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 Bobster999
Joined: 4/10/2009
Msg: 201
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 Devil_eye75
Joined: 2/25/2013
Msg: 202
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/10/2013 6:49:22 PM
That sucks 4 them cause I love when the woman grabs my head and smashes it into her **** when she cumming, yum
 AlexisCD4You2012
Joined: 12/31/2011
Msg: 203
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/10/2013 7:39:38 PM
Two Simple reasons....Men are immature...and selfish ...and when they are both those qualities at the same time ...the woman always loses out!.....there are some of us out there that thoroughly enjoy taking the time and having the technique to COMPLETELY satisfy her....FIRST!....guys would be surprised the reciprocation from doing that!...IMHO
 PRMikeNY
Joined: 9/3/2012
Msg: 204
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Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/10/2013 8:10:32 PM
I think if the guy is really into you, it can be a lot of fun. atleast that has always been my experience..lol..just my opinion.
 harnless30
Joined: 2/11/2013
Msg: 205
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/11/2013 9:11:24 PM
You Just have to enjoy doing it.
If you don't enjoy it, then you will never satisfy her.
You know the old saying... once you get past the smell you got it licked!
 spirited-won
Joined: 1/6/2013
Msg: 206
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/11/2013 9:44:12 PM
Had a partner who said it had to be "flowery" for him to do it. Yet he seem to expect it when he wasn't so "flowery." Not. My sweetheart loves to give it and does it well. Thought men lost the touch but he's my perfect age and knows what he's doing. The best but I am biased. All I can say is afterwards...I want him more.
 RIKYFRE
Joined: 3/3/2013
Msg: 207
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Posted: 3/12/2013 5:49:36 AM
That is the one intimacy I enjoy the most. If you truly want to please your partner, you figure out what works. Someone stated earlier that women are all different in the type of stimulation they enjoy most... ABSOLUTELY!. Hard/soft, fast/slow, light/heavy, etc., some like it all. It doesn't take rocket science to figure it out. You can sense and feel reactions... you learn, and keep learning. I get as much pleasure from giving as I do receiving... maybe more. You like your ladies to be multi-orgasmic? Learn to make them that way.... you might be surprised how that energy comes back to you....... Just saying......
 johnnyvincent
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 208
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/12/2013 7:34:01 AM
your with the wrong guys
 johnnyj218
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 209
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/14/2013 1:31:27 AM
Yes, you are definitely with the wrong guys. As long as you're clean, I could spend days down there. I personally don't care to receive but LOVE to give.

When they keep calling back, then you know you're doing something right ;)
 MrMeSir
Joined: 2/17/2012
Msg: 210
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/14/2013 1:35:01 AM
it depends if its a something blew up down there once i think, type of vagina. or if it's a nice pleasant one. the later, guys are awesome at oral with.
 shine1274
Joined: 2/12/2013
Msg: 211
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/14/2013 8:57:34 AM
Maybe guys are over confident in their abilities? Look at all the masters of cunnilingus that have posted in just this thread. Is every one of them all that? Likely not. Women have to not fear hurting a guys fragile ego and speak up. Communication is key and if the guy is truly interested in pleasing you, he will listen and in time become custom tailored to respond to your body.
 johnnyj218
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 212
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/15/2013 12:39:47 AM

Maybe guys are over confident in their abilities? Look at all the masters of cunnilingus that have posted in just this thread. Is every one of them all that? Likely not.


I don't think any of these guys (including myself) are claiming to be "all that" and yes, every women will respond differently. Long ago, I personally use to despise the thought of ever putting my mouth down there but a friend with benefits changed all that for me. She taught me not to just think of myself during sex and I did my own research on the workings of the female anatomy. I watched countless videos and had willing partners to let me practice over the years lol.

I do listen and every women is different but I've yet to meet a women that does not like to receive. I'm not conceited by any means but like I already mentioned, when they call you back then you know you're doing something right lol. The guys who are doing it right know what I'm talking about. Just do a little research and NEVER think of yourself first. It's all about her in my book.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 213
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/15/2013 8:19:44 PM

shine1274

Maybe guys are over confident in their abilities? Look at all the masters of cunnilingus that have posted in just this thread. Is every one of them all that? Likely not.


LOL you noticed the show boat bragging too huh...yup everybody is a master..
 bovier59
Joined: 6/24/2012
Msg: 214
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Posted: 3/15/2013 11:04:46 PM
i believe we talked some on this....you may be the exception group anxious to teach and guide.... its an aquired endeavor and not every man is trying to go there..."man who does that is soft, not a stick man, and a host of other belittling terms. probably more that than the actual not being good at it, and wanting to become good at it.

women don't know how to ask for it, and concede to letting it go, hopeful and yet really expecting that is't not going to happen. i could probably teach you a few things, as you could teach me several too. but that's the key, being mutually engaging, interested, and done with the job demands.... something could happpppp.....eeee

bovier59
 wolftxusa66
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 215
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/16/2013 7:49:09 PM
MSG 253, thumbs up!

For one, people are different and not equally easy to please. I have a hard time getting off on a BJ while some men can come prematurely. Same with women - some take an hour to build up and explode while others come faster than I can take my pants off.

For two, it's the combination of two people. Woman A may come with man X and woman B with man Y, but neither A with Y nor B with X. I don't believe in universal masters of female satisfaction (although I'm sure some will show up after this post). However, anybody can improve by a mile with some pointers.

Top all this off with preferences on texture (shaved, bush, trim) and scent (pinesol-like cleanliness vs. natural), mix in different levels of attractiveness (genitalia can be prettier or uglier, just like faces) and of course the skill and perceptiveness of the man (clueless vs. alert, rushed vs. relaxed, interested vs. necessary-evil-to-get-some-attitude), etc. etc. and it's adding up to a bit of a gamble. Then again, so is intercourse and the guess whether the partner would like anal, BDSM or anything else that floats your boat.

In case it matters, from my male perspective not all experiences of cunnilingus are equally exciting either.
 timberlyterrell
Joined: 3/5/2013
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Posted: 3/17/2013 2:45:13 AM
haha if only i could "like" this! so true!
 Jaco_boy
Joined: 3/7/2013
Msg: 217
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/17/2013 7:02:56 PM
oral sex is definitively an activity that in theory should be shared by both parties, each other telling the other party, what drives them, what not etc... personally, i met some girls that were multi-orgasmic, WOW for me the realisation to be able to make them come over oand over this way was very rewarding. Our body chemistry was perfect then we were just having good dirty fun... on the other end, i met some girls that their taste was really not matched for me and i was not so much into it, then their interest fizzled away... so all in all, you have to have an interest into it, with some matched factors... the rest ? it's part of good sexual communication
 scubas64
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 218
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/18/2013 5:48:09 AM
Because many men do not want to take the time the time or care about pleasing their lover. Sex is all about them! Rule one in lovemaking, always put your partner first. Me, I love to explore a women's body,, find her errogeneous zones and take my time. However, I have somewhat of an oral fetish. I can go to sleep content without my own orgasms knowing I thoroughly satisfied the women. It's a huge boost to ones ego knowing you brought her to multiple orgasms to the point her legs are quivering and she begs you to stop because she can't take it anymore or wants to feel you deep inside her.
 scubas64
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 219
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/18/2013 5:49:28 AM
Because many men do not want to take the time the time or care about pleasing their lover. Sex is all about them! Rule one in lovemaking, always put your partner first. Me, I love to explore a women's body,, find her errogeneous zones and take my time. However, I have somewhat of an oral fetish. I can go to sleep content without my own orgasms knowing I thoroughly satisfied the women. It's a huge boost to ones ego knowing you brought her to multiple orgasms to the point her legs are quivering and she begs you to stop because she can't take it anymore or wants to feel you deep inside her.
 wolftxusa66
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 220
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/18/2013 8:33:52 AM

Rule one in lovemaking, always put your partner first.

I respectfully (but fully) disagree with that statement. If there were any rules to begin with, I'd rather everybody think of himself. What is better? If I do things I THINK she likes and she does things she THINKS I like, we are just guessing, and we may never get or do what we really like. A lady in my bed will always know what I like because I do it. And likewise, I expect her to give me an indication (verbal or nonverbal) what she likes. I don't go down on a woman because she likes it but because I want it. And in doing what I like, I have done things the ladies didn't even know they wanted... I won't go into details because I've been banned before. Twice. lol

OK, maybe it's a bit different because I'm more dominant, but my point is that you should go for what YOU want.
 Needingaladyfriend
Joined: 2/25/2013
Msg: 221
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/19/2013 7:33:25 AM
lol not me I'm really good at it so no problems on my end with it. But I guess some guy's have no clue how to really pleasure a woman in certain way's.
 james568369
Joined: 3/11/2013
Msg: 222
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/26/2013 5:27:04 AM
A lot of men treat oral sex as a way of getting what they want. I love giving oral to a woman. Every woman is different. What works on one might not work on another. You have to pay attention to her body movement and breathing. When you are doing what she likes her body will tell you. No matter how tired your fingers or tongue gets don't stop. I found out that if I can orally please a woman I will have the best sex she has to offer.
 ErichWild
Joined: 8/24/2012
Msg: 223
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/26/2013 12:00:51 PM
I think that in some cases guys do not think of it as something they need to know how to do.
now I find that opinion silly, as I love going down and am pretty good.
as for girls my ex had extreme issues with going down and so did not recipricate often, but I still ate her out at least once every time we had sex.

now to be fair I watched an internet video designed to teach you how before our first time.
 lostinalostworld
Joined: 2/2/2013
Msg: 224
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/26/2013 4:00:44 PM
Not enough practice early on. BTW, every woman is built slightly different, duh.
 HAWKEYE1940
Joined: 5/8/2012
Msg: 225
Why do some men tend to be horrible at oral sex? Ugh.
Posted: 3/26/2013 6:40:15 PM
It is not complicated; men who have a problem are not good at communication listening to their mate as to what they like for both. I like slender women. I have a Jamaican woman who, with candle lite looks like a bronze queen after I have taken off her night clothes and oiled her back with a great back rub. Then comes the great time...turning her over and oiling the rest of her body especially the thighs and areas surrounding her vagina. Then start with the tongue very carefully, and work slowly up to her inner parts where the orgasms come. Sucking the clitoris is fantastic if the man LISTENS to what she wants done. The ultimate moment comes after the third orgasm and you are tired until you hear those moans and the words "Eat my ****." the greatest reward of all.
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