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 windchymes
Joined: 11/29/2008
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A guy who just wants a woman around to service him when he's got an itch and then run off to play bingo with the girls just isn't very appealing. Hope you've got a really fat wallet to back that one up.

I think we have some serious issues with intimacy here. I see tons of male profiles who talk about wanting to be romantic, hold hands, cuddle on the couch, "spoil" his woman, etc. And why not? Love and affection is supposed to make you feel good, not repulsed. There's something wrong in the psyche here.
 ForumsGee
Joined: 2/26/2009
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 5:22:25 AM
I think you should buy one of those blow up dolls..maybe then you might figure out the difference?....!

.....Dont think this is a serious post!
 juliettes7
Joined: 11/4/2012
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 5:26:13 AM
So how DO you show affection? If it's just sexual, that isn't unusual of a lot of men, but I can't imagine too many women
just show affection through sex and not being "huggy, kissy, feeling"...
Do you have madonna whore complex?
 Full_of_Grace67
Joined: 11/15/2011
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 5:40:15 AM

It is like do you still do the same things you did when you were a kid or have you grown up?

I don't know many "kids" who are touchy feeling/affectionate yet. Most of them don't really know how to be or what it really means. It takes years of experience to know the difference between romance and passion versus groping and clinging to one another. Hell, some ppl STILL haven't figured it out!

May I suggest you get a cat? Most are aloof and ambivilant and only need you to feed them and change the litter box. Now if you could find one to fetch you a beer and cook dinner you'd be good to go!
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 5:50:52 AM
Wow,Op,i am truly astounded at your Post.

Have you always felt this way?

Sounds like you just need lots of "techy equipment" and you're happy?
I have always been naturally affectionate with the men in my life and have NEVER had any complaints.

PASSION AND ROMANCE RULE.
 Megaladonfishy
Joined: 5/7/2008
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 8:15:51 AM
Seems to me that most of the people i've known who think like the OP were never that much into kissy huggy feely ever
 eclectick
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 8:22:29 AM
OP...run for the hills since it appears your going to be single for a very long time.

Emotions are meant to be expressed otherwise people wouldn't have them. As for you not having them??...well, prepare youself to be lonely...your going to die an old maid...I mean man!!

Some men and woman are that way, they prefer to skip all the "foreplay" and get the "deed" done with no emotions or feelings about it which is pretty sad. Most marriages and relationships die out after a few years because they forget what that "Fire" was that brought them together in the first place.

For all those in marriages and relationships, keep the fire alive...live long, hard and happy!!
 SunshineAngel99
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 8:25:24 AM
Ouch touch crowd.

Romance is important to women at that age because most women are not wired to be aroused at the flip of a switch despite being older I assume (no different than younger women). It takes time, and little nuances to build up sexual tension for women. For us guys, we can go 0-100 MPH in a blink in an eye regardless of age when it comes to sexual build up.
 Sciencetreker
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 8:35:16 AM
Good grief. My girlfriend and I are as touchy and affectionate as two high school kids. We always hold hands when walking or when sitting next to each other. We both thrive on the closeness.

She tells me she needs this type of affection and I admit that I do too. There is a warmth and securty in it for both of us. It's not just to do with sex but it sure makes the sex a lot more intimate and thus better.
 phoenix_55
Joined: 7/25/2012
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 8:43:55 AM
So, you're saying you just wanna get down and dirty and bang her like a screen door and go back to watching football and sucking down a few brewskies?

Personally, I won't have a relationship with a man who isn't romantic. And I don't mean 24/7 -- I don't even want that. And there's nothing wrong with wanting to feel like a kid again ... we're not dead yet. Everyone -- men and women -- crave the human touch. I just hope you enjoy life with your blow-up doll because no woman who's worth anything would put up with that attitude.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 8:45:02 AM
OP: Your best bet is to go after a gold digger. A gold digger will be happy to give you sex without all of the lovey dovey stuff you don't like in exchange for materialistic stuff and freebies.
 Brodigy
Joined: 10/26/2012
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 8:49:25 AM
Different strokes for different folks ... if a woman wasn't into being affectionate outside the bedroom I would personally classify her as an ICE QUEEN and think perhaps she should've been born a man - but that's just me .

I wouldn't want to " get it out of my system " any more than I would want to get the urge to merge out of my system.
 ladywyatt
Joined: 6/28/2007
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 8:59:15 AM
LOL...the OP calls affectionate women immature and yet he is all "excited about the new xbox 360 coming out"????

Now that's an oxymoron if i ever saw one...
 *Cowboy*
Joined: 4/28/2006
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 9:09:02 AM
And I wouldnt even consider a relationship that wasnt touchy, feely, kissy and romantic. I want to spend the rest of my life with someone thats still alive, sensual and romantic in all ways.

I will start flipping all the cold dead fish your way. Will that work for you? lol

Cowboy
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 10:29:47 AM
OP: Maybe you're not meeting women you are physically attracted to. Not many people of either gender want to be kissy, huggy with someone they don't find physically attractive. Maybe you're listening to the fat and ugly ones who keep professing that you should be attracted to their inner beauty only because outer beauty is only skin deep.
 Smarts and Heart
Joined: 12/15/2009
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 11:59:51 AM
I am told that I act younger and look younger than my age. I, like everyone else likes to have fun. My interests include music,my xbox 360(really excited about the newest xbox coming out in a year or so),my computer. Just recently(a few months) bought myself a new guitar. I used to play when I was younger. Planing on relearning to play


Just read your profile OP and had a chuckle. It seems that you're selective as to what childish behaviours you hang on to. Lol!

Is it just public shows of affection you're against or all sign of romance and affection; even in private?

I'll let you in on a secret. Yes all our children are raised and gone. Now's the time for us. Every living being needs a loving touch, love and affection. Children need it, pets even need it. You'd pet and stroke you dog and cat, so why do you find it strange that a woman would need some romance in their lives?
What would a woman need you for if there were no feelings involved? Just to tend to you while you play your xbox and your guitar? That's what our kids did. Are you looking for a mommy replacement?

Now that they're gone we want a man and partner to satisfy us. Not a big kid to foster.
 natgoat227
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 12:10:39 PM
I'm over 55....
BUT...
I'll be Damned if I'm gonna Get ~Old~ !!

I'll take a Touchy-Feely, Lovey-Dovey , Kissy-face Lady . . . ANY Time . . . over a money-mongering Cold Fish!
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 12:12:36 PM

Oh Lord, another one of POF's finest. With nothing to offer but a bald head a poor attitude and a fist full of Viagra.



a fist full of Viagra.

A great title for a Clint Eastwood western! Lol


Especially now at his age. ;p Too hilarious!!! You guys are awesome.

OP, I wouldn’t worry about it. Probably no woman wants to be “lovey dovey” with you anyway.
 motown_cowgirl
Joined: 12/22/2011
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Posted: 12/12/2012 12:33:29 PM
"romantic" means different things to different people; it's *very* subjective and people have different ways of expressing it. what registers for *me* as romantic is completely different than for some other people. i was once involved with a man who used to call me every day (even though we were living together) and ended every call with an "i love you". i hate to say it because i know he only had the best intentions, but it felt cloying and suffocating. "not a match".

just find somebody who sees "romantic" the same way you do, and you will enjoy those little expressions but won't feel so put off by whatever "lovey dovey" means to you here.
 Wonder5750
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 12:41:24 PM
It is my guess that the OP didn't come from a touchy feely family. Some people from that kind of rearing don't understand the joys of physical contact just for the want of being close. OP there is someone out there just right for you, another one that is more like "Sheldon and Amy Farafaler" from The Big Bang Theory. I hope you two find each other.
As you have read for the most part people love physical contact. Not just in bed but as a everyday reminder they are loved. The joy of romance will never fade for many, and I for one love that about the human race :)
 *Cowboy*
Joined: 4/28/2006
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 12:58:08 PM

It is my guess that the OP didn't come from a touchy feely family.
Funny you would mention this I was thinking raised by wolves. But wolves can actually be affectionate to their mate often soooo blows that theory.

Cowboy
 SugahPunkin
Joined: 5/28/2010
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 1:06:55 PM
I feel you should post this on your page so every woman will know ahead of time to stay away from you.

I was pleased two days ago to see a couple in their 60s holding hands as they went into the Cracker Barrel. It made my heart happy and I smiled when I saw them and hope to God that one day that will be me.

"Romance" has nothing to do with showing affection to your mate.When I think of romance I think greeting cards or rose petals and music leading to the bedroom.. but affection? Wowzers... I hope to never get it out of my system but I want to thank you for posting this as it will definitely show me men to stay away from on here and the ones to lean towards... slowly.... to kiss.

edited: OP I think youre the first man Ive even seen that is frigid.
 sddude
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 1:14:22 PM
I do not understand why it is bad to be hugged and kissed ? Go on grope me use your mouth in creative ways give me a massage , be my grope slave, it all good , I will do the same.

Unless you want her cold and dead then you got a point.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 1:27:27 PM
Damn it, If I dated a woman who didnt like to hold hands kiss whenever, hug and laugh..... OH wait I won't be dating her in the first place. I expect lots of affection from someone I'm with, Cause thats how I'm when with someone I date. I want a WOMAN next to me not an ice cube..
As Cowboy mentioned even wolfs show affection..
 angelsowner
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2012 1:34:35 PM
Oh come on...PLEASE...I will be sixty one next month...sorry but I am not dead yet...I still love getting and giving affection...At this age it is different as the hormones are not ragging but I must say it is more emotionally and deeply felt and appreaciated. As for a guy just grabbing my privates when ever he feels like it I do find that very rude and offensive. There is a time and a place for all. But giving me a kiss or hug or even a little pat on the hiney does not bother me.. Just_A_Man...dude you have issues...
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