|I know I'm like less than half of 45... but... I'm bored.|
She's the first to call me on New Year's Day
She wanted some pipe.
we talked for a long time (about an hour and a half way longer than I probably should have
Oh ya, way too long. Who ended the conversation? This is probably why she doesn't answer the phone either... she didn't want an hour and a half phone conversation in the first place.
we seemed to talk easily
Just easier to keep the conversation going than say I have to go is my guess.
Then we began a few texts back and forth over the past week
We, or you began them? Did she ever wake up in the morning and say good morning to you first?
Am I being too unreasonable to expect her to call back after a few days, after I've left a few voice mails?
MAIN POINT: Do women really want/expect men to hound them with phone calls, texts, and emails to show they're interested? In this case, I believe she knows it already, I've texted nice good morning messages and wrote a few short emails as well during the week.
Hounding? Maybe if they're mentally disturbed. Ultimately hounding is way over the top. Girls just know when the dude is interested... it's crazy. Like, 1, MAYBE 2, messages or phone calls is enough to gauge interest. Leaving a voice mail is unnecessary. Don't say anything ridiculous in a text either...pretty much "hey" is all that needs to be said... carry on from there. Watch your words if she responds... keep it brief... Or... text her Hey and the second she responds call her and ask her out... obviously she has her phone in her hands and isn't in a meeting or anything ridiculously time consuming... pretty good way to figure out the low down if she doesn't pick up. Bottom line is a phone call or text isn't how you're going to get to know her, the only thing one should use these communication styles for are to get each other out. Unless you're in an established relationship.
So how much before you (to men) do before you give up on someone who seems promising but doesn't call back but continues responding to texts?
She gets a couple phone calls... if no dice(answer), she might get a text saying what I wanted to talk to her via phone about(asking her out)... depends on my interest level... anyways, no more than a couple texts either. If after 2 phone calls and 2 messages we're not hanging out, cya. The only time I give it more than a couple how ya doin's is if I got your number from you on the street or at the super market and she doesn't know the number calling her. This is also the only time I consider leaving a voice mail.... otherwise she has your number already and can see you called.
(To women) Do guys have to prove their interest by calling over and over like love-starved puppies?
I'm not a woman but... If the girl is playing the victim card, she might want you to call a couple/few times/what ever so she knows you're being serious/to feel liked... but ultimately, interest is proven on message or call 1 and she knows it. It depends how much you want to play into her feeling like a victim. You need to know when to cut yourself off when playing this game.
if I've called a woman two or three times and left voice mail and she doesn't bother to call back, then I'm done and moving on.
Sounds like you have it figured out. Why is this thread here?