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 CDMer
Joined: 9/15/2012
Msg: 51
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Perhaps 29 to 39 might work best for you. Give it a try.
 acads
Joined: 6/11/2012
Msg: 52
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 1/30/2013 11:41:10 AM
Isn't this age issue about life phases, a 45 year old that has been married has grown kids, that doesn't want another family is probably to old for a 32 year old that has never been married and is ready to start a family, but that 45 year old might be to old for a 39 year old in the same boat as the 32 year old. It seems like you have to try it and find out, I would think you will know rather quickly if there are compatibility issues because of age/life phase.
 bofast
Joined: 1/12/2013
Msg: 53
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 1/30/2013 2:30:50 PM
You should only date women younger than you.
 bofast
Joined: 1/12/2013
Msg: 54
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 1/30/2013 2:32:11 PM
I would just look for women who are age 30 only, if I were you. That helps narrow things down.
 GeorgiaMaria
Joined: 1/22/2013
Msg: 55
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 2/4/2013 3:25:10 PM
Age is just a number. It has to do with each individual. I prefer usually younger men due to their usually more active. But As long a the man has already done through there middle-age-crisis. That their comfortable with who they are and what they want.
 venusenvy777
Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 56
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 2/4/2013 3:29:21 PM
I think whatever your comfortable with, is where your boundaries lie. Your a mature man, you will make the right choice. Have a lil faith in yourself.
 Della D
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 57
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 2/5/2013 1:43:30 PM
Everybody has their own age range comfort zone. Just because one woman at age 51 feels you're too young for her, does not mean that is the general opinion.

Saying: Go for the age range you're comfy with.

My personal comfort zone is between around 10 years +/-.

The only problem with the +10 years is the sorry physical (and often mental) shape most guys over 45/50 are in here in Jamaica. But once they are fit and in shape, not jaded and still have a zest for life...... I'm definitely most comfy with it.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 58
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Posted: 2/8/2013 8:42:04 PM
Considering that I had a boyfriend for 4 years who was 12 years younger (I was 52 when we split up) and more recently had a year-long romance with a guy who is 23 years younger (I just turned 60) . . . six years difference at that age seems insignificant to me.

Maybe she just isn't interested and that's her excuse.

Arwen was 2,690 years older than Aragorn and that didn't seem to get in their way. They were married for 122 years until he died.
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 59
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 2/8/2013 9:00:05 PM
The men my age seem to be hiding, so I am going to consider younger men once again...I will unhide my ad on 2-15...
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 60
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 2/8/2013 10:35:02 PM
I've always preferred to date men within a couple of years of my own age---up to about ten years older.

I would only consider a younger man in his mid-forties if his children were grown and living on their own. Having three children under age 18 would be a deal-breaker for me.
 Deepseaceecee
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 61
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 2/9/2013 3:06:35 AM
You can bet she may be even older thatn 51/ However it is only 6 years after all. Depends on how she looks and you guys are not the only ones who may prefer younger as we get older. If you want a 32 year old and can get it, go for it.


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 jenimas
Joined: 11/10/2012
Msg: 62
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 2/10/2013 2:09:03 PM
Different people are going to have different age preferences. I prefer not to go younger than 5 years or older than 8 years. Plenty of men, whose profiles I've viewed, prefer women that are 10 to 20 years younger than they are. Some other men I've viewed are open to EVERY age. And then there are men that have an age range close to their own. I don't look at women so I haven't a clue about any woman but myself.
 Sophy10
Joined: 12/24/2012
Msg: 63
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Posted: 2/10/2013 5:15:38 PM
I am mature and do not descriminate on older nor younger gentlemen.... we all need a chance....I listen and kindly decline or comment.....everyone is different!
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Posted: 2/15/2013 6:57:11 PM
Whatever YOU (and the other party) are comfortable with.
 cirita53
Joined: 2/12/2013
Msg: 65
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 2/15/2013 7:15:31 PM
I always seem to attract younger men for some reason. But I also don't trust them. Can't seem to understand why they would want to be with me other than a younger women. I'm 53 and I was recently dating someone that is 42.
I've never liked older men even when I was younger, but a few months ago I figured maybe that's what I'm doing wrong and went out with a 60 year old. Oh wow what a bad decision. I was sitting there wondering why a 60 yr old looked sooo old. Never again. Well maybe. Just don't know. I still don't understand why there are so many liars out there.
 4redclay
Joined: 9/1/2010
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Posted: 2/17/2013 12:19:44 PM
Just to add to the mix, I always have been attracted to men younger than me since my 20's as they seem more fun/ less set or rigid in their ways. Have always been averse to older men but now I myself am in my 60's! So what's the deal? Some of us are just young at heart and also want a more active partner, for love, and other good ventures, I am thinking.
My last LT relationship man was 15 yrs younger than me but, in the end, he left and stated it was issues of age... he wanted children....then he got with another older woman and now is a grandfather to her daughter's baby, instead of them having children. ha ha is what I say.
Some of us are just young at heart and seek the same, so I think we should always keep an open mind about it.
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 67
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 2/18/2013 4:04:06 PM
That is really up to you, but I think some women prefer to date men that are either close to their own age or older. Many women find younger men a turn off, or feel that they can't take a younger man seriously as a partner.
 1WishList
Joined: 11/22/2012
Msg: 68
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Posted: 2/19/2013 5:36:21 PM
"Do what works for you. No one else's opinion really matters ... accept of course, the person you are going out with. Do not give your power away to others to let them define who you are or what you want as long as you are comfortable with it and it does not hurt anyone or break your own moral boundaries."

Absolutely agree with this ^
 OC28AV99
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 69
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Posted: 2/20/2013 11:14:10 PM
I say that if the 2 of you are compatible, then age really is just a number. How often do we find people that we really really like, are attracted to, make us laugh, and feel good about ourselves? I say hold on to them if they do, and just don't mention age to anyone else, it's none of their bees wax anyway. :)
 natgoat227
Joined: 6/10/2012
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Posted: 2/21/2013 11:37:29 AM
Chemistry is _Everything_...
Age has Very little to do with it !!
 sherill12
Joined: 6/25/2011
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Posted: 3/1/2013 8:06:01 PM
I think you should go for what you like, just because one woman isn't into younger men, doesn't mean there isn't one out there for you.
 One_hipcat
Joined: 7/27/2014
Msg: 72
How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar..
Posted: 8/9/2014 11:00:32 AM
The way i see it, age is just a number. As long as that number is over 21..lol
 dinno76
Joined: 9/29/2014
Msg: 73
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Posted: 12/31/2014 2:12:21 PM
Ten years either way is good. More than that usually doesn't work in the long term.
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 74
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Posted: 12/31/2014 4:42:59 PM
6 years older only and she says too young?? That is rather strange and I think just an excuse perhaps as she is not interested in you. Some men are mature at 45 and some are still boys. It depends on the individuals involved. It is up to you to put whatever settings you want, you don't need the permission of strangers in the forum.
I met a guy who was 18 years younger and he felt it was fine but I didn't.
 BLoNDeANGeL845
Joined: 6/10/2014
Msg: 75
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Posted: 12/31/2014 5:29:56 PM
I'd pick 5+/- years, but so many people lie about their ages etc. who know who u will meet...

45 vs 51 is hardly a cub looking for a cougar IMO

But don't meet anyone u r not into

I think men should email who tickles their fancy & she can say yes or no...
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