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 Windsweptgold0
Joined: 12/11/2012
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How does a woman become good in bed?Page 3 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
Alot can depend on your partner and how comfortable you feel with them.

Time and how comfortable you feel with yourself .
 domainfullduplex100
Joined: 12/21/2012
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Posted: 1/5/2013 4:40:54 PM
the annoying thing is differs from partner to partner in terms of how to please them..meaning..if you have a long term partner, it is the best place to practice. some people are pervs....and can't be pleased without you losing your dignity..
if you aren't bad as you say..then you aren't bad. don't worry about it..comes with an open mind and practice.

few things...keagles..to strenghten your vagina and learn to control the muscles in there and use it when your male partner is close and soon after . this is how good men please their female partners..by finding out what they enjoy..rather than assuming that what they are doing is all she needs.

some like long duration intercourse love making..some don't..see..not so easy
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
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Posted: 1/5/2013 4:44:12 PM
You're young. Stick with what makes you comfortable. That which I am comfortable with at this age is very different to when I was your age.
A loving partner may have found a better way to dialogue with you.
 HoperealHeart
Joined: 12/19/2012
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Posted: 1/5/2013 4:51:23 PM
You might try picking up a copy of a book called Anne Hooper's Kama Sutra. it's tastefully illustrated and describes how to make sex fun.
 ScooterSB
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Posted: 1/5/2013 4:54:04 PM
"I heard some trick that if you finger a guy in the ass before he cums it's supposed to give him a more intense orgasm. Is that just a myth?"

Just be really careful with this, make sure the guy wants you to and is ready and willing, otherwise he will be infor a nasty suprise. Also a tip if you are going to try anything like this, form a bad experience I had once.....trim your nails :/



Back to the original question, and the guys comment, to be less 'coy' I think would mean being a bit more confident and a bit more take charge. Some times it can be really sex and a big turn on for a girl to take the lead and do what she wants to do. There's nothing to be shy about, I mean you are both naked after all....maybe apart from a bit of latex LOL
 Windsweptgold0
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Posted: 1/5/2013 4:55:31 PM
The finger thing is good but be sure the guy wants it or you may find yourself in trouble.

As many have said it takes time and what I am into now I would not of thought about when I was in my 20s but now there is no looking back
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
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Posted: 1/5/2013 5:01:01 PM
bibliophile, have you tried the CAT move? It stands for coital allignment technique. If you don't know about it, check out my thread titled "sex tecnique, the cat move". I spelled technique wrong. This next suggestion I'll make could be tough for you being only 5'4" but I'm sure it's possible, especially if your having sex with a shorter man. I've come to call it the "sex lock". It could be fun if you perfect it, because, it can render a man dominated while in the dominant position of missionary.
What the woman does, is wraps her lower legs around the mans lower legs. I think the woman starts by going over the top from the inside and wraps her legs around his and hooks the inside of his calves using her toes. What happens if you do it right, is it imobilizes the man, so he can't keep thrusting. Some people ask why that's any good? Well, because it puts the woman in control however momentarily, and it surprises the man. And there's a chance he may not have had that done to him before, so it would impress him, as it did me...lol.
 domainfullduplex100
Joined: 12/21/2012
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Posted: 1/5/2013 5:13:38 PM

I don't think any of these answers are very good. You become good in bed by being loving. And them men you were with are not loving towards you they are abusing you. Have patience and find someone loving.


i agree..this the best answer.
 nubeginnings64
Joined: 4/8/2012
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Posted: 1/5/2013 5:25:28 PM
You & the majority of the women I've had sex with since being single the last 8 years. Coyness comes off as being alouf & inexperienced. Teaching really isn't sexually satisfying to guys. A woman outside the bedroom & a slut inside isn't just an expression.
 dartmouthjames
Joined: 12/15/2012
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Posted: 1/5/2013 6:45:48 PM

but I want more clarification and ideas from guys so I can errr improve

It is so easy for a women to be good in bed, so much easier then it is for a man, and yet women everywhere still manage to continually fail at it. Basically, be into it. Be all about his**** you love it, you're a slave to it, you need it, you want it everywhere, there is no hesitation, beg him for it, let him do whatever he wants to you (within reason of course), outright tell him he can do whatever he wants to you, just be a slut in the sheets.
 pcc24
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Posted: 1/5/2013 8:49:08 PM
Men have always told me I was good in bed, from when I was young. I don't think it is any technique. If you love sex you are good at it because the other person can tell if you if you are into it. It turns them on if you love it which in turn turns you on...Simple.
 sirsoul
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Posted: 1/5/2013 10:04:28 PM
I considered your question, and my first and pretty much only thought about it is, "don't be shy". So it was not surprising to read you say in your post, "but last guy said "you're a little bit coy in bed". I don't think people have to worry so much about being "good" in bed. What they need to be aware of is if they are open or not. That is, open to experience deep emotions and sensations, and not afraid of expressing themself in front of, and for the benefit of, their partner. Some girls are literally afriad to take off their clothes, even when there's nothing particularly wrong with them. Others just don't seem to have a deep emotional range.... and I wonder why.

Being good technique wise is really secondary to the experience of genuine emotion during sex, and besides, can be learned easily with guidance from the partner. Don't worry too much about exactly how to give a great bj or whatever because everyone likes different stuff. More important is your willingness to expereince sex as deeply as you can..... and if your partner isn't good at that then you need to invite me to your place.
 Gar321
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Posted: 1/6/2013 4:57:28 AM
Different strokes for different folks .
 stevendee1956
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Posted: 1/6/2013 5:31:44 AM

And the men you were with are not loving towards you they are abusing you.


Best answer yet. I don't see how a woman cannot be good in bed, as long as she WANTS to be there. In my experience if you want to be there the rest will take care of itself. Maybe you're giving yourself to the wrong guys for the wrong reasons. Try to find someone who wants you for more than sex - his love towards you will make you good in bed.
 Glassguy122525
Joined: 12/31/2012
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Posted: 1/6/2013 6:35:45 AM
First off, kick that putz to the curb. ALL women are or can be great in bed. It is NOT about tons of partners and books and practice and all that crap. After all, you have all the tools that you need. The biggest sexual organ in the body is the MIND! Pay very close attention to what his body and words are telling you. Become like an FBI profiler. If you are giving him a BJ and he begins to thrust harder and faster......go harder and faster. If he slows down and slides allthe way in and all the way out....go with that as well. Learn to read his body language, the sounds he makes and what he says.

Great sex is just like any great relationship. You need COMMUNICATION! Be it verbal, non-verbal or otherwise. Unfortunately, this can be achieved somewhat in a few short sessions. But for the most part, it does take time and patience. You didn't learn all the types of food and music and other stuff the guy likes in one night? What makes you think this will be any different. Take your time, pay attention and talk afterwards and before.
 russell5417
Joined: 9/20/2011
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Posted: 1/6/2013 7:36:12 AM
It is mostly nonesense....like others have said, some people watch waaaaaay too much porn, and thus have unrealistic expectations.

To me, "a little bit coy in bed" means that you are somewhat shy....to me that is NOT a bad thing.
 dreamer3269
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Posted: 1/6/2013 1:06:47 PM
(quote) I know what gets me off but most guys aren't willing to do it. I wish I could experience orgasm from more of a range of stimuli but I can't - I can only get it from oral. (/quote)
I am assuming he was one of the guys who was not willing to give you oral?
If that is the case HE was the one who was not doing enough for YOU! I find the best way to get a woman to respond favorably is to stimulate her the way she needs to be stimulated....after that everything just falls into sync without any concious effort from either one of you. In reading through the thread I have discovered you have already had one guy that did that for you. I am betting you never had any complaints from him! So my advice is find a guy who is willing to please YOU and the rest will take care of its self. It is as important that he pleases you as it id for you to please him.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Posted: 1/7/2013 7:51:10 AM

The guys I've had have been quite selfish to be honest. I have a hard shell luckily...but still...ah!


This is a typical problem with younger guys. Once a man matures and wants to improve his own sex life, he discovers that the secret is to try to please his woman and help her reach at least one orgasm. Even when she may not reached that, the guy works not to simply get his rocks off but to provide pleasure for her.

Like some women say that their sexual peak was reached in their 40's, I also believe that men get better with age, not so much because of how fertile he may be, but because he know knows how to do new things.

One of the best ways to improve your sexual life is to spend some time where, all you do is talk. He tells you what he would like to do to you, you repeat it. Then you tell him what you would like to do to him, he repeats it. Then he tells you what he would like to be done to him, you repeat it. You do this with about three different ideas each. You are not allow to say "Uh, I don't like that..." You do not judge. However, you can set rules for this fantasy, where you indicate that, there will not be any third parties to it. Then go at it.
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