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 ksayer1
Joined: 1/1/2013
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YES!!!! Strangedreams!! You've got it!! A criminal records check well expose SOME physco paths as 78% of the ones who get caught will do it again. It is not a sure way to protect yourself just one of the ways............ So how about that list?
No you have not come right out and said it was their own foolishness, you used way more words then that. ;)
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 252
Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/15/2013 7:08:44 AM
This entire thread shows the marked difference between people who have boundaries and expect others to respect them (AKA "Have a backbone and won't put up with being treated like crap!"), and those who are used to doing whatever daytime TV tells them is a good idea (AKA "Use their heads to keep their ears apart!")
 StrangeDreams
Joined: 1/30/2013
Msg: 253
Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/15/2013 7:13:26 AM

YES!!!! Strangedreams!! You've got it!! A criminal records check well expose SOME physco paths as 78% of the ones who get caught will do it again. It is not a sure way to protect yourself just one of the ways............ So how about that list?
78% Do you have some hard data on that? Not that I dont trust you , because as N.A.S.A says " In God we trust, every one else provides data"

And what list are you talking about?
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 254
Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/15/2013 7:58:39 AM
*shrug* It's the same reason you close y0ur bedroom door when guests come over. What have you got to hide? Nothing (hopefully!); but, you don't want someone snooping in your shit, boring and mundane as it may be.

It's just a privacy, respect for boundaries, thing. I have self respect, so I expect others to, if not respect me, then at least not to actively disrespect, me.
 ksayer1
Joined: 1/1/2013
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Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/15/2013 8:03:03 AM
U.S cencus data, look it up, i didn't pull this out of my azz.
You said there are ''tell tale signs'' of rapests, if that is true i want a list and where you get your data from. Plus i want to know how many dates it takes to see these signs and if they are detectable before a first date. Ya probably not.
The only tool and chance we have to even possibly weed some one like that out, BEFORE a first date, is doing a criminal background check through your state ciruit court access system.
 kkl1983
Joined: 1/25/2013
Msg: 256
Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/15/2013 10:25:35 AM
My opinion on this is...

If you cant trust someone, you shouldnt be dating them... end of story.

and its really that simple.
 rockstar_ocnj
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 257
Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/15/2013 5:21:34 PM
Not just that, doing a background check is a little creepy and paranoid.
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 258
Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/16/2013 4:02:54 AM
I agree..And how about women that want a background check on good/stable guys,But when the first POS loser that comes out of prison there is no problem with this winner..I have witness this..This group of women are the same women that will scream they want a nice guy,But all these wmen have dated all their miserable lives are Drama Kings(drunks,jailbirds,convicts,lazy bums)Even have kids with these winners...
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 1/7/2013
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Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/16/2013 12:48:51 PM

(ksayer1) The only tool and chance we have to even possibly weed some one like that out, BEFORE a first date, is doing a criminal background check through your state ciruit court access system.


Whatever happened to "trust your gut", advice that I see here all the time (and almost always FROM a woman, TO a woman)?
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 260
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Posted: 2/16/2013 1:02:26 PM
I agree^^^^And how about when a woman finds out he just came out prison..Or a guy that does not have a job...No child support for his kids..Does drugs..Cannot hold down a job if his life depended on it..No drivers license......Why can't women take a hint..The writing is on the wall...It really is not that hard to do..Very simple really.....Women can not do that..NOOOO!!!They have to have a relationship with these winners..Even have kids with these winners,But meanwhile back at the ranch they want a nice guy..YEA!!!!!What a joke!!!!
 StrangeDreams
Joined: 1/30/2013
Msg: 261
Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/16/2013 1:12:17 PM

agree..And how about women that want a background check on good/stable guys,But when the first POS loser that comes out of prison there is no problem with this winner..I have witness this..This group of women are the same women that will scream they want a nice guy,But all these wmen have dated all their miserable lives are Drama Kings(drunks,jailbirds,convicts,lazy bums)Even have kids with these winners...
No I dont agree with that , I think those women that goes through the trouble of doing background checks do on EVERY guy they meet to determine if the guy is a good guy or a felon, Most women avoids guys who are felon but I know from reading some of the threads it depends on how good looking the guy is and that is sad.

A good looking man with a 6 pack that has a history of trouble been in and out of the clink will find no shortage of women because there a small percentage of brain dead shallow women only cares about eye candy, just like a small percentage of men will chase the neurotic woman with 4 kids from 4 different guys because she is tall, leggy, busty and blonde with a smoking body that looks dynamite in a mini skirt.

Most women do want nice guys that doesnt bore then to tears or is a doormat, the maladjusted women are the ones that chases the Drama kings, losers etc as long as he looks good its all good to them, those woman the average guys should avoid like going to the dentist for a root canal, but as I said its because these women are smoking hot the average guy chases and chases and chases them.
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 262
Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/16/2013 1:38:33 PM
OH REALLY!!!!^^^We been through this before...I have a news flash for you..My dad went to work for the Department of corrections of N.C. after he retired from Ft.Bragg N.C(retired 22 years)...And the stories he told about what type of women came to visit these winners in prison..From rapist to murders and everything in between...The majorty of woman thta came on sunday was not skanks,crackheads...In fact there was a nurse that work in the prison that was making $40,000(1970s)a year that help a prisoner escape from this same prison.(A murder)..So do not hand me your crap..I know the truth...My dad served in Vietnam and Korea..He will tell anyone he has witness things in that prison that he has never seen in 2 wars
 StrangeDreams
Joined: 1/30/2013
Msg: 263
Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/16/2013 2:48:03 PM

OH REALLY!!!!^^^We been through this before...I have a news flash for you..My dad went to work for the Department of corrections of N.C. after he retired from Ft.Bragg N.C(retired 22 years)...And the stories he told about what type of women came to visit these winners in prison..From rapist to murders and everything in between...The majorty of woman thta came on sunday was not skanks,crackheads...In fact there was a nurse that work in the prison that was making $40,000(1970s)a year that help a prisoner escape from this same prison.(A murder)..So do not hand me your crap..I know the truth...My dad served in Vietnam and Korea..He will tell anyone he has witness things in that prison that he has never seen in 2 wars
Do you know what the world Maladjusted means? if these women and some men walked around with signs saying Im a headcase life would be easier, ask your self what kind of woman visits a man sitting in prison for rape, murder or other grisly crimes?

Ask yourself what kind of woman goes for Drama kings, losers, druggies and criminals, probably the same type that would date a mobster because he is famous, more like infamous and has money.

So dont come in here and tell me all women who are sane, responsible law abiding tax paying citizens wants to date these types of men because if you truly believe that its time to bend over for the other team .

As NASA says , In God we trust every one else provides data, provide me with some hard proof that all women goes for these bums and losers.

Its funny when you provide opinions from your experience its gospel , when others provide their own experience they are full of shit and your word is final its the end all and be all, amazing how that works we have a word for that " narcissism"

You post and whine about the same thing, how all these women goes for drama kings, druggies, prison inmates etc etc, this is why most of us dont take you seriously, because you dont know what you're talking about.

News flash for you the world doesn't revolve around you and your stereo types, sure there are headcases in the world but you seem to always talk about them which could mean you've been burned by a few of these types of women in the past, maybe if you start going for substance instead of what looks good in a mini skirt or how big her tits are you might meet a quality woman.
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 264
Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/16/2013 3:34:53 PM
Sorry PAL^^^If you can not face reality..Then that is your problem...I could write a book on the subject..Just what my dad witnessed alone..So do not haqnd me your crap..You need to get out of your little bubble..I know for a fact that there are women that pay taxes,drug free..ETC that could care a rats ass about a good man..It is all about MR.Exciting..OR MR.Drama King...I got news for you...Women love drama..Women love POS..If you get out of your bubble and go out and speak to people that work in prisons,Then you might be a little shock...There is no secret about it..It is very simple..Look at Scott Peterson(A baby/wife killer)..The warden came on NBC Dateline for a interview..The topic..The mail Scott Peterson was getting the first week he was in prison...He received not 1,000..Not 10,000..But a excess of 100,000 letters from all over the country..95% which were women....What a great guy..A monster...Mr.Exciting...
 macinmass
Joined: 1/15/2013
Msg: 265
Should performing a background check on a potential bf/gf be considered as a sign of insecurity?
Posted: 2/16/2013 3:34:54 PM
If a woman wants to do a background check on me, I'll happily wait for the results to come back. If it helps to put her at ease, why not? Plus I have nothing to hide.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 266
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Posted: 2/16/2013 7:30:33 PM
Can we do a background check on MrNova66 as a sample exercise?
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 267
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Posted: 2/16/2013 7:36:42 PM

Can we do a background check on MrNova66 as a sample exercise?


I don't know if I could handle all the drama it may uncover. I swear, there are a lot of very dramatic sorts around these parts.
 StrangeDreams
Joined: 1/30/2013
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Posted: 2/16/2013 7:51:58 PM
So a 100, 000 women out of 100 million women in the United states equals all the women loving Scott Peterson, yeah talk about reality dude.

You're right Good women dont want you , you're too much of a whiner and a fool drowning in sorrow whining about how women has done you wrong and wants all the bad guys you poor guy im shedding a tear or two her for you man, not really but continue on with your life whining , dont forget the cheese with your whine.
 ksayer1
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Posted: 2/16/2013 8:27:38 PM
Nova,
Did grandpa read the letters to scott pederson? Think any of those might, just by chance, be hate mail?
I bet you have been on the recieving end of some unhappy msgs your self ;)
There are crazies out there, male and female.
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 12/9/2012
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Posted: 2/17/2013 7:52:51 AM
Hey, mrnova -

Women love drama..Women love POS..


Then why are you still here? You must have thousands of women lined up at your door, begging for you to treat them like dirt.
 cangelos
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 271
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Posted: 2/17/2013 9:44:29 AM
There was this girl a while back that I had been talking to, but before we met in person, she told me her dad wanted to know my full name and date of birth (he's law enforcement) and I figured he wanted to run a check on me.

She already knew my info but just wanted to give me the heads up. I smiled and told her it was fine. I know I would do the same thing before letting my 19-year-old daughter go meet someone she ran into online. I got to meet her dad and shake his hand, he was a pretty cool guy.

I actually run background checks on people all the time as part of the work I'm involved in, but I don't think I'd ever run a check on a lady I'm meeting. I'd just get to know her well enough before and after meeting in person.

That being said, all in all, I'm totally fine with a check being done on me, especially when the girl/lady is young or has been through all that trauma. I got nothing on me other than a few speeding tickets, and if it gives her peace of mind, then it sounds good to me.
 StrangeDreams
Joined: 1/30/2013
Msg: 272
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Posted: 2/17/2013 11:58:02 AM
Hey Mr Nova, there are plenty of good women on this very site I dont see you trying to correspond with them ? oh wait is it because they dont wear tight little mini skirts or has legs from here to Florida ?

I bet guys like you turn down average looking women with great careers, social skills, tax paying law abiding non drama and avoids losers , but because they dont look like they belong on Victoria Secrets you dismiss them, isnt that the real truth?
 luv2teach180
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Posted: 2/17/2013 2:14:57 PM
I think it is sad but nothing a guy or any person should feel upset about...unless you have something to hide. People have background checks for all types of reasons.
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
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Posted: 2/17/2013 3:28:02 PM
Wrong!!Wrong!!!!Strangedreams..I like the dike look with a short hair..I like the hair a little mixed with green and blue high lights..I would correspond,But i do not see many women on this site that look like that..I do see one on this thread that looks like a bull dog with a collar around her neck,But she has no green and blue high lights in her hair...Sorry to tell you the type of woman i just describe is not average...So you got me figured out..I do not like average looking women...So you told the truth.....It is your turn.....
 StrangeDreams
Joined: 1/30/2013
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Posted: 2/17/2013 3:32:17 PM
My turn for what? Im seeing someone, she is absolutely adorable, has integrity, not into drama, she has never said a bad thing about her ex and he's not a druggy or a criminal , badboy etc, they just drifted apart because of work, both are ambitious etc, she is the type that takes responsibilities for her actions, and shes not a fan of Socialism, hockey ,whiners, badboys etc.
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