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 htroyof
Joined: 10/6/2012
Msg: 25
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I read your story and I cried for you dear. I can relate to a lot of what you said. It's very personal for me as to why, but I want you to know that as a Christian it is my belief that we are all broken vessels. God is who is perfect and holy wants to have a relationship with you and heal you. Don't listen to the condemnation of others... that is like the devil sentencing you to prison again. You have HOPE in Jesus Christ if you give your life to him. It's as simple as a prayer. Jesus died for our sins (mistakes, human frailties whatever others want to call it). You just ask straight from your heart for forgiveness and to hand your life over to his power and he will show you new and mighty things. Join a church, or call a prayer line for help in learning more..please try 100 Huntley St. 1-800-556-3553 and they can instruct you further and help you find a local church where people will have the compassion of God in their hearts to help you find guidance for your life. Being around like minded people will nurture your spirit. We all have a God shaped void in our hearts and only HE can fill it. I'm ready for the flak I'll get for writing this, but people are not my judge. Don't let them by yours.
God Bless!
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
Msg: 26
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Posted: 1/14/2013 8:03:12 PM
9 months ago i didn't even want to live. That is how bad my life sucked. I don't want to go into specfics because in todays tech age things you say come back to haunt you. Today i am happy, excited about the future, and i turned my life around. One of the best things i ever did was go to therapy. I'm not even sure i like my therpist and i am not sure she even likes me. Talking about your problems is actually very helpful. The very first time i saw my therpist she said " you dug yourself into a huge hole and now you got to dig yourself out". I was like wow that was so helpful. I dug myself out and i am doing better than ever. I know this sounds like bs, but attitude is truly everything. Playing the victim and wallowing in self pity isn't going to help. You need to say i refuse to be a loser and do whatever it freaking takes to start winning. Yes, you are a felon and you are going to have to try alot harder to get a job. I met a few ex felons who found a job. Getting a job has to be your fulltime job. I don't know what your belief system is but talking to my higher power ( g d) really helped. I noticed that as soon as i gave myself to g d and i felt love in my heart for him, things were alot better. I am not trying to be super religious man. You have to have faith and truly believe with all your heart things will get better. Make a solid plan and put it into action. I love my life today, but 9 months ago i hated myself and everyone around me.

Htroy. Your heart is in the right place, but when you talk about religion more is less. You don't want to come off super preachy. You don't know if he is a jew, christian, or Hindu. When we drink, do drugs, feel hate and anger we turn our back on g d. When we turn our back on g d then we are at lifes mercy. G d grants us love, protection, and the ability to learn and grow. My life was a million times better when i had him in my life.
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 1/14/2013 8:11:53 PM
I think you need to show him some compassion, Funny girl. I think we all made mistakes, some more then others. Everyone deserves their own flesh and blood (except abuse cases). His kid is the one bright light in his darkness.
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 1/14/2013 8:43:19 PM
Thank you very much. I read that poem on your profile and it was beautiful. It really touched me.
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 1/14/2013 8:57:44 PM
Great minds........
 makavali7dayz3
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Posted: 1/15/2013 8:01:31 AM
Okay thanks for explaining. I just felt so bad for him after i read your post. I felt like you were kicking him when he was done. His situation sucks enough without you making it worse lol.
 makavali7dayz3
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Posted: 1/15/2013 9:08:27 AM
i wish you the best of luck bro. Your situation is tough and it breaks my heart. Let this be a lesson to everyone. COUNT YOUR BLESSING. VALUE YOUR FREEDOM. Imagine being locked in a cell with animals all day and night long.
 makavali7dayz3
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Posted: 1/15/2013 1:16:45 PM
Im really concerned about you. I hope our advice helped.
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 1/15/2013 8:05:52 PM
This is your life, sadly. Depression is temporary based on a situation that isn't set in stone. Your situation won't change unless you bust your ass to change it. Your like sucks right now, but it doesn't always have too.

Your right. You need to stop worrying about what other people say, especially when they aren;t being helpful. You need to take all the helpful and positive advice and put it into action. Stop wallowing and start changing your situation.
 makavali7dayz3
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Posted: 1/15/2013 9:07:21 PM
Cherry. I understand where you are coming from and i tend to agree, but you have to understand that some people don't have the resilence and life skills that you do. I was once where he was. I was drinking too much and i felt sorry for myself. One day i decided i hated my life and something has to change or i might as well be dead. I think he is starting to realize that things need to change, because shit just isn't working for him. He is at least trying, so we should at least give him that. I don't like the fact that he keeps saying i did this and that and nothing works. It sounds like a total cop out.
 makavali7dayz3
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Posted: 1/15/2013 10:31:53 PM
That kind of got me hot lol :) I understand where your coming from. I guess i am cursed with a big heart and i buy into peoples sob stories too much. A past girlfriend told me that.

It is about life skills a little. If someone lacks the skills to know how to cope with adversity then they are going to do unhealthy things to cope. me and you are going to get off our asses and attack the problem. He is going to fail and stay stagnent and we are going to move on with our lives. Until he learns that you can't drink your problems his life won't really improve in a meaningful way.

I think he wrote his story on this forum instead of taking a drink or scoring heroin. I know your going to rip me apart on that arguement though lol
 makavali7dayz3
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Posted: 1/17/2013 6:44:06 AM
Your right cherry. I put myself in a bad situation through bad decision making, so i feel empathy for him. I guess the people who have bad things happen through no fault of their own deserve more of a break then someone who brings a situation on themselves.
 kangia
Joined: 8/2/2009
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Posted: 2/13/2013 10:24:42 PM
Go and deliver newspapers 6 days a week. Your newspaper says NO COLLECTIONS involved...so I'm pretty confident you can have a record.

You never did say what you were in prison for each time. And as far as I know you had oppertunities in prison to try and qualify for outreach programs.

That is if you were in prison in Indiana.

I don't think you are dependent or a loser....I'm beginning to think your a USER.
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