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 Salibav
Joined: 5/17/2009
Msg: 51
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I have come to believe that you have to focus on what makes you happy. When you are able to do that, things will fall into place. I no longer am making it a major goal to find someone, but putting it on my bucket list as a would be nice item. If it's mean't to be it will happen without any effort.
 juliettes7
Joined: 11/4/2012
Msg: 52
Maybe some of us are just meant to be single?
Posted: 1/14/2013 1:01:35 AM
One's assumptions can be powerful. I can have dates at any time I feel ready but dating to date isn't my thing, though one learns by new experiences.
I'd date to feel bonded to someone. Some date just for excitement, fun times, gifts--those things are nice. But I can literally do laundry with the right one and it feels happy.
The few people I'd truly feel that for are not easily found, yet I've found attractions pursuing my interests. Some aren't suitable due to age etc, but certainly we are more on a similar frequency.
 fetish4u
Joined: 4/18/2007
Msg: 53
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Posted: 1/14/2013 10:03:39 AM
I think so.I have only truly fell in love once and in the end she left.I have loss any type of interest in a relationship. I get lonely I'll get myself a dog.
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 1/14/2013 4:10:38 PM
I believe we all have a purpose in life. Some of us are meant to find someone special and some of are meant to be alone. Just live your life and be happy and eventually someone will come along. Your heart needs to be open or you will never find anyone. I used to feel be addicted to being with someone. I could not be alone and it made me so unhappy. I want to find someone, but i am also happy being single.

When you actively search for something you never find it. When you aren't looking for something it tends to land in your lap. Live your live and be happy.
 Cheskat37
Joined: 12/25/2012
Msg: 55
Maybe some of us are just meant to be single?
Posted: 1/14/2013 4:37:40 PM
Well said makavali7dayz. As they say everyone who comes into your life is either a blessing or a lesson.
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 VegasDanO
Joined: 1/1/2013
Msg: 56
Maybe some of us are just meant to be single?
Posted: 1/14/2013 7:05:55 PM
personally I'm getting tired of getting crap for my Height when I respond to most of these profiles, seems being 5'5" isn't good enough
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
Msg: 57
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Posted: 1/14/2013 7:08:29 PM
Vegas welcome to the club. LOL. It sucks, but thats life. Do i wish i was a little taller, sure. I love who i am and i wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. My height isn't the problem how people react is. Keep fishing and you will eventually find someone who isn't shallow. It takes time and effort.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 58
Maybe some of us are just meant to be single?
Posted: 1/14/2013 7:25:15 PM
WE ARE ALL meant to be single...a couple times in life. Single is not a punishment or a sentence; it's just part of the journey. Sometimes we're involved too. VERY few people out there have never had anyone. Most of us have dated and been involved at least once.

Life is a roller coaster and has dips and peaks. What those dips and peaks are is totally up to you. How you deal with both is totally up to you. It's all the way you look at it, and it's all relative.
 gloomysunday
Joined: 7/7/2012
Msg: 59
Maybe some of us are just meant to be single?
Posted: 1/14/2013 10:17:26 PM
I have to agree and I think I'm one of those people. I think girls go only by looks on this site because out of all the profiles I've read the things they look for in a guy I'm a perfect match for what their looking for and I message them talking about their profiles asking questions about it and I never get a message back, even from women that said yes in the meet me feature not a single message back.

A few days ago a girl gave me her phone number and for the past week no text backs not even answering the phone, after the 4th try of text and call to her I gave up on her.

Thankfully I pretty much gave up on trying to get into a relationship and I'm just looking for friends and people to hang out with and talk too on this site. I'm speaking on about 2 years on this site.
 12thour
Joined: 12/28/2012
Msg: 60
Maybe some of us are just meant to be single?
Posted: 1/14/2013 10:31:40 PM
Yea I pretty much think I am done in for being single...sucks on a ngiht when I want to just have someone but I just remember that ....this too shall pass
 KeepinItEasyBreezy
Joined: 7/30/2008
Msg: 61
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Posted: 1/15/2013 6:59:22 AM
You have to be a happy single to be happy in a couple. Enjoy your life. Keep looking. That's part of the fun. I enjoy being single, I enjoy being in a relationship, and I enjoy being married...any one of them can be great. Come what may.
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 1/15/2013 1:23:29 PM
+1 on the poster above. Unless you love yourself you can't love another person. I feel like people get a special vibe off people who love and accept themselves and they are much more sucessful in meeting people.
 LivvyH.
Joined: 6/14/2012
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Posted: 1/15/2013 2:52:00 PM
I sure hope not! I do admit from people observing through the years with old friends and family that some people are alone not by choice but life circumstances seems to choose them rather than they choose life circumstance. Especially with love.
 venusenvy777
Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 64
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Posted: 1/15/2013 3:17:15 PM
To me, my life is like a deep, delicious, beautiful cake. If I meet my "forever" man then that would be the most wonderful, scrumptious icing on my cake. However, if I dont, Im still going to enjoy the hell out of my cake! I dont want to spend my life complaining about what I dont have, Id rather enjoy all the wonderful things I do have...Single or not!
 Jerilyn
Joined: 1/13/2012
Msg: 65
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Posted: 1/15/2013 3:28:52 PM
In some ways, yes, I think so. A lot of people have that lone wolf personality. They would never in a million years mesh well with another person for any significant amount of time.

There is no one thing that everyone on the planet is going to be suited for... relationships are no exception.
 Your_Move
Joined: 11/12/2009
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Posted: 1/16/2013 8:36:25 AM

A lot of people have that lone wolf personality. They would never in a million years mesh well with another person for any significant amount of time.


Now THAT is interesting to me -- 'cause I tend to be like that. I wonder - can two lone wolves maintain a relationship long term, if they build in "proper space"? I *think* so, (or is it that I'd LIKE to think so?) but - past experience doesn't support my thought ;) What do you think about it all?
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 67
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Posted: 1/16/2013 5:45:30 PM

Now THAT is interesting to me -- 'cause I tend to be like that. I wonder - can two lone wolves maintain a relationship long term, if they build in "proper space"? I *think* so, (or is it that I'd LIKE to think so?) but - past experience doesn't support my thought ;) What do you think about it all?

Being the same way, I - as a lone wolf - never cared enough about this to try to figure it out, unless I was with someone I wanted to continue with and realized it conflicted to some degree when I was with someone who wasn't. I say yes - if you are both lone wolves, space will automatically be created as both are on the same page about needing it preserved. Can they live together? Different story - first do they want to? Likely not - if they do then maybe if they lived next door, a block away, in the same place but it would have to be a big place?
 HappySingleSpirit
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 1/16/2013 9:13:15 PM

Is it bad that I am beginning to accept the fact that "couple-dom" is not meant for everyone?

No, it's not bad. What people do is their own business and responsibility. No one can decide what's good for someone else.
 jpwrnglrwmn_forumsonly
Joined: 4/23/2011
Msg: 69
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Posted: 1/16/2013 9:58:13 PM
I believe the question the OP posted holds true for some of us. If you have been single for the majority of your life, there are certain circumstances that have created that, and also shaped your personality as well that would encourage this. I think I was trying to fight this for too long, but now, it's more like I've accepted this, that I'm one of those people not destined to be in a couple. Maybe it's the cynicism of actively dating for so many years, but being in a relationship isn't the greatest thing, necessarily. It'd be nice to find someone, but at this point, I'm not going to be unhappy and not enjoy my life if I don't have that person.
 CKris4real
Joined: 7/15/2012
Msg: 70
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Posted: 1/16/2013 10:38:59 PM
I have to agree too; I have been single for 23 years, with lots of fun intervals of couple-hood along the way, but only once thought that maybe I had found "the one" didn't work out and I take the responsibility for that, single to long perhaps. I am beginning to believe that I am one of those who will always be single, sometimes I'm content with that notion and at other times I am not. I'm here because I am open, but like most of us I think. It's gonna take a miracle to find "the one." Either way we get to decide what to do with ourselves in the meantime...
 bellydancinggirl
Joined: 9/16/2012
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Posted: 1/18/2013 9:26:24 AM
OP and SC67,

I have to agree with you ladies. I do get the feeling that I am destined to be alone. I don;t say that for pity or for someone to respond that someday I'll find someone blah, blah, blah. I also am choosy and picky, whether I have the right to be or not, I am. I know what I am looking for and have tried to settle in the past and it didn't work.
I am happy with my life and I stay very busy. I do casually date, but I have found as I get a little older, I do get set a little in my ways and again, thats ok...

This is a different era than when our parents were young and marriage etc was expected, nowadays and especially with the divorce rate being as high as it is( mine being one of them) it might be safer and easier to stay single.
 bellydancinggirl
Joined: 9/16/2012
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Posted: 1/18/2013 9:27:35 AM
well put... You have to love yourself first before anyone else...If you don;t, you will never be open to finding anyone or think you are worthy of love
 bellydancinggirl
Joined: 9/16/2012
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Posted: 1/18/2013 9:29:43 AM
Wow,
I never thought of myself before as a lone wolf since I am very extroverted, but when it comes to dating and/or relationships, I think I am and even with proper space in my last relationship it didn't work. now, I am a different way to think about that
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 1/18/2013 3:20:36 PM
Just to save the poor wolves... Wolves are pack animals not realy loners...
How about saying .... You are a loner skunk... Hey skunks live a solitary life, Unless they want baby skunks lol .... Just saying.
Now back to everyone regular thread of its a horible life out there...
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 75
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Posted: 1/18/2013 3:42:54 PM

Just to save the poor wolves... Wolves are pack animals not realy loners...
How about saying .... You are a loner skunk... Hey skunks live a solitary life, Unless they want baby skunks lol .... Just saying.


That's the whole point. Since they are pack animals when one chooses to leave the pack or is not alpha enough to be in the pack they are referred to as "lone". That is why there is actually a terminology for not being in the pack. Just saying...
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