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 Dobermonster
Joined: 5/12/2010
Msg: 76
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Working tonight, then off on a plane first thing in the a.m. to spend Christmas with my relatives. Just need to make cookies for gift baskets then figure out out to pack everything into one suitcase!

Happy Holidays POF people!
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 2/24/2012
Msg: 77
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Posted: 12/24/2013 5:47:58 PM
Since I'm not Christian, Christmas has never been a big deal to me. Don't even remember what I did last year although I'm pretty sure I was home alone.

Tonight I'm going to watch videos (probably romantic chick flicks and cry my eyes red and puffy) and sleep in in the morning (which means past 5am). Around 9 or 10ish I'll make French toast and then bake a pie to take to my sister's for dinner. She hosts a collection of friends, all childless adults (except me but my son will be with his girlfriend and her family) who don't have other plans. My sister is a FABULOUS cook so I'm sure I'll eat way too much. Dinner starts about 1pm and if the weather is as good as it's been the past few days, I may walk home along the beach.

All in all it should be a good day and WAY better than Christmas when I was married.

Peace of the day to all my fellow forumites. See some of you here tomorrow; same bat time, same bat station.
 Doremi_Fasolatido
Joined: 2/14/2009
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Posted: 12/24/2013 6:16:33 PM
Any Christmas above ground, is better than one below.
So rest ye Merry Gentlemen, And yes, a happy Ho Ho Ho.
Because any rhyme, at Christmastime, denotes a kind of cheer.
Even if you're sitting alone, sipping on a beer.
Ye forum folk, all I can say, is I'm really glad you're here
Because you know, to never be read, is a Poems biggest fear.
 forumiteinca
Joined: 12/4/2013
Msg: 79
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Posted: 12/25/2013 9:10:27 AM
This is the message of Christmas: We are never alone. - Taylor Caldwell
 LiterateHiker
Joined: 11/30/2012
Msg: 80
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Posted: 12/25/2013 9:19:56 AM
Doremi_Vasolatido, Love your poem! It's funny, charming and apt. "Any rhyme, at Christmas time, denotes a kind of cheer."

Cynthia, You are not alone. I'm an atheist who enjoys the holidays. Merry Christmas and Happy Winter Solstice!
 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
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Posted: 12/25/2013 9:37:33 AM
What a great quote forumiteinca. I'd forgotten about Taylor Caldwell. I need to add some of her books to my Kindle.
 forumiteinca
Joined: 12/4/2013
Msg: 82
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Posted: 12/25/2013 10:02:40 AM
Just wanted to comment that there are many singles out there this Christmas Day. Over 365,000 online right now. Many others have checked POF as well. Are we all looking to see if Santa has brought someone new in to our lives as a Christmas present, I wonder. I personally like to dream, and one never knows what might occur...
 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 83
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Posted: 12/25/2013 10:45:57 AM
^^^^^^
How can you be alone with 350,000 of your closest friends?
 Dobermonster
Joined: 5/12/2010
Msg: 84
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Posted: 12/25/2013 1:07:54 PM
Cynthia and Literatehiker - don't let anyone tell you Christmas is a purely Christian holiday. Just about everything fun about it is heathen through and through. ;) I do like some of the religious music that's out around now though, brings back the warm fuzzies of childhood.
 dpwesu
Joined: 3/25/2013
Msg: 85
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Posted: 12/25/2013 4:41:19 PM
I just arrived home from spending the day at my folks' place. - What a great day it was!!!

Sunny and 40 here.....on my way out there, I got to wash my car which was icky from all the recent snow - and NO waiting in line!!! hee hee! Had a wonderful dinner and opened a ton of presents, hung out with my dogs and cats.......

On my way back home.....I stopped at the hospital......our neighbor out where my folks live was rushed there last evening....has some sort of staph infection, and need his gall bladder removed......sadly, THEY spent today at the hospital......

Driving home, I came to the conclusion that whether or not you spend a holiday by yourself or even with people you don't really want to spend it with......it's a heck of a lot better than some other things I can think of.

Enjoy every single day and live it to the fullest, try to help others if you are able, and do the very best you can.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 2/24/2012
Msg: 86
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Posted: 12/25/2013 7:59:10 PM
Cynthia and Literatehiker - don't let anyone tell you Christmas is a purely Christian holiday. Just about everything fun about it is heathen through and through.

Thanks for the encouraging words and not to split hairs but, yes, Christmas, IS a Christian holiday regardless of the commercialism and pageantry that has been added to it or grown up around it. The correct term is pagan (the old religion that existed prior to and regardless of the existence of Christianity), not heathen (the derogatory name given to non-Christians meaning barbaric). Christmas IS the, alleged, date for the birth of the Christ.

And, yes, I know that Christmas was put on 12/25 by the Church to co-opt pre-existing pagan holidays and it is highly unlikely that Jesus was even born in December. Based on astronomical notations in the bible, it is more likely Jesus was born in September.

That said, there are still plenty of things to celebrate this time of year - I don't need cheering up because I don't attach special affection to 12/25. Within 3 weeks I celebrate the Solstice, New Year's, and 6 birthdays (my son, mine, my mother, brother, his wife and son). 12/25 is a day to rest and catch my breath.
 Dobermonster
Joined: 5/12/2010
Msg: 87
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Posted: 12/25/2013 8:21:32 PM
Fair enough, though I still refuse accede that Christmas is anything more than a collection of pagan traditions with Jesus crowbarred in on occasion. Not that it's a big deal, bit at least one Christian agrees with me. http://www.ucg.org/holidays-and-holy-days/top-10-reasons-why-i-dont-celebrate-christmas/
 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
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Posted: 12/26/2013 12:59:02 PM
Call it what you want.
Celebrate it however you wish.
Or dont "celebrate" it at all.

I am a Christian and I celebrate it as little as I possibly can without taking away from my friends and relatives who do enjoy celebrating it.

I have personal reasons for not being a fan and this year some new thoughts crossed my mind as I watched others go nutso.

It's not really when Jesus was born-which I already knew but isnt a big issue for me.
Jesus was not a materialistic kind of person, so why do we celebrate HIS birthday by buying all kinds of crap for people who dont even need the stuff? Hmm? To me, it would celebrate HIS birthday more to spend that money helping those who truly are in need. But of course, those people are invisible to many.
Instead of spending the money on crap, why not spend some time all year round helping out where help is needed? Animal shelters, Nursing homes, Homeless shelters, Food banks, etc.

Anyway, that's my thought and it was not well received by those around me. Whatever floats your boat.

 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 89
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Posted: 12/28/2013 2:32:55 PM
I had a lovely peaceful solo Xmas Eve and Day...
Last year I was not alone...I was in the hospital and that sucked.
had lots of "Christmassing" prior to the actual holiday so the break was welcome.
Cindy O
 Tobieth
Joined: 8/12/2012
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Posted: 1/3/2014 5:05:48 PM
Hey Man, I understand your pain. I have almost a perfect life with the exception of having a woman to share experiences with. I'm financially stable and retired but it don't mean anything to me without someone. About Christmas? The worst time of the year for me. My kids are moving on with their lives and I find myself alone each year for the last 3 years. Actually the first year after my wife took off was the easiest. I do like Christmas as well and all that you described but I live with the thought that someone will be here next year. Its not that I don't try to find a companion because I'm on three date sites and I do talk to women around my hometown. Not plugging POF but I've actually had more luck on this site (distance killed us though). Four in the last two years, compared to one in the last two on a site that I won't name . I don't mean to sound pitiful but I've actually found myself in tears from being so lonely during the holiday season. Today is January 3rd and I feel some of the pain leaving me already, the dread of loneliness over. Theres a woman out there for me and I'm sure there is one for you as well. I'm not use to expressing my feelings, especially to another guy but you don't know me and thankyou for allowing me to do this.
 Flurr
Joined: 4/24/2010
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Posted: 1/15/2014 7:59:50 PM
Well I'm anti-religious (all beliefs) so I could care less about what happens on Christmas, I prefer to work to cash in on the time and a half but it sucks when you're alone because everything is closed and nothing on tv. With that being said if you can stay busy enough there's always another day to hang with some friends! Lol
 Realman361
Joined: 4/22/2012
Msg: 92
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Posted: 3/3/2014 2:53:08 PM
I get out and see my family(brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, etc.) during the holidays. I feel more alone then that at any other time of the year. Sometimes regardless of the right or wrong of feeling alone when you're with your family, all of whom have significant others/spouses and you do not, you feel alone and don't even feel like being around family sometimes.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 93
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Posted: 3/4/2014 11:47:24 AM
There should be a law against reviving old threads related to Christmas before Thanksgiving.
 razors_edge55
Joined: 11/25/2013
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Posted: 3/4/2014 2:24:43 PM
Thanksgiving <<<<<, try St . Pats day
 margareta08
Joined: 2/28/2014
Msg: 95
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Posted: 3/8/2014 1:14:32 AM
jlynn

I agree with you. I long ago gave up buying gifts for ungrateful children in my family who didnt need or want for anything and I prefer to give to charity organisations instead. I spent last Christmas Day alone and having little treats. I was as happy as Larry. I received some lovely cards for sure but not one gift. I had not given any myself and it seems people only give to get back.

CHristmas can be a painful time for many and ironically it is not what Jesus would have wanted. His birthday?? It is not even in December.
 immeok
Joined: 5/30/2014
Msg: 96
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Posted: 12/22/2014 4:08:52 PM
Spending Christmas Alone

yep that's me again all over, I don't get invites or any thing like that, spend most of my time at work or at home working in my yard, I find people around here just don't care or cant really be bothered in asking me out for a meal or what ever, I live in a small town were what ever you do or say the whole town knows in one day, LOL

ever since I had my PM fitted my life as turned, I've been alone for all most 9 years now
so Xmas day for me is me and my dog finishing off the KIO Pond rock walls

for those that are alone Merry Christmas to you have a safe one
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 97
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Posted: 12/22/2014 5:27:48 PM

Christmas day will be lonely but who cares? I still love Christmas, I love the lights, decorations, trees, music, etc. The loneliness is tough to bear though. Anyone else share these thoughts? Merry Christmas!

Who needs family members or close friends of other family members for Xmas? As you pointed out, you can still leave the house if you so choose. One can go to a bar, talk to a gal who's feeling a bit lonely, and give her a "stocking stuffer" to cap off the night after last call. ;) Doesn't have to be "alone".
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 98
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Posted: 12/23/2014 1:43:56 AM
I will be alone this Christmas.

What I thought was a cold has turned into something more so rather than infect others I have cancelled my attendance at everything and will be concentrating on getting well.

So I will be me and my dog, prescription drugs and a glass of wine or two.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 99
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Posted: 12/23/2014 7:15:21 AM
Oz, sorry you're not feeling well and hope you feel better soon.

Since my divorce almost 10 years ago, I usually spend Christmas alone. I'm not Christian so the day doesn't have religious significance and my ex-husband is Christian so our son spends the day with him and that side of the family. My job is always so stressful that I welcome a day of quiet - no conference calls, no 3D-chess-like details to keep organized and moving, no one needing something from me. It's a day I take for myself.

This year, however, I will be spending the day with my sister and her husband, and our beloved uncle. My wonderful aunt died just after Thanksgiving and my uncle is grieving; we're all grieving. They were together for 35 years and I think he loved her as much or more on the day she died as the day they met - which was love at first sight. She was German, on holiday in Greece. He is American, teaching around the world, but taking a break in Greece instead of coming home between assignments. They made eye contact on a ferry boat. He didn't speak German (yet), she didn't speak English (yet) but they spent the remainder of their vacation together. And then he wrote to her (snail mail) every single day for the 7 years it took for her to agree to move to the US and get married. She still has the letters.

Growing up without much of a father presence, my grandfather and uncle were my father figures. Grandpa was all about grades, work, and achievement. My uncle was raised with that as his baseline and so acquired a rather impressive resume. But he took it further; he was my role model for humility, love, care, and compassion. This Christmas season is testing how well I've learned this lesson.
 BLoNDeANGeL845
Joined: 6/10/2014
Msg: 100
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Posted: 12/23/2014 8:50:20 AM

I will be alone this Christmas.

What I thought was a cold has turned into something more so rather than infect others I have cancelled my attendance at everything and will be concentrating on getting well.

So I will be me and my dog, prescription drugs and a glass of wine or two.

AWWWWWWWWWWWW XoX Get Well soon- maybe start some new threads for us to post on after we eat & are digesting our meals?

You've had some interesting ones over the last couple of years, maybe you can reminisce & pull up some past experiences?
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