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Joined: 12/31/2012
Msg: 40
How does a woman become good in bed?Page 4 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
First off, kick that putz to the curb. ALL women are or can be great in bed. It is NOT about tons of partners and books and practice and all that crap. After all, you have all the tools that you need. The biggest sexual organ in the body is the MIND! Pay very close attention to what his body and words are telling you. Become like an FBI profiler. If you are giving him a BJ and he begins to thrust harder and faster......go harder and faster. If he slows down and slides allthe way in and all the way out....go with that as well. Learn to read his body language, the sounds he makes and what he says.

Great sex is just like any great relationship. You need COMMUNICATION! Be it verbal, non-verbal or otherwise. Unfortunately, this can be achieved somewhat in a few short sessions. But for the most part, it does take time and patience. You didn't learn all the types of food and music and other stuff the guy likes in one night? What makes you think this will be any different. Take your time, pay attention and talk afterwards and before.
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 44
How does a woman become good in bed?
Posted: 1/6/2013 7:36:12 AM
It is mostly others have said, some people watch waaaaaay too much porn, and thus have unrealistic expectations.

To me, "a little bit coy in bed" means that you are somewhat me that is NOT a bad thing.
Joined: 2/19/2006
Msg: 49
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How does a woman become good in bed?
Posted: 1/6/2013 1:06:47 PM
(quote) I know what gets me off but most guys aren't willing to do it. I wish I could experience orgasm from more of a range of stimuli but I can't - I can only get it from oral. (/quote)
I am assuming he was one of the guys who was not willing to give you oral?
If that is the case HE was the one who was not doing enough for YOU! I find the best way to get a woman to respond favorably is to stimulate her the way she needs to be stimulated....after that everything just falls into sync without any concious effort from either one of you. In reading through the thread I have discovered you have already had one guy that did that for you. I am betting you never had any complaints from him! So my advice is find a guy who is willing to please YOU and the rest will take care of its self. It is as important that he pleases you as it id for you to please him.
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 67
How does a woman become good in bed?
Posted: 1/7/2013 7:51:10 AM

The guys I've had have been quite selfish to be honest. I have a hard shell luckily...but still...ah!

This is a typical problem with younger guys. Once a man matures and wants to improve his own sex life, he discovers that the secret is to try to please his woman and help her reach at least one orgasm. Even when she may not reached that, the guy works not to simply get his rocks off but to provide pleasure for her.

Like some women say that their sexual peak was reached in their 40's, I also believe that men get better with age, not so much because of how fertile he may be, but because he know knows how to do new things.

One of the best ways to improve your sexual life is to spend some time where, all you do is talk. He tells you what he would like to do to you, you repeat it. Then you tell him what you would like to do to him, he repeats it. Then he tells you what he would like to be done to him, you repeat it. You do this with about three different ideas each. You are not allow to say "Uh, I don't like that..." You do not judge. However, you can set rules for this fantasy, where you indicate that, there will not be any third parties to it. Then go at it.
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