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 Happy_gal2013
Joined: 12/30/2012
Msg: 54
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?Page 4 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Ineedfun,
I have been in a very similar situation with my ex. He was very ill for a few months. I had him move in temporarily until he got on his feet again. I gave him my bed and I took the sofa. Friends said that I was wrong for doing so. I'm sure he would have done the same for me if he was able to do so. I have no regrets. However, a issue did arise when it was time for him to go back to his place. He enjoyed being cared for and didn't want to go back out on his own. We were divorced for a reason. It all worked out and would not have changed a thing.
 Happy_gal2013
Joined: 12/30/2012
Msg: 55
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/4/2013 5:03:39 PM
6ft4blackmam, I'm sorry to hear that. Some people's actions just makes me shake my head. Karma.....I hope your still not friends with your buddy. Unforgivable.
 Darkhawk36
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 56
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Posted: 2/4/2013 6:48:26 PM
Hey 6ft4blackman, same thing happened to me. Some things are unforgivable.
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 57
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Posted: 2/5/2013 7:27:24 AM
Yesterday I would have said yes but last night I found out she put the moves on my underage cousin, so no I don't care if she had to sleep in a ditch
 strawberryrippleicecream
Joined: 10/29/2012
Msg: 58
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/5/2013 12:04:57 PM
if she is your ex - then she is free to date whoever she likes - but so are you.
 FairOaksChick
Joined: 11/7/2011
Msg: 59
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/5/2013 12:42:51 PM
You missed the part where he said that his cousin is UNDERAGE. I'm sure he could care less who she dates, as long as he is above the age of consent.
 rockstar_ocnj
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 60
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/5/2013 1:32:32 PM
But did she KNOW the cousin was underage, or even his cousin? Cuz I doubt people card someone before they hit on them. Once in a while, young people DO look old enough
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 61
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Posted: 2/5/2013 2:06:01 PM
She absolutely knew he was 15 and she knew he was my cousin thats how she met him in the first place. He and I were around each other plenty while we were married
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 62
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/5/2013 4:01:20 PM
ineedfun2010- I might have if not for the fact that I was in that very situation and he refused to help. I had surgery and needed a ride home and to be watched the first day because of bleeding/sedation. My sister came through the 1st day and helped me, but it was rough. Our 18 year old daughter had to take care of me the 2nd and 3rd day, even then, she could only be there part of the day(because of collage), I was in a lot of pain and pretty much helpless. He wouldn't even give our son a ride home from school. So given how he treated me, I would say no.
 darkmascara
Joined: 1/26/2013
Msg: 63
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/5/2013 4:16:02 PM
I don't know if i would allow my ex to stay. He was physically abusive and that was the reason i kicked him out
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 64
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/5/2013 4:44:36 PM
As my buddy said as I asked him this question on our ski trip on Sunday, "Oh no! I would come home one day and everything would be gone. Nooooo, no, no, no, no." He was also afraid that his breakfast would taste like almonds (arsenic tastes like almonds).
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 65
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/5/2013 4:52:46 PM
JoeBnD- But what if she just really liked almonds? :D
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 66
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Posted: 2/5/2013 5:07:20 PM

JoeBnD- But what if she just really liked almonds? :D


Well, his ex is a nut case!
 434handyman
Joined: 1/21/2013
Msg: 67
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/9/2013 9:29:07 AM
Yes, if we departed on good terms, however some women are just evil break up ****es. But yes, I would help any of those who were human to me.
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 68
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Posted: 2/9/2013 9:53:09 AM
I don't see anything wrong with helping someone in need. I would help out an ex, an ex friend, and I have also been known to be gracious towards an enemy from time to time. I like to help people, but I am not a martyr. I am not going to help someone if it is going to be damaging to me. There are limits as to what is healthy when it comes to helping others.
 Onbendedknee1
Joined: 1/27/2013
Msg: 69
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/9/2013 8:09:49 PM
As long as she could be in a cage in the garage ..I dont do crazy
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 70
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Posted: 2/9/2013 9:06:16 PM
I would help her out but don't go expecting a reconciliation, cuz it's not happening.
 arbled1
Joined: 1/30/2013
Msg: 71
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/9/2013 9:52:41 PM
I know God is going to bless you - and I hope he appreciates you and respects you!
 12thour
Joined: 12/28/2012
Msg: 72
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/9/2013 10:25:21 PM
Yes. I would take him in and help him. We shared a life together and I have no time for hate in my life. I do NOT love him in the tiniest of measures but as a human whose life was apart of mine and whose daughter is ours....if he had NO OTHER place to go. I would allow him to live with me until he was healed....and I would beg my boyfriend to stay with me too :)
 Kashpowerranger2012
Joined: 5/11/2011
Msg: 73
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/10/2013 9:36:41 AM
real woman there...mine let me starve
 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 75
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/11/2013 9:36:40 PM
Ineedfun, can he and the kids maybe go to a hotel for a couple of days? Sounds like you need a break really badly by now, and if he's well enough, it might be fun for the kids. Sort of like camping in.

Oh! Or maybe you could go to one! Be pampered, not have to deal with any house stuff... no cleaning...
 ThePoeticWriter
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 76
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/11/2013 9:59:55 PM
OP, is there a new man in your life that may get jealous?
 seaward-4-me
Joined: 10/9/2012
Msg: 77
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Posted: 2/12/2013 1:31:00 PM
I applaud you Ineedfun2010. It is people like you that shows that there is still hope for the human race. The world needs more Ineedfun2010's. Please don't change
 stayinalive-2-44691
Joined: 1/21/2008
Msg: 79
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Posted: 2/12/2013 9:02:31 PM
my ex and i had a very amicable divorce and we had no kids. over the course of our 10 year marriage we just grew apart. we live several states apart and have not seen each other in many years, but we do keep in touch a few times each year. she has had a significant other for a number of years but should she ask for my help i would not hesitate to help her in any way i could--including staying with me if necessary. and no, altho we are friends, i have no romantic interest in her whatsover. she would be safe with me and i would be glad to help her out. no strings attached.
 Lucky...13
Joined: 12/28/2012
Msg: 80
Would you take in in your ex in a time of need?
Posted: 2/12/2013 9:09:31 PM
WOW! Not so sure that I would take an ex back in. Especially if you want to date other people. What do you think a guy would say if you told him your ex is living at your place? Buh bye!
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