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 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 101
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I'm not big on all that either, but it's just a matter of level of affection matching someone else's. Find someone else who doesn't really like it either. Simple simple.
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/28/2016 2:12:35 PM
I'm amazed that this is even a question. More interestingly, why is the need for physical affection still ignored by so many people? Affection deprivation causes all kinds of abberent feelings and can result in bizarre behavior.

HUG SOMEONE TODAY!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 103
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/28/2016 2:46:36 PM
How many people had parents who were all kissy and huggy, even in their 50's, after decades of marriage? People usually emulate their parent's behavior.
 BeckyHT
Joined: 1/1/2013
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/28/2016 3:20:54 PM

I was in the nursing home business for many years. It wasn't uncommon for us to find 85,90,95 year olds in bed together. Usually, they knew exactly what they were doing, and it wasn't necessarily just sleeping.

The most difficult thing was training the staff how to evaluate the situation, and what staff responses were or weren't appropriate in what circumstances.


I’d love to hear what you did do and say to those in nursing homes who ‘coupled up’!

After all, they’re adults right? If 18 year olds can go to parties and hook up, can’t 85 year olds? It’s not illegal, is it?

On the opposite side, when I had continual visits to a rest home to see a family member, I heard about a couple who were married, but eventually were separated to separate homes. I asked why I didn’t see them together any more, and was told they used to hit each other all the time. They looked and spoke very friendly to each other when I was around them in visiting rooms, but I guess it escalated into physical battles in their private room.
 sun___flower
Joined: 5/8/2015
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/28/2016 3:35:48 PM

Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship

That's the only way to give you their cooties.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/28/2016 4:48:47 PM
I feel that people in their sixties and seventies that still want all the wooing and dating are being a bit unrealistic.

However some people are naturally affectionate but that is for when there is a real relationship going on, in my view. I dont get all the kissing etc when you are relative strangers, no. That is just cheap thrills.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 107
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/28/2016 5:36:40 PM
^campfires^- Now THIS is true! (post #108)
I got quite a surprise when I went into a patients room when they had the door closed without knocking. :0 :D
Nursing homes and especially assisted living facility's aren't a place where people think sex and relationships go on, but boy are they wrong.
Some of the other nurses were grossed out or creeped out by it.
Not me, I just thought good for them. :)
I hope I never stop wanting intimacy, I would be alive, but not living.
 drinkthesunwithmyface
Joined: 3/27/2012
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/28/2016 7:06:05 PM
op:

I am just wondering why every middle aged woman I meet or see on this site wants a man who is romantic. You would think at this point in their lives after having two or three kids and having been married once or twice they would have that out of their system. I don't see middle aged men and women being romantic. Is this normal? I can see kids acting like , well kids but people that are almost in their 60's feeling the need to be lovey dovey. Can someone explain this to me.

I don't see what there is to explain here. What's normal or not, according to whatever perspective, might be irrelevant. It's strange to think that this is something to 'get out of your system'. Some people don't care so much for affection, and that's fine. But for those of us who consider some extent of lovey-dovey-ness to be a natural part of a real Relationship, it really has nothing to do with how old you are, whether or not you've been married before, or how many kids you have or haven't had.

This would be like thinking that two people who are together for sex should've gotten sex out of their system such that they don't need or want it anymore. Or thinking that an employee should've gotten getting a paycheck out of their system. Or thinking that you should've gotten the desire to eat food out of your system. All because you're middle-aged and have been married and have had children.

Just another question/perspective in here that doesn't make any sense.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 109
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/28/2016 7:49:52 PM

I dont get all the kissing etc when you are relative strangers, no. That is just cheap thrills.


That's better than expensive thrills.

Especially with no coupons.
 norwegianguy456
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/29/2016 12:23:25 AM

People get into relationships for many reasons, but the physical/emotional needs is one of them...

I would hope it's not out of a need ("Yeah, you'll do! I need someone-insert-here!"). I would hope that it's a physical/emotional desire when and only when they connect with a Particular person.

But even the 'needs' like physical 'needs' -- I would hope to quell such 'needs' wouldn't draw someone into a Relationship. Same goes for romantic emotional 'needs' that may unfortunately be had when single. Being drawn into a Relationship due to that would be bad, but unfortunately you see too much of that, too. Same damage is done, as with riding off just physical needs.

Some dudes prefer to watch a dirty video and grab the dong?

Yep. It's better than chasing gals they're not at all attracted to, and better than gals they're dating that they're not really attracted to. The latter is worse than the former.

I don't see middle aged men and women being romantic. Is this normal? I can see kids acting like , well kids but people that are almost in their 60's feeling the need to be lovey dovey.

OP, I get what you're saying. And I can see the type of couple that's all over each other, kinda making a scene with their lovey-dovey stuff -- yes, they're "acting like a kid". Like many other things, the young ones are going to have things going on turbo mode.

But that doesn't mean one shouldn't be void of any romantic emotion, expression, and action with someone else. If one is void of feeling that with Anyone, then that's unfortunate.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 111
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/29/2016 7:23:01 PM
It simply depends upon the person---age and gender have nothing to do with it.

I'm a middle-aged woman---I'm not very demonstrative, and never have been. Fortunately for me, my mate isn't, either.

One just needs to seek out someone whose requirements for affection are in sync with their own.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 112
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/30/2016 12:16:24 AM
I get a kick outta folks who address an OP who is longgggg gone! LOL On a thread started yearrrrsss ago!
Addressing the subject or topic is good, but to address the person who originated the thread? Long gone!
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/30/2016 1:52:51 AM
^^^^^ I call out people who do this by stating how long it's been since the OP posted. I'm just glad somebody else besides me does that. Lately it's been 10 year old topics.

Hint...If there's no "view profile" and "history" under the "joined" and "msg:", they're gone!
 Onyx49
Joined: 3/6/2016
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 IgottaName
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 115
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/30/2016 3:27:32 AM
Who decided to pull this dusty, old turd out of the cellar?

I am just wondering why every middle aged woman I meet or see on this site wants a man who is romantic.

It is a dating site after all...

You would think at this point in their lives after having two or three kids and having been married once or twice they would have that out of their system.

Romance isn't something to be worked out of one's system, like a flu virus...

I don't see middle aged men and women being romantic. Is this normal?

Adults being romantic? yes.
You not getting it? Not so much.

I can see kids acting like , well kids but people that are almost in their 60's feeling the need to be lovey dovey.

Why not?

Can someone explain this to me.

Hopefully, some one has at some point in the past 4years....
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 116
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/30/2016 8:27:57 AM

Who decided to pull this dusty, old turd out of the cellar?



For the answer, go back to msg 113 , look at the date of the posting, then go to msg 114 and check the date of THAT posting.


You're welcome
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 117
Why must some people complain they get what others want?
Posted: 3/30/2016 10:04:33 AM
well, when there isn't any new posts that are interesting, I guess one has to dig deep. It is like a high school reunion, tho, seeing some old faces. I liked the pics of the girls of Brazil in Halcyon's profile, especially the topless one on the left. naturally curvy.

if you want to know why this post got brought back from the dead, go to msg 113, subtract 2, add 14, then multiple by 0. Then you'll know as much as the rest of us.

meanwhile, some of those middle aged broads kept their nice figures, so if they wanna hold that against me, I won't complain about their need to be all kissy.
 cassie2425
Joined: 3/4/2016
Msg: 118
Why must some people complain they get what others want?
Posted: 3/30/2016 10:39:11 AM
^^^ WTF, are you that stupid that you just have to flit around the threads and bash people? Especially when you can't even comprehend what they are discussing. I think you need meds or to brush up on your reading skills, comprehension skills, writing skills as well as quit being so friggin rude.


Are you the type that has failed relationships because the packaging looked good but inside was Bad ass mother fcker from hell?
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Lucy, did you just pull this out of your arse? Rude, rude and stupid.
 cassie2425
Joined: 3/4/2016
Msg: 119
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/30/2016 11:17:51 AM
^^^ The OP wasn't rude in the other thread. He was far from rude. And now you slam GTO who is one of the most gentlemen like people on the forums and has been for years. But you jump to conclusions. And while it's nice that you can own your rudeness, its not all the becoming. And really, how can I be following you around, you're posting in damn near every thread so its hard not to miss you...like a dog peeing on every blade of grass in the park.

I think you owe the kind Mr. GTO an apology.
 call_me_tater
Joined: 12/30/2014
Msg: 120
Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/30/2016 2:14:17 PM

I don't really like the forum everybody is very very rude and opinionated
And I'm a chilled out relaxed kinda gal_:)
We know you're no girl.
Why do you insist on coming back over and over if you don't like it here?
Attention?
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 121
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Why must some people complain they get what others want?
Posted: 3/30/2016 2:17:56 PM

gtomustang
well, when there isn't any new posts that are interesting, I guess one has to dig deep. It is like a high school reunion, tho, seeing some old faces. I liked the pics of the girls of Brazil in Halcyon's profile, especially the topless one on the left. naturally curvy.


Okay, you got me with that one, I admit it. And it's not even April Fools Day (at least not quite).

On a related note, I had already spotted Halcyon's new main pic. It's been years since she posted a new pic, and it's nice to see that she's still beautiful. Looking at that picture makes me think of the James Blunt song, "You're Beautiful".



My life is brilliant.
My love is pure.
I saw an angel.
Of that I'm sure.
She smiled at me on the subway.
She was with another man.
But I won't lose no sleep on that,
'Cause I've got a plan.

You're beautiful. You're beautiful.
You're beautiful, it's true.
I saw your face in a crowded place,
And I don't know what to do,
'Cause I'll never be with you.

Yes, she caught my eye,
As we walked on by.
She could see from my face that I was,
F___ing high.
And I don't think that I'll see her again,
But we shared a moment that will last 'til the end.

You're beautiful. You're beautiful.
You're beautiful, it's true.
I saw your face in a crowded place,
And I don't know what to do,
'Cause I'll never be with you.

You're beautiful. You're beautiful.
You're beautiful, it's true.
There must be an angel with a smile on her face,
When she thought up that I should be with you.
But it's time to face the truth,
I will never be with you
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 122
Why must some people complain they get what others want?
Posted: 3/30/2016 2:55:18 PM
I hear there is a sale goin' on down at Rural King for them, there high rubber boots.
The kind farmers use to go stompin' thru the mud and other "wet stuff".
May also have a sale for waders at the local sporting goods store.
We're gonna need some kind of protection, down here in the trenches.
It's gettin' deep in here! LOL
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 123
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Posted: 3/30/2016 4:58:05 PM
Thank you for the kind words, Cassie, that was my blush for the month :)

Sorry Henry, couldn't resist :)

Ah Lucy, hopefully you get lucky soon, it helps to be relaxed. Some people do own up to their bluntness, but bluntness isn't always a blessing that covers all sins. Sometimes, there's a nice way to deliver the truth. Those who know the truth about themselves, tend to pay attention, and those who do not...are going to ignore the truth no matter how it gets delivered. it is easy to slam people and dismiss it as, "hey, i'm me, put up with it", but it takes work to deliver things in a way they have a chance of being accepted. As the saying goes, the medicine goes down better with some sugar.

as for my relationships, I don't attract hotties, much less those ugly on the inside. People with poor personality tend to date people like them. they feel comfortable with someone who won't judge them, b/c to do so would be to judge their own red flags. its too bad you've been burned by attractive jerks, but there are some people beautiful in and out. at my age, they tend to be happily married :) others may have a different finding of mileage, as the saying goes.

hope the flu clears soon, it must suck as spring springs outside.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 124
Why must some people complain they get what others want?
Posted: 3/31/2016 7:03:46 AM
Ah, I thought your profile said you were looking, so I was confused. I think the real tragedy of two screwed up people is when the birth control fails (or they just fail to use it) and a poor innocent child is brought into their cauldron. if they are dating each other, perhaps they take each other out of the dating pool and dilute it less as a result :) Label me cynical, but some times I think some people are just beyond help, so if they get some sort of relationship going, then at least they have something in their life. of course, it could very well be as toxic as anything else they've invited into their lives, but hey, they're adults, they have to sleep in the proverbial bed they have made for themselves.
 cooldog65
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Why do middle age women still feel the need to be all kissy, huggy and feeling in a relationship
Posted: 3/31/2016 9:27:15 AM
Msg #114...

Hello!

Is your name Bob, Bawb or any of the possible Bob sounding names?


Who are addressing this to?


Some dudes prefer to watch a dirty video and grab the dong?


What the...?
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