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 1WishList
Joined: 11/22/2012
Msg: 76
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"Could it be because they don't like it or just not into it? Or just haven't had a partner willing to show them the way?
Are some men just not interested in it in general and would prefer not to reciprocate?"

And, also, could be that the woman he's with isn't clean, therefore he makes a quick event of it and exits ..... to the antibacterial aisle of Walgreens, Pronto!
 CouldBWow
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 77
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/5/2013 8:05:05 PM


Why do some people try to answer rhetorical questions?
Why doesn't Tarzan have a beard when he lives in the jungle without a razor?
Why do we press harder on a remote control when we know the batteries are dead?
Why do banks charge a fee on 'insufficient funds' when they know there is not enough?
Why did Kamikaze pilots wear helmets?
Why does someone believe you when you say there are four billion stars, but check when you say the paint is wet?


LOL

I would love to find the answers to these questions! Heck, I work for a bank and think its oxymoronic to charge NSF fees
 MakeUTingle
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 78
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/6/2013 1:51:17 PM
This is just my instinctive answer to the OP's question, but, to me, I would think that it comes down to the man's enthusiasm for the job. Kinda' like the song "It's in His Kiss".....meaning that some things just cannot be faked. I don't pretend to be any sort of "expert" and it also seems to me that different Goddesses like different licks....but, I have been complimented often on the satisfaction that I provide and I believe that that just stems from the fact that there is NOTHING that I would rather do than to go down on the one that I love. I think that the enthusiasm naturally leads to being a quicker study on what She is responding to; and, because I want Her to want that from as much as possible....I give Her what I find her responding to!
 2manyfoolshere
Joined: 12/30/2012
Msg: 79
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/6/2013 1:57:46 PM
i agree with you MsMicki,
its all part of sexual chemistry, there is more than just the Get In Get Out Get off stuff, you have to be passionate in all aspects of the bedroom. foreplay, to me, is huge and i am wonderful at it,lol, never had a complaint .
 Quasimodo11543
Joined: 7/21/2010
Msg: 80
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/6/2013 2:51:37 PM
If you're horrible at it there's a good chance you don't like doing it or you have no clue what you are doing. Just a helpful tip for the guys, when you get done, if you aren't digging her fingernails out of something, you ain't doing it right. Adjust accordingly.
 baldguy500
Joined: 2/9/2010
Msg: 81
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/6/2013 2:54:23 PM
maybe the guy who is horrible at oral got a whiff of something funky, or the vug on the end of her pubes didn't taste as good as they should? ..Hmmmm......
 blknyc
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 82
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/6/2013 3:18:15 PM
Great questio. Why are most guys horrible at pleasing a woman orally? Well, first for the sake of transparency I have to let it be known that i'm partially blind and dont really get any women theses day ;0( but im a man and i wasnt always a horribly disfigured one with self esteem issues and a healthy apetite for the most perverted porn the internets can challenge me with (nullus).

I think the very nature of the male and female gae i America sets the stage for such selfishness by men when they finally talk a womans knickers off (pants doesnt sound like nigg* lol) . I mean comeon ladies think about it; men have to be damn near perfect to get you in the first place and the thing is that most guys feel like one they have you sexually its about THEM getting offf. Dont get me wrong, guys have massive egos so a an will try to be good at cunninglingus but being good also comes from actually wanting to do it well before ego ever comes into question.

The cat and mouse game men and women play where so many women fleece mens pockts and time by implied sex also is a culprit here. No offense but does the shoe fit? If youre implying that men give you something even if its their very time for sex men definitely pick up on that Ok, i'll say it again because i'm not calling you a (insert dirty word). What i'm saying is that if guys are getting the impression that if they give you THIS MUCH TIME (dates,money,phone time ectc) then that guy will grow to resent you. But because sex is so important to men he wont just stop talking to you. NEVER. Hes already wasted so much time trying to get you in your PETA fur. No, he'll just resent you and then sleep with you and he'll get his and not care much about you getting yours. because he hates you. Even though he hopes to put his penis in you. See? men arent so complicated. We like you = we really try to please you. We dont we wont.

Could be your vagina though idk. Any how good luck and Much love!
 LoveSong99
Joined: 12/9/2012
Msg: 83
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/6/2013 9:22:05 PM
It could be that they are bad listeners or just are new at it. You gotta tell the man what you like....Otherwise its up to him to guess.
 LoveSong99
Joined: 12/9/2012
Msg: 84
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/6/2013 9:24:44 PM

If you're horrible at it there's a good chance you don't like doing it or you have no clue what you are doing. Just a helpful tip for the guys, when you get done, if you aren't digging her fingernails out of something, you ain't doing it right. Adjust accordingly.


Brian11543...You are absolutely right....if I'm not being peeled out of the mattress at the end, he didn't do it right
 RNG34116
Joined: 2/2/2013
Msg: 85
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 3:00:07 AM
[I grew up with porn and credit to this day some very good lesbian pornos with my oral technique :) When lovers remark I make love like a girl I take it as praise from Caesar]

mmmm. lovers? I did not know you could count with comments from Rosemary Palm and her five sisters, very often you state that you masturbate. If actually another person has made the comments about you making love like a girl, could it be hint tolet you know that you lack masculinity? Now that is a real concern.
 434handyman
Joined: 1/21/2013
Msg: 86
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 4:06:19 AM
I think they think all you have to do is lick. I like to tease, use fingers, toys, etc. It also helps when the woman says "yes, right there" since all women are different.
 PaminSD
Joined: 2/25/2012
Msg: 87
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 7:32:25 AM
I believe in speaking up about what you like sexually, but when you do and the guy doesnt respond or his feelers get hurt because you did speak up, or just does not want to learn, then what?
 abmccray
Joined: 8/3/2008
Msg: 88
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Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 8:18:04 AM
Some of the guys in this thread are kind of being transparent with their inexperience while trying to sound "awesome," which makes it even funnier.

While you can have a default "technique" that may be rather wide ranging, every woman is different and what will work for one will not necessarily work for the other. The important thing is for two partners to work together to figure out what each other wants - listening and being attentive makes you "good" at oral, for both sides of the equation.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 89
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Posted: 2/7/2013 9:37:54 AM

what will work for one will not necessarily work for the other.

Let's take that one step further.........
what worked for her last night.......may not work for her tonight!! (men are no different)

so yes, listening and being attentive to her/his responses is what makes anyone good at oral.
 bortre75
Joined: 8/15/2012
Msg: 90
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 10:27:29 AM
The answer is all of the above. My guess is that the ones who are really bad at oral sex also don't really know how to kiss a woman. And I think some really don't like it...I've known women who don't like receiving but are virtuosic at giving. And if a man doesn't know how to take direction, verbal or non-verbal, they are a lost cause, my dear...
 mr_random_irish
Joined: 9/27/2010
Msg: 91
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 1:58:19 PM
men are bad at oral the same reason women are bad at oral, no practice and lack of enthusiasm.
 kingdavid2013
Joined: 1/28/2013
Msg: 92
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 3:14:21 PM
Lets take this another step forward and ask " Why do some men tend to be horrible in bed" ?? you know how many friends girls i have banged that have told me,, " lame" , " no fun" "boring" " i once watched cops while we had sex" and i feel like i have to please EVERY woman i see just to make sure they know whats up!!
 wink558
Joined: 1/8/2013
Msg: 93
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 4:14:35 PM
You people are all missing the point here. The reason guys suck at giving oral is simple, they dont like doing it. I mean who in their right mind wants to stick their mouth where a woman pees, bleeds and extricates fetal tissue etc, not too mention its right next door to the shitter. Combine that with the fact that most woman wouldnt know good personal hygene if it crossed the road and smacked them in the head.

I know a lot of the guys in this thread talk a good game and claim they are the best at giving oral, but $20 and my left nut says it would be a different story when the time comes to perform.
 hotboykiller
Joined: 12/30/2012
Msg: 94
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 4:30:03 PM
Cuz they suck..............................................................................................
 rob4320
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 95
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 4:43:11 PM
Most women tell me all guys are good at oral, where are you finding these guys?
Maybe you should give classes.
 Pisces22469
Joined: 8/2/2009
Msg: 96
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 6:50:38 PM
Ladies, the problem is most of you are very different in how you like it. Yes, the parts are all the same & in the same place. However, some like it soft, some harder, some like it sucked, some slow, others faster.
If he is't doing it the way you want, gently steer him in the right direction.
I'm either there because I want to be & I want to help her reach her max. Or, I'm not down there.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 97
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Posted: 2/7/2013 8:28:37 PM

You people are all missing the point here. The reason guys suck at giving oral is simple, they dont like doing it. I mean who in their right mind wants to stick their mouth where a woman pees, bleeds and extricates fetal tissue etc, not too mention its right next door to the shitter. Combine that with the fact that most woman wouldnt know good personal hygene if it crossed the road and smacked them in the head.

I know a lot of the guys in this thread talk a good game and claim they are the best at giving oral, but $20 and my left nut says it would be a different story when the time comes to perform.


thank god YOU aren't the representative of all men!!
 GJBrown
Joined: 9/12/2011
Msg: 98
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/7/2013 8:41:45 PM
most people are not porn stars! if the guy or girl is not good at oral chances are they are not really in to it. Its not hard. When in doubt just have actual sex!
 oceanowen
Joined: 2/2/2013
Msg: 99
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/8/2013 9:22:39 AM
I think the more you enjoy it the better you are at it. I think a good test is asking your hope to be partner weather they prefer to give or receive, and if the person can't decide or even thinks enough to compare the two, you have a winner.
 ApolloSun
Joined: 3/21/2011
Msg: 100
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 2/9/2013 6:43:40 PM
While he's going down tell him to spell the ABC's on you clit with his tongue. These are clear instructions and he cannot mess this up! You'll love it and it will encourage him to keep going and maybe even improve.
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