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 LvOldMovies52
Joined: 2/12/2013
Msg: 176
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exactly....it is called cheap...
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Posted: 3/2/2013 9:30:08 PM
If the gentleman is clean, polite, sane, and not a misogynist, we can go from there....
 Gaylen63
Joined: 10/17/2012
Msg: 178
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Posted: 3/17/2013 4:09:14 PM
Hello Phoenix_55,

I just turn the big 50 two weeks ago. Love what you wrote, other then I never been married not even once, lol. Getting bored with all the young men trying to pick me up "oh what a dilemma, lol." Even more worst are the ugly ones. And I don't look my age.
 Freudian
Joined: 3/15/2010
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Posted: 3/17/2013 7:54:27 PM

Tons of pretty faces and hot bodies on POF, dime a dozen.

OK, I got the pickup warmed up and a 20 dollar bill. Time to party.
 victorianist
Joined: 2/22/2013
Msg: 180
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Posted: 3/17/2013 8:16:42 PM
I started dating more than 50 years ago and the difference I've noticed between now and 50 years ago is older woman are a helluva lot more direct, more mature, more honest, and more focused on what they want. I like it a lot. It's a huge improvement from the juvenile game playing and emotional vacillation of the young girls.

I'm old enough and experienced enough to have adopted in much of my life, and especially dating, what I call the Danny Glover motto (from the Lethal Weapon movies in which whenever the character played by Mel Gibson pulled some stupid cowboy stunt, the character played by Danny Glover would comment, "I'm too old for this sh*t").

Dating is one of the things that got better with age. Like fine wine and good whiskey. The young ones? I'm too old for that sh*t.
 LG2727
Joined: 1/20/2010
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Posted: 3/19/2013 9:40:34 PM
Hopefully, we are smarter about our choices. This cuts down on the fact that we picked the wrong ones when we were younger. People have careers and homes and familys now, we arent looking for the same things and we dont have our whole lives ahead of us. I would like someone who I'm attracted to, that likes me too,( thats the tough part it seems) that doesnt want to make me maim or kill him because of his bad behavior and can compromise and not be controlling. I refuse to give up the things I like to do as I would never ask him too. I hate the KGB interrogation on a date! What ever happened to learning about one another the old way, by spending time together? To much time I guess, everyones busy. I blame the internet dating for this, its taken a good idea for people to meet and turned it into this thing where people feel like they are worthless because no one seems to want them, because, lets face it, some people are greedy, they think there is always something better waiting around the corner..or on the next profile.
 RLock229
Joined: 1/22/2013
Msg: 182
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Posted: 3/19/2013 10:33:17 PM
Wow, did'nt know the ratio of guys to ladies on here was 25 to 1. Addios folks.. enough for me. I agree with you, nice guys generally get burned. Does explain somethings though. I have never joined a site where it was so hard to just a conversation going and get a date, for the priveledge of meeting someone out & dropping $50 or $60 bucks to have some drinks, apps and witty banter/laughs. Sheesh. I wish you all well
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Posted: 3/20/2013 1:32:12 PM

You women live in a bubble. Literate conducts an interview before she will date, and many of you still have these ridiculous demands and expectations. No wonder so many of you can't find or keep a good relationship going. So many of you are clueless about how you appear to us, aren't you. Many of you will never be in a relationship again because of it.

If it's ridiculous to demand that my intelligence and integrity be respected, then so be it. Any man who tells me I'm a liar or stupid or gullible because he hasn't lived the same kind of life I have - and doesn't believe me when I tell him what it was like - isn't one who will get a second chance. I'll just keep living in my little bubble.

My profile is as true as I can make it, and my late husband sure didn't have a problem with any of it.
 Rupertpelican3
Joined: 10/27/2012
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Posted: 3/21/2013 9:04:16 AM
"I can tell from one message........"
Maybe so, but, I try to put thought into my notes to maybe dates, if I do not even receive a one word reply, this could be considered rude.
I generally don't reply to a favorite type notice, I prefer a more personal note.
 ladywyatt
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 185
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Posted: 3/21/2013 10:01:25 AM
If I can visualize getting it on with you without throwing up a little in my mouth, you may have a chance. If not you're history.... ;)
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 186
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Posted: 3/23/2013 7:36:51 AM

(kari1350) If it's ridiculous to demand that my intelligence and integrity be respected, then so be it.


He didn't say it was ridiculous to demand that your intelligence and integrity be respected; he was observing and commenting on the apparent insistence of many women to equate "making guys jump through hoops", to "respecting my intelligence and integrity".

For the record, I think that some men also erect artificial barriers that only ham-string their efforts to secure and maintain quality relationships; however, as this is a specific thread about women, the misogynistic woman-bashing should be given free reign!
 Bambi421
Joined: 1/24/2010
Msg: 187
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Posted: 3/23/2013 8:08:46 AM
If it feels like a job interview then maybe the chemistry just isn't right so the other person is on automatic pilot.

I recently dated someone for several months. There were many wonderful things about the person, I didn't feel I could let him go. However, after several months of being together, I realize in the pit of my stomach that the relationship wasn't right for me. I could have pulled out sooner but I really did want to give the person a chance. I certainly didn't want to go as long as a year when I wasn't sure - I'm STILL not sure - but I just felt to keep going on and on was wrong. The person wanted to move in with me and I knew I didn't want to be with him all the time. If you are meant to be with someone, you want to be with them all the time - even to be bored with that person. Even in the do nothing times. When it's NOT right, you feel like you have to be entertained all the time, go to dinner all the time, DO SOMETHING all the time. When it's right, just washing the dishes is fun.

Hope this helps, just my opinion.
 stargirl59
Joined: 1/17/2010
Msg: 188
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Posted: 3/24/2013 8:57:55 AM
I think its easier at this age then when I was first dating younger because there is no longer the pressure of getting married, buying a home and having a family. Now,women 50 plus should be well-established with career, home and family. In my experience, it has been difficult to find a man that is at the same point of life as I am. I have dated younger and older and find that the men are not as financially secure as I am, in the career that they enjoy, and not as confident and secure as I would like. I look for a companion, someone who is confident but not****, a family man and someone who has similar likes as I do. A piece of advice is to get to know the person. People tend not to be that honest in the beginning and once you are hooked, you find it difficult to part ways when you are committed to this person. Go with your gut feeling. If it feels wrong and it can't be fixed, part amicably and wish each other well.
 charliesmom21
Joined: 6/22/2009
Msg: 189
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Posted: 3/24/2013 9:05:04 AM
+1 Star girl.. I am finding the same thing as you. There are many men out there that just are not in the same place I am and expect me to just fall in love with them and accept their way of life or take care of them. I just dont see that as a match. Often they get angry when I say we are not a match and it gives me no pleasure to say it. However, at this point in my life, I am looking for my equal, someone I cant wait to see and know I will enjoy growing old with. I dont waste my time or theirs when I know its just not a connection.
 fusiadreamer
Joined: 10/5/2008
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Posted: 3/24/2013 9:28:56 AM
Yes..............dont ever give up on some good old fashioned courting. Too few men bother these days to 'woo' a lady and frankly, thats what we (most of us) want. Good luck.
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 191
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Posted: 3/24/2013 8:52:03 PM

fusiadreamer
Yes..............dont ever give up on some good old fashioned courting. Too few men bother these days to 'woo' a lady and frankly, thats what we (most of us) want. Good luck.


'Cause it's all about you, not us, as in both people.

My late Wife was chasing, courting, wooing, me as much as I was her. Then when two equals meet, that happens. It's a two way street and both are involved. Some still haven't learned that fairy tales are a fiction book, not real life. This isn't Camelot and you're not a Princess.
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 192
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Posted: 3/25/2013 9:51:46 AM

Yes..............dont ever give up on some good old fashioned courting. Too few men bother these days to 'woo' a lady and frankly, thats what we (most of us) want.


I agree!

I love men who enjoy “courting” a woman, and who go out of their way to attract and win over a woman. Some men realize that some women like to be treated as someone special, not just another notch…..and those men are soooooo worth waiting for.

Some women enjoy being women, and really really like it when men act like men.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 193
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Posted: 3/25/2013 10:11:02 AM
I love men who enjoy “courting” a woman, and who go out of their way to attract and win over a woman.


You mean with free meals, free drinks and trinkets. Some things never change with age. Being wooed is short for man with big woo..allet.
 charliesmom21
Joined: 6/22/2009
Msg: 194
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Posted: 3/25/2013 10:32:18 AM
+1 Fleuron.. no question about that. For the men who squawk and start stating all women like this are only after money, I do feel sorry for you. To be that bitter and scarred about women is something I find sad. Not all "ladies" are gold-digging princess's.. some of us just enjoy mutual respect, mutual kindness and manners. I have never dated anyone who was not a gentleman, but have met plenty of men on line who never got to a meeting because they were not. The "bitter-buddies" seem to find an excuse to blame women when they are not getting dates. Attitude might be more the problem.
 ForumFiona
Joined: 1/7/2013
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Posted: 3/25/2013 10:37:21 AM
^^^ Haha I think thats funny Maleman.
Wooing is a very subjective term for many women. For example, I don't like eating anything unless it is from my own kitchen and I don't drink alot. So I guess that leaves only trinkets for me...lol.
 Freudian
Joined: 3/15/2010
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Posted: 3/25/2013 11:04:16 AM

Some women enjoy being women, and really really like it when men act like men.

Once again, there's the problem of: What is acting like a man? Is it opening the door or grabbing you by the hair and dragging you off? Where is the line between manliness and cave-manliness? Does he steal a kiss over dinner, or is that pushing it too far? Is he supposed to smell like WD40 or Aramis? Is a sword a proper accessory, or should he be welded to a cell phone? Is it manly to set in a recliner and send texts all day, or should he be out digging post holes?

It goes both ways of course, is a womanly woman a wall flower, or does she dance on the bar? Does she need help opening the pickles or does she shoe her own horse? Is she sexy when helping you clean the septic tank or when she stands 30 yards away holding her nose and complaining about the smell.

Where's the line, is there a line, do we need a line? Shouldn't we just want them to be themselves and just see what happens over time?
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 197
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Posted: 3/25/2013 11:50:37 AM

You mean with free meals, free drinks and trinkets. Some things never change with age. Being wooed is short for man with big woo..allet.


Oh, that’s too bad. It must be absolutely agonizing for you to know that you’re unable to win over women with your own sweet (cough!) self, and feel it necessary to desperately buy them….but can’t afford any. That’s gotta be rough. Especially since there are plenty of men who know how to do it and do it soooo very well.

Well YOU will surely never change. Boo hoo for you.


+1 Fleuron.. no question about that. For the men who squawk and start stating all women like this are only after money, I do feel sorry for you. To be that bitter and scarred about women is something I find sad.


It is so very, very sad. I will light a candle tonight in sympathy and condolence for all the lost and missing balls.


Not all "ladies" are gold-digging princess's.. some of us just enjoy mutual respect, mutual kindness and manners. I have never dated anyone who was not a gentleman


Me either. I have many male friends I’ve never dated who behave like gentleman with me, as well.

I guess there are some men who make the absolute least amount of effort with any woman who lets him get away with it….and when a woman settles for a man’s least, that’s exactly what she’s gonna get.


Where's the line, is there a line, do we need a line? Shouldn't we just want them to be themselves and just see what happens over time?


Of course. And some of us prefer men who are themselves the best when behaving like men. It’s simple preference. I know a man I like when I see one.


What is acting like a man? Is it opening the door or grabbing you by the hair and dragging you off?


Speaking for myself…..I prefer a man equally proficient in door opening and hair grabbing. You know, a gentleman in the street and a freak in my bed. ;)
 Freudian
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Posted: 3/25/2013 8:03:58 PM

And some of us prefer men who are themselves the best when behaving like men.

Now, don't get insulted, but that's a circular reference. I asked how a man acted and you essentially replied that men behave like men.

???
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 199
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Posted: 3/26/2013 3:43:44 PM

Now, don't get insulted, but that's a circular reference. I asked how a man acted and you essentially replied that men behave like men.


I’m not insulted. I thought your examples were facetious, so I responded in kind with my “hair pulling” comment. (but I did mean it)

I can only answer for myself, and I doubt my opinion means much to anyone other than me. I don’t go for men who calculate, analyze, keep score, etc. while dating or in a relationship; or consider women trophies, accessories, sex objects, air heads, or toys.

From my previous post, in part: I love men who enjoy “courting” a woman, and who go out of their way to attract and win over a woman. Some men realize that some women like to be treated as someone special, not just another notch…

Some men treat women the way I prefer to be treated by men…this (among other things) turns me on. I’ve been fortunate enough to attract men who behave the way I prefer men to behave. Can I give you a detailed list of what attracts me? Sure, but…it’s pointless.

Probably the most valid thing I can offer is that every woman is an individual human being; she likes what she likes, and doesn’t like what she doesn’t like. Trying to determine what every woman wants in a man, or what makes a man a “man” to every woman, is futile.
 Stubidooo
Joined: 12/30/2012
Msg: 200
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Posted: 3/26/2013 4:07:29 PM

I prefer a man equally proficient in door opening and hair grabbing.

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