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 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 26
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Message: Being myself had problem not to be good enough. I will fund my happiness in a faithful relationship where I feel loved and wanted

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 pinksplace
Joined: 4/18/2012
Msg: 27
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 1/6/2013 6:19:20 AM
dmz are you alone?
 peakbagger7
Joined: 5/31/2010
Msg: 28
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what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 1/6/2013 9:12:19 AM

Your question presumes there are a lot of marriage minded men out there and I tend to think they don't exist unless they are already married.


The only reason in this legal environment for a man to get married is if he wants to have children.

If a man decides he is now too old to have children or if he never wanted children in the 1st place then there is absolutely no reason in the world for him to marry.

In fact he would be downright stupid to put himself in such a potentially disastrous situation. There is no upside to being married vs living together or just staying bf/gf if there are no children involved.

A 45 year guy could marry a 45 year woman and they never have children and after 5-10 years she could get bored and leave and still rape him in divorce court.
 whoisshe23
Joined: 6/3/2011
Msg: 29
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 1/6/2013 10:02:15 AM
I don't think marriage is the end all to be all, however there is more to it legally than just children. Let's say you choose to live with someone and have committed to them in that relationship, love them, and that person gets sick, you have no say in their healthcare decisions should they be incapacitated. That is unfair to me to be so committed to someone and then not be able to be there for them. To me, that's the business part of marriage that people forget when they get all stuck on the emotional part of it. Just my two cents.
 bemylifetimevalentine
Joined: 12/30/2012
Msg: 30
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 1/6/2013 5:50:42 PM
I want children too tho. I dont want to get stuck in a dating rut that never results in marriage. I want someone to be with for the rest of my life.
 Silverhawk_tkn
Joined: 12/3/2010
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Posted: 1/7/2013 9:22:53 AM
was just having a conversation with a woman in her early 40's who has never been married and really, really wants to be married. I am a divorced man who was married for ten years. I know I can't speak for all men but I have to believe most divorced men feel the same way about marriage like I do. In short, the day I moved out of my home because I was asked to I felt like someone died. Marriage is a legally and emotionally binding arrangement and to have that taken away from me was devastating. I have since healed and I'm a happily divorced man. In hindsight it was the best thing for me to go through. However, since most men in the 30-40 range have been married once it's not something I really want to go through again. The courts are deliberately and overtly biased toward women so why would any man willingly choose to potentially put himself through the ringer again?



+1......

Marriage does NOT offer me anything I can't get without the signed paper stating as much.

Marriage, especially in middle age for men is only a promise of love, but a guarantee of liability.........definitely NOT a good set of odds to play with IMHO.
 _WinterGoddess_
Joined: 12/26/2012
Msg: 32
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 1/7/2013 11:18:29 AM
There is nothing wrong with being "marriage minded", but what about men who are simply " long term committed relationship minded?" Why does the end result have to be marriage? Common-law couples can be and are just as happy and the only difference for the most part is a piece of paper and the wedding. As far as having children goes, if you're only getting married for that purpose alone, chances are you'll end up as single parents anyways. Two people living as common-law spouses can provide just as much stability and love for children as a married couple and I know plenty of them.

Another thing about marriage is that 50% end in divorce and a percentage that stay together are unhappy and are only staying because it would cost them too much to leave. That leaves a very small percentage that are genuinely happy!

If I end up getting married, fantastic, but what's more important is being with the right person and having a committed, happy, lasting and successful life together, with or without being legally married.

Good luck =)
 Bobby1117
Joined: 12/6/2012
Msg: 33
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 1/9/2013 3:30:27 PM
They want a woman that is not all about money, They want a woman that is open sexually, They want a woman that can be a friend as well as a lover, They want a sandwich and they want to watch football without being talked to about stupid things...lol
 _WinterGoddess_
Joined: 12/26/2012
Msg: 34
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 1/9/2013 7:43:28 PM
^^^That's all?? Well in that case...I should be married in no time!! =))
 P0ETFURY
Joined: 10/30/2012
Msg: 35
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 1/11/2013 7:00:34 AM
men in their 30's that are wanting to be married are (or should) be looking for one thing. A trustworthy woman that won't mind signing a pre-nup.
 dinno76
Joined: 9/29/2014
Msg: 36
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 12/27/2014 5:17:31 PM
Not too many men in their 30s or 40s that want to get married.
 blueguy99881
Joined: 11/23/2014
Msg: 37
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 12/27/2014 6:35:23 PM
What do we marriage minded guys want? Not that mermaid poster aka he. Lol.
 blueguy99881
Joined: 11/23/2014
Msg: 38
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 12/27/2014 6:54:52 PM
Cool, I take it you got some Eh? Only problem is I don't have dillouson disorder or shallowitis. So ain't gonna work!
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
Msg: 39
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 12/27/2014 7:24:19 PM
I was engaged, never got to follow through with it. But I certainly don't want marriage anytime, ever. I just respect time more, and float on sort of deal. As opposed to planning to secure a relationship.

In their 30s, then it would depend on circumstances. But if they are making a decent living, and the middle class socioeconomic status , then maybe . And its kind of a question like, what does anyone want? Hard to answer.
 blueguy99881
Joined: 11/23/2014
Msg: 40
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 12/27/2014 8:26:12 PM
Oh mermaid. Immature and a confused classless person. Go take her herpes meds and get that penicillin shot since ur full of ghonnera.
 blueguy99881
Joined: 11/23/2014
Msg: 41
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 12/28/2014 3:52:22 PM
And mermaid is a shallow superfical slut. Lol.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 42
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Posted: 12/28/2014 4:12:22 PM

Proven yet again.

I'm not so sure about that...the account keeps getting people to respond to it. If the ridiculous statement about anything doesn't get a rise from someone, the personal attack that follows seems to work. All attention is valid, even negative. So calling them an idiot is still an acknowledgement that they exist, in a way.

OT - for the post from a year ago that said there's no point in marriage unless you have children because you can still be taken for money from a woman during a divorce - I'd like to know where that's true. First of all, if anything marriage with kids will guarantee you have to pay during a divorce if you're the man unless make less than your wife, and you won't have the same trouble in a marriage without kids unless you marry a woman who makes WAY less money than you or doesn't work at all. But perhaps in the northeast where I'm from divorce is totally different than anywhere else.
 dinno76
Joined: 9/29/2014
Msg: 43
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 12/28/2014 5:01:31 PM
Most men don't want to get married even men in their 20s.nothing in it for any man no matter what his age.
 blueguy99881
Joined: 11/23/2014
Msg: 44
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 12/28/2014 5:06:45 PM
Agreed with Dino. It's worse in divorce time. Women take everything we worked hard for. And still get away with it when they cheat on us.
 ThatGirlNamedAlli
Joined: 12/28/2013
Msg: 45
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 12/28/2014 6:15:47 PM

but otherwise just take what was yours to begin with and move on. That's how I look at it.


I agree. My mom was divorced three times and she never took what wasn't hers from the beginning.
I've never been married and I'm not really interested in being so..coupled yes, married no...but if I were I'd be fair too if we split.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 12/29/2014 6:46:16 AM
I wanted to get married. I still have a peice of me that still wants it. That piece that still believes in true love and happy endings. I know it won't happen, because I am totally unattractive to women. But I still want it, I blame anime. Everytime I watch a slice-of-life anime, I could feel an old childhood dream stir. Then I come back to reality and realize I am not wanted by anyone.
 overunity
Joined: 8/16/2014
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Posted: 12/29/2014 3:28:09 PM
What they want is to give their heads a shake, lmao!
 hotdogshop100
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 48
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 12/29/2014 4:38:23 PM
They want fertile female to breed with them to carry on their family name.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 12/29/2014 9:11:00 PM
^^^well thats a stereotype, and a bad one at that.

If you are gonna play with that particular one then it should go something like, "They want a sexy female to jump on their monstrous ween and ride them into the sunset screamimg their name".
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 50
what do marriage minded men in their 30s want?
Posted: 12/29/2014 9:19:19 PM
One would envision marriage-minded men in their 30s likely wish to wed a woman with hopes she will never change...yet she does.

One would envision marriage-minded women in their 30s likely wish to wed a man with sincere hopes he will change...yet he doesn't.
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