone.
 Therasak
Joined: 7/7/2012
Msg: 46
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 2:35:09 AM
I dont get why its a bad thing to show affection. There is a difference though between showing affection and groping or being obnoxious about touch. But if it is simply affection, then its nature. Animals show affection. Im not sure why having kids or past marriages would affect this.
I think its nice to show someone you care, hold their hand, touch their arm, its not like its full on f***ing in public, or at least I hope not..lol
Its kind of sad that you are put off by it.
 ggpaws
Joined: 11/6/2012
Msg: 47
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 4:30:18 AM
Dude you are spending way too much time watching porn with your blow up doll. Women are women at any age. They need, like, desire, physical affection and romance. Nothing wrong with holding hands, stealing a kiss in public.
 ShelbySask4friend1
Joined: 2/10/2005
Msg: 48
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 4:45:08 AM
The same reason "middle" age men are brash, non sensitive and mostly want sex....Time is running out,lol...
 windchymes
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 49
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 5:21:08 AM
A guy who just wants a woman around to service him when he's got an itch and then run off to play bingo with the girls just isn't very appealing. Hope you've got a really fat wallet to back that one up.

I think we have some serious issues with intimacy here. I see tons of male profiles who talk about wanting to be romantic, hold hands, cuddle on the couch, "spoil" his woman, etc. And why not? Love and affection is supposed to make you feel good, not repulsed. There's something wrong in the psyche here.
 ForumsGee
Joined: 2/26/2009
Msg: 50
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 5:22:25 AM
I think you should buy one of those blow up dolls..maybe then you might figure out the difference?....!

.....Dont think this is a serious post!
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