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I look at a couple years older to 5 years younger. I think you have more in common when you stay closer to your age. At 62, I don't want to try to keep up with a much younger woman.
In that narrow time span as opposed to widening it some, I don't agree. I mean, sure, 62 vs 22 -- obviously - lol. But I think having toddlers, having teens, having all kids moved out, having no kids VS the other -- plays a bigger role than a 10-15 year age gap, when both parties are solidly past their mid-20s.
I think the main motive isn't about what-we-have-in-common, even though we'd like to believe it is. Just as there's many people who are roughly our age +/- 4 years who are Clearly Don't have much in common, there are people 10-15 years older or younger who do have a lot in common. Moreso than actually date (with serious intent).
So why is there that big difference between those that have a lot in-common with a large age gap VS the # who actually date with serious intent, even when the looks are a-okay by each other's standards in the present? Because of Aging. A 25 year old may think the 45 year old guy is great looking and is -- but turned off because "he's old", and IMO, rightfully so by the concept... because what is he going to look like in 10-15 years VS she? Then another 10-15 years after that, is she going to want to have to take care of him? Factor in the at least slight disdain toward casual dating relationships & peer-watching noticing that clear age difference despite there still being attractiveness -- and it becomes a no-go.
If our bodies/health/looks aged 10x slower once we hit 21, things would be a Whole lot different. IMO, the automatic notion that we'd-have-less-in-common thing would go out the window to a large degree. Nobody could care/tell about a 32 year old dating a 72 year old. It'd be the same as the guy being 4 years older by our visual standards. And that's pretty much what it boils down to -- looks & health (and the forseen of each down the line).
|Youngest/oldest person you would date? |
Posted: 10/4/2016 7:15:55 AM
|Just ended a long distance relationship with someone quite a bit younger than me. She wanted me to quit my job and move there. It just didn't make sense in this economy. Now that we ended, I want someone closer to my age. Someone with grown children, I'm not interested in raising kids again. Someone with their affairs in order. Good job, own home etc.|
I'm looking to retire in 12-14 years and I'd like to have someone in a similar situation.
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Posted: 10/6/2016 2:26:48 AM
|Well, I'm only 18 so the youngest I'd go is 18... :P|
In all honesty, I'd go as old as 30-35, but the only people in that old who message me almost always seem to be sexual so I just avoid it and put ranges lower. I don't seek out anyone in that age range because the average person likely isn't interested in having a relationship with someone that much younger; and I get that. Seeing how much I changed from just 14 and 18, I know that the future has a lot in store. Most folks seem to have rapid change from 14-25, so... yeah. Still. If we found common ground and had enough similar interests, I wouldn't dismiss them.