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 outonames
Joined: 12/7/2012
Msg: 201
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My issue is I can't find chemistry. They seem to be but I am not. Its really starting to bother me. If there is an attraction they can't really talk about anything. Watching TV has its upside. NEWS!
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 202
Dating in our 50's
Posted: 1/21/2013 8:14:14 AM
There are 2 men I know IRL who I care about in different ways...I may even be able to say I love them, but there are issues right now that keep either one from being w/ me...I don't want to date from online, but I am tired of being like a princess in an ivory tower...but it's not fair to meet a man & date him if my heart is elsewhere...I am very very torn, almost in anguish...

Having faith in God helps...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 203
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Posted: 1/21/2013 9:41:45 AM
^^^^^The best lovers are the ones in your bed! That's reality!
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 204
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Posted: 1/21/2013 9:44:40 AM
^^^^ I beg to differ hehe


...mae
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 205
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Posted: 1/21/2013 11:04:36 AM
neither one is in my bed :0(
maybe I am ready for something more serious than a fling...
 notdating-forumsonly
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 206
Dating in our 50's
Posted: 1/21/2013 1:19:00 PM

And we hope to get them or that one in bed, does that mean we are shallow and empty and want one night stands? No, the truth is nobody wants that emptiness, we just imagine we do, but that is the initial attraction, even if we are older and find ourselves free.


IMO, it's the people who tell themselves this kind of stuff who are empty. And, yes, it's shallow IMO.

I think it's not shallow to date and find a committed relationship or to date exclusively and share a healthy sex life, not to do what I would term disposable dating just in the hopes that you get 'this one or that one ' in bed. Gawd, you don't even identify as anything other than 'this one or that one', demonstrating that it is indeed shallow- IMO.
 NotyouraverageD
Joined: 5/15/2012
Msg: 207
Dating in our 50's
Posted: 1/21/2013 2:34:51 PM
Blame?

Blame is a loser's word in the dating game.

I'm 53 and single, and have had plenty of dating nightmares - believe me.

Here's what I blame anyone for (now read carefully...):






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 forfun50
Joined: 11/21/2012
Msg: 208
Dating in our 50's
Posted: 1/21/2013 4:52:10 PM
Hi. Reading ur comment men in there 50 are looking for a lady that is stable. My question is why are women in there Late 40 early 50. Have no class. By. Simple. Thank you or no thank you. I find women are. Rude. And if I treated lady's like that. I would be ashamed. I not prefect. But. Thinking that being 50 in-tile. You to. Be. So rude. That amazes. Me.
 forfun50
Joined: 11/21/2012
Msg: 209
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Posted: 1/21/2013 4:59:41 PM
Hi. I totally agree. I never. Thought that. People. Can lie so easily. , I notice. Through this site. People. Put on there profile of what that want to be. NOT. Who they are. And. Some go by a pic. A pic has no personality. A cookie can look good behind the window. But. Once. Tasted. Then. Bad taste. But I will not. Assume. That all people are. Like that. I do not want o become. Them.
 forfun50
Joined: 11/21/2012
Msg: 210
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Posted: 1/21/2013 4:59:57 PM
Hi. I totally agree. I never. Thought that. People. Can lie so easily. , I notice. Through this site. People. Put on there profile of what that want to be. NOT. Who they are. And. Some go by a pic. A pic has no personality. A cookie can look good behind the window. But. Once. Tasted. Then. Bad taste. But I will not. Assume. That all people are. Like that. I do not want o become. Them.
 CapieS
Joined: 1/19/2011
Msg: 211
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Posted: 2/3/2013 2:45:29 AM
Good company until after couple dates took me for nice ride to look at 1st real snow and to show me where he lives with mother. Then mall which was closed and he likes sees Victoria Secret and mentions wants to by me something sexy like bought another! OMG, please how desperate and Creepy can an old guy be? You have be able to kiss him first!Lol Poor old guy! And he was I think 2 or 3 yrs younger than me!No need to wonder why not with woman he bought fun underwear for! Lol Creepy!!!
 CapieS
Joined: 1/19/2011
Msg: 212
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Posted: 2/3/2013 3:05:02 AM
Know what you mean! When they act or say stupid things how can you even consider even a kiss! Some really good at Creeping us out!
OL
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 213
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Posted: 2/3/2013 5:47:09 PM
OMG, please how desperate and Creepy can an old guy be?


I'll venture that its to about the same depth a woman,
Ever walked into a woman's home where 20 cats live ..?

I'll also venture that the word "creepy" is more often used
as a prop for woman's ego ..to avoid facing insecurities, possible dumped and such
than it actual and true meaning
 for4rums_loner_here
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 214
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Posted: 2/3/2013 6:42:16 PM
OMG, please how desperate and Creepy can an old guy be?""""""""""""

Woooooh! Saying something like that turns me on.

Come, baby, over to my hovel, and shall show you the ins and outs of creep that will make you scream in ecstasy!!

... I will creep into you your mind... under your skin... into your buttocks... I will shake and vibrate your innermost holy parts and carefully guided secrets... I will creep into your veins and your heart, and I will keep on creeping, until I hear you screaming with pleasure, with rapture, with ecstasy!!
 LibertyValance
Joined: 5/31/2010
Msg: 215
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Posted: 2/6/2013 8:57:52 AM
Firefly1954 You are so wrong on your statement. The 50s-to 60s is all i contact.
 jet_setter44
Joined: 6/4/2012
Msg: 216
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Posted: 2/8/2013 9:07:53 AM
I believe the reason why men in their 50’s are looking for younger women is due to the fact so many women in their 50’s are really stuck in their ways. I’m not saying this is every case…but it seems to be the norm. Also I believe it to be that it strokes a man’s ego being with a younger woman as well.

I have no problem dating someone my own age as long as they remember how to have fun in life, add romance to the relationship, and learn to just go with the flow sometimes. Not saying one has to act like a little kid….but I’m sure you get what I mean.
 Stubidooo
Joined: 12/30/2012
Msg: 217
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Posted: 2/8/2013 11:23:07 AM

I thought men in their 50's would be looking for a stable, fun and attractive woman...

.... do you know how many women in their 50's have the following in their age restrictions: 30-49 .. hmm wonder why they are looking for?
 kennynj55
Joined: 11/17/2012
Msg: 218
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Posted: 2/8/2013 11:30:04 AM
i would have to agree with you , It's the other things that are important. I want the chemistry , start as friends build from there .Thats what makes the physical part wonderful
 Doremi_Fasolatido
Joined: 2/14/2009
Msg: 219
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Posted: 2/8/2013 11:46:46 AM
Now that I am in my 50's I know much better what works and what does'nt regarding people. And life, and what I want out of it. Some folks feel if you can't find a package with everything, you could sample something from many packages.

At least that seems to be another popular outlook. Finding everything in one package would be preferable to me though.... I don't think it a notion of naivete at all.....
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 220
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Posted: 2/8/2013 12:46:14 PM
Borrowing an old Cat Stevens lyric

If I could meet 'em I could get 'em
But as yet I haven't met 'em
That's how I'm in the state I'm in
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 5/24/2012
Msg: 221
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Posted: 2/8/2013 1:01:22 PM
^^^^ something in that song about I got some money cause I just got paid suggests the guy has a problem meeting women because he might not be all that attractive to many women because he may only have money on payday.
 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 222
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Posted: 2/9/2013 9:55:28 PM
Join the club. It is the nature of online dating sites. It is only a game and should be treated as such.

Flattered that 28 year old men want casual sex with no chance of commitment, no pregnancy, so they figure, no protection needed. No dating or romance, just a quick meal at our place, I dont think so.

Some of them believe the urban myth that we dont yell, we dont tell and are as grateful as hell. Certain ethnicities abound with this sort of behaviour.
 teller you love her
Joined: 1/14/2009
Msg: 223
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Posted: 2/10/2013 11:33:48 AM
AMEN! You are so right. IF men could figure this out, what a wonderful world this could be!
 girliegirl10
Joined: 10/4/2012
Msg: 224
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Posted: 2/13/2013 7:52:28 AM
Oh my goodness!!!.....My nephew is 30.......I can't imagine dating that young!!.....lol....like talking to a 13 year old!!
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 225
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Posted: 2/13/2013 9:45:33 AM

I have been "interviewed" on a first date about what I like to do during sex
I have been asked to "just touch me" (him)
I have been asked back to his place ... not so bad...but when you never hear from him again after saying no thanks, you know the score
I have been asked what kind of panties I wear on a first date
Lots more but you get the drift.....LOL

UGH. What a bunch of mouth breathers. I would have had absolutely no qualms about smacking each one of these cretins right in the head if they'd dared to talk to me like that.
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