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 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 2
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You could seek to date men you see behaving this way in the fairytale movies you mentioned.
 DameWrite
Joined: 2/27/2010
Msg: 13
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Posted: 1/9/2013 10:25:47 PM
Cleaning a house and making meals is easy, you have to understand that for starters. Secondly get over your ex first before thinking about another man. Thirdly, get your own gig happening that makes you happy and therefor, attractive to others.

Wallowing in self pity or blaming men is not going to get you what you want.

Educate yourself so that what you want, you can provide, and having a man to share it with, is a bonus.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 1/11/2013 5:10:24 AM

thats why for the past 2 years i made myself happy im ready to move on


Actually, according to your OWN words typed here, this is not the case. You are not really "happy" with yourself or you wouldn't have typed what you have here. Second, it's not "moving on", it's called "moved forward". As in, "onward and UPward!!!!".

At 22 you have no reason(or need) to "invite" another into your life right now. That is,of course, you truely believe that "this is it". As in, you have no more need to progress and improve your life for YOUR future????? Is that true???? Only you and the person in the mirror can answer this. The first thing I may suggest is QUIT looking at the BOYS for the answer to YOUR future!!!! Actually, it's the first and ONLY thing I am gonna suggest.
 LathaMath
Joined: 1/2/2013
Msg: 26
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Posted: 1/14/2013 4:52:39 PM

I wanna be loved i wanna find someone who can mend my broken heart someone who will feel like the luckyest man alive to have me by there side..... i know there are men like that out there but its so hard to find them when everyone eles thinks about there next high or next one nite stand..... i just i dont understand......
It sounds like you are looking for someone to make you happy. I'm not saying it's impossible but your chances are better of making yourself happy by improving your situation. Education and self-development have been mentioned. For example, you'd be better off with your own money than depending on a man for support. For that you could learn a trade or a skill. You'd be an asset in any relationship, have some woman power, and attract a better class of man, the kind who would appreciate you and treat you well, what you write that you are looking for. Good luck.
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 1/14/2013 11:18:27 PM
I will reuse my generic answer for this type of question. YOUR DATING/ATTRACTING JERKS. Look for quality men.
 TALLTEXAN2012
Joined: 4/13/2012
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Posted: 1/15/2013 5:00:54 AM
If I HAD known what I KNOW now...I would have a career...YOU need to be able to stand on your own two feet and take care of yourself!!! I got married at your age but my "'til death do us part" ended five months ago...the day I turned 62!!! X got a Masters degree...makes 6 figures...my FAMILY was my career...kids are grown, X turned out to be a lier and a cheater...just saying...find something for YOU ... YOU are the only one you can count on!!!
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 1/15/2013 5:02:44 AM
If you look for a based on their bank account you are going to be very upset and let down later on.
 speciallady1961
Joined: 12/28/2011
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Posted: 8/24/2013 2:08:27 PM
I agree with everybody here that says "stop living a fairy tale life". You need to live life. From the looks of your pic you are a pretty woman. Trust me right now at age 22, men that age group are only interested in putting their firehose in a hole to drain it. That's all. Then the run home and have their mom's cook a meal. I am 52 years old and I kept hoping my "prince" would come. I met some wonderful men and some not so wonderful men. One man in particular I fell for and would still with him today but unforntuately he passed away. If you have single girl friends get out and mingle, the married ones are too busy playing house.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 8/28/2013 8:10:18 AM
IF you want to understand it, then you must step away from it.

Once you realize the whole romantic comedy thing is a dream pandered by hollywood to make money, life becomes much more simple.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 8/28/2013 9:23:40 AM
^^^^ I play Santa for a few ladies in my life..;)
 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
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Posted: 8/30/2013 5:03:03 PM
Oh lord, when will the belief in those fairy tales stop? Before he became my ex..he used to say "Why can't our relationship be like it was when we were courting?" Because life isn't a fairy tale! There is no "happily ever after" because even the best and happiest relationships hit a few bumps in the road. There is no THE one. There is no MR/MS Right. Real life is not like what you read in books or see in movies. If you really think it is, then you will never ever EVER be truly happy in a relationship.

One dating site I'm on asks this question: Do you believe that it takes hard work to make a relationship work? You would not believe how many people, men and women, say that is false! I had a friend that said if a relationship takes work, then it's time to end it.

Here is something I've been thinking about. "In order to be with a better person, BE a better person". Work on yourself and let the other stuff work itself out.
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
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Posted: 8/30/2013 5:13:23 PM
Crazy!

Have you ever, even for one moment considered, why that great guy would want YOU? Where do you get this belief that you have to give nothing and are entitled to everything?

And, what jlynn said.

I have a great guy. He does many of the things you say you want in a guy. But, at the moment I'm not working because I moved where he is and don't have a job here yet, and you better believe when he comes home from work the house is clean, a delicious meal is cooking, and I look good. Why should he expect any less? He works. I take care of the house.

In addition, while he is a great guy, and I am a good women, and we have a lot of fun together, sincerely love each other, care for each other's well-being, and are committed to our personal growth, we still do have issues, and at times this is painful and tiresome.

However, as jlynn says, we believe that his is part and parcel or a grown-up relationship, and that the expectation that things will be perfect all the time is foolish.

What you desire does not exist. The sooner you realize that, the better off you will be.
 MS.ICENI
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 46
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Posted: 8/31/2013 3:50:11 PM
You are living in a dream world that does not exist. No guy should be expected to mend your broken heart. Your heart should already be mended and available. No guy could ever live up to your expectations. That's just reality. You need to become the type of woman a guy close to your requirements would want, and from what I see, you just ain't there yet. You have much growing up to do.
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