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 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 124
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?Page 5 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
You might find this hard this concept hard to comprehend, but you don't speak for all women.

N neither do u. Since when u become a specialist in what women like or not. U want to kiss a sand paper go ahead from what my friends share none of then like it
 TheArtist1979
Joined: 10/10/2011
Msg: 126
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Posted: 3/23/2013 8:22:32 PM
So you & your friends speak for all women? Where did any man in here say ALL women like men with facial hair? All we are saying is that some women like men fully shaved other women don't. You & your friends are not all women so stfu already with your >>>>opinion<<<< cause that's all it is. So your calling all the men in this thread including myself liars? what do we have to gain by lying? If your OPINION was correct then every man in the world would have no facial hair. How many women have you seen with men with beards as they're lovers/husbands? I have seen plenty of women with men with beards. Where do you live under a rock? the more you speak for all women the more shallow & ignorant you sound. Sorry to sound so brutally honest but its the truth.
 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 127
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/23/2013 8:28:04 PM
Yeah bc u guy will still grow then regardless we like I or don't n if I'm married to u n u suddenly decide to grow it I'm no going to divorce u bc u grew one. It just like I would not shave my legs bc I don't fell like it n expect u to like it. But hey u like it whatever floats ur boat. Lots of woment don't like it. I never heard I one that wouldn date a guy bc he was nicely shaved lol
 TheArtist1979
Joined: 10/10/2011
Msg: 128
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/23/2013 8:34:32 PM
Smh are you always this stubborn & hard headed? as many female friends you have saying they ONLY like men fully shaved I can round up twice the number if not triple the amount of women here in my city that have told me to my face that they prefer men with facial hair. So you & your friends don't speak for all or most women. Sorry to burst your bubble not all or most women think like you #fact.
 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 129
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/23/2013 8:41:58 PM
More hairy man for such then. I take those civilated ones who know how to operate razor omg.
 jpwrnglrwmn_forumsonly
Joined: 4/23/2011
Msg: 130
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/23/2013 9:32:48 PM
In response to what Lightningman said about how some people might perceive the 30's as the "use by date", I think women get labeled more with this, not so much men. Obviously, there's the biological issue women have to deal with. .as in, women's window to have kids, if they so choose, becomes much smaller. Men can have kids well past the years women can't. Whether they should or not, that's debatable.
 SillyAdventurer
Joined: 3/5/2013
Msg: 131
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/23/2013 9:58:35 PM
Well in my twenties there was clubs, running the streets, and ditching work just to date. Thirties, club scene is a bore, and there is no time to run the streets due to work. Shit, I woke up one day and now I'm a grown up. Someone wake me up. Seriously... my job, life, and relations all revolve around one thing now. It's called standards. That thrown into the mix of dating changes everything.
 JenSnider
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 132
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/23/2013 10:03:22 PM
^Well there's your problem. Just stop having standards and you'll find a date (sarcasm)



^^That's true about there being more emphasis on women's "expiration dates" for dating and marriage and family being their 30s. Personally, I know plenty of women who had children in their 30s who were fine, and women in their 20s who had children and had extremely difficult pregnancies and their children have health issues. I know what science and statistics say, but I have no problem taking my chances of having children as a 30 something year old. I mean, the chances of me having a child before I'm 30 are now nil, as I turn 30 next month.
 SillyAdventurer
Joined: 3/5/2013
Msg: 133
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/23/2013 10:59:19 PM
Jensnider: ^Well there's your problem. Just stop having standards and you'll find a date (sarcasm)...

Funny but ever so true, no...think I will keep the standards.
 JenSnider
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 134
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/23/2013 11:09:24 PM
Yeah, that seems to be my problem as well. Le sigh. Some days I wish I just didn't care.
 lightningman1
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 135
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/24/2013 12:12:54 AM
I think its overall a major problem of society.Materials brand new furniture ,widescreens ect...And now perfect Relationships.
Even in out 30s its like we want not what will makes us as individuals happy, but what will make us look better then everyone else.
Nobody wants The Average looking Joe or Ugly Betty who works his/hers backside off to maintain some sort of decent comfort.
We want some Model/Glamour looking male/female to show off to our friends and family because thats how we see the fairytale and thats what gives a good impression.
 rocking ritschel
Joined: 2/2/2010
Msg: 136
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Posted: 3/24/2013 12:56:29 PM
Agrees w LM ,I also think as people get older there standards get higher,people become more mature an sometimes selfish and what bull crap one put up in there 20s isnt gonna fly in your 30s.
 DomG79
Joined: 3/12/2011
Msg: 137
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/24/2013 2:52:05 PM
You might find this hard this concept hard to comprehend, but you don't speak for all women.

N neither do u. Since when u become a specialist in what women like or not. U want to kiss a sand paper go ahead from what my friends share none of then like it


Maybe your friends have Beiber Fever.

Mine doesn't feel like sandpaper, it is shampooed and conditioned, probably softer than the rat's nests that some of these women call hair. Mine is more like sandpaper when I do shave, it grows in within a couple of hours of shaving. Even if I did shave my beard, it wouldn't make women any better looking or make their attitudes any more pleasant. Sometimes you have to do things for yourself, and not just to attract the opposite sex. I'm sure if you were comfortable with not shaving your legs, some dude would find it attractive, especially with your awesome personality.


Well there's your problem. Just stop having standards and you'll find a date (sarcasm)


You might say that sarcastically, but it seems to be implied with other people's condescending advice.
 JenSnider
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 138
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/24/2013 3:13:07 PM
^There does seem to be this idea that once you hit 30 you should lower your standards for prospective romantic partners because you are "damaged goods" yourself and therefore not a catch.

Some men look better with facial hair than without, and vice versa. Honestly, it just depends.
 nikkisenko
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 139
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/24/2013 6:07:07 PM

,I also think as people get older there standards get higher,people become more mature an sometimes selfish and what bull crap one put up in there 20s isnt gonna fly in your 30s.


I agree, but I don't think this is a bad thing. At 39, I am a way better version of myself than I was in my 20s. I have matured. I have learned about life and love. As a result, I have excluded certain men because they would not be a match for me (if they ever were.) I would not be interested in a man who hadn't done the same. Yes, it makes the pool smaller. But, those that are left have better potential.
 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 140
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/24/2013 8:36:48 PM
Well I just expressed opinion of me and my female friends n coworkers idkaube it just mu circle of fiends that do not find it atractive. If u guy think u look so awesome with it keep it then. Mu while point is that some women do not like it but don't know any woman who wouldn't date a guy bc he shaves each morning
 DomG79
Joined: 3/12/2011
Msg: 141
Why Does It Seem To Be Getting Harder To Date In Your Thirties?
Posted: 3/24/2013 9:19:38 PM

Well I just expressed opinion of me and my female friends n coworkers idkaube it just mu circle of fiends that do not find it atractive. If u guy think u look so awesome with it keep it then. Mu while point is that some women do not like it but don't know any woman who wouldn't date a guy bc he shaves each morning


You stated "most" women previously, now you say "some" women. Where I live, I know more females that like it than females that don't. A lot of the ones that don't are more into women.
 abmccray
Joined: 8/3/2008
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Posted: 3/25/2013 9:15:21 AM

You stated "most" women previously, now you say "some" women. Where I live, I know more females that like it than females that don't. A lot of the ones that don't are more into women.


The statistical data I've seen lately shows that women in their 20s-30s like trimmed, well - kept beards, as far as facial hair goes. I've found that the case from personal experience as well; I've had a lot more success lately with a "hotter" group of women, especially the hipster types, when I grow my (trimmed) beard out as opposed to being clean-shaven.

The larger beards, as well as goatees, seem to be more "niche" as opposed to the widespread acceptance of the "just above 5 o clock shadow look." But if that's the niche a person is going for, that obviously works for them as well.
 gunslingerpedro
Joined: 3/28/2011
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Posted: 3/25/2013 2:34:19 PM
Its a little harder as alot of the best fish get snapped up... but ya gotta keep plugging away and not worry too much
 naturally_shaley
Joined: 3/2/2013
Msg: 144
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Posted: 3/26/2013 5:58:50 PM
I have to say college was a lot easier and access was limitless. Of course, the potential was located in one central location. The mentality is different now than in your 20s. College was the first experience away from home for most people. But now that I'm older with a career and focus on my future, dating multiple people is just plain tiring and sometimes insulting. lol I mean, if I wanted a sugar daddy, oh, the options! Really, I have a father.

I have my share of most of my friends are married, divorced or are in a long term relationship as well. I try hard not to say I am looking for a type of man because I think that keeps whoever he is from making contact. I've been thru the good/bad and have learned from those experiences...but ya know, it will be nice whenever he comes round and is serious about a relationship instead of surface stuff.

Good luck out there kids!
 JenSnider
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 145
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Posted: 3/26/2013 9:00:49 PM
^I do think it was easier to meet new people in college. You were away from home, living in the dorms, going to class, going out for the weekend, and anybody you met lived on or near campus most of the year. Now most of us work all day, and then go home, and if your work is anything like mine it doesn't allow for a lot of socializing.
 dark_eyed_rebel
Joined: 6/20/2014
Msg: 146
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Posted: 7/11/2014 5:43:32 PM
I agree, it does get harder. I had no problems finding a lady in my 20's but not sure if that even counts since I wasn't really looking for love at the time. Now I can't find a compatible woman to save my life these days! And the ones I think are attractive and have good qualities have boyfriends/married. When I do find a woman she is indecisive, moody, b*tchy and always stressed. Sometimes I want to say forget it but I know that there is a good woman out there, just don't think she's in my area.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 147
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Posted: 7/12/2014 9:57:11 PM
A lot of people in their 30s are taken or married. Thus there is a smaller dating pool. Unless you date younger ( more single / never married people ) or older ( divorced people ).
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 151
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Posted: 7/31/2014 11:32:36 AM
Perhaps it's the attitude of people in their 30s. It's like they are on the clock and they better have something happen. I was married during my thirties so it was all career, career. But when I became single in my 40s, I found that it was actually a lot easier. Yet I found that women in their 30s were impossible, while women in their 40s were absolutely awesome.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 8/28/2014 6:02:03 PM
"I'm glad somebody has posted this, as I was about to make a similar post.

I get 1 or 2 messages per day, no more...

I recently split from a 7yr relationship, and found that from about 20-30 Yr old I had significantly many more approach me.

I actually published my first post here about 1hr ago asking if there's something wrong with my profile!"

Actually, for online dating as a guy, I would say you are doing pretty decent with the amount of interest the ladies give you.
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