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 rd1955
Joined: 9/10/2008
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Hey G-Rock, I've had 1 Valentine's day date since 1984...That makes me 1-29, and that date wasn't even fun! At first it bothered me, back in the mid 80's, because I had been in a couple of really nice relationships beforehand. I missed enjoying the day with someone who was special to me. I got over that and eventually learned to not let it bother me and to stop counting something negative (just did it now for this reply) because it only reinforces the negative feelings. I try to enjoy myself doing things with friends whenever I can, and if it's Valentine's day, that's great. I haven't sat home and felt bad about being alone in a long time, and I refuse to do that again. The mind controls emotions, so don't dwell on negatives. Have a drink and a good meal with friends...savor what you do have!
 Mikare
Joined: 11/6/2012
Msg: 44
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/8/2013 2:07:20 PM
I think I'll start my chocolate early this year lol this thread depresses me.
 LisaLou65
Joined: 12/15/2012
Msg: 45
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/10/2013 5:17:48 PM
I plan on buying myself something special. As long as I am my own valentine, I won't be disappointed in someone else not being there for me. I usually don't like any holidays because I haven't had a special person in my life to enjoy them with.
 GC_Hayez
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 46
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/10/2013 5:21:06 PM
There's only one thing that gets my mind off Valentine's Day... and that's playing the blues on my harmonica. Here's a sample:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ehJEG6gXImE
 Moscatored
Joined: 10/9/2011
Msg: 47
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/10/2013 5:47:07 PM
that is a very good question... i think i've had only about 1-2 Valentine's days with someone special. each year i hate it even more. plus it doesn't help that my birthday is just 3 days after.

although one year for valentine's day was probably the best year and i didn't have someone special. my cousin had a floral shop and needed help delivering flowers. so i volunteered and it was awesome walking in with flowers and giving it to people. seeing the expressions on their faces was priceless. you might think that not having someone special and delivering valentine's would be really depressing and remind you of not having someone but really it is fun seeing the surprised looks on others faces. makes you feel like you are a superhero or something.

:)
 lookngdd
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 48
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/10/2013 6:23:24 PM
I hope you all enjoy the holiday and go buy ourselves a nice flower bouquet. You can get em as low as$5.00! I know, not the same, but why not? I always know in February every year I'll be alone, so I know to be ready for all the drama of it all. I'm going to mall and shop- need to treat myself nice- I'm not too bad to look at, and I'm unique too!
 bbqchickenrobot
Joined: 10/23/2007
Msg: 49
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Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/10/2013 7:22:23 PM
Valentines is just another day when you *reallly* think about it. Don't over analyze. What does suck is that TV, Radio, neighbors, stores, etc... all have all that "dumb" shit blaring in our faces. So, even though drinking is a short term solution your original post was just about making it past valentines day lol. That's how you do it. Go to a nudie bar and bring a bottle and when you find a hot stripper to hang out with request they play the song "You and me and the bottle makes three tonight!" lol.
 KER6969
Joined: 12/16/2012
Msg: 50
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/10/2013 7:35:17 PM
Valentine's Day is very difficult for me as it's my parents anniversary (they would have been married 65 years this year) and my father has passed. The last 3 years have been very hard for my mother with the loss of my father and my sister. My mother is nearly 85 and in frail health, so on Valentine's Day, my kids and I take my mom out to her favourite restaurant for dinner and I spend a majority of the day with her so it's easier to bear for her.

This year my kids and I reprinted some pics of my parents through the years and put them in a framed collage to give to her on Thursday. My kids also made cards for her too.
 nirvanawithu
Joined: 12/12/2012
Msg: 51
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/11/2013 9:59:15 AM
^^^^^^ Very Thoughtful, Nice Idea ^^^^^^
 nirvanawithu
Joined: 12/12/2012
Msg: 52
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/13/2013 3:42:30 PM
lookngdd - I have a very difficult time believing you're alone every year. Are all the guys in CA blind???

Well, I made the decision to take myself out and keep my favorite waterfront bar a GOOD memory. I already reserved a table out on the deck so I'm going to enjoy the band, have a great diner, enjoy a few drinks and there's always plenty of beautiful women to admire.

Worst part is a former GF texted me this afternoon and asked where I was going and I told her. Then a while later she was asking what I got my girlfriend and told her I wasn't seeing her anymore without thinking. Now I'm worried the old ex is going to show up, I wouldn't put it past her. Damn it!

Last year was great, and next year will be great too. May as well focus on myself for a change...

One day left, Yahoo!
 outdoorsguy2099
Joined: 1/6/2013
Msg: 53
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/13/2013 3:55:28 PM
i hate valentines day.im 30 and never had a valentine b4.i was close this year when i met the love of my life,but got dumped right after xmas .sucks knowing ur alone feels like ill never have a valentine
 StrykinOut
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 54
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/13/2013 4:27:44 PM
I thought someone was interested but then she just disappeared. I'm taking the money I would have spent over the past month and buying my daughter and myself annual passes to Disneyland.
 lookngdd
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 55
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/13/2013 6:58:25 PM
I'm glad for this forum. I had never shared my anger, disappointment etc. for V day. Talking about it is actually getting boring and worthless. I've just kept busy for days now and have calmed down to enjoy life. For the past year I have been on POF and texting, meeting guys. I have not gotten messages recently and it's actually been nice. I guess I got too into all this nonsense. I think I can try to be more social on my own or what a concept- accept being single. As far as Vday, my Daughter an I got a nice plant and went on a shopping spree! Life is good.... Don't need a guy after all- yea!
 SILLYGIRL111
Joined: 11/30/2012
Msg: 56
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Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/13/2013 8:23:38 PM
Last year I was with my boyfriend of 6 years we are just friends now he sent me a get well card and happy v day. I will go shopping on v day.
 nirvanawithu
Joined: 12/12/2012
Msg: 57
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/13/2013 8:46:14 PM
Last year I thought I had someone I could call my wife someday, but found out she doesn't want to make the effort. Not everyone does, and not everyone will meet that special someone.

I'm gratefull I got to spend time with someone I actually would have considered marrying. That's pretty rare, but if you don't receive the same feelings in return, all you can do is keep searching and wish them luck..
 NotSeekin
Joined: 4/25/2012
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Making it past Valentine's Day - GIVING
Posted: 2/13/2013 10:01:14 PM
Honestly, was getting a little tired of reading stuff in these forums - lots of rude comments. BUT, this one 'thread' is super! So many really nice comments & displays of compassion and caring. Kudos to all who contributed. What a nice pick me up. Especiallly enjoyed the following excerpts that show that GIVING to others is very helpful to us:

Mikare on 1/30/2013
...Throw your own party..... I have learned to make my own day special not just for me but for others as well

Miss_ing on 2/4/2013
Advice: smile, laugh, take friends out, buy'em funny gifts and enjoy the day. ... But my friends came in dragged me out dressed me and off to dinner and movie. We laughed, joked, teased and enjoyed life. Now years later I still continue with that tradition. I make sure all my single friends have fun that day.

lookngdd on 2/5/2013
… I have a great Daughter and may just take her out special.

Moscatored on 2/10/2013
...my cousin had a floral shop and needed help delivering flowers. so i volunteered and it was awesome walking in with flowers and giving it to people. seeing the expressions on their faces was priceless. ...

KER6969 on 2/10/2013
…This year my kids and I reprinted some pics of my parents through the years and put them in a framed collage to give to her on Thursday. My kids also made cards for her too.
 nirvanawithu
Joined: 12/12/2012
Msg: 59
Making it past Valentine's Day - GIVING
Posted: 2/13/2013 11:59:10 PM
Now that the day is here, Happy Valentine's Day to all the Ladies that read this post and thank you for your thoughts. You're very special regardless of today, so always remember that!

And even though I didn't get a repeat of last year, I hope my friend and her daughter have a great Valentine's Day too, they brought allot of happiness to my life and I'm very grateful for that.

Cheers!
 juliettes7
Joined: 11/4/2012
Msg: 60
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/14/2013 2:18:44 AM
If you had a relationship that ended without either party disrespecting the other, that I find rare and a wonderful memory. I tend to expect things to end, people being fickle and the world moving too fast but if I could have genuine connections, the fact they end is something I can deal with. I just feel good I had the experience.
I can't say the same of train wrecks. Those are years I can't get back but luckily they aren't too long in the scheme of things.
They had a profound way of waking me up though, so I can use that experience to be more awake in my dealings with others vs looking through rose colored glasses, and can truly appreciate a good thing when it arrives.
I've always never minded Valentine's yet my exes were grumbly. I used to send notes to loved ones, talk to old friends, make gifts when solo. I never went out to venues on that day--too crowded and hyped.
I think people resent it because it's become a competitive or comparative benchmark, but I've just seen it benignly as a reminder to not take loved ones for granted.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 61
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/14/2013 6:13:33 AM
Valentine day.

When I was around 29 I used to travel for business staying a month in each city, then come home for a few days and head back out.

One month I was in Silver Spring Maryland, and since I enjoy high end restaurants, and I was partial to French
restaurants, I made a reservation at a French restaurant.

I didn't think about it being Valentine day.

Felt very awkward sitting at this table, a big heart for a center piece, all couples sitting around me once in a while glancing at me, and me eating by myself at a table nearly in the middle of the restaurant.

Not really a great feeling, if I had thought more about it I was have grabbed a burger and ate at the hotel.

But I remember that Valentine's day more than any other.
 outdoorsguy2099
Joined: 1/6/2013
Msg: 62
Making it past Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/14/2013 11:31:42 AM
Rob sry to hear man. But u are right I am gonna do the same.If they haven't message u today then it really is over. I lost my first love five weeks ago.Today we must start a new chapter. No matter How hard it is.and everyone else on the forums I wanna thank you.makes me realize Im not only one going through tough times.hope u all have a great day no matter How hard it is for sum of us.
 lookngdd
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 63
Making it past Valentine's Day - GIVING
Posted: 2/14/2013 2:18:43 PM
Well, the day is half over and I have not shed a tear, yea haha. I am not the crying kinda gal anyway, so.. I went to the gym, wore a cute red top, do not wear red usually. I'll get my Daughter from school and have fun. My Sister sent text happy Val day. None of the guys I know or have my # called or texted- but I expected that- time to meet new ones. If I go around smiling it will help to attract too. So, to all us alone today, at least we don't have a special one that let us down right? That would be worse that they forgot this day and the letdown.. I'm grateful actually!! xoxoxxoxox
 jpwrnglrwmn
Joined: 10/21/2013
Msg: 64
Making it past Valentine's Day - GIVING
Posted: 2/8/2014 5:53:56 PM
To me, it's just an overcommercialized holiday, just another day, in my opinion. Even when I was with someone, I still had the same opinion. I will most likely be working my normal hours, so I won't leave work until later at night. However, I plan on giving all my friends little Valentine's day cards (the type you used to give in elementary school with some of the Peanuts characters--Snoopy and Woodstock) earlier in the day, along with some Ghiradelli chocolates. Sometimes, it's just nice to do small things for friends to show you appreciate them.
 SILLYGIRL111
Joined: 11/30/2012
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Posted: 2/12/2014 7:47:47 AM
I could have been with my ex boyfriend of close to seven years since he called me up wanting to get back with me. I just could not be with him any longer there are reasons why. I will just have a nice meal with my mother. I have bought my own chocolate etc. I bought my mother chocolate.
 jeffc210
Joined: 12/30/2013
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Posted: 2/27/2014 12:44:35 PM
valentines doesnt always have to be a day of bad days
some times us broken hearted can use this as an adavantage to find another broken heart looking for someone as you are what wouldnt be better than to meand a groken heart with another
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