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 rcp83
Joined: 6/17/2015
Msg: 76
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MARLENE: ..I'm sorry, Jerry. I just don't think this is going to work.
JERRY: I guess I just didn't expect it from the way you've been acting.
MARLENE: I guess things changed for me on Tuesday night.
JERRY: Tuesday night? What happened Tuesday night?
MARLENE: ..I saw your act. I can't be with someone if I don't respect what they do.
JERRY: You're a cashier!

Marlene sounds like a **** to me? What the heck happened?
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Definition of financially secure
Posted: 7/17/2015 10:53:17 AM

Financially secure is where someone has enough return on investments, that it no longer matters whether or not they work at a job.

That's a very Narrow, stringent definition! :) That sounds like they're financially secure for Retirement (which for most, would require being at an age where they get SS checks in the mail).

Financially Secure, IMO, means you're secure financially. Somewhat common, but not terribly uncommon sh!t can happen and you're not going to have to borrow money or have to "scrape by" to make-it-work. Instead, you'll just have less money in the bank. You could lose your job, but you'll be financially OK with some budgetary changes/adjustments for a while until you get a new one within the estimated length of time to get a new one.

You never struggle for "breathing room" financially to get/do not-so-extravagant things. You could be making $250k a year and not be financially secure due to an over-priced massive house you bought on 0% down that couldn't be sold for near the sale price you got it for, 2 insane cars ya bought making payments on, 3 illegitimate kids you have to make child support payments to, college loan debt from a college that was way over-priced, etc.

IMO, it's a debt/income ratio + money saved in the bank, and along with the security of that income stream.
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
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Definition of financially secure
Posted: 7/17/2015 11:05:44 AM
^+1

That is how I see it!

High income often doesn't make someone financially secure. Many spend much more than they make or should spend. Location also can make a big difference. Here people spend often over 50% of their salary on rent, but brag how good their income is when they ask you to lend them 20 bucks. :(
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 79
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 7/17/2015 12:32:10 PM


You never struggle for "breathing room" financially to get/do not-so-extravagant things. You could be making $250k a year and not be financially secure due to an over-priced massive house you bought on 0% down that couldn't be sold for near the sale price you got it for, 2 insane cars ya bought making payments on, 3 illegitimate kids you have to make child support payments to, college loan debt from a college that was way over-priced, etc.


Ahhh yes...The American Dream.
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 81
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 7/24/2015 11:01:51 AM
Financially secure is a pretty straightforward definition. It means you're not at risk of loss. Your car and house payments are current. Your student loan isn't in default. You have money saved to cover these things if you lose a job or anything for a couple months. You might have invested in a 401k or an IRA for your future, so that when you do retire, you still have a stable income. Anyone my age can have about 1M by the time we retire, that'll last about 20 years, easily.

Financial stability, though, basically means that you're not living beyond what you can afford. You don't have to be rich, but you're not ending every week more and more in debt. Some weeks will end in debt, but it can't be every one.
 overunity
Joined: 8/16/2014
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Definition of financially secure
Posted: 7/24/2015 11:08:15 AM
When winning a million dollar lottery wouldn't make your lifestyle any different than now.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 83
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 7/24/2015 11:28:46 AM
Corporations will NEVER let you feel financially secure.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 84
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/17/2016 9:52:36 AM

Just what is the definition for financially secure,


Able to pay all your bills.


and also generous?


Willing to pay all HER bills.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 85
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/17/2016 2:15:50 PM
Financially secure? A willingness to pay for the coffee on a first meet/date.
 geekgrrrl
Joined: 1/28/2009
Msg: 86
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Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/17/2016 3:02:21 PM
So this old azz thread was rebooted to whine about who pays? Sooooo many threads about this.

I'm financially secure, if he asks me out on a date/meet I expect him to be financially secure enough and mature enough to pay for whatever he's invited me to join him doing. Be it coffee or dinner. If he asks me to split the bill or pick up the tip I consider him a loser.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 87
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Posted: 9/17/2016 7:04:10 PM
Financially secure: he pays, gets no play, and doesn't go online to P&M about it, b/c he can afford to lose the money.

Financially secure enough on her end: she lets the man spend the night at her place.

Meanwhile, this page brings back some old faces. Er, names. old names.
 flman2015
Joined: 10/3/2015
Msg: 88
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Posted: 9/17/2016 8:42:04 PM


Financially secure = someone who won't ask to borrow money on the third date ;-)

Generous = someone who will loan money on the third date and thereafter. ;-)
 loveisatemple
Joined: 3/28/2014
Msg: 89
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Posted: 9/18/2016 4:14:15 AM
I will point out, there are male gold diggers, or gigolos, or arrangement seekers, or just men with income reqs, so we can stop making this about women trying to suck you dry financially.

I have had people inquire about family resources or inheritances or assume because of where they live, they might have$. They sniff around. I think, really, you are going to wait it out, till they expire?

This question is silly. It's like somebody never dated before and never knew how to vet somebody. Date somebody of a similar income bracket, and philosophy about money, no debts, or whatever your criteria is.

Yeah, there are going to be people who think you are beneath them financially, and others desperately wanting gain. Just another reality.

Personally, the deciding about marriage like it's a business venture makes me even less interested than I was, which was not much. If kids were involved, ok, but other than that, unless it's a very strong bond with a long track record, why seek out complications with newbies, or especially strangers from the internet.
 imanorangetiger
Joined: 12/29/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2016 5:46:31 AM

So this old azz thread was rebooted to whine about who pays? Sooooo many threads about this.

I'm financially secure, if he asks me out on a date/meet I expect him to be financially secure enough and mature enough to pay for whatever he's invited me to join him doing. Be it coffee or dinner. If he asks me to split the bill or pick up the tip I consider him a loser.


I'm left wondering how many times you make the invitation. Or how many times you offer to split a bill or pick up a tip?
 Shewymacfee
Joined: 4/2/2016
Msg: 91
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/18/2016 6:58:38 AM
Being financially secure is by keeping one person happy,,,, your bank manager ,,,,

I own a very small company with 2 employees, (so on here,,,he owns his own company, he must have loadsa money).

One month you may do extremely well and are able to pay a sizable sum to your bank manager, but a couple of bad months can deplete this sum dramatically.
2 employees + bills have to be paid regardles, so sometimes you go short to cover these bills.
But I still class myself as financially stable whilst the company still survives, and I can ( with a struggle ) keep Mr bank manager happy.

If you can live within your means, regardless of what you earn, you may not be rich, but are indeed financially stable.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 92
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/18/2016 7:20:57 AM

Be it coffee or dinner. If he asks me to split the bill or pick up the tip I consider him a loser.


But...do you play the game where you make a "fake" offer to contribute to the bill or tip, hoping he says "Don't worry about it. I've got it", and he's a loser if he takes you up on your offer?
 VikingHoosier
Joined: 5/8/2015
Msg: 93
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/18/2016 9:29:12 AM
When a woman's profile says "You: financially secure | stable", it means the opposite of the literal definition.

An actually financially secure man has stable finances because he DOESN'T throw away his money on foolish, frivolous wastes.

The woman who wrote that in her profile actually wants a fool who lives paycheck-to-paycheck, pissing away his money so he's broke, most likely with a negative net worth.

There might be a few zillionaire trust fund brats who can spend big bucks and not exhaust their inheritance, but odds are they won't be on this site or similar dating sites. If he is on a site, he'll go for someone younger, thinner, etc.


"Generous" obviously means spending big bucks.


A similar phrase in profiles is "good job". This means a high paying job. "Professional" means the same thing, as does "career". "Good food", "fine dining", and "good restaurants" are other red flags.


Even in the unlikely event she's not trying to mooch off his $, she's high maintenance, wanting to do costly things such as travel.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 94
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/18/2016 11:05:17 AM
And God forbid you mention that you're an hourly employee.....ewwww
 Whisky_River
Joined: 12/2/2015
Msg: 95
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/18/2016 11:43:58 AM
Well......I just want someone that pays his own way because I do...it's kind of surprising how many men have nothing.
I am not looking to increase my worth....just not lose what I have.
Sure, it could be likely they lost some from their divorces but I find many/some will go the party route and not spend their portion responsibly...(what a boring word) eh?
I don't want some broke arse that has no money sense or hasn't worked a day in his life.
I started out that way...with my first husband.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/18/2016 11:59:26 AM
Financially secure to me would mean I am self sufficient. I'm debt free and have an excellent credit score. I'm very far from rich and I've never been a homeowner.

Some will say I'm financially secure and others will say I'm not. Some will say I'm stable and some will say I'm not.

There's many different definitions to this term.
 2ufo2
Joined: 8/29/2016
Msg: 97
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/18/2016 6:55:34 PM
I'll copy up my FICO score to add to my dating resume, along with my bank statement (identifying names and numbers redacted) and the reference letter from my ex-husband.

Good heavens... it's all turning into numbers. Will my next introductory message say:

"Hi, I'm only a 5 in looks but my FICO is 810. My GPA was 2.7 but it was Ha'vad and that, as everyone knows, counts double. My current GPS is 29.9792° N, 31.1342° E and my age is un ar un ar un ar bymtheg ar hugain ar hugain. By the looks of your car, your FICO is 630 and your clothes date you to the 90's, but I rank your attractiveness a solid 7.5 - maybe even an 8 if you can show me a photo with a smile. Send me a message and maybe we can hexadecimal together."
?
Or maybe...

01010111 01101111 01110101 01101100 01100100 00100000 01101100 01101111 01110110 01100101 00100000 01110100 01101111 00100000 01101101 01100101 01100101 01110100 00100000 01111001 01101111 01110101 00101110 00100000 00100000 01010100 01100101 01111000 01110100 00100000 01100001 01110011 01100001

Oh, ENIAC, you say the most romantic things...
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 98
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/18/2016 7:35:17 PM
2ufo2 ^ ^ ^ ^ Love it. Too funny! I give it a 10.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/19/2016 12:26:19 AM

Send me a message and maybe we can hexadecimal together."
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Or maybe...

01010111 01101111 01110101 01101100 01100100 00100000 01101100 01101111 01110110 01100101 00100000 01110100 01101111 00100000 01101101 01100101 01100101 01110100 00100000 01111001 01101111 01110101 00101110 00100000 00100000 01010100 01100101 01111000 01110100 00100000 01100001 01110011 01100001

That's not hexadecimal, that's binary. Ha'vard (or any community college) would correct one on that. :)
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 100
Definition of financially secure
Posted: 9/19/2016 6:37:28 AM
I thought it was a response given when asking a really drunk person to count from 1 to 10.
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